Do older guys care less about looks and weight?

it's so cute when women say men only care about certain looks and then turn around and say how dreamy chatum tanning, johnny depp or whoever else

i have news for you. everyone has a specific something they are looking for. it is not like you can see personality when you first glance at someone. you look at someone and judge them on their looks. some may fine the eyes attractive, others the smile, others the honkers on her chest or the rips in his abs.

but every single person when looking for a mate has to be attracted to the person they want. its that simple

i have fallen for women who most would find average at best but have had killer personalities and i have known some incredibly hot women who as soon as they opened their mouth you realize that they fell down the annoying tree and hit every branch. it is up to you as the individual to figure out the balance between looks and personality and what you will settle for

Not to be crude but how reciently divorced? I'm not an old man but I imagine its a pretty universal thing that he might just be on the hunt for some strange and not a relationship after leaving a long commitment. Which I guess could be a good or bad thing depending on how you look at it.

Oh and as another poster said, a lot of men like curvy women but to be honest a mans definition of curvy is often extremely different than a women's definition of curvy.

doh

I'm a 52 yo woman. My experience is men are boys, oops, I mean men are men at any age. Some care about looks more than others, some care about weight more than others. Some would find a size 2 as replusive as others would find a size 22. It's a big world. Lot's of different likes and dislikes out there.

^^^^^ This is what I have found also

It's okay to be a little crazy, like fun crazy. But you just don't understand the level of crazy she is.

He knew what she was like but still chose to marry her....what's that got to do with anything anyway?!

She could have turned pyscho right after they got married

my first husband was deeply insane. there were some hints before we got married but nothing really flat out. it started asserting itself more and more over the years until it was undeniable. it's not something you necessarily know about at first. I'd known him for three years before marriage. it wasn't until the very end 7 years later when I divorced him because it had just gotten too weird and out of hand.. So.. imho it's very assumptive to think he knew what he was getting into.

By the way, why do you care? You should want to look good and be fit for you. Not some damn man - old or young. Don't care what some man wants. Care what you want. Damn a man.

Personality ladies and gentlemen.

Age 69-70 = this lady was 20 in 1963. She's had different life experiences.

She's working out. She's in a bikini in her pic. She's living large & in charge & that is awesome.

I don't know that person but judging based on nothing other than the posts in this thread, she doesn't sound like a truly happy person. Bikini or not, she sounds like someone carrying a lot of hurt and anger over a past relationship.

Speaking as an older gentleman...







I'm not an older gentleman.

In my fantasies you are

I get this all the time. Must be the 'stache.

Plus, he's the shy type so I don't see him ever making a move...it's gonna have to be me.

If he knows you're interested and he doesn't make a move, it's not because he's shy. You'd be surprised what a shy man can summon himself to do when motivated.

Not always.
Personally If - I - don't make the move I am not likely to be interested. Everyone has their own preferences. Some men would not care at all for a woman who made the first move either.

i have news for you. everyone has a specific something they are looking for. it is not like you can see personality when you first glance at someone. you look at someone and judge them on their looks. some may fine the eyes attractive, others the smile, others the honkers on her chest or the rips in his abs.

but every single person when looking for a mate has to be attracted to the person they want. its that simple

Exactly.. there has to be 'something' about you that would make the other person interested enough to at least say hi back to you. The best you can do is just say hi to him, strike up a conversation and go from there. I wouldn't ask him out right away. First talk to him, figure out if he has any brains at all (if you go for that) see if there are any capabilities. Sometimes a guy may not think he would like you (or visa versa) and then once you get to talking minds are changed and maybe you (or they) might be interesting after all. Also, just going up and asking someone out right away might be perceived as 'desperate' - you don't need that label.

Speaking as an older gentleman...







I'm not an older gentleman.

In my fantasies you are

I get this all the time. Must be the 'stache.

And the way you scratch your balls, when watching women's beach volleyball

Are you kidding? Old men think they're gods and they love thin and very young women. No, all men hate fat. Oh, I'm sure they are exceptions. But honey, I'll be 70 in a few months and I know a little about men. They think they can look pretty much any way and get any woman they want --- especially if they have a buck or two. But they want young chicks and skinny chicks. Truth be told, most of them are lucky to get a woman at all.

OP...I located the crazy size-2 ex-wife...you didn't mention she was older!! :laugh:

Geez...bitter much?

And OP...I say go for it. The worst that can happen is that he says he's not interested. Otherwise...you'll always wonder "what if"

i have news for you. everyone has a specific something they are looking for. it is not like you can see personality when you first glance at someone. you look at someone and judge them on their looks. some may fine the eyes attractive, others the smile, others the honkers on her chest or the rips in his abs.

but every single person when looking for a mate has to be attracted to the person they want. its that simple

Not always. I wasn't looking for anything when I met my husband. I was perfectly happy on my own. He is quite attractive but I can't say I really even noticed because we worked together. It was over a year before we met outside work in a social setting and something just clicked.

I think, for me, were my wife to allow me to date again...

I'd probably care more about weight and fitness than looks as we get older.

Not directly, but as a future health and lifestyle indicator.

These things have never stopped mattering to me and I doubt they ever will.

As a general rule:

age=desperation for both sexes

Hmm, I think often it's just the opposite. Often, you are more financially secure, more confident and independant, done with having children, etc. I think older people are more likely to be happy on their own than younger people who are looking to build a family and security. Sure having a soul mate is wonderful, but having someone around just to not be alone is more a young persons game in my experience.

Possibly if the person is secure and confident, but in general we know that unless you are extremely attractive or have good resources/ power as you age your appeal to potential suitors decreases. A 70 year old pensioner is going to have a harder time convincing a thin attractive young lady that he is a good partner when she is being pursued by more attractive secure and financially viable prospects. It would be easier to attract the obese woman who has few suitors...IF the pensioner didnt want to be alone and was desperate for a partner.

It goes with the rating system that one other poster made humans are shallow creatures they will partner up or down depending on the resources they can offer.

I don't know...my dad is 71 years old, married to my mom for almost 50 years, definitely not wealthy or "in great shape" but still gets hit on (or at least friendly signals) from women his own age and even women my age because he is devilishly charming and funny. So I think it really depends on confidence, regardless of age. If you are happy with your life and secure in yourself, you attract people.