I'm going to kill my husband

StrongAndHealthyMommy
StrongAndHealthyMommy Posts: 1,255 Member
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we are remodeling our house, and EVERY-SINGLE-TIME I ask him for an opinion his answer is: whatever I don't care...... do you want the cabinets of the kitchen black or any of those browns tones??? his answer: I don't care....... what color do you want the exterior of the house??? his answer.... whatever....... but then, if he doesn't like what I pick, once its done he complaints soooo much that I have to start all over again (of course without know WTF he wants...)

I think I should divorce him LOL:mad: :angry: :explode: :grumble: :noway:
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  • hailzp
    hailzp Posts: 903 Member
    I think so too.
  • sub10orbust
    sub10orbust Posts: 706 Member
    i care
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  • derekmeyer773
    derekmeyer773 Posts: 1 Member
    Its easy to say I dont care, that way we can see what you do or do not like. Then we know after that what we can choose from. Women tend to be just as picky when it comes to topics such as these!
  • ShadeyC
    ShadeyC Posts: 315 Member
    i care

    Suck up.

    LOL, He's aiming for "in's"
  • brower47
    brower47 Posts: 16,356 Member
    Well now you CAN'T kill him after announcing it to the world. Do you even first degree?
  • tworthen79
    tworthen79 Posts: 1,173 Member
    My husband always says, "Do whatever you want inside the house, the garage and yard is mine." Husbands truly don't care.
  • StrongAndHealthyMommy
    StrongAndHealthyMommy Posts: 1,255 Member
    i care

    would you marry me then????

    I love to pick 4 or 5 different colors, or ideas and when I ask him he says: whatever.....
  • StrongAndHealthyMommy
    StrongAndHealthyMommy Posts: 1,255 Member
    Well now you CAN'T kill him after announcing it to the world. Do you even first degree?


    OOOHHHH S*#$% that's right.... I will have to come up with something else to get rid of him :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :smokin: :smokin:
  • Brige2269
    Brige2269 Posts: 354 Member
    I think we are married to the same man!! Mine says the exact same thing! He finally just said, he doesnt like making decision, and I can do whatever I want, he will complain either way. Geeeeez!

    So, now I say, no opinion, no complaints.
  • treesha450
    treesha450 Posts: 321 Member
    Home remodels are a great strain on relationships. I've been through a few and we almost killed each other. Good luck !
  • oOxXxOo
    oOxXxOo Posts: 75 Member
    People who don't put in a vote don't get to complain after the fact! Tell him to shut it or grow a pair and create a dialogue about his wishes to do with the house reno beyond that of a 4 year old. Whatever is a curse word in my house....it is not used as a response to anything.
  • akmom40
    akmom40 Posts: 12
    I really wouldn't care either...:tongue:
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    presort your faves, and give him only three choices at one time. "this one, this one, or this one" will be easier for him than "ochre or mustard or earth clay? or maybe mint or seagrass or blue clover? or MAYBE ecru or eggshell or cream?" just 3.

    more work for you but less agony
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    (and call them 'yellow', 'green', and 'off-white')
  • britttttx3
    britttttx3 Posts: 458
    Chillll out mon':smile:
  • StrongAndHealthyMommy
    StrongAndHealthyMommy Posts: 1,255 Member
    presort your faves, and give him only three choices at one time. "this one, this one, or this one" will be easier for him than "ochre or mustard or earth clay? or maybe mint or seagrass or blue clover? or MAYBE ecru or eggshell or cream?" just 3.

    more work for you but less agony

    I do it all the time and he says.... whatever I don't care.... and then he gives his opinion once he sees it completely done....
  • olyabe
    olyabe Posts: 36
    Be thankful he does not care. Mine did not care about a lot of things (the boundaries were set at simply no purple and no gold/bronze which was fine with me), but a couple of items he did care about, we happened to disagree on.

    Oh, how I wished he said he did not care about those either at the end...
  • sub10orbust
    sub10orbust Posts: 706 Member
    i care

    would you marry me then????

    I love to pick 4 or 5 different colors, or ideas and when I ask him he says: whatever.....


    wood wife srs
    currently writing an essay on pros and cons of each colour
  • StrongAndHealthyMommy
    StrongAndHealthyMommy Posts: 1,255 Member
    the only thing he cares about is a horrible pic he has that takes the whole wall... it is freaking ugly!!!!!!! everyone asks me WTH it is and that we should throw it away..... but he LLLLLOOOOOOVVVVVEEEESSSSS it..... every time he says I don't care, I try to give away the pic and he gets mad LOL
  • Ocarina
    Ocarina Posts: 1,550 Member
    I get that too then backfire it on him with offensively girly stuff :smokin: :devil:
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    presort your faves, and give him only three choices at one time. "this one, this one, or this one" will be easier for him than "ochre or mustard or earth clay? or maybe mint or seagrass or blue clover? or MAYBE ecru or eggshell or cream?" just 3.

    more work for you but less agony

    I do it all the time and he says.... whatever I don't care.... and then he gives his opinion once he sees it completely done....

    maybe ask him to decide on just one thing a day? he's probably overwhelmed if you're asking him stuff all the time.

    or maybe he has a hard time picturing how all the pieces will come together? i don't know, maybe organize swatches together on a sort of 'inspiration board' (jesus) so he gets a feel for how various looks might ultimately work. pictures etc.

    or, hire a designer, they know how to elicit decisions.

    (i'm so glad i don't have to do that sort of thing anymore; i've just gone for ecru & asked NO ONE :happy: Not advocating murder, at all, btw, or even divorce)
  • lynda3y9
    lynda3y9 Posts: 62 Member
    I think we are married to the same man!! Mine says the exact same thing! He finally just said, he doesnt like making decision, and I can do whatever I want, he will complain either way. Geeeeez!

    So, now I say, no opinion, no complaints.

    i think we all married the same guy! mine also answers a question with another one.

    i say paint it pink... he'll have an opinion then :-)
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    the only thing he cares about is a horrible pic he has that takes the whole wall... it is freaking ugly!!!!!!! everyone asks me WTH it is and that we should throw it away..... but he LLLLLOOOOOOVVVVVEEEESSSSS it..... every time he says I don't care, I try to give away the pic and he gets mad LOL

    So, what I hear you saying is, you don't want to appreciate his opinion and you clearly have two different tastes in decor, so whatever he says you're not going to like. So, by saying, "whatever, don't care" he's actually saying, "Oh good grief woman, stop asking me questions, that, if I answer the way I want you'll tell me I'm wrong and want to 'discuss' why its wrong..so whatever, don't care is easier."
  • taso42
    taso42 Posts: 8,980 Member
    the choice of topic title is going to look really bad in court.
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    Just pick all really ugly stuff.

    That'll show him.
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    the only thing he cares about is a horrible pic he has that takes the whole wall... it is freaking ugly!!!!!!! everyone asks me WTH it is and that we should throw it away..... but he LLLLLOOOOOOVVVVVEEEESSSSS it..... every time he says I don't care, I try to give away the pic and he gets mad LOL

    So, what I hear you saying is, you don't want to appreciate his opinion and you clearly have two different tastes in decor, so whatever he says you're not going to like. So, by saying, "whatever, don't care" he's actually saying, "Oh good grief woman, stop asking me questions, that, if I answer the way I want you'll tell me I'm wrong and want to 'discuss' why its wrong..so whatever, don't care is easier."

    sounds like he's like a lot of men and just likes big things. a big painting, a big tv, whatever. you never hear of a guy really digging his heels in for a vase.
  • zedgt87
    zedgt87 Posts: 379 Member
    i care

    wk beta
  • michellekicks
    michellekicks Posts: 3,624 Member
    What if he worded it differently and said, "Oh my love, I don't mind. You choose. I want you to be happy and you have such a great eye for this kind of thing. I'll just let you know if I really object, but otherwise I love your choices!"

    Would that be better? Cuz that's probably what he means.

    Or he means he REALLY doesn't care at all what the inside of his house looks like. It's probably somewhere in between... more like, "Yeah mostly I don't care as long as my house kinda looks as presentable as every other house with a recent remodel. I'm sure you can make pretty decent decisions, after all, you married me, right?"

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