Ladies, be honest......why no replies?

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ChubbieCanuck
ChubbieCanuck Posts: 45 Member
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I joined a few months ago and wrote a letter of intro and I received NO replies at all to it (beyond the default letter from the admin).....Also, I received no replies from the ladies (my age) that i wrote too either. My letter was simple and not too personal...just that i was looking for a pen-pal to go on this weight loss journey with.

I am a big, big guy, yes (360# 6.1) but this is a diet site site and that should be expected.

Is my picture too scary or ugly?

Did I not add enough info on my profile?

Please be honest and give me some advice on why I am being wall-flowered.

Thank`s

Neil
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  • RobTheGourmet
    RobTheGourmet Posts: 189 Member
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    Hello!
  • collingmommy
    collingmommy Posts: 456 Member
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    Not a lot of ppl do that. We add as friends, and that's the soppurt.
  • DancingMoosie
    DancingMoosie Posts: 8,613 Member
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    Sorry you got no replies. My only answer would be that there are so many people joining and posting everyday that yours got lost in the shuffle.

    Welcome!
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,143 Member
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    Sorry. You can keep trying but I know a lot of the ladies here are only looking for other ladies to for support.....me included.

    But what's wrong with MEN? There are a lot of guys on here too.
  • JennaBlu
    JennaBlu Posts: 24 Member
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    I agree that it was lost in the shuffle. A catchy topic is sure to catch more views such as the one you just posted.
  • splitendswoman
    splitendswoman Posts: 41 Member
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    Sorry to hear that you have no friends :( It's much more fun on here with friends, they are a great support for you on the tough days, and they keep you honest!. Feel free to add me as a friend. One thing I would say is though, you should really fill in your profile page, as there isn't really enough info on there, people like to know a bit about your goals and motivation for losing the weight - see if that helps.
  • JTutz
    JTutz Posts: 69 Member
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    Have you considered joining any of the groups? There are so many & they're always welcoming new members.
  • Raclex
    Raclex Posts: 238
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    I think that may be it... There isn't much information about you as a person. Some people have common interests which then makes it easier to befriend them. Boating, fishing, jogging, martial arts, cooking, vegetarianism, where you're from, etc... May help people find a common point with you.

    What your goals are, etc... You can also look at different people's profiles and see if there`s something you like about them. Perhaps they started where you started and you`d like to know how they got there? Or maybe someone is at the goal that you`d like to get too. Don`t give up! It`s nice to find friends that are of different backgrounds too.

    Give us more info about you as a person :wink:
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
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    Sorry you're not having any luck. Check out the groups and see if there's a group that you'd be interested, that'd be the best way to get to know people.

    Welcome and good luck on your journey to a healthier you.
  • mckellipgirl
    mckellipgirl Posts: 63 Member
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    I can only speak for myself in this. I only add women to my friends list. It keeps my comfort level up on the topics that I discuss. Sorry about that.
    There are plenty out there that will have both, and men that would add you as well.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,771 Member
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    If people don't come to you, you got to go to the people.

    Instead of waiting for people to send you an FR, have you sent any FRs?
  • PlayerHatinDogooder
    PlayerHatinDogooder Posts: 1,018 Member
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    Make more posts on the forums. Find like minded friends that share similar points of view and personalities.

    A lot of people (myself included) aren't into being collected.
  • KarenisPaleo
    KarenisPaleo Posts: 169 Member
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    Fill out your About Me info, and start sending Friend Requests!!!!
  • Razzle_Red
    Razzle_Red Posts: 13
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    I think it is the fact that most women want to partner with another woman.

    We lose weight differently.

    You should ask some guys.

    And, to be straight forward, this isn't a dating website and most women don't think of it that way.
  • cbirchett58
    cbirchett58 Posts: 20 Member
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    I might get one or two replies when I post in the forums, but other people get tons. I've been wondering about that myself lately.
  • hep26000
    hep26000 Posts: 156 Member
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    Friend Request Sent!!!
  • ziggyc
    ziggyc Posts: 191 Member
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    Fill out your About Me info, and start sending Friend Requests!!!!

    yep, fill out your profile and then go join a few active groups.
  • Tina_Bella76
    Tina_Bella76 Posts: 16
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    sorry that happened to u hun...feel free to add me. id be happy to help with some support....my very first intro post also had not one reply lol......dont take it personal....;) i just joined again today so i could use some friends...have a great day!!!
  • mfpseven
    mfpseven Posts: 421 Member
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    You might come off as too flirty with women, many of us are here to just get in shape or don't want men on our lists. Personally, I add people with like goals and body type/ages. I feel I can relate to the better and we have more in common.
  • Ang108
    Ang108 Posts: 1,711 Member
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    You wonder if you did not add enough info to your profile .....but there is absolutely nothing in there......

    Apart from that I am sorry that you had a less than smooth beginning. I am also a relatively new member( April2013) and since I am older, I figured that that was the reason why people did not answer to my friend requests. I now have nine very supportive friends and I am ok with that.
    I hope your situation changes soon and you develop a supportive circle of friends. Good Luck !

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