Obese people telling me what's unhealthy...
jillwhite12
Posts: 102 Member
This is basically just a rant...
I`ve lost 75 lbs since january and have been eating very healthy foods with the occasional treat and it has been working very well for me. I plan my "treat" meals by lowering my calories by a few hundred every day during the week if I know I'll be going out to eat on the weekend. Then I don't feel guilty because even my treat meals are planned to fit into my weekly calorie goal. I eat vegetables and lean protein all the time and those "treat" meals happen only about once a month or less...
Anyway, today at lunch, while I ate my vegetables, I said to one of my co-workers "I had a poutine this weekend for the first time this year!". And she said "well you should watch cause those are full of fat and it's not good for you"!!!! This coming from a person who is very obese with no intentions of changing it, who has no problem eating junk food every day!
I was stunned! I mean I know it's not good for me and that's why I`ve only had one this year! And I eat vegetables all week so surely one poutine isn't going to kill me! She is a very nice woman who I like alot but I felt a little judged and I guess I just had to rant a bit!
Anyone else have experiences like this?
I`ve lost 75 lbs since january and have been eating very healthy foods with the occasional treat and it has been working very well for me. I plan my "treat" meals by lowering my calories by a few hundred every day during the week if I know I'll be going out to eat on the weekend. Then I don't feel guilty because even my treat meals are planned to fit into my weekly calorie goal. I eat vegetables and lean protein all the time and those "treat" meals happen only about once a month or less...
Anyway, today at lunch, while I ate my vegetables, I said to one of my co-workers "I had a poutine this weekend for the first time this year!". And she said "well you should watch cause those are full of fat and it's not good for you"!!!! This coming from a person who is very obese with no intentions of changing it, who has no problem eating junk food every day!
I was stunned! I mean I know it's not good for me and that's why I`ve only had one this year! And I eat vegetables all week so surely one poutine isn't going to kill me! She is a very nice woman who I like alot but I felt a little judged and I guess I just had to rant a bit!
Anyone else have experiences like this?
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ALL THE TIME.
My dad, who lives with me, is the worst about it. Gives me outdated "advice" and criticizes my food choices.
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That would piss me off SO bad. Most likely though, it's either ignorance or jealousy, or a combination of both lol.0
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Oh jeez.
These kind of comments were triggers for my binge eating. I would think, "Well, what's the point then?" and not eat anything when people were around, and then more than make up for it when I was alone. It got to the point where I couldn't eat in front of people for a while there for fear of comments.
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@ starrxoxo9, Yeah, you're probably right... I just felt like throwing my cucumber at her lol0
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This is my niece! She's probably at 200 lbs at 5 feet tall, and only 17 years old. I am "fluffy" after having a baby, but I need to eat a lot since I'm breastfeeding. She will tell me that I'm eating too much, or that I'm eating too late, or that what I'm having has too much this and that.
I don't know the logic behind it. I know it's not jealousy, I know it's not hate. My niece and I love each other very much and I encourage her to eat better and exercise with me.
People are weird. You know what you're doing is right, so just ignore her and wish her the best at the same time.0 -
Chill out bro, people give unasked for advice all the time. Smile, nod, and move on.0
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Chill out bro, people give unasked for advice all the time. Smile, nod, and move on.0
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Hahaha I hear ya!!0
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Chill out bro, people give unasked for advice all the time. Smile, nod, and move on.
Yup.0 -
Maybe stating the obvious made her feel smart? Congratulations on your weight loss success!
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Oooh whether they're obese or not, nothing bothers me more than someone saying "OMG THAT IS SO BAD FOR YOU" after I've already eaten it. Like, thank you...it's been eaten, nothing I can do about it now, so why don't you not shame me for it!!
When I was 16, I worked in a retail store and I was SUPER active and thin. I went to Cinnabon for one of my lunch breaks (I did not do this every day), and when I got back my co-worker was like "wow you just consumed your daily allotment of calories in 15 minutes." COOL, LADY! I literally have not had Cinnabon since. Not like that's really the end of the world, but still. Why?0 -
Anyway, today at lunch, while I ate my vegetables, I said to one of my co-workers "I had a poutine this weekend for the first time this year!". And she said "well you should watch cause those are full of fat and it's not good for you"!!!! This coming from a person who is very obese with no intentions of changing it, who has no problem eating junk food every day!
See, I don't handle that sort of thing very well, so my advice would be bad advice...
I'd adopt a shocked look, and drop my fork on the table.
"POUTINE IS HIGH IN FAT?! OH MY GOD! REALLY? I'M GOING TO BE SICK!"
Then I'd stop, pick up my fork and say "I've lost 75 pounds. Could I get you another soda or a bag of chips?"0 -
Chill out bro, people give unasked for advice all the time. Smile, nod, and move on.
Come on dude. Telling people to use logic? Get out of here with that!0 -
I liked to think a comment like that may have a postive intent maybe she proud of you for doing something she thinks she uncapable of and she does not want to fall off the wagon. sometime neg comments motive .0
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Also, I think that someone who's giving you advice on what to eat is opening the gates to your advice on what to eat... should you be so inclined.0
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Expand this to "People who have never accomplished thing X telling me it can't be done while I've already done it". There are an endless supply of idiots in the world. They are insecure and because THEY can't do something they want to tell YOU it can't be done.0
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That is a new word for me, poutine. Never heard of it. Had to google it.
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what is a pouyine? sorry now I dont know0
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Chill out bro, people give unasked for advice all the time. Smile, nod, and move on.
That's what I would do. Ignore them.0 -
I get the other side of that coin... I tell someone how I have lost 75lbs lifting and counting calories and then some skinny woman tells me how I am doing it all wrong. Apparently I should be a vegetarian and run marathons. Who knew!0
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yes I have had it happen people who are just as big as I am or even bigger make judgements. My favorite? Oh you would be so pretty if you were thinner...can you say devestatingly crushed?. Sometimes people mean well but they just don't think. I am far from my goal but I am trying and donig my best. Making some adjustment hoping it helps make me even more successful. I want support not to be torn down or have any of my MFP buddies go through it either. Sorry this happened to you0
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That would make me mad.. I am one of those people who would just not say anything and go on. Maybe she wasn't trying to insult you or your weight loss. Maybe she is just trying to help you out with how she knows best to. If it hurt your feelings maybe you should speak to her about it. Her intentions may not be what you think they are. Even so you are doing great on your weight loss and how you are going about it so I wouldn't worry about it to much. You are doing this for you not her.
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Also, I think that someone who's giving you advice on what to eat is opening the gates to your advice on what to eat... should you be so inclined.
That's what I was thinking......0 -
what is a pouyine? sorry now I dont know
POUTINE IS AMAZING. Fries, cheese curds and gravy is the basic poutine. It's a Canadian thing.0 -
Anyway, today at lunch, while I ate my vegetables, I said to one of my co-workers "I had a poutine this weekend for the first time this year!". And she said "well you should watch cause those are full of fat and it's not good for you"!!!! This coming from a person who is very obese with no intentions of changing it, who has no problem eating junk food every day!
See, I don't handle that sort of thing very well, so my advice would be bad advice...
I'd adopt a shocked look, and drop my fork on the table.
"POUTINE IS HIGH IN FAT?! OH MY GOD! REALLY? I'M GOING TO BE SICK!"
Then I'd stop, pick up my fork and say "I've lost 75 pounds. Could I get you another soda or a bag of chips?"
*Stands on desk clapping*
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did I every tell you I love your wit and kind sarcasm xi? yep ...tell it like it is.....!0
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what is a pouyine? sorry now I dont know
POUTINE IS AMAZING. Fries, cheese curds and gravy is the basic poutine. It's a Canadian thing.
Mmmmmmmmmmmmmm........add in a little bacon, lobster or burger :sad:0 -
This drives me insane too.
On a similar note, I am training for a marathon and my very sedentary friend who has not run in over 20 years is constantly trying to give me advice. He says he wants to run, but he stubbed his toe a month ago and it still hurts...that's the only thing holding him back. What held you back the other 19.9 years?0 -
This happened to me last week at a "Lunch & Learn" seminar on weight training, when I made a comment about the ratio of carbs/fat/protein recommended in NROLFW and a woman, much larger than me, tried to tell me that I should be trying for whatever ratio she's doing. I just smiled and explained that I'm actually trying to build muscle not just lose weight, but it really bugged me that she was trying to correct me.0
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