Rude Dude Rant

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  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    This is to the douche who thought it was okay to scowl at me while I did my 6 mile walk around the lake:

    Maybe he was trying not to sneeze.
  • Sublimely_Self_Righteous
    Sublimely_Self_Righteous Posts: 429
    Maybe he had to poop really really bad and was worried he wouldn't make it home in time before pooping his pants? So he had that fierce look of concentration and determination on his face.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    someone allowed themselves to get really offended here...

    Because it IS offensive. She has every right to be a touch p!ssed

    I'd say she did IF he actually told her he was going home to wash out his eyes with battery acid. Otherwise, it could have been a number of things that he was scowling at.
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    I scowl when I run and lift. I often look very angry as I let out all the frustrations of my day and week. And my attempts at smiling while I'm exerting myself often come off as scowls. it doesn't mean that I'm thinking bad thoughts about the person I'm looking at. Quite the contrary, I often look at people who are not in shape and think "way to go! Please keep that up!" Hell, I do on occasion even verbalize it, but not always. So the next time you see some dude scowling as he jogs around the lake, understand that he could be lost in thought, complaining to himself about his job, dealing with his own struggles, or even thinking good things such as "way to go!"

    Those of us that have lost the weight and continue to work, are not your enemy. We have our own lives and our own struggles. Please don't treat us that way.
  • GorillaNJ
    GorillaNJ Posts: 4,024 Member
    someone allowed themselves to get really offended here...

    I think this has more to do with the OP's self esteem and less about said buff dude....

    I think you hit the nail on the head here... I often run with a scowl... well because I would rather be lifting and Im concentrating on not falling over dead as I run!
  • kellykw
    kellykw Posts: 184 Member
    I'm curious - did you try smiling at him?
  • Espressocycle
    Espressocycle Posts: 2,245 Member
    Maybe he just thought you were cute. Or had hemorrhoids.
  • _Countryboy_
    _Countryboy_ Posts: 71
    I really was not scowling at you. I just ate too much cheese over the weekend. I am sure I will be fine in a day or two. Nice burn on your walk.
  • brit__2006
    brit__2006 Posts: 201 Member
    Maybe he was, Maybe he wasn't, but I'm not sure if it is anyone else's place to say some of the things said because I'm assuming you (nobadkitty) were the only one from this site at that particular place and time.

    Either way people can be extremely rude, and I'm not one to judge on purpose. Just the one that has been judged most of my life for my weight.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    That's it. I'm getting one of those masks like Jane Jetson wore when the tv-phone would ring early in the morning.

    jane-jetsons-morning-mask-e1338091840487.jpg

    I can't risk someone thinking I want them off the planet because I don't look happy every second of the day.
  • KatLifter
    KatLifter Posts: 1,314 Member
    Quite the contrary, I often look at people who are not in shape and think "way to go! Please keep that up!" Hell, I do on occasion even verbalize it, but not always. So the next time you see some dude scowling as he jogs around the lake, understand that he could be lost in thought, complaining to himself about his job, dealing with his own struggles, or even thinking good things such as "way to go!"

    You really can't win. My friend was jogging and got offended when someone did encourage her. :flowerforyou:
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    Don't make it about you....

    A. it's not worth it

    B. you don't know that

    C. you have no idea what is going on in his head.....you just don't..

    like previous people stated he could be holding gas in, or just thinking about his job...who knows..

    my SO's mother just had brain surgery to remove cancerous tumors, it's been a really stressful time. As a direct result, we've been working out more...and when he goes to the gym, I know exactly where that scowl is coming from....it's stress....a sh!tton of stress....and he's beating the everluvin he!! out of it.

    and it has NOTHING to do about anything or anyone around him....not one bit.
  • brit__2006
    brit__2006 Posts: 201 Member
    LOL countryboy
  • nobadkitty
    nobadkitty Posts: 95
    I'm curious - did you try smiling at him?
    I smiled as I walked past, as I do to just about everyone when I go for a walk. Sometimes I even say hello.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    youtube "resting ***** face"

    it might help you understand.
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    My money says that if he'd given the OP a lingering "friendly look," we'd be hearing about what a lecherous SOB she ran in to.
  • LauraMacNCheese
    LauraMacNCheese Posts: 7,173 Member
    Someone on MFP posted this a while back (I did NOT write it)...I believe it's a blog post that was found either here or another fitness site. But I'm going to post it here because I think it bears repeating. The title was "Hey Fat Girl"...

    Hey, Fat Girl.


    Yes, you. The one feigning to not see me when we cross paths on the running track. The one not even wearing sports gear, breathing heavy. You’re slow, you breathe hard and your efforts at moving forward make you cringe.

    You cling shyly to the furthest corridor, sometimes making larger loops on the gravel ring by the track just so you’re not on it. You sweat so much that your hair is all wet. You rarely stay for more than 20 minutes at a time, and you look exhausted when you leave to go back home. You never talk to anyone. I’ve got something I’d like to say to you.

    You are awesome.

    If you’d look me in the eye only for an instant, you would notice the reverence and respect I have for you. The adventure you have started is tremendous; it leads to a better health, to renewed confidence and to a brand new kind of freedom. The gifts you will receive from running will far exceed the gigantic effort it takes you to show up here, to face your fears and to bravely set yourself in motion, in front of others.

    You have already begun your transformation. You no longer accept this physical state of numbness and passivity. You have taken a difficult decision, but one that holds so much promise. Every hard breath you take is actually a tad easier than the one before, and every step is ever so slightly lighter. Each push forward leaves the former person you were in your wake, creating room for an improved version, one that is stronger, healthier and forward-looking, one who knows that anything is possible.

    You’re a hero to me. And, if you’d take off the blaring headphones and put your head up for more than a second or two, you would notice that the other runners you cross, the ones that probably make you feel so inadequate, stare in awe at your determination. They, of all people, know best where you are coming from. They heard the resolutions of so many others, who vowed to pick up running and improve their health, “starting next week”. Yet, it is YOU who runs alongside, who digs from deep inside to find the strength to come here, and to come back again.

    You are a runner, and no one can take that away from you. You are relentlessly moving forward. You are stronger than even you think, and you are about to be amazed by what you can do. One day, very soon, maybe tomorrow, you’ll step outside and marvel at your capabilities. You will not believe your own body, you will realize that you can do this. And a new horizon will open up for you. You are a true inspiration.

    I bow to you.
  • salladeve
    salladeve Posts: 1,053 Member
    I was just thinking that I've been told many times that my dh looks angry. He really isn't he just has one of the "pissed off" resting faces, lol.

    Really just a big teddy bear :wink:

    andrew-shaylor-hells-angels-13.jpg
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    Are you sure he was really scowling at you? I've never actually seen this happen in real life, who has the energy and why would he care?

    :noway: Ooo...you've never been to NY, have you?
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    That's it. I'm getting one of those masks like Jane Jetson wore when the tv-phone would ring early in the morning.

    jane-jetsons-morning-mask-e1338091840487.jpg

    I can't risk someone thinking I want them off the planet because I don't look happy every second of the day.

    I love this, Lorina!!! :laugh:
  • brit__2006
    brit__2006 Posts: 201 Member
    Absolutely love the blog post, thanks for sharing
  • Bankman1989
    Bankman1989 Posts: 1,116 Member
    This is to the douche who thought it was okay to scowl at me while I did my 6 mile walk around the lake:

    I realize that you are very disciplined and in control, given your extraordinarily large muscles and fabulous physique. However, your orange oompa loompa tan does nothing for you.

    I'm so sorry you had to go out walking that day, I'm so sorry you had to get very disappointed that not every chick with a nice face has a perfect body.

    And when you scowl at me in disgust because I am a fat *kitten*, remember that I am working hard to change. I was not put on the earth to please you, therefore the fact that you may have had to go home and rinse your eyes out with battery acid after seeing me in my chunky glory, has no bearing whatsoever to my life.


    What a jerk! Not cool at all. But remember you are beautiful regardless of your weight. Beauty is just as important on the inside as it is on the outside!
  • Mother_Superior
    Mother_Superior Posts: 1,624 Member
    Dear lady, who got mad at me today.

    I saw as you were walking, that you looked very angrily in my direction. It confused me for a bit because I couldn't figure out why you were judging me. "I don't know." I thought. "Maybe it's because she has something against really buff, muscular and in-shape guys." I checked myself for offensive stains, but no...all clear. It really offended me for a bit, and then I remembered that at that precise moment, I was scowling in disgust.

    "I bet that's what it was!" I thought. I felt terrible for judging you and getting offended at what was surely my own misconception. What you don't know, is that I wasn't scowling in disgust at you. As you were walking, in the yard behind you this was happening:
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    Please accept my apology for being offended at something I thought that you might have been thinking, and also for not being more mindful of every single person in the area before I make a face with no apparent reason. Clearly, neither of us are mind readers.

    Sincerely,
    Rude Dude
  • MyseriMapleleaf
    MyseriMapleleaf Posts: 81 Member
    This is to the douche who thought it was okay to scowl at me while I did my 6 mile walk around the lake:

    I realize that you are very disciplined and in control, given your extraordinarily large muscles and fabulous physique. However, your orange oompa loompa tan does nothing for you.

    I'm so sorry you had to go out walking that day, I'm so sorry you had to get very disappointed that not every chick with a nice face has a perfect body.

    And when you scowl at me in disgust because I am a fat *kitten*, remember that I am working hard to change. I was not put on the earth to please you, therefore the fact that you may have had to go home and rinse your eyes out with battery acid after seeing me in my chunky glory, has no bearing whatsoever to my life.

    I walked 'the dam' here in my county for the first time since I lived here (3 years last week) and passed SO many people who fit this description to a T (WHAT is up with THAT?)... but no mean scowls. Sorry you had to see that. Eff him :P
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    I used to hate walking around the mall because I'd notice '***** stares', but as my confidence improved, it got me wondering; was I guilty of *****-staring too? Probably. I don't honestly pay much attention to how my face is when I'm out and about. If we had to worry about everyone's expression all of the time, I think we'd all walk with our eyes downcast.

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  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    Quite the contrary, I often look at people who are not in shape and think "way to go! Please keep that up!" Hell, I do on occasion even verbalize it, but not always. So the next time you see some dude scowling as he jogs around the lake, understand that he could be lost in thought, complaining to himself about his job, dealing with his own struggles, or even thinking good things such as "way to go!"

    You really can't win. My friend was jogging and got offended when someone did encourage her. :flowerforyou:

    ^ That's honestly why I don't say anything the vast majority of the time.

    I did today though. I offered to help a 14 year old with his deadlift. He quite willingly said yes, listened intently to everything I said, and then thanked me and did exactly what I showed him to do. Those damn teenagers and their nasty attitudes! :bigsmile:
  • nobadkitty
    nobadkitty Posts: 95
    Someone on MFP posted this a while back (I did NOT write it)...I believe it's a blog post that was found either here or another fitness site. But I'm going to post it here because I think it bears repeating. The title was "Hey Fat Girl"...

    Hey, Fat Girl.


    Yes, you. The one feigning to not see me when we cross paths on the running track. The one not even wearing sports gear, breathing heavy. You’re slow, you breathe hard and your efforts at moving forward make you cringe.

    You cling shyly to the furthest corridor, sometimes making larger loops on the gravel ring by the track just so you’re not on it. You sweat so much that your hair is all wet. You rarely stay for more than 20 minutes at a time, and you look exhausted when you leave to go back home. You never talk to anyone. I’ve got something I’d like to say to you.

    You are awesome.

    If you’d look me in the eye only for an instant, you would notice the reverence and respect I have for you. The adventure you have started is tremendous; it leads to a better health, to renewed confidence and to a brand new kind of freedom. The gifts you will receive from running will far exceed the gigantic effort it takes you to show up here, to face your fears and to bravely set yourself in motion, in front of others.

    You have already begun your transformation. You no longer accept this physical state of numbness and passivity. You have taken a difficult decision, but one that holds so much promise. Every hard breath you take is actually a tad easier than the one before, and every step is ever so slightly lighter. Each push forward leaves the former person you were in your wake, creating room for an improved version, one that is stronger, healthier and forward-looking, one who knows that anything is possible.

    You’re a hero to me. And, if you’d take off the blaring headphones and put your head up for more than a second or two, you would notice that the other runners you cross, the ones that probably make you feel so inadequate, stare in awe at your determination. They, of all people, know best where you are coming from. They heard the resolutions of so many others, who vowed to pick up running and improve their health, “starting next week”. Yet, it is YOU who runs alongside, who digs from deep inside to find the strength to come here, and to come back again.

    You are a runner, and no one can take that away from you. You are relentlessly moving forward. You are stronger than even you think, and you are about to be amazed by what you can do. One day, very soon, maybe tomorrow, you’ll step outside and marvel at your capabilities. You will not believe your own body, you will realize that you can do this. And a new horizon will open up for you. You are a true inspiration.

    I bow to you.

    This is really fantastic - thank you for sharing. :D
  • kellykw
    kellykw Posts: 184 Member
    I'm curious - did you try smiling at him?
    I smiled as I walked past, as I do to just about everyone when I go for a walk. Sometimes I even say hello.

    :( Maybe he just has a bad attitude then. But like others have said, don't make it about you, and don't let it make you feel bad about yourself. Keep doing your thing for you, and keep smiling, even to those who don't "deserve" a smile. Think of how miserable it must be to be stuck inside a snarly head with a grumpy snarly brain.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Maybe he was, Maybe he wasn't, but I'm not sure if it is anyone else's place to say some of the things said because I'm assuming you (nobadkitty) were the only one from this site at that particular place and time.

    Either way people can be extremely rude, and I'm not one to judge on purpose. Just the one that has been judged most of my life for my weight.

    Our point is that her own disgust seems a tad misdirected, and that's a personal problem... she spoke of attitude earlier, but if she is going to presume that everyone with an unhappy look on their face is secretly judging her, then it's her attitude that needs work.
  • DopeItUp
    DopeItUp Posts: 18,771 Member
    I too enjoy getting offended over perceived nothingness. Let's be friends!

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