Can Men and Women be JUST Friends?

Yes, as long as you have boundaries.

What makes these threads ridiculous is that people think sex is the only line of demarcation between "just friends" and "not just friends." The reality is that the only reason a lot of so-called "just friends" aren't sleeping with each other is because one of them isn't interested. If you want to sleep with your "friend," or if he/she wants to sleep with you, cut the crap. You are not just friends.

It's particularly hilarious to me when women feign ignorance about the fact that their male "friend" wants to get it on. If you're attractive and he's single, he probably wants to sleep with you. He's a man. It's what they do.

What makes these threads ridiculous is that people think sex is the only line of demarcation between "just friends" and "not just friends." The reality is that the only reason a lot of so-called "just friends" aren't sleeping with each other is because one of them isn't interested. If you want to sleep with your "friend," or if he/she wants to sleep with you, cut the crap. You are not just friends.

Sex isn't a line of demarcation at all. You can have sex and just be friends. Partnership or romance is so much more than thirty minutes to a few hours in the hay.

What makes these threads ridiculous is that people think sex is the only line of demarcation between "just friends" and "not just friends." The reality is that the only reason a lot of so-called "just friends" aren't sleeping with each other is because one of them isn't interested. If you want to sleep with your "friend," or if he/she wants to sleep with you, cut the crap. You are not just friends.

It's particularly hilarious to me when women feign ignorance about the fact that their male "friend" wants to get it on. If you're attractive and he's single, he probably wants to sleep with you. He's a man. It's what they do.

Brilliant and True

I think men and women can be friends, my husband thinks otherwise and thinks every man wants me. Lucky for me he is not the jealous type.

i would listen to your husband to be honest and be wary of the male friends he mentions, they usually can tell when it comes to other mens advances. Mine used to tell me and get jealous when we first met, not that he didnt trust me just he was protecting me, but i never listened, just thought he was jealous and sure enough they would in time make a pass :P

A few of mine have made comments "oh if you weren't married" and such but to me its all fun and flirting, my husband doesn't care and he does his fair share of flirting, it doesn't bother me. It doesn't mean I am going to be more than just friends with the men. I hear what you are saying though.

"Oh, if you weren't married"

MALE TRANSLATION - I completely could care less that you are married and would do you at any given moment, but I am saying it this way to "offiicially" let you know I am working it, but to come off as sensitive to your marriage. Let me repeat, I would do this NOW NOW NOW right in front of your husband and do not in any way care that you are married..... but if I said that I would sound creepy.

When we got married we both had friends of the opposite sex. I still have some of mine. His happened to move away and lose touch. The ones we lost, we would have lost through the natural cycle of friendship anyway. One of my best male friends - still is - actually started coming over to see him! I said, wait a min, you are MY friend - we all thought it was funny. They have grease monkey stuff in common so they bonded over cars. Another of my male friends doesn't see him much, but they are happy to talk to each other - they are very like minded people. Would I "do" any of them - um, no. Have I had any hot enough to do - yes. Would I want to? No. Did they want to - never knew. Do his - well, one did. But I think she freaked him out a little - she was a strange bird so to say and he told me he was freaked out by her. I actually did not like her - she was selfcentered and overbearing piece of work. She thought I was jealous of her - DH and I found that pretty funny. Um, not jealous - it's just that hanging with you - makes me want to eat nails. She's one that just moved away. We both celebrated that one. She probably thinks we miss her to this day LOL

I think, because we are in a solid supportive relationship without much jealousy it works fine. We are each others biggest cheerleaders and smallest critics. We've never even had a fight. If I saw him talking to a gorgeous woman somewhere that I didn't know I would assume he was trying to help her sell her car or some similar thing. So the lack of jealousy and high level of trust - makes all the difference in the world.

And can I have male friends and not bang them - personally - um, yes. I know their bad sides and one of them is gay. So yes. I know them too well. And when I was younger it was the same way. Maybe I just don't have the wild gene - just the fun gene?

I'm bisexual. Does that mean I can't have any friends and I have to bang them all?

Forever alone and a slut.

HI!!! You wanna be my "friend"?

Sure, as long as everyone concerned are secure enough in their own relationships and won't be jealous.

Because the question starts with 'can', then the answer is yes.

Now I'm going to break the question down. All else being equal:
1. If a man finds you attractive and you're single, would friendship stop him from trying to get in your panties? No
2. If a man finds you attractive and you're not single, would that stop him from trying to sleep with you? Depends
3. If you simply want to remain friends despite his attraction, would he do it? Depends
4. If a man doesn't find you attractive, would he stay to be your friend? Yes

Of course they can be just friends ...take me and my wife for example ..lol

Yes. Have some cool male friends. I do think there will always be some sexual tension between men and women...that's just how our brains and bodies work.

Absolutely! As long as the guy is ugly and the girl would never have sex with him.

On a serious note, 3 years ago I watched 60 Minutes special that analyzed 3 married couples and the "experts" picked out which ones they thought would end up in divorce. All 4 experts picked the couple where the stay at home mom had become best friends with the stay at home dad next door to end up in divorce because she was getting her emotional needs met outside of her husband. They also picked the couple where the wife was sleeping in another bedroom with the baby and had refused to have sex with her husband for over a year because she said she was too tired. The third couple was this gorgeous model who was married to an older, heavyset, balding man and all of the experts said they had the best chance of staying together because he doted on her, cared about her day at work, and showed her affection by continuing to "date" her long after they were married. She had no interest in the hot male models she worked with on a daily basis because her husband was so devoted to her.

That's how the show went. I have no idea if any of the experts were right. If there was a follow-up, I missed it. But I do know my good looking ex-boyfriend is my best friend and my ex-fiance's jealousy over our friendship tore us apart even though he lives in alaska and i live in texas and we haven't seen each other in 5 years. so i think it has a lot to do with each person's insecurities.

I read page 1 and page 6...Oddly enough page 1 says yes predominantly and page 6 says no...
Weird.
I'm going with yes. My best friends are guys. I would however say it's because we've known each other FOREVER and have a healthy respect for NOT TRYING TO GET IN EACH OTHERS PANTS.

Nope. I even send my gay friends not gay.

deleting!