My Boyfriends dog is number one, I am number two.

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  • laurad1406
    laurad1406 Posts: 341
    LOL after reading through this (and not realizing right away it was so old!) now i'm interested to see how the story ended!! or has it...?
  • MisterDubs303
    MisterDubs303 Posts: 1,216 Member
    It sounds like he's emotionally lazy, or inept. The dog loves him unconditionally, and your bf doesn't have anything to risk in his relationship with the dog. No problems to solve, no conflicts to deal with, etc. Your relationship is much more complicated, even when it is going well. The old path of least resistance thing. Is he much of a risk-taker?
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    LOL after reading through this (and not realizing right away it was so old!) now i'm interested to see how the story ended!! or has it...?
    She was never heard from again... :glasses: :noway: :laugh:
  • desgaun
    desgaun Posts: 1
    You sound jealous. Dogs are like our kids. If you don't understand that its not going to workout.
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    You sound jealous. Dogs are like our kids. If you don't understand that its not going to workout.

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  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    wth? is this a zombie thread?
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    This is like the guy who revived a year old fart thread. I was thinking he must've been searching "fart".
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    WHO DOES NUMBER TWO WORK FOR?!

    WHO DOES NUMBER TWO WORK FOR?!
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    You sound jealous. Dogs are like our kids. If you don't understand that its not going to workout.

    You sure can unearth old bones. A skill mastered by female dogs, like the one in the OP's post.
  • iamanadult
    iamanadult Posts: 709 Member
    Sounds.... ruff!
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    He probably sees the dogs as "yours" and not just "his".

    You should definitely talk to him and tell him that the dog is making you feel like the third wheel. If he loves you, he will apologize for making you feel that way and make more effort to make intimate time about you and him. If he calls you crazy, then I would have to say get a new boyfriend.
  • Trechechus
    Trechechus Posts: 2,819 Member
    I really like my boyfriend, and I really love his dog.

    Hmmmmmmm.... Isn't that what you're saying he does?
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    You sound jealous. Dogs are like our kids. If you don't understand that its not going to workout.

    Damn you, troll!

    I wish I had realized this was a two-year old thread before I responded.

    And to you I just wanted to say...

    REALLY?!? You let your kids come in your bedtime while you and daddy get it on??? Really??!?? :noway:
  • Trechechus
    Trechechus Posts: 2,819 Member
    You sound jealous. Dogs are like our kids. If you don't understand that its not going to workout.

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    You did this, didn't you!?
  • NinjadURbacon
    NinjadURbacon Posts: 395 Member
    Mans best friend

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  • arghbowl
    arghbowl Posts: 1,179 Member
    Sounds weird. I wouldn't take it to "creepy" status unless your boyfriend stops mid-dirty-deed and whips out a jar of peanut butter.

    But for real. Intervention time.
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    You sound jealous. Dogs are like our kids. If you don't understand that its not going to workout.

    Damn you, troll!

    I wish I had realized this was a two-year old thread before I responded.

    And to you I just wanted to say...

    REALLY?!? You let your kids come in your bedtime while you and daddy get it on??? Really??!?? :noway:

    Supah hot bro.
  • elenathegreat
    elenathegreat Posts: 3,988 Member
    You sound jealous. Dogs are like our kids. If you don't understand that its not going to workout.

    Damn you, troll!

    I wish I had realized this was a two-year old thread before I responded.

    And to you I just wanted to say...

    REALLY?!? You let your kids come in your bedtime while you and daddy get it on??? Really??!?? :noway:

    Atta girl...knew you'd get it!
  • m00tmike
    m00tmike Posts: 248 Member
    I really like my boyfriend, and I really love his dog. He adopted him after a few months into us dating. The dog is affectionate and adorable. I have grown rather attached to him. The actual problem is how this man lets the dog dominate his entire life, which is ruining our relationship. He cannot spend one night without it. We cannot go on trips where the dog cannot stay, and even if we do, we cannot stay long because we have to "get back" -- same with even short social gatherings. Moreover, he lets the dog sleep wherever it wants (in between us in his bed), and he insists that it is "cute" or "funny" that the dog seeks affection during and after we do the dirty. I can even count on one hand how many times we've been intimate without the dog in the room, which is now disgusting me as I write this. It has ruined the intimacy level in our relationship, since he believes that shutting the dog out of the bedroom is also cruel. He will often lie around kissing, stroking and petting the dog (even lying on the floor with it) in front of me while we spend time together, but refuses to give me the same affection (he was very loving at the start of our relationship, however). It is really slowly starting to upset me and may even drive me to a breaking point. I have said little things like - "I would like to lay next to my boyfriend" or, "I never sleep at your place with the dog in the bed". Nothing. Am I crazy and seeing things? Does he have a problem or do I? I'm smart enough to know that there's something wrong with this picture at this point and have been giving him the benefit of the doubt to come around due to his redeeming qualities, but on the same end I feel stupid for feeling this way, as if I am overreacting.

    What kind of dog is it?
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    Mans best friend

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    THIS IS EPIC.
  • CollieFit
    CollieFit Posts: 1,683 Member
    Yeah, you're not over-reacting at all! I'd say he's probably taking the wimps way out of ending your relationship. Instead of just telling you he wants it over, he's trying to irritate you enough to break it off with him. Just my opinion.. but that's what it looks like to an outsider.

    That's my suspicion too. I think if you give him an ultimatum, it's not looking good that it'll be you over the dog.
  • TheBitSlinger
    TheBitSlinger Posts: 621 Member
    I think the boyfriend may be cheating on his dog.
  • footiechick82
    footiechick82 Posts: 1,203 Member
    Being a dog owner and having my last dog be the centre of my universe, it's hard to not have your dog around all the time. My ex use to get super mad when I cuddled with Hailey (was her name) on the couch. However, he never wanted to cuddle with me anyway! He always sat on the OTHER couch. In bed, I would get him to spoon me and I would spoon her. Or, she would just sleep beside me and sometimes end up between the two of us. I purposely bought a king size bed so he would stop complaining that the bed was too small to have her in it. There was no way in hell Hailey was coming second to my relationship. She came first and she showed me love and affection... she was like my kid.

    Now, I have a new dog named Troy. My ex got pissed when I adopted him because, like your boyfriend, he comes first. He is MY responsibility and I need to take care of him. He's a little snuggle bug and loves to be close.

    The one thing I drew the line on was intimacy with the dog in the room, yeah, it's kinda mean to kick out the dog, but that's just not cool. My last dog would sit there and the dog I have now would lick you. So... it's best they are not in the room. If THAT is why the intimacy is getting rare to none, I would just say "Listen, it's an hour (or whatever), give the dog some treats and when we're done the dog can come back in and cuddle!" It's a fair trade off.

    Either way, the dog will come first for a long time. If I was you and this is from experience, I would start to adopt the dog as your own too and try to treat it as 'our' dog and not just 'his' dog... he will resent you if you don't... I know I did.
  • CollieFit
    CollieFit Posts: 1,683 Member
    LOL just realised how old this thread is. My bad.
  • SkinnyFatAlbert
    SkinnyFatAlbert Posts: 482 Member
    Just break up.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    I really like my boyfriend, and I really love his dog. He adopted him after a few months into us dating. The dog is affectionate and adorable. I have grown rather attached to him. The actual problem is how this man lets the dog dominate his entire life, which is ruining our relationship. He cannot spend one night without it. We cannot go on trips where the dog cannot stay, and even if we do, we cannot stay long because we have to "get back" -- same with even short social gatherings. Moreover, he lets the dog sleep wherever it wants (in between us in his bed), and he insists that it is "cute" or "funny" that the dog seeks affection during and after we do the dirty. I can even count on one hand how many times we've been intimate without the dog in the room, which is now disgusting me as I write this. It has ruined the intimacy level in our relationship, since he believes that shutting the dog out of the bedroom is also cruel. He will often lie around kissing, stroking and petting the dog (even lying on the floor with it) in front of me while we spend time together, but refuses to give me the same affection (he was very loving at the start of our relationship, however). It is really slowly starting to upset me and may even drive me to a breaking point. I have said little things like - "I would like to lay next to my boyfriend" or, "I never sleep at your place with the dog in the bed". Nothing. Am I crazy and seeing things? Does he have a problem or do I? I'm smart enough to know that there's something wrong with this picture at this point and have been giving him the benefit of the doubt to come around due to his redeeming qualities, but on the same end I feel stupid for feeling this way, as if I am overreacting.

    What kind of dog is it?

    The January 2011 kind. I'm guessing since she didn't respond that August, she probably won't answer now, either. :tongue:
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    Mans best friend

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    THIS IS EPIC.

    +1!
  • jamiem1102
    jamiem1102 Posts: 1,196 Member
    It sounds like you've only been passive aggressive with him. If he's oblivious to that sort of thing, then he doesn't know there's a problem. I suggest having a talk with him BEFORE you blow up, because then it's going to seem as though it's coming from nowhere. *shrug*
  • Mslmesq
    Mslmesq Posts: 1,000 Member
    Just break up.

    I'm sure they did break up....um, like 3 years ago!

    And who revived this thread and why? :noway:
  • SkinnyFatAlbert
    SkinnyFatAlbert Posts: 482 Member
    Just break up.

    I'm sure they did break up....um, like 3 years ago!

    And who revived this thread and why? :noway:

    Clearly she was nuts. Crazy girl syndrome. She probably revived her own thread!
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