Question for the ladies....NO MEN!!! :)
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Am 55. Have tried it. Cannot get on with them at all. Nothing in common. Cultural references too different. Values, current place we're in in life, goals, outlook, philosophy, life history and experiences, all just too different and so there is just no common ground whatever.
Also, I've put in the years and learned the lessons and reached a certain level of emotional maturity -- they haven't, and nurse-maiding them isn't what I want in a proper man-woman emotional relationship. Often they still want lots of dramas, display lots of immaturity etc.
So do you mean a relationship or do you mean just having sex with them? If the latter, still not a great match, in my experience.
They are only interested in older women because of porn. They seek a MILF, they think we can "teach them" all about sex. They think we WANT to teach them what to do, that we don't want a man who already knows.... HUH! They think that what an older woman really wants is a nervous, inexperienced, clumsy bloke who has to be taught what to do.
They also most have not learned any sort of impulse control. They nag for sex on the selfish grounds that THEY want a release - and hold you responsible for keeping them happy at all times.
If you do happen to be "lucky" enough to meet one who isn't any of the above, then he'll break your heart by leaving you for a woman he can have kids with.
So I guess it is a lose-lose situation all round.
wowwww....soooo not my experience, but hey.
Answer: date (who dates anymore?) yes Marriage...probably not.0 -
Been there, done that. When I was single, I was mostly dating much younger guys because they were the ones asking me out. Older guys/guys my own age were only interested in sex. Strange dichotomy, since I was age 27-32 at the time, but it was true. The young 20-something fellas were actually interested in getting to know me while 30-something guys were just trying to "hit it." And older than that...men in their late 30s to early 40s...they didn't ask me out at all. One guy I met through online dating and met for a drink only once told me he couldn't date me because I looked like I could be his daughter. I was 31 and he was 36. It was pretty odd, actually.
My husband is five years younger than I, and the age difference is only noticeable when we talk about when we were little kids. We also grew up on opposite coasts, so that makes a difference as well. But he is mature, kind, loving, and a great husband and father. The age difference doesn't matter.
If I happened to end up single again, I wouldn't make those decisions based on age because it's too much of a generalization. My past experiences showed me that pretty clearly.0 -
It really depends on the man. If he is intelligent, thoughtful, insightful, witty.....the age difference (unless it's ridiculously so), is inconsequential.0
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im 21 and iv slept with a few older women, talking like 30s and 40s, best sex iv ever had.0
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Of course0
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Am 55. Have tried it. Cannot get on with them at all. Nothing in common. Cultural references too different. Values, current place we're in in life, goals, outlook, philosophy, life history and experiences, all just too different and so there is just no common ground whatever.
Also, I've put in the years and learned the lessons and reached a certain level of emotional maturity -- they haven't, and nurse-maiding them isn't what I want in a proper man-woman emotional relationship. Often they still want lots of dramas, display lots of immaturity etc.
So do you mean a relationship or do you mean just having sex with them? If the latter, still not a great match, in my experience.
They are only interested in older women because of porn. They seek a MILF, they think we can "teach them" all about sex. They think we WANT to teach them what to do, that we don't want a man who already knows.... HUH! They think that what an older woman really wants is a nervous, inexperienced, clumsy bloke who has to be taught what to do.
They also most have not learned any sort of impulse control. They nag for sex on the selfish grounds that THEY want a release - and hold you responsible for keeping them happy at all times.
If you do happen to be "lucky" enough to meet one who isn't any of the above, then he'll break your heart by leaving you for a woman he can have kids with.
So I guess it is a lose-lose situation all round.
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Define "date".
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noun
1. a particular month, day, and year at which some event happened or will happen: July 4, 1776 was the date of the signing of the Declaration of Independence.
2. the day of the month: Is today's date the 7th or the 8th?
3. an inscription on a writing, coin, etc., that shows the time, or time and place, of writing, casting, delivery, etc.: a letter bearing the date January 16.0 -
Am 55. Have tried it. Cannot get on with them at all. Nothing in common. Cultural references too different. Values, current place we're in in life, goals, outlook, philosophy, life history and experiences, all just too different and so there is just no common ground whatever.
Also, I've put in the years and learned the lessons and reached a certain level of emotional maturity -- they haven't, and nurse-maiding them isn't what I want in a proper man-woman emotional relationship. Often they still want lots of dramas, display lots of immaturity etc.
So do you mean a relationship or do you mean just having sex with them? If the latter, still not a great match, in my experience.
They are only interested in older women because of porn. They seek a MILF, they think we can "teach them" all about sex. They think we WANT to teach them what to do, that we don't want a man who already knows.... HUH! They think that what an older woman really wants is a nervous, inexperienced, clumsy bloke who has to be taught what to do.
They also most have not learned any sort of impulse control. They nag for sex on the selfish grounds that THEY want a release - and hold you responsible for keeping them happy at all times.
If you do happen to be "lucky" enough to meet one who isn't any of the above, then he'll break your heart by leaving you for a woman he can have kids with.
So I guess it is a lose-lose situation all round.
There, there sweety. It'll be ok. One day you will find you a nice, young, rich, handsome, only wanting sex when you want, never bothering you, boy.0 -
It depends on his maturity level. Older doesn't necessarily mean more mature. I'm 41. I think if I met someone in his early 30's and we clicked I wouldn't have a problem being in a relationship with him.0
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It's quite simple really. If you like them and they like you then like each other and enjoy. Do not worry about what others think or say.0
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do it0
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Age hasn't been much of a barrier for me, but I've typically gone older versus younger. I'm 23 and my husband is 31. I was dating a 31-year-old at 18. Kinda yuck when I think about it now, but as a former poster said, love chooses you. I think I'd have more in common with someone my age, but if I loved someone younger than me and enjoyed his company (and I was single, of course; not doing it now, being married), why not?0
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"Mature men" . . . kind of an oxymoron . . . hee-hee!
^^love that :P
I don't think I could date a younger man... I like a man thats taller and a least a little bit older than me0 -
Maybe. Depends on the guy. I rather like older men. They have it more together. My boyfriend is 9 years ahead of me.0
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:laugh:0
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WOW! Lot of interesting comments...lol
Thanks
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If the man interests you, why not?
Do what makes you happy. I know I did, though I'm in the opposite camp. My husband is 8 years older than I am.0 -
If we liked each other, I don't see why not...0
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Am 55. Have tried it. Cannot get on with them at all. Nothing in common. Cultural references too different. Values, current place we're in in life, goals, outlook, philosophy, life history and experiences, all just too different and so there is just no common ground whatever.
Also, I've put in the years and learned the lessons and reached a certain level of emotional maturity -- they haven't, and nurse-maiding them isn't what I want in a proper man-woman emotional relationship. Often they still want lots of dramas, display lots of immaturity etc.
So do you mean a relationship or do you mean just having sex with them? If the latter, still not a great match, in my experience.
They are only interested in older women because of porn. They seek a MILF, they think we can "teach them" all about sex. They think we WANT to teach them what to do, that we don't want a man who already knows.... HUH! They think that what an older woman really wants is a nervous, inexperienced, clumsy bloke who has to be taught what to do.
They also most have not learned any sort of impulse control. They nag for sex on the selfish grounds that THEY want a release - and hold you responsible for keeping them happy at all times.
If you do happen to be "lucky" enough to meet one who isn't any of the above, then he'll break your heart by leaving you for a woman he can have kids with.
So I guess it is a lose-lose situation all round.
I think your experience has more to do with the men you selected than their ages.0 -
"Mature men" . . . kind of an oxymoron . . . hee-hee!
Hah! Like "logical women"!0 -
Probably not. I've always gone for older. Though now I would be willing to go maybe up to three or four years younger, which is a change from how I used to be. Untested, though, as I've been attached for a long time and he's older.0
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I prefer an older man or at least someone around my age. But, if there is a real connection, then why not. Honestly though I don't know if I could date anyone younger than 25, and even that is pushing it for me. It could be the fact that I am a single mom of 3 young kids and men that age might not be ready for that kind of commitment. I could be wrong though.0
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"Mature men" . . . kind of an oxymoron . . . hee-hee!
Hah! Like "logical women"!
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I'm 41. I've occasionally dated younger men (and older men, though less frequently). Sometimes it's great - as has been mentioned, age is not necessarily equal to maturity/intelligence/et cetera. They can be a lot of fun, and they can be every bit as compatible, personality-wise and in sex-wise, as men in the same age group. Depending on the life they've lived, they may well be your equal in life experience, too.
That being said, men in the same age group are more likely to have similar life experiences, due to having grown up during the same time period. For some people, this is important.
I figure once you hit about 25 or so age is mostly irrelevant. Once a person has been out in the world completely on their own for at least five years (which *can* happen well before 25, it certainly did for me), they will grow up and change and adapt quite a bit. The difference in a person between 25 and 30 is much, much less than, say, 20 and 25. Or 15 and 20.
Personally, I like them freakishly tall (I'm 5'10), but I usually end up with the intelligent, nerdy, slightly goofy ones (
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Me neitherI can't help responding to a women only thread0 -
I am 55 and currently dating a man who's 46 .....it really is not a big difference in age, but enought to be fun. So yes, do it, enjoy the time you are together, just like you would with any man, and see where it takes you.....Carpe Diem sister!0
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In for finding out who the cougars on this site are and the names of females to give out when feminists call me a pig for going out with a much younger women.
*waves* hi Taunto!
Don't feel like I am at this point yet...but age is just a number once you reach your late 20s. Well, to a certain extent...I'd have a hard time going any younger than 10 years I think, but that's just my personal preference.
As it stands now I like 'em older...about 2 years preferably 0 -
I am 55 and currently dating a man who's 46 .....it really is not a big difference in age, but enought to be fun. So yes, do it, enjoy the time you are together, just like you would with any man, and see where it takes you.....Carpe Diem sister!
Love your attitude!!!! :bigsmile:0 -
"Mature men" . . . kind of an oxymoron . . . hee-hee!
Hah! Like "logical women"!
I'm starting to think that the illogical women and the immature men often find each other. Cleans it up for everyone else I suppose.0 -
Current boyfriend is 4 years younger and far more mature than men I have met my age and older.0
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