S/O Threatens to Leave if You Lose / Don't Lose Weight...

The opposite side of the coin also comes into play. It's not worth losing weight to please someone else...because he'll never be pleased anyway. As you lose weight, he'll become more jealous, needy and demanding as he perceives he has less control over you. So you'll end up in the same place.

Very insightful. Very true.

I would lol

I don't always think someone is trolling, but when I do I refer to this post.

In case your not, your S/O sounds scared your doing this to leave him behind, or maybe just maybe it is not about you losing weight but how your acting in towards it. Radical change can get overwhelming. When it just was me on MFP, my wife and I were butting heads. She was constantly saying RELAX DAMMIT. Maybe your guilty of what I was doing taking it uber serious and not everyone in the house wants to be on a diet. If that is the case and it is not the weight loss and more so the attitude with in the actions. Talk about it. Ask for support. Tell them you'll calm down some but to meet in the middle and start the program too. If you can work together it takes the stress of it away. My wife after starting with me no longer suggests the worst places anymore when we eat out with her parents. So now she atleast helps try dirrect the family to a place where there are several dishes to choose from instead of just a salad. It can be stressful to go at it alone and your other might have had it, and just said something stupid while angry. If it was just words in anger talking about it and listening to him might resolve this issue fast. For me it made my wife join up and now she is kicking my *kitten* in weight loss, she feels healthier and we cuddle on the couch more, when months ago she was annoyed by my diet changes

If that is not the case and he just wants you unhealthy so he doesn't have to fear loosing you than that is sick, and give the man the boot, or atleast tell him where the door is.

did the weight come on after the relationship started?

if i buy a porsche and 2 years later i open my garage and it turned into an '87 geo, i'd be pissed.

It is not my usual wont to disparage the opinions of others by casting personal aspersions, however this would indicate, sir, that you are a douche. Perhaps you would like to revise your opinion or risk being thought brutish by people of character. ... Just sayin'

lol perhaps it was a poor analogy, and the point brought up of personality, sense of humor, etc. are quite valid.

i guess what i was trying to say, in a not so brutish way, is that physical attraction is still key in a relationship. it's not everything, but it is important. if one person completely lets themself go so far as to become unattractive to the other and the relationship suffers (even to the point of ending), i really dont think this should be a huge surprise.

This is much nicer now :flowerforyou:

Say "peace out", let the jerk walk then lose the weight and look even hotter just for spite! Karmas a b*tch, ladies and gentlemen!

I just posted this in another thread, but it definitely applies here as well.

This!

I don't always think someone is trolling, but when I do I refer to this post.

In case your not, your S/O sounds scared your doing this to leave him behind, or maybe just maybe it is not about you losing weight but how your acting in towards it. Radical change can get overwhelming. When it just was me on MFP, my wife and I were butting heads. She was constantly saying RELAX DAMMIT. Maybe your guilty of what I was doing taking it uber serious and not everyone in the house wants to be on a diet. If that is the case and it is not the weight loss and more so the attitude with in the actions. Talk about it. Ask for support. Tell them you'll calm down some but to meet in the middle and start the program too. If you can work together it takes the stress of it away. My wife after starting with me no longer suggests the worst places anymore when we eat out with her parents. So now she atleast helps try dirrect the family to a place where there are several dishes to choose from instead of just a salad. It can be stressful to go at it alone and your other might have had it, and just said something stupid while angry. If it was just words in anger talking about it and listening to him might resolve this issue fast. For me it made my wife join up and now she is kicking my *kitten* in weight loss, she feels healthier and we cuddle on the couch more, when months ago she was annoyed by my diet changes

If that is not the case and he just wants you unhealthy so he doesn't have to fear loosing you than that is sick, and give the man the boot, or atleast tell him where the door is.

Wise words. Communication and where S/O and you are coming from are the keys.

Show him the door and kick him in the *kitten* on the way out!

a handsome guy who wears a suit and tie every day, and he decides to dye his hair blue, cut it into a mohoawk, and tattoo and pierce his body

I must have missed the part where those two things are mutually exclusive. :laugh:

Dump him and have sex with his best friend.

This has always worked for me in the past, but I don't think so this time. I really, really hate his friends.

Looks like there are bigger issues than just weight... Maybe he'll be lucky if you do leave...