Ex dumped me because I was too fat

Congratulations on being brave enough to face up to what has happened. This is a HUGE step in regaining yourself.

My biggest advice would be cut off ALL contact. Block his email, change your number etc. If your paths do cross, look straight through him. You owe him nothing.

You are 100 times the person he is.

Take the negatives from the situation and turn them to your advantage. After what he put you through, you CAN survive anything. You have an awareness of how abusive situations can happen to anyone which gives you an empathy for others.

Be proud of yourself for all you've achieved and will achieve xx

It is all about risk vs reward. You chose to stay with him hoping he would change from doing the negative things (risk) and give you just the positive things (reward). Your self image is low and his abusive actions kept your self image low which is what is positive (reward) to him. It allowed him to have control over you. Being rough with you, forcing you to lose weight or gain weight, cheating, over compensating by being a body builder shows how pathetic his self image is. These things are actions to feed his own self image (reward) to feel good about himself. He probably figured he could do what he wanted and you would always take him back or be there for himself. Total self centered a**hole, who viewed you as just his possession.
You need to look at what you enjoy doing, what makes you feel good about yourself. Change from putting your self worth in the what another thinks about you. Everyone has there own opinion on what is beautiful, physically and mentally. His standards are high and unobtainable, over compensating for his own low self image. He will always be miserable, and trying to force what he wants because he is a selfish *unt.. There are billions of people on this planet and a huge portion I am sure think you are beautiful. Do what you enjoy and find someone with the same intrests.

Here is a video link of Jacque Fresco on depression. A leader for the venus project which is a humanitarian group.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B-0ETX4z_DU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88SM_TGuCL4

I d like to hear his side of this story out of curiosity.

That said, as a bloke and privy to bloke conversation, I know how strange men can be with no accounting for it and were I a woman I d certainly be a lesbian !!!!!