WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2013

Well that's just a bummer. Since I still can't get my laptop to work and all the shows I was going to watch don't really require me to watch them right now, like Survivor would, I stayed in my office and did my silly face book games and did my usual web surfing back here. So I turned on my Bill Cosby radio station. Seems like that there are a lot more of the more recent comedians on the station than I would prefer. And you can only 'thumbs down' a certain in an hour. Well you can thumbs down them and it will remember that but you still have to listen to them. Then it ran out of tracks to play!:huh: :huh: So with all the ones I did a thumbs down in the memory bank I will have to see how many I actually get now. I had such hope that I could enjoy that station. :sad: But I found a good classical hymns station I liked.

Michelle, I don't see myself as anyone special. I'm just a Mom who loves her kids. I made sure I had a good job and kept it. I had a good base at first and got an education. My husband realizes how important that is now that our girls are struggling so. He only has his high school and good medic experience in the Navy which got him the job he stayed in for over 40 years. But he always stressed to the girls that college education is only what you make of it and many people with a high school degree can do the same things. They are just all underpaid. Now he is living to regret stressing that so much to them. Now he tries to make it up by providing them with their financial needs now that we are retired, debt free and drawing our pensions and social security and have a nice nest egg also. Also, life with MS must go on. It doesn't define me or own me. Everyone in my Mother's genetic line has some sort of auto immune disorder and she taught us that you get up in the morning, put your feet on the floor and get going. My bad days are so rare I feel very lucky. I am part of an MS forum and I see what my life could have been. Now if I can just get over my latest plateau and back to the negative weight loss again. I think my stress level lately has had a lot to do with it. Your words of encouragement mean a lot to me, especially since my youngest daughter's name is Michelle and she is the one who had the really bumpy teenage and young adult years and we are slowly building that.

Speaking of my youngest. I have my first 'walk' Saturday!!!!!! I hope this week at the gym has helped me so that I can walk this mile. Yes, that's what I said. It's just a mile:laugh: But walking doesn't came as easy to me as riding my recumbent bikes. If I hadn't dropped out of the Y for about 3 weeks it would sure have been a lot better. So her boxer is going to 'walk' with us. I hope he behaves himself.

Joyce, Indiana

yanniejannie
I love horses and riding myself. Felt very great about your friend, and sorry the way she was cheated, sooner or later the cheats will get their just rewards.
Great to know u r still pitting in to support her.
Meditation is known to be a great help to counter depression / panic. Wishing you all the best. Like Barbie said she meditates while walking
Anamika

Joyce - I think I did lose a lb or two when all that lymph fluid was squished out of me, but it was before I started my "diet", so I wasn't keeping track. I did look funny with my arm all bandaged for a week. At that time I had damaged my knee badly on holiday and was doing yoga in a chair. The week I had my arm bandaged I was still wanting to go, but in the end I decided I would just be a distraction for the other ladies!:noway:

Katla - I don't have a smart phone, yet, so haven't seen that goal setter. Thanks.

Vicki - sending love to you.:flowerforyou: I hope you are feeling better soon. Forgive yourself, that was then, this is now and tomorrow is another day. I hope your stress is easing up.

Well, I had a most interesting morning! DH took his sleeping pill and slept OK. I changed to the spare room because I was a bit wakeful between 1pm and 2.30. Read a book. I think I was worrying about seeing my EX at the brewery opening. It hadn't occurred to me before for some reason. I still don't know if he is coming. Also I was a bit upset that DS#1 hadn't told me he was coming and he hasn't replied to my text. Anyway I got back to sleep. When I went back to our room in the morning DH was having a panic attack. Very bad. I got him back by getting him to open his eyes, uncurl himself and count back from 100. It was just overbreathing, but he was terrified and throwing himself about. Luckily I have had experience of helping people in this state before as I used to be a Team Leader on personal development courses and it happened from time to time.
The result is that I do feel a little weary!:huh: We still got on with our gymming and I did my weight training, but it was a chore. Still, I did it!:flowerforyou:
Now I have to decide whether to go out and buy something to wear for tomorrow. All I have that fits, sort of, is my skinny jeans and a couple of t shirts. My EX hasn't seen me since I was almost at my very worst, at DGS' s christening last year. I have photos of that day and my stomach was absolutely HUGE! Double chin, everything. So I want to look stunning!:laugh: :laugh: :drinker: I am going along there with my BFF so we can support each other. Of course DGS and DDIL will be there unless she has the baby early! (It is due next week) My EX still owes me the legacy my beloved ex DMIL left me, so he is probably nervous of seeing me!

Enough already! To all those lovely ladies who are coming out of wanting to be invisible, YES, you are worth it! Good for you for making steps in that direction. For me the legacy of my childhood meant I need to control my environment. Hence my noise and music phobia. It has got so much better recently, but used to really rule my life. I hope I continue to improve and so will you.

Quinoa salad for lunch. DH can have his ham sandwich.:laugh:

Love from Heather in gloomy, rainy Hampshire UK

bump for later, though we'll likely be in a new thread by then! Going to a local garden with a friend tomorrow and will get in LOTS of walking. :happy:

Gail, metro ATL

Good day lovely ladies of the world! Just a quick update. 2 days of being on track, eliminating my steroid nasal spray and making sure I get 8 oz of water on top of anything I drink got me down 1.8 pounds! And I feel a whole lot better! I think I found my answer for now.

Grandmallie, you did not offend me with your post, I am much the same way as you as far as religion, church, and God. He has never let me down and has guided me through my move to TN and now back to CT. I rely on his guidance every day of my life.

Talk later gals!
My goals for September (late but better than nothing!)

1. log everything that goes into my mouth!
2. log on here at least once a day (the thread I mean)
3. not drink more than 3 alcoholic beverages a day (baby steps when I drink it is way more than this!)
4. stop the self destructive behaviors! (going to be a tough one!)
5. find a way to exercise that doesn't cause pain and detour my efforts! (suggestions?)

Rita from middle TN

Katla - how do you get a goal from MFP? I can't find one.
I have lymphodema from having my lymph glands removed under my arm when I had the breast cancer op. My arm swells. I used to go to a clinic where they give you elastic sleeves to wear. My arm kept swelling and they began to get worried. When it gets to 20% bigger than the other arm you have to go into hospital. Mine was nearly that. The health authority was applied to by the clinic and they funded 20 lymphatic drainage massages by a specialist therapist. This is not automatic funding so I was lucky. I had to be bandaged up like a mummy! I had the 20 and now I go every so often for maintenance. I really like her and I advise her on her dating adventures!!!

Love Heather U K

It is hard to say exactly how the goal was delivered. I set up my whole system on my iphone app. The app asked questions and I answered. Then I was given a goal weight and calories that gradually lowered over time. Weeks later I found the web site and decided to use a ticker. I attribute the goal weight to the app process but I don't remember exact details. It is undoubtedly the result of some answer to a question.

Katla

Thinking about this answer, it is likely that if the goal was set based on my answers to questions I probably picked it our myself. I was trying something new with no expectation of the level of success I've actually experienced.

Hello All: I have done pool therapy and physical therapy already this morning and my shoulder is saying enough!! Going out to lunch with a friend and then we will walk around downtown. Have not done that for a long time. There are lots of little shops and of course the sculpture walk so I should get some steps on my fitbit.

Poor Ginger our dog is dragging around today. Yesterday she went to the vet to have her teeth cleaned so her mouth is sore. They removed two growths from her back and chest so she is sore there and they cut her claws way back because our groomer has not been clipping them properly so her feet are sore too. We are giving her pain pills and I think she is very happy about not having to eat kibble but getting canned food but she looked very, very sad when I told her she had to go in her kennel while I went to PT. I think she is playing up the sympathy bit as much as possible.:happy:

Everyone have a good Friday and enjoy the weekend. Sue in SD

good morning! I need an answer or two, Ive been here 12 days, worked out like a maniac, stayed with the calorie plan, and have lost zero pounds. I may be someone with a very firm set point. I know I can eat like a maniac for two weeks and not gain, but to be good for so long and see no results, is hard to keep going.

has anyone had this experience?
oh and by the way, I have plenty to lose. at least 40 pounds.

Joyce - that is very insightful. I do think my new found confidence has something to do with it. Relationships are so complicated aren't they. My ex is going to be there, but I only just found that out. It's making me quite jumpy. I have found though that recently my horizons are expanding and I am itchy to try new things, go new places. I'm not getting any younger and I have a long bucket list! He is definitely more of a home body.
When we met over the internet I was attracted to his profile initially because he was interested in travelling and was involved professionally with travel and tourism. He has written books on it and developed courses all over the world, leading conferences in Russia, Hungary, Hong Kong etc. Some irony!
When I moved out of London it was to escape the noise from the apartment building I lived in, with everyone constantly improving their homes. We moved in to our house just when the house next door was embarking on a year and a half major building construction. They were still at it last month!!
:sad: :sad: :sad:
Well, they were both good plans . .. . . . . . . !!!!!
The good thing is I do really love DH and he is doing his absolute best to get through this. He is a lovely man. He married me four years after his partner died of breast cancer and I got the same thing. So his plan was about as good as mine. But he saw me through it and loved me when I put on all that weight. He is a gem
I am hoping my ticker shows up this time as I have adjusted it to show my real weight loss.
Love Heather UK
Whoops no ticker!

Bumping try to keep up.

I pretty much keep the radio in my car tuned to our Christian radio station. There was this song on about David and Goliath and when he was so small that God provided him with the supplies and strength he needed to slay the giant. So this song had this recurring phrase 'when you're in a valley, there is a rock'. It rally hit me hard since this plateau and even worse, slight gradual weight gain that I am in a big valley. But there is a rock for to cling to. I just need to use it and slay this giant. Also when you are in a valley you can only look up.

Since I have this huge walk (1 mile) tomorrow to do I decided I needed to do the walking track today at the Y instead of my usual bike. 13 laps is one mile and I walked 16. I can remember how The other day when I was having so much trouble with my MS that it kind of affected me the next day so I didn't push it any more than that. It also burned more calories than the bike. I the closer tomorrow comes the more my husband feels left out that I am doing this and he isn't. I'm sure that Michelle wouldn't mind. I looked up the info on the internet and the regristration fee is $35 so that did it for him. Not going!!! But he loves his supper at 5 PM, no ifs ands or butts about it. 5 PM. This walk is at 5 PM:ohwell: Plus there are food vendors etc. It's a big fund raiser for the Humane society. So I guess he may be having supper here by himself. It's not going to be easy for him to find a seperate parking place and he has never bee one who can just sit and wait for us and meet us at the food vendors when we are ready to eat. Plus he may have to pay just to get in the area. Poor boy.

Joyce

Sylvia, the puppy wouldn't be a terrier of some sort would it? I used to raise Rat Terriers when I had the room and they are the smartest most active dogs I had ever seen. So much fun! I had a male who used to do things just to make you laugh! He would get under a blanket then sit up with the blanket still covering his head and look around like a periscope until someone laughed at him. Then he would come out tail stub (he was docked) wagging as hard as it could! :laugh: He would sometime sit like a human on the recliner with one paw on the arm of the chair and watch TV just like a person and casually look over at you if he noticed you watching him. Hilarious!:bigsmile:

Well I am proud of myself. My husband was drinking last night and asked me if I wanted some. I said no and didn't have any all night. That was tough but I did it! Today there was a picnic at work and I watched what I took to eat and came away satisfied and not over done! Now I am craving sweets, but chewing gum to avert that. Tonight is going to be tough. It is 'movie' night at my house. My BFF comes over and we watch a movie, have drinks, and popcorn. Oh, well 3 good days at least......

My goals for September (late but better than nothing!)

1. log everything that goes into my mouth!
2. log on here at least once a day (the thread I mean)
3. not drink more than 3 alcoholic beverages a day (baby steps when I drink it is way more than this!)
4. stop the self destructive behaviors! (going to be a tough one!)
5. find a way to exercise that doesn't cause pain and detour my efforts! (suggestions?)

Rita from middle TN

I always tell ppl to try water aerobics .Great exercise,but doesn't hurt. I go to a gym.
The Y was way too $$. Walking is also good. You can walk as much as you want.
Patceoh

Stopping by to save my place!

Have a wonderful Friday evening everyone!

Hot again! We played early but it was so humid and 91 degrees. Wiped me out. came home, showered ate lunch and took a two hour nap. Probably won't sleep tonight! Now I know why I didn't do so well at golf, it's Friday the 13th!!!

Janet - I agree with the advice others have given you. Don't give up!! When I started I was doing everything right and gained the first week! Sure burst my bubble. You have to work at this and believe in yourself. You Can do this.

Michele - can't believe I'm giving you some cooking advice but I did cook spaghetti squash last night. I cut mine in half, cleaned out seed and stuff. Put a little water in a glass bowl covered with saran wrap and cooked in the microwave for 12 minutes. It was perfect.

Katia - I think you are right about setting your own goal. I looked around the site and found the BMI and BRM questions. They ask what your goal weight will be. I agree that most people change their goal after losing some weight.

Have to think about getting dinner ready. Have a great evening.
Joyce - good luck and enjoy your walk tomorrow.

Sue inTX