Your most humiliating "fat" experience.

My most humiliating experience, was when I had to borrow my dad's jacket because I forgot mine and I realized I couldn't fit in it. I had became bigger than my father.

The worst one that sticks with me is being 14 yrs old and in 9th grade gym class and some 8th grade boys sitting on the floor near the girls' locker room and saying "Whoa, those girls are SO fat" and "I know, wow" about my friend and I. I'm not sure why but that sticks with me more than anything else ever. I'm sure part of it was those boys were still so young-looking, like 4' something tall and under 100 lb and we were tall, very big girls with figures of grown women. But I could tell by their tone that they did NOT intend for us to hear them in the echo-y gym, and it was just mortifying.

Stood in line for three hours to ride The Batman roller coaster at Six Flags in St Louis. When I was getting into the ride, I was too fat and had to make the walk of shame off. Didn't get to ride it after all those hours in line. Humiliating and hurt beyond words. My family got to ride it, though. And that's all that really mattered to me.

Being spit on by boys at school, being screamed at by a carload of young men who were making fun of my size, being humiliated by both of my husbands about being fat? Being told by a former best friend that she couldn't believe how fat I had gotten, being called pregnant when I wasn't? Not riding the rides at amusement parks because I can't fit, wearing all black all the time to try to hide the fat, wearing the largest size in the house?

Take your pick.

my favorite one by far still has to be the time i had to "run" from one side of the building to the other for an emergency and i hear a customer yell "you know for a fat chick, you're pretty damn quick"! i turned red but kept on going but i can still hear that in my head and use it for motivation

I was at a friend's birthday party in highschool. After we were done singing happy birthday, one of her little cousins (about 6 years old) came up to me, looked me straight in the eye and said, "You have a really big belly." Funny thing was that she was very overweight for a 6 year old....kids....:grumble:

My now husband, then boyfriend, made the remark that I should get a bigger swim suit. I was wondering what was wrong with the one I had. I asked him what he meant and why he said that. He would never really clarify. Finally he just yelled at me that I look disgusting in my swim suit. Needless to say, I haven't put on a swim suit since. I actually bought one last year, but I could never bring myself to wear the thing.

Please tell me he's apologized to you about this since then. I've taken disrespectful comments from people before, but I wouldn't take them from people who are supposed to care about me. That's unacceptable.

When I was a cashier at wal-mart, I was mistaken for pregnant on a few occasions. Honestly, if a woman doesn't look like she is obviously pregnant like she's 9 months and about to pop, I'm not going to say a darn thing. The worst moment was when a man put a whole treadmill (in it's box) on top of the register conveyor belt which is a cruddy thing to do in the first place since it's incredibly heavy and I can scan it in his cart, I walked around to scan his treadmill. As I was lifting this thing back into his cart because he made zero effort to help me or put it back, he asked me when I was due. I was very confused, and told him that I wasn't pregnant. He says "Are you sure? Because you really look like it.". Really guy?? Not only is that a horrible thing to say to someone, but if I was, you suck as a person if you would let a a pregnant woman lift a 100+ pound treadmill and not do anything to help her. The most I felt that I could get away with saying to him was that he should really be careful what he says to a woman because that can really hurt a person's feelings. If I hadn't been at work though, I would have said something a bit more colorful to him.

When I was in high school, I was THE fat girl. Kids laughed about my weight all the time. One time I walked into class and sat on a metal chair and it buckled and broke and I fell down and the whole class just died laughing. Our school didn't like paying for new things so the chair was old and it really could have happened to everyone, but because it was me, it just made things worse. I played it cool and just laughed with everyone else, but it was not a proud moment.

When I was in 9th grade, I hit a girl because she was being mean to me. I was feeling very suicidal around this time because I was bullied everyday and had no friends. I was sent to the principal's office and I told her how I felt. She asked me why and I said that everyone hated me because I was fat and I felt worthless. She said "Well what are you doing to change that?" and I said that I was trying so hard to lose weight, I was walking to school for a change, and had lost 15 pounds. Her response to this was "I don't believe you. I'm sure you splurge on Haggen Daas and pizza once in awhile." Then I was suspended. I never ever forgot that. Those were the exact words she used and I never forgot them, and I brought it up to her when I was a senior and she denied ever saying it. When you confide in an adult that's supposed to help you and they tell you something like that...it's the kind of thing that you just don't forget.

I have about a zillion other stories like these. I'm so amazed that I grew up to be a semi-put together human being. :ohwell:

I have about a zillion other stories like these. I'm so amazed that I grew up to be a semi-put together human being. :ohwell:

Oh man, do I relate to that!

Mine is from yesterday.

I started talking to a really nice guy online. I made him aware of my size, that I was losing weight and I was self-conscious about it. He said he didn't mind and he liked me for who I was anyway. I met with him and we went for coffee. He said he had left something in the car and ran to get it. He didn't come back. It was the most awkward and humiliating moments of my life.

This was compounded by him giving my number to his friend to call me up riduculing me for my size and my "friend" saying 'Well I'm not surprised he ran looking at you.' Awful. I still haven't recovered from it.

I don't even know what to say. That is just horrible. What is wrong with some people? I'm so sorry that happened to you!

One of my husbands male friends exclaimed upon meeting me for the first time "lovely to meet you - you are not too skinny, that's a good thing....I don't like skinny girls". lol.

Also, as I am in the fashion business, one customer said to me "I like buying from you as I can see how the product looks on a 'real' woman...cos you know...you're not thin".

Have to laugh - they both meant well. lol.

Worse...being asked "When are you Due?" when my baby was 6 months old. That pissed me off cos I still don't think I looked pregnant! haha....I guess I did.

I have a good body image - most of the time - I always think I look better than what I actually do - it can be a bad thing, but mostly it's a positive for me! It's how you feel inside that shines through. xx

someone mentioned that if my girlfriend stood behind me , she'd dissappear .

another one was when my girlfriend and i weighed each other in... and i was exactly one hundred pounds heavier than her.

Oh I have a long list of those really embarrassing moments. fortunately I've learned to let go of all that old, icky stuff. I was recently on an airplane and my seat was in the aisle with the escape door (or whatever you call them) and the stewardess told me that if I could not buckle the seat belt I'd have to move. I'm pretty sure everyone around me heard her comment. Well, thank goodness I'd been using this site and had lost a few pounds, I was able to buckle just fine. Whew!

I have to tell you it really helps me to read all of your posts, some of them just made me burst out laughing, others make me want to cry.

I was married to a man for thirteen years and not once in all our married life did he tell me I looked good. Mind you, I was a whole lot thinner than I am now. When we went out he'd compliment every female in hearing distance, but never me. It used to piss me off something fierce....we're divorced now for more years than we were married and all I feel for him is sympathy.

I read something recently about how we women need to be careful about the messages we are sending to our daughters. I've always said that I was "short, fat and ugly" and my kids picked up on it real fast. Now my daughters are grown women and guess what they say...yuppers, they are repeating me. We need to change the message to be "I am beautiful just the way God made me." Good luck on your weight loss and maintenance journeys!

I broke a chair at the office, at my first job. It was very loud. People came from all over to look what the noise was. Very embarassing.

Was in High School, went to Valley Fair in MN (live in Wi). Told that couldnt wear shirts down waterslides... 'friends' scoffed at me when had to remove shirt in pool. That was Freshman year in HS. some.. 13 years ago.

Recently... Not much being in the midwest I'm average (scary) I also dont feel bad I've had the same pant size since i was in High School and my size is always gone from the rack... so dont feel too bad at 'tall

I had many of these experiences as I've been heavy all my life. The two which shamed me and jumpstarted my loss were the following:

1) I had a minor medical issue and had to go to the doctor. When they tried to weigh me, the scale didn't go high enough to weigh me. The look of disgust on the nurse's face was shocking to me. It was the look of "there's another one" or just utter contempt due to how I let myself go.

2) I went to a friend's house on a lake. We went for a boat ride. Every time I sat on each side of the boat, I'd unbalance the boat. Everyone had to sit opposite me to keep it balanced. It was mortifying.

These experiences coupled with others made me realize I was the weight of two people and if I'd continue like this, I'd die very early. I didn't want that for my son. He deserves better than that. I couldn't go up a flight of stairs without getting winded. I couldn't walk more than a quarter mile without feeling like I was going to pass out.

I started my change 9 months ago. I'm down nearly 70 lbs. My furthest walk is over 6 miles non-stop. I'm not even close to my goal, but I'll get there. I will be healthier. I will prevail. I grew up in a system of "I can't", but I've realized that's wrong. I can and I will.