Men, what do you REALLY think of girls w/ stretch marks?

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  • SJVZEE
    SJVZEE Posts: 451 Member
    I know the title says men, but I need help from the ladies too! :flowerforyou:

    Please be honest. I've been googling and a lot of men have said that stretch marks don't really bother them or don't even bother them at all. I find that hard to believe and I feel like guys just say that just to make the OP feel better about herself.

    Anyways I ask because I have severe stretch marks. Not the tiny white ones, the bright pink and red thick ones that are all over my breasts, hips, stomach, and thighs and I'm very self-conscious about them :/ I'm looking at laser stretch mark removal but it's expensive.

    So guys, what do you REALLY think about them, especially severe ones? Be please 100% honest about it.

    *****Oh and please state your age too! (Just curious but I feel like the older the guy, the less stretch marks would bother him, but I assume that's not always the case)******

    And for the ladies, what do you think about stretch marks on guys and on yourself? Does your significant other mind your stretch marks?

    I've had three kids and have one, large stretch mark that starts at my belly button (on the side) and goes down to my hip area. I love it! It's a reminder to me that this amazing body of mine has given birth to three kids :) My husband could care less about it-I've asked him about it before and he's like 'whatever' lol.

    Now I do have really bad varicose/spider veins, also from my pregnancies, and those used to bother me a lot (start at my ankle and go all the way up to my thigh area). But, as I've gotten older, lost the weight, and gotten more comfortable in my skin-I've learned to be ok with those as well. This is my body and I'm darn proud of it :)
  • Chadomaniac
    Chadomaniac Posts: 1,785 Member
    I don't mind , as long as their personality doesn't have stretch marks
  • sinistras
    sinistras Posts: 244 Member
    my bf has more than i do and hes in way better shape than me. i used to be ashamed of the 3 on my left hip and the 2 right next to my belly button. but you know what?

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    THIS JUST MADE MY DAY! Yup! I've Earned my STRIPES carrying my child!
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    I have some stretch marks on my hips and thighs from puberty. I hate them, but NO ONE has ever said anything about them to me. People in general don't seem to care that much.
  • abbyrae1
    abbyrae1 Posts: 265 Member
    I have some from when I got taller, some on my thighs from when I was a kid (played soccer, gained about 3 inches and 15lbs of muscle in about 3 months). I used to be really self conscious of them because when I was less in shape, they were really apparent and bothered me but they have gotten smaller as I have gotten older and lost some weight/toned up.

    My man has some pretty severe one son his hips and shoulders from football and his growth spurts as a kid, I think his bother him a bit but I they don't bother me at all, same with mine, they bother me more than him. I have noticed, the more tan I am, the less visible they are

    Ultimately it is what matters to you. When you are in better shape (more fit) are they less apparent? Is it something that truly bothers you? if so, maybe you should look into treatment for them, but if you can accept them as part of who you are, then I would save the money
  • grimendale
    grimendale Posts: 2,153 Member
    I honestly don't even notice until and unless it is pointed out to me. Why would it matter?
  • skykitten
    skykitten Posts: 10
    My partner has some. He was bigger, he's now smaller. The don't bother me at all. I can't even tell you exactly where his are as I've forgotten because they're so irrelevent.
  • ncmedic201
    ncmedic201 Posts: 540 Member
    I have lots of stretch marks from having 2 big boys. I've never really thought about it this way, but I'm not initially confident when a guy sees them for the first time.

    The funny thing about this is that I've got birth marks and scars all over my face. If a guy can get past that and want to date me then why should I care about the stretch marks?

    Thank you for letting me see this in a whole new light everyone!!
  • TruckersWifeTruckersLife
    TruckersWifeTruckersLife Posts: 408 Member
    I am nearly 43 and yes i am a bit self concious about my stretch marks i have 5 children but i have found with the exercising that i am doing they are slowly disappearing so dont be so disheartened about them they will fade
  • ladytinkerbell99
    ladytinkerbell99 Posts: 970 Member
    My husband had me look up sites to see women's bodies after birth, so that I could see that I had bounced back (just got some tiny white stretch marks on my thighs that everyone keeps saying aren't even stretch marks). But, when we were looking at the pictures my husband said that he doesn't find any of the stretch marks unattractive. He said they just look like patterns. He said they even look pretty. He said that my stretch marks are like imaginary friends because I'm the only one that can see them. He even showed me that he has them too. And I didn't even know. That's how hard to see and unnoticeable they are. Mine are like that. I asked him how he got them and he said, "From having skin".

    ^ I love this. Thanks for sharing. :flowerforyou:
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    I used to be really self conscious about them (covered, since age 13) but they have all faded and now I don't care. As far as I know, my husband doesn't care either. I was really pi$$ed when one ripped right through my hip tattoo though...getting that touched up was like being branded. Since the tissue had been compromised they had to really put some pressure on that needle.
  • ShreddedTweet
    ShreddedTweet Posts: 1,326 Member
    I don't have any, I've not been overweight and I've not had any kids. I intend to have kids in the future though so I expect I'll get some at some point.
    I'm not overly keen on them but if someone I really loved had a few scars here or there I don't think it would make any difference to me. My man could have had a pineapple growing out of his face and I still would have been attracted to him!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    [uote]I've not been overweight [/quote]

    I don't have a single stretch mark from being overweight. I have quite a few from puberty, though.

    My mother has been obese her entire life and had a baby and she has none.

    They aren't an indication of weight.
  • jwdieter
    jwdieter Posts: 2,582 Member
    It's similar to a scar or birthmark or mole. Maybe the body would look better without it, but have to be pretty naive to expect a photoshop-quality body on anyone.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    I've never had a man bothered by them. Women will inherently have stretch marks when you hit puberty your breasts and hips grew faster than your skin could keep up. When you become pregnant your breasts and stomach will grow faster than your skin can keep up. If you become heavy very fast your skin cant keep up. It's life. They still find you very sexually desirable. Most fade over time. Dont let it ruin your confidence especially when you are intimate. Nothing more will kill your desire and his desire more than a lack of confidence or focusing on your flaws.
  • Biodemon
    Biodemon Posts: 143 Member
    I have a lot of silvery stretch marks (ones that healed from long ago and several that healed from last year to this year). Honestly, they don't bother me as much. Nor do they bother my boyfriend. He doesn't even see them. He just sees me and not the fluffiness either. If you have a man that cares about your stretch-marks, MOVE ON. That there is clearly the sign of a guy that cares more about beauty on the outside than the inside and that is NOT love. :3
  • sweetpea129
    sweetpea129 Posts: 755 Member
    I'm 30. i have some on my belly but they're mostly faded. DH has never commented about them and ive never asked his opinion. They're just there, not a big deal to us. DH has some on his arms, they dont bother me at all. I actually find them hot because i know that they're from when he started growing muscles :blushing:
  • sillygoosie
    sillygoosie Posts: 1,109 Member
    Have you never seen a man naked? They have stretch marks too, so why care what they think of yours? Pretty sure my man isn't thinking about stretch marks when he sees me naked.
  • jonjhayden
    jonjhayden Posts: 165 Member
    I find women who have lost weight (20lbs or more) to be very, very sexy. Maybe its the dedication, the shared experience, I don't know but I really do. Stretch marks go right along with that. So...yeah not bothered by strech marks.
  • holliebevineau
    holliebevineau Posts: 441 Member
    "We don't have no time to worry bout no **** like stretch marks... They came from either 1 of 2 things... Either you was big & got small, or you were small & got big ! Either way we f$&@ing... Either Waaay!" -KATT WILLIAMS




    LOL!!! That seems about right!!
  • happyheart15
    happyheart15 Posts: 383 Member
    I've had no children, but i have stretch marks. I have them on my upper arms, a few on my tummy on one side, my butt, my upper thighs all over, and my calves. I don't wear shorts and I don't wear bathing suits. As I lose weight, I feel more coming in. I don't even look at my legs because I can't stand seeing them there. I wish I could go out feeling comfortable in a tank top and shorts, but that'll just never happen.

    They almost make me want to stop losing weight. Almost. I will continue to lose as I only have about 28 more pounds to go. But I hope they come up with some kind of laser to take them away. Please don't bash me over the way I feel. I can't help it. I don't mind them on other people, but I hate them on me.
  • j4m8
    j4m8 Posts: 32
    My husband had me look up sites to see women's bodies after birth, so that I could see that I had bounced back (just got some tiny white stretch marks on my thighs that everyone keeps saying aren't even stretch marks). But, when we were looking at the pictures my husband said that he doesn't find any of the stretch marks unattractive. He said they just look like patterns. He said they even look pretty. He said that my stretch marks are like imaginary friends because I'm the only one that can see them. He even showed me that he has them too. And I didn't even know. That's how hard to see and unnoticeable they are. Mine are like that. I asked him how he got them and he said, "From having skin".

    Your husband is GD awesome!
  • Katey12891
    Katey12891 Posts: 41 Member
    I don't care about my stretch marks and neither does my boyf. They were bright red colour when I was fatter but now they are just white. Anyway, he has little stretch marks on his butt! hahaha so cute.
  • aftonslater
    aftonslater Posts: 69 Member
    I'm obviously not a man, but I'm getting better about stretch marks...I never had any from puberty (i'm 5'3 so i guess i didn't grow quick enough to get them haha) I got 3 on each hip from my first pregnancy and i kinda loved them! they were really light and i figured what better reason to have stretch marks! then after getting significantly bigger with my second pregnancy i got more on my belly, which made me wanna vomit to be honest. because i knew it was my fault for gaining too much weight, not from my baby so i hated them because i saw them as fat stretch marks not baby stretch marks. I'm now pregnant with #3 and i've been much better with weight gain this time around so i figure if i get more i'll deal with it, and if not then super! my husband doesn't care i don't think he really notices...then again they're from his kids so he shouldnt haha
  • Janran02
    Janran02 Posts: 1 Member
    I think several men have them too, from weight gain or loss from either muscle or fat. My husband has more than me. I love him either way. If someone judges your appearance because of them, they do not deserve you.
  • Eyesee
    Eyesee Posts: 111 Member
    I just wish someone had TOLD ME that this could/would happen! I never saw stretch marks on anyone on TV, in movies, magazines, etc. I got a few of the little slivery ones on my hips when I became a teenager, but I had no idea they could look even close to the ones in the pic that has been posted a few times here. When I first got real ones recently I was shocked. I'm completely self-conscious about it (though I try not to talk about it) and I hate my body so much more than I ever did. (I think I'd feel better if I had them because of children instead of my own disgusting choices.) Couldn't we just get ONE magazine image or something that doesn't have them photoshopped out to show that it's normal?

    As for the opposite sex, my boyfriend (who I got fat with) has them now too (in basically the same places) and his don't bother me at all. Maybe we are all just harder on ourselves, go figure. Thanks for this thread you guys, I stupidly felt like I was one of the few people with this problem.
  • YesIAm17
    YesIAm17 Posts: 817 Member
    Ok, so I am clearly really late to this party but I found this thread while searching for a different one.

    To me it really doesn't matter. I don't see them as a "flaw" or "imperfection" in the slightest, and I feel the same way about little wrinkles and other things so many people obsess over.

    OP and others may think this is something guys say to make them feel better, and maybe in some cases it is, I can only speak for myself and I am just giving you my honest perspective. For me it's about the entire package (inside and out) and how it all comes together not a little detail here and there.

    Reading that I know it sounds like what the "nice guy" is supposed to say. There is really no way I can think of to convince you of my sincerity, but if you think of one let me know.
  • RllyGudTweetr
    RllyGudTweetr Posts: 2,019 Member
    Thanks to medical issues, accidents, and acne, I have enough scar tissue on my neck and face that Edward James Olmos looks smooth-cheeked by comparison. I could care less about a few stretch marks. That said, I'm acutely aware that when a woman asks me this question face-to-face, I'm firmly in "there's no right answer here" territory, where every response will likely be deemed either harsh, insincere, or both.
  • Twinkielingus
    Twinkielingus Posts: 147 Member
    I do have a few from having my daughter. They did initially bother me. But they aren't too bad. As I became much more comfortable with my body, I really don't care what anybody else thinks. I want to be with a man who loves me for me and my whole package.

    Hydration, exercise, tanning, and even some lotion specific for stretch marks have worked for me to minimize the look.
  • G__Force
    G__Force Posts: 280 Member
    They dont bother me just be healthy and happy. :bigsmile:

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