How great is your husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend?
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What a wonderful surprise!my husband is awesome but he does not know.i have lost 41 pounds since he deployed and have no plans on telling him until he gets home0 -
Wow I am so impressed, no one has ever had any relationship problems, dang everyone seems so perfect. I wish i was perfect.
It's not about being perfect. It's about being perfect for each other.0 -
This makes me sad.Wow, you are all lucky to have found someone so great. Gives me hope that the one is out there somewhere. Mine has only made a comment about my weight once, but he likes bigger girls. It is all the other abuse that is hard. He is always eating things that he knows that I can't have infront of me. He buys fattening foods and expects me or anyone in the house to touch it. After he spends so much money on the junk I have no money left to buy healthy foods, so I go without eating. He complains that he never has anything to eat, but I go weeks with almost nothing...oh well, what do you do0 -
My boyfriend is pretty great. :blushing:0
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:sad: I was thin when my husband and I got married, but I had loose skin from losing 130 pounds... our wedding night was the first time we had sex, so he'd never seen me naked. He wouldn't touch me at all to get me "warmed-up"... he just did what he needed to do, and told me I was repulsive. Even though I warned him before we got married, he said he never could have imagined how gross I really looked naked, and he felt deceived. So, needless to say, I got depressed- after my daughter was born, I just couldn't get the weight off and wound up even adding a few pounds. My husband told me on our 1 year wedding anniversary that I disgust him, and he never in a million years would've ever dated a fat girl, let alone marry one.
We've been married for almost 4 years now- 4 years next month actually. And while he's gotten better (we went through some counseling) about the way he communicates his frustration, he still won't touch my body when we have sex. A lot of his issues have their roots in his family and in the way he was raised to value appearance over everything else- they told him not to marry me because I used to be fat, and might have fat children (I don't by the way- my daughter is a bean pole!), and they didn't want fat grandchildren. They're truly awful people- example: my MIL refuses to quit smoking even though she gave herself throat cancer; she said she'd rather die thin from cancer than live to be old and fat (fine by me!!). But at least my husband has begun to recognize that and is trying to overcome that pitfall in himself. And no, I didn't know they had said that until after we were married. They're very deceitful people. And I didn't know my husband was going to be like that until after we said "I do." But we're getting better every day- and while many people would say he should be able to love me and accept me the way I am even if I don't lose this weight... at least he's honest with me. So many husbands would just say "it doesn't matter" and then ogle other women and cheat. And when the weight is gone this time, I'm getting the skin removed- for both of us. I hated looking like a deflated balloon too.
If you really feel the need to stay with this man, I'd suggest a BOB and don't touch him during sex either.0 -
My GF is pretty great, she puts up with all my bull****. She understands that if it came down to it id chose my weightlifting over her. So far she hasnt come between me and the iron.0
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I would have to give my wife a "10" Her kindness is prettier than her picture....
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Soo pessimistic!Wow I am so impressed, no one has ever had any relationship problems, dang everyone seems so perfect. I wish i was perfect.
It's not about being perfect. It's about being perfect for each other.
I don't believe 98% of these people, that's what I am saying. When it's about relationship people always say, "OH THEY ARE THE ABSOLUTE BEST"0 -
My boyfriend is amazing, together for 4 and a half years and even when I gained three stone he still said I was his perfect woman. Has always supported me and has joined this site so we can get fit together. Love him for that0
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My husband is amazing and HOT!
I thank God everyday and twice on Sundays for bringing him to me....or vice versa.
I see he has a great girl, very nice....0 -
The only thing i could see wrong is if people have a inaccurate perception(including myself) of what the best/greatest is.
The way i see it, the theme on this board is they're on cloud 9 24/7 which i know isn't true.
But this is regarding partners support for weight loss, not their general relationship0 -
Soo pessimistic!Wow I am so impressed, no one has ever had any relationship problems, dang everyone seems so perfect. I wish i was perfect.
It's not about being perfect. It's about being perfect for each other.
I don't believe 98% of these people, that's what I am saying. When it's about relationship people always say, "OH THEY ARE THE ABSOLUTE BEST"
There is only one girl who i really click with, and that's my ex, we do talk about getting back together all the time. We say how perfect we are for each other sometimes. Would I say she's the best? NO. Of course we have issues sometimes(rarely). It does happen though. I have my flaws, so does she. It's natural, nothing wrong with it.
The only thing i could see wrong is if people have a inaccurate perception(including myself) of what the best/greatest is.
The way i see it, the theme on this board is they're on cloud 9 24/7 which i know isn't true.
No one is saying their life is 100% perfect all the time. But apparently there is more good than bad in their relationships....other wise why be together?
The poster asked how is your significant other....no ones going to say "oh this one time this and this happened" No because those petty things do not matter since the good times are way more and better.
Yes my husband and I have had problems but he is amazing and so supportive of me. That's all that matters why dwell on the bad times?0 -
My long term boyfriend is great - he's with me all the way in the getting healthy aspect, and fully supports and even participates in the changes I'm making to be more fit overall.
Even if he WAS like "You could stand to lose about 20 lbs..." :laugh: Thanks for the reality check babe.0 -
The only thing i could see wrong is if people have a inaccurate perception(including myself) of what the best/greatest is.
The way i see it, the theme on this board is they're on cloud 9 24/7 which i know isn't true.
But this is regarding partners support for weight loss, not their general relationship
This ^^^^0 -
Wow I am so impressed, no one has ever had any relationship problems, dang everyone seems so perfect. I wish i was perfect.
Sorry you haven't had a good enough relationship to see that it's all in what you make of it.
3 years and we have had ups and downs but all in all, we have never had an argument. Why? Because we communicate what is really bothering us IF anything is, we know how to choose our battles and approach each other without the anger that causes a fight.
We have the same goals for our future with different paths to get there. We believe in each other and we love unconditionally.
He is flighty, he is messy, he can be cheap... in the end, he compromises and so do I. I accept him and his flaws and I love him for being human enough to have them.
Good Luck and I hope you find your left shoe one day, I truley feel like I have found mine. The best part is, we were always ourselves with each other, there was never a reason to "put the best foot forward" We jumped in feet first and kept eyes wide open. Trust but verify.0 -
Wow I am so impressed, no one has ever had any relationship problems, dang everyone seems so perfect. I wish i was perfect.
It's not about being perfect. It's about being perfect for each other.
I don't believe 98% of these people, that's what I am saying. When it's about relationship people always say, "OH THEY ARE THE ABSOLUTE BEST"
I say that about my husband, but I assume whomever I'm talking to realizes I mean the best for me since obviously I have not been married to every other man and can't really make the comparison. He's not perfect. Neither am I. We irritate the crap out each other occasionally. But I still wouldn't trade him for anyone else and my life would be very sad without him, because he really is THE BEST.
My kids and grandkids are THE BEST too.
Edited to correct that I have not been married to every other man. (oops!!)0 -
I love my husband so much! He's always thought I was beautiful/hot even after I'd gained the weight.. I was never at an "ideal'' weight to begin with, but he's from Latin America and tends to like the girls with a bit of junk in the trunk! He's an amazing cook and just fun to be with. He's acclimated to my world and become a NASCAR and Jimmy Buffet fan. How much more Americanized can you get lol!0
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Soo pessimistic!Wow I am so impressed, no one has ever had any relationship problems, dang everyone seems so perfect. I wish i was perfect.
It's not about being perfect. It's about being perfect for each other.
I don't believe 98% of these people, that's what I am saying. When it's about relationship people always say, "OH THEY ARE THE ABSOLUTE BEST"
There is only one girl who i really click with, and that's my ex, we do talk about getting back together all the time. We say how perfect we are for each other sometimes. Would I say she's the best? NO. Of course we have issues sometimes(rarely). It does happen though. I have my flaws, so does she. It's natural, nothing wrong with it.
The only thing i could see wrong is if people have a inaccurate perception(including myself) of what the best/greatest is.
The way i see it, the theme on this board is they're on cloud 9 24/7 which i know isn't true.
Are BEST and PERFECT synonyms?0 -
Wow I am so impressed, no one has ever had any relationship problems, dang everyone seems so perfect. I wish i was perfect.
Sorry you haven't had a good enough relationship to see that it's all in what you make of it.
3 years and we have had ups and downs but all in all, we have never had an argument. Why? Because we communicate what is really bothering us IF anything is, we know how to choose our battles and approach each other without the anger that causes a fight.
We have the same goals for our future with different paths to get there. We believe in each other and we love unconditionally.
He is flighty, he is messy, he can be cheap... in the end, he compromises and so do I. I accept him and his flaws and I love him for being human enough to have them.
Good Luck and I hope you find your left shoe one day, I truley feel like I have found mine. The best part is, we were always ourselves with each other, there was never a reason to "put the best foot forward" We jumped in feet first and kept eyes wide open. Trust but verify.
Thank you. This is perfect. My husband and myself have our share of problems too, but we also communicate so they are never big issues. Like yours, my husband is messy but oh well, I still love him. I can seem rude, mean, saracstic somedays but he still loves me.
My friend described us as a kindergarten puzzle recently. (Since in kindergarten, their puzzels are really small, like only two pieces) But she said we are like a two piece puzzle, we just fit together. I agree with her. We do just fit together. He is the perfect person for me and the best person for me. He may not be the most perfect man ever, but I would never want anyone else to take his place.0 -
Unfortunately mine didn't say anything and was always supportive...to my face. I only recently found out that it bothered him a lot how much I had changed
We are not working through some major communication isssues, but we've been married 18 years, if we could make it this far we can get through it.0 -
My wife is being VERY supportive. For my food logging she will retain packaging until I've scanned bar codes, sometimes actually weigh my food on the kitchen scale so I don't have to.
She is very encouraging about my progress and is willing to take that extra hour alone with our 9 month old daughter so I can go to the gym.
In non fitness matters.. She used to be MY WORLD but depending on the time of day and my mood, my daughter probably ranks above her.0 -
Any negativity I say of my wife is of saying negatively of myself. We are one. I have a wife who understands my deepest darkest perversions, and has seen me on my lows and on my highs, we've gone through amazing things together. We've been together 8 years, married 6, have had 3 kids, started college and ended college together, even took the same degree path and took every single class together. She's great.
As a musician in an actively gigging band, she has always supported my art. Get this, she feels me not playing bass is robbing the world of something amazing. I've been in many bands, seen many wives and girlfriends who say "I'm completely supportive of my husband/boyfriend" but then ***** and moan and nag at the guy for going to practices and gigs. I have 0 worries of this. (I am also understanding of the wives and girlfriends, most of the time the guy wasn't a quality guy and didn't pull his weight in the relationship, just expecting everything to be done for them).
Communication. This is why my wife is GREAT. We talk about everything. From the most light hearted to the most intense, we talk. We talk all the time. I love that I have someone to confide in.
Its crazy, when you have a spouse that actually makes life easier, and not by doing everything for you(Shes my wife. Not my slave), its amazing what you can accomplish. I see a lot of my single friends (and no this isn't a knock on the singles, we love yall too!) and they worry about finding someone or never finding someone or are looking for someone or even not single but new in a relationship and investing into the beginning stages of a relationship, I am reminded as to how fortunate I am. I feel I don't have to worry about that stuff. I have more time to think about inventions, or my arts and crafts, or even deep thinking, and intellectual stuff, I just feel... Like I have turned that chapter, and its nice Really really really really nice.
So after 8 years, and all the chaos, and drama out of our control (family, gotta love'em), through 2 pregnancies, through other health issues, 2 long periods of unemployment (the joy of working oil and gas), through near death experiences with one of our children, through money issues, and all that could cause problems, we have never fought (Not that its not OK to fight, we do believe every relationship, to each their own). She is logical. I am logical. We are similar. In fact, when going through the marriage process, our pastor wanted us to do a personality test. Took the test separately. We scored identical.
This.. ALL THIS is why my wife is great. (This works for us.)
Me & hubby took the personality test too by our church before we got married. And we were almost identical too! haha... many would say it is good to marry someone of your opposite to complement one another. but I think able to think alike is pretty good too.
My hubby is not perfect, many times as mischievous as a kid. He would tease me and my size sometimes just to see my irritated response and giggle. But lots of time he will look deeply into my eyes with a big smile... enjoying the moment & the sight of me. He shares my household chores, and cares also about my family and friends. Like to entice me into eating supper with him, but gets really anxious if I want to start my eating rampage. Worries about me getting too heavy and affect my health if I get pregnant that's why he hopes that I lose some weight.0 -
My Fiance is fantastic. He loved me exactly how I was and could see I was happy. He has supported me throughout my journey and always tells me how proud he is of me (none of my previous fellas have ever said anything like that). He has always eaten the same food that I prepare for myself (even his son eats it too).
Bless him, he put on a bit of weight as I was losing it (too much beer I think and some bad choices of takeaway). Anyway he's now on the 5:2 diet and now it is my turn to say how proud I am of him. xx0 -
I love my boyfriend, he has been nothing but supportive and amazing to me.
He's always liked the way I look and calls me beautiful nearly every day, and when I started getting back into working out and eating better, he has been SO supportive. It's so great having somebody to talk to about food and fitness without feeling like I'm being annoying. He's promised me if I start to slip or lose motivation, he'll pick me back up and motivate me to keep going. He said when I reach my goal weight he'll buy me new lingerie
I think I'm slowly becoming a positive influence on him too, he's now cut out all sugary drinks and only drinks water, eats far less junk now, and is always understanding when I want to go out and eat healthy.
Hopefully when he gets less busy with work, he'll be joining me at the gym and when the weather warms up we'll start going out for walks together or even go to the pool.
I think that was another factor as to why I slipped a few years ago when I was with my ex. He kind of just gave me a pat on the back but was never all that helpful. Having somebody close to you always supporting your every step is just so wonderful.0
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