Total jerk.

Your hair's really pretty like that.

I had a tenant once who was mad at me that I kicked him out. While he was moving out and talking to his mother on the phone, I heard him say "Yeah, she's just sitting on the couch like Jabba The Hut". It hurts me to this day, but I realize that people like that are not worth the powder to blow them to hell. He was fat too, he had bad B.O. and was a complete slob. I think people that have no life get off on putting others down. It reflects how they feel about themselves, and probably mirrors how they were raised. Just like abuse, it's learned. Like someone else said, just use it as fuel. You know who you are and so does your boyfriend. That is all that matters.

^ this illustrates what I want to say. Usually when someone makes a "fat insult" they are mad at you about something else. It's just the easy insult to make because it's readily visible, everyone can see it, and requires no explanation. Plus it hurts. If you were a racial minority it might have been a racial slur. I see you do your hair creative way's next time it might be that. If I told you to change your hair over this guy, would you? You'd be outraged and like THAT's how I like my hair and yada yada. Same goes for your weight. I'm not saying don't address it. I'm just saying don't do it for ppl like that or situations like that. One day he won't be there and then what will motivate you. Do it for all the other positive reasons that never go away and we don't want them too. Like your boyfriends smile when he sees u in that dress and etc.

Is it possible when the guy wanted to show your BF someone better he was planning to show him what's in his pants, because his behavior is weird? It seems from this limited myopic perspective that he may be after your boyfriend or you and in either case the best course of action is to ignore it and just keep your boyfriend informed of what he says so he's in the know and never made a chump by not knowing what goes on between you and the jerk, but also not demanding he do anything. It's his team, his teammmate, he has the coach in common and is aware all the dynamics and options, not you.

Finally look at it from the perspective of an onlooker, when the guy insulted you and you said nothing back, do you think any of his friends were like all hi fiving him to death or do you think they were like "oh damn, what a prick" or "he didn't have to go that far" or "what's his problem". If you come up with stellar replies you might end up giving him credibility.

I had a tenant once who was mad at me that I kicked him out. While he was moving out and talking to his mother on the phone, I heard him say "Yeah, she's just sitting on the couch like Jabba The Hut". It hurts me to this day, but I realize that people like that are not worth the powder to blow them to hell. He was fat too, he had bad B.O. and was a complete slob. I think people that have no life get off on putting others down. It reflects how they feel about themselves, and probably mirrors how they were raised. Just like abuse, it's learned. Like someone else said, just use it as fuel. You know who you are and so does your boyfriend. That is all that matters.

At least Jabba the Hutt paid his rent on time.

:laugh: wha?:huh:

My dad used to scream at me about how fat I was. Apparently this makes someone of no value in his life. It doesn't matter that I'm successful, have a great family, and live a moral life. Nope, being fat isn't where it's at. It used to really crush me.

One day, he and I got into it and he started in on it again and I finally replied, calmly, "Really??! Calling me fat is all you've got? You can't find any other character flaws or defects to point out? Wow. I must be doing something right."

Then I shut up and he never tried it again.

His comments say more about him than about you. He's the one with the problem. Feel sorry for him. Pity him. Hope he finds a way to be a better human being. Hope he finds a way to deal with whatever effed-up childhood he had that would make his self-esteem so low that he has to pick on other people.

Know, in your heart, that he's not attacking you; he's just really sad and angry.

You get to leave. He has to live with himself.

So THIS!! ^^^

People that feel bad about themselves usually say things about or to others to make themselves feel better. Don't even bother with him.......or waste your time "punching" him in the face. Violence doesn't solve anything.

Not everyone is always going to like you. It's pointless trying to figure out their reasons or motives, as long as you're happy with who you are and your choices, don't pay him no mind.

This....

No one's opinion of you matters about you, except YOU!!!!

My husband would not keep quiet if any man called me a b!tch

Walk up to him kinda shy like you are not sure you really want to talk to him. Ask him if you can talk. Then when he agrees, kick him in the ding-ding and say, "Yup your still have a pair. Next time use them if you got something to say about me and say it to my face". Then turn around and walk away like nothing happened...

Note: The above suggestion may, or may not, be based on real life experiences.

A-holes abound. You get better at ignoring them with age, trust me. Just try not to let it turn you into the same. Ugly behavior sometimes has a way of breeding more ugliness despite our best intentions.