contract marriage?

I am sure I will get a lot of BS for this post but here it goes anyway. I will never get married. Not for love (which I do have) or for insurance benefits. Getting married is just a piece of paper to prove to everyone else that you love each other. Why do you have to prove to anyone how you feel about someone else. If the person you are with knows you love them then that is all that matters. And a piece of paper isn't going to prove to me that my man loves me.

If you found yourself in an unfortunate situation, would you contract marry someone?

If you found yourself in an unfortunate situation, would you contract marry someone?

Would I do it? No.

I don't see why it's illegal, though. I'm no lawyer, but AFAIK there's no legal requirement for love or sex to be a part of marriage. It's just a "domestic partnership" nowadays.

If people follow the laws then you can marry whoever the hell you want. I'm from MA, we pioneered this stuff!

I'm failing to see how this is much different than people who marry because they got pregnant.

Or stay together because they "can't afford to divorce".

Or people who fight constantly and hate each other but "don't want to divorce".

Or people who marry, but choose to live in separete cities/states/countries because of a job or schooling.

Or couples who are "actively" married but don't have sex.

Or a couple that's been together for many many years without the legally binding part... then choose to get married when one of them develops, for example, cancer, because they need the marriage blessing for insurance purposes.

The main difference, as far as I can tell, is a well thought out agreement and how to handle various situations, which most people don't think about when they decide to tie the knot.
For that fact of the matter, what is the difference between a good contract marriage and a solid pre-nup?

Because, in the US, marrying for health insurance is ILLEGAL.(I learned that on Greys Anatomy, so it must be true).

If you found yourself in an unfortunate situation, would you contract marry someone?

For example, you have a health problem and a friend of yours has fantastic insurance (that also treats old/standing issues). Would you marry them for their insurance if you two agreed - living separate lives as friends only?

Meaning: you can file taxes together, live in different states, no sex between you two, be in a committed relationship with someone else, vacation separately, workout together, etc. Basically, you'd be completely platonic, but legally married.

My husband and I have a contract. He does not say no an I always say yes. Oh an he always buys me wine

I feel like a lot of peoples morals and ideals and maybe even religious beliefs are coming into play here.
So the government gives perks to two people who get married. Why? Because they love each other? Why should the government care?
If you choose to marry (partner up with someone for government perks) that's on you. You better trust the person you choose, but I wouldn't think any less of someone for it.
Yes, it's fraud. Don't get caught. Just because something is illegal doesn't necessarily make it morally wrong.

How is it fraud? You entered into a legal contract with another person. There's no 'love, honor, and obey' that *has* to be part of a marriage ceremony, and really, so long as you pass the blood test and the person isn't your first cousin (not applicable in some states) the people handing out the license couldn't probably care less about how you conduct your affairs afterward.

I'd say it's fraud because of the way marriage is currently understood in the United States. When I got married at the City Clerks office, pretty much the most clinical way possible, we were expected to hold hands and there was a speech about all of the "love, honor, obey" stuff as part of the official ceremony. Even if you or I believe it should be a legal contract, that's not how the general populace sees it, or even the government. If it were a legal contract, ther'd be no reason to exclude men. But as it stands, it's based in Christianity.

City officials made you promise to obey!! That's BS! Were you married in a southern state?