Can Men and Women be JUST Friends?

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  • ChristinaR720
    ChristinaR720 Posts: 1,186
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  • Yes they can. I have a best friend and he's been my best friend for 9 years now and no he's not gay but we have never touched each other in any kinda sexual way!!!
  • BenchPressingCats
    BenchPressingCats Posts: 1,826 Member
    Turtle?

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  • legreene515
    legreene515 Posts: 276 Member


    With guy #2, it's a little different... We have extremely similar views, so I feel like he really "gets" me. He loves hugs even more than I do. Our personalities just click a little better. On top of that, circumstances have on occasion led to us feeling very alone and in need of someone at the same time. We've had to "break up" once, when we realized we were behaving too couple-y for people who are supposed to be friends and don't want a relationship with one another. It's gotten a lot easier to be just friends now that we realize we can fall into that trap, and while I'm not worried about things going places we don't intend them to go, I also know we need to make a conscious effort to keep it that way and not follow impulsive emotions when one of us is upset.

    Are you taken? Because if not, this guy seems PERFECT for you.

    I am very close to my guy friend. In fact, out of everyone I've met since I moved back home I feel like he "gets" me more than anyone. We have similar views. We love to talk about religion and books, and we're both intellectual types. We're both thinkers too.

    That said, at first my husband was "put off" by my friendship with him. He told me that Friend only wants one thing from me. I backed away from Friend, and we do tend to back away when things seem too intimate for a friendship.

    Now hubby has a best girl friend at work, and he doesn't care at all about my guy friend anymore. The thing is, I get WAY more flack about having a guy friend than he does about having a "girl" friend, even though he is just as close to his girl friend as I am to my guy friend.

    Still-both of these people add to our lives, and in some respects they have taught us how to communicate with each other, so I think having them in our lives is a good thing--not a bad thing.

    Or I guess we could all just get naked and bench press cats together...:noway:
  • UnwrappingCandy
    UnwrappingCandy Posts: 418 Member
    This is cracking me up!

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  • ChristinaR720
    ChristinaR720 Posts: 1,186
    Turtle?

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  • Of course they can be friends.
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  • tehboxingkitteh
    tehboxingkitteh Posts: 1,574 Member
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  • legreene515
    legreene515 Posts: 276 Member
    Nope. Completely impossible.

    Why?
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Nope. Completely impossible.

    Why?

    Because interlocking parts are meant to interlock.
  • BenchPressingCats
    BenchPressingCats Posts: 1,826 Member
    Nope. Completely impossible.

    Why?

    Sarcasm, honey. Sarcasm.
  • ChristinaR720
    ChristinaR720 Posts: 1,186
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  • Nope. Completely impossible.

    Why?

    Because interlocking parts are meant to interlock.
    You haz a key for me?
  • PattyJane167
    PattyJane167 Posts: 94 Member
    It's impossible for me...I like my friends with benefits!!
  • legreene515
    legreene515 Posts: 276 Member
    Nope. Completely impossible.

    Why?

    Because interlocking parts are meant to interlock.

    Just like a jigsaw puzzle!
  • CandiQueen
    CandiQueen Posts: 57
    IMO there is not ALWAYS something underlying, just 90% of the time, on one end or the other. I have maybe 1 or 2 guys friends and I know a few guys, where I know that NOTHING would or could ever happen because I would never want it to. The rest I don't talk to much because it is one of those I am not currently interested in you because I am with someone else but if I wasn't with someone else then I wouldn't count you off the table type deal...

    MOST of the time if two people of the opposite sex are good friends, one of them has a crush or has had a crush at one point or another. Now this is MOST of the time and not ALL the time, depending on the maturity of the people etc. Also just because people are not cheating or aren't intending on ever cheating, doesn't mean there isn't a tiny little something at the back of their minds. It is human nature and we are all programmed to be attracted to people of the sex we are attracted to and just because we have found a life partner it doesn't mean that, that goes away. it is all how you deal with it.

    My partner and I recently came to an understanding (he was the one who wanted it this way) That we believe men and women truly can't be friends unless its other couple type friends (he doesn't trust me...for no reason I might add, I am not a cheater) so he doesn't talk to any girls I don't know and I won't talk to guys he doesn't know. It doesn't need to be this way but it does eliminate and jealousy and whatnot and is appropriate for us.
  • cebiginalaska
    cebiginalaska Posts: 280 Member
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  • legreene515
    legreene515 Posts: 276 Member
    Nope. Completely impossible.

    Why?

    Sarcasm, honey. Sarcasm.

    I wasn't sure it was sarcasm, as some people *really* think this!
  • Topsking2010
    Topsking2010 Posts: 2,245 Member
    Hell No!!!!!
  • BenchPressingCats
    BenchPressingCats Posts: 1,826 Member
    Nope. Completely impossible.

    Why?

    Sarcasm, honey. Sarcasm.

    I wasn't sure it was sarcasm, as some people *really* think this!

    Yeah, sometimes difficult to tell over the interwebz.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Nope. Completely impossible.

    Why?

    Because interlocking parts are meant to interlock.
    You haz a key for me?

    Yes. Can I unlock you?
  • The_Enginerd
    The_Enginerd Posts: 3,982 Member
    Of course they can be friends.
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  • sbbhbm
    sbbhbm Posts: 1,312 Member
    I suppose they CAN be, but where's the fun in that?

    Seriously, I cannot be just friends with men or women I'm attracted to. Doesn't happen. I ply them with liquor and have my way with them every time. My only REAL friends are hideously misshapen, just to avoid that very situation.
  • SailorKnightWing
    SailorKnightWing Posts: 875 Member
    It depends on who you ask. Lots of girls are great friends with boys, who then go out and complain to their guy friends about being friendzoned.

    I know it goes the other way, too, but being a girl I see it more from this side.
  • tehboxingkitteh
    tehboxingkitteh Posts: 1,574 Member
    Nope. Completely impossible.

    Why?

    Sarcasm, honey. Sarcasm.

    I wasn't sure it was sarcasm, as some people *really* think this!

    Yeah, sometimes difficult to tell over the interwebz.
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  • dirtnap63
    dirtnap63 Posts: 1,387 Member
    OP do you want to have sex with every man you see? If not there's your answer.

    And even in spite of attraction we, as human beings have control over our behaviour and can choose not to act on our desires. Some choose to, others don't, but it certainly can, and has been, done.
  • Yes. Can I unlock you?
    Only if you know the secret knock to get in. :smooched:
  • tehboxingkitteh
    tehboxingkitteh Posts: 1,574 Member
    Yes. Can I unlock you?
    Only if you know the secret knock to get in. :smooched:
    I don't know the secret knock, but my fingers know the password to the keypad...
  • legreene515
    legreene515 Posts: 276 Member
    OP do you want to have sex with every man you see? If not there's your answer.

    And even in spite of attraction we, as human beings have control over our behaviour and can choose not to act on our desires. Some choose to, others don't, but it certainly can, and has been, done.

    No. Only about 3/4ths of them! LOL.

    I agree. Behavior can be controlled. It just seems like women are judged when they have a male friend outside of a primary relationship (more than men are). But maybe I feel that way, because I'm a girl and that's my perspective.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Yes. Can I unlock you?
    Only if you know the secret knock to get in. :smooched:

    That would require me to bang against the door. I prefer to press the doorbell first.