Worst compliment you've ever gotten.

Shopping with my mom and being the biggest I have been in a long time...I was a tight size 16... I kept seeing these cute dress pants and it seemed like they were all size 8. So I said "I cant wait until I lose this weight and come back and buy all these cute size 8 clothes".

Her response... "You better just shoot for size 12, you will never lose enough to fit into a size 8"

That was all the motivation I needed.. now I am currently in size 14 and a few 12's ... slowly but surely I am proving her wrong. I now am smaller than her and can fit into the clothes that she gets that are too small for her.

I'd always been bigger than my mom since I was 11. When I was in high school, she was 5'6" 130 lb and I was 5'8" 240 lb. You can imagine comments from people, "Oh! Your mom is thin?!" Yeah jerk. hehe

My mom's struggled with very disordered eating her entire life, and she has health problems galore (partly due to that). I love her to pieces, and don't want her to be unhealthy. She never treated me badly even at my heaviest and has always made me feel good about myself.

While I still weigh more than her (I'm 218, she's around 190)...I fit into things she doesn't, and have a lot more clothing options. For example her legs and ankles swell a lot and I wear lots of boots and sandals that she can't, including some of her old ones that she can't wear now. We're both pear shaped women and wear a 1X top but on the bottom, she has trouble because of her tiny waist and huge hips. I'm more proportional so it's a lot easier for me to find pants. She is constantly picking up inexpensive 16's and 18's that won't go over her hips/thighs but fit me well. There's not exactly a victorious feeling in that for me..I'd rather see my mom healthy! ...but it is definitely a novelty, in a way, after 25 years of being bigger than her by a lot.

"You have such a pretty face", I think some fat girls might get why this compliment is actually a little annoying

I get this " You're so pretty .....when you smile..." as if I'm a troll or an ogre any other moment of the day....

"you're cute"

it's the worst

Right there with you, except I hear that "You're cute. If it weren't for the red hair and freckles you'd be totally hot!"

you sure have a lot of confidence for someone who is a size 10.

i wasn't aware that a size 10 was a bad size.

'ooh, you've got soft hands' ...... I'm a guy.

My fiancé works in IT and has the softest hands I've ever felt on a guy. I love that they aren't jointy, calloused "worker" hands, lol.

Oddest compliment was from my employer years ago (still my employer) who compared me to an American Standard poodle because they have long legs and are really smart.

Also an odd compliment that I totally loved was from some random woman at a GoodLife gym who came up to me after I finished squatting and told me I had a great *kitten*. It was all 'bouncin' and behavin' from the squats. Odd and a bit lezbionic but I cherish it to this day.

The other day, I was wearing a cropped top, and went out quickly to the convenience store, and while I was paying, this guy came up to me to ask if I had had surgery. I knew my surgery scars were tiny and not visible, I tried to ignore him but he was in my face and asked me again, so I said "no", and he said "Are you sure, cuz you look CUT". Is that a compliment??? Did he mean I have abs? The cashier told him I was married (I'm not) and the guy insisted my "husband" must be lucky to have such a "cut up" wife. I just rolled my eyes at him and walked out. Men, don't tell women they look "cut" or worse "cut up", it sounds scary.

That was totally a pickup line for your abs, but just a really bad one. Will cross that off my list of ones to still use.

"You're really pretty for a black girl"

Oh and this one : There's this actress who looks exactly like you !!
me : oh yeah?
the lady : yeah she is very fat , but her face looks pretty. ... I mean her face is pretty like yours. I mean...
me: yeah I got it. thanks .

"What would it take for you to swing the other way for one night."

Really?

That wasn't a compliment, it was a bribe.

I got this.

Former boyfriend. I was 18 and secretly very self-conscious about gaining a couple pounds (ie. finishing puberty). I'm sitting on the couch, he was on the floor watching TV. He turns around and squeezes my thigh with both hands, pretending to growl;
"Look at this leg. I could just eat this leg. If the world ended, I could live off this leg alone for like a month. Well, maybe 3 weeks. I get hungry"

Yay.

'Pregnancy suits you, how far along are you?' - nope, that's just my stomach :frown:

On Saturdays I work out for 2 1/2 hours. The last thing I do is Zumba. (stairs, body pump class, then Zumba) An older lady said to me once as we stood waiting for Zumba to start "Wow! I cannot believe how much you work out! Why aren't you super skinny?????" :embarassed:

Even though she later told me she was sorry and that it wasn't meant to be an insult....she said it again a few weeks later. :ohwell:

Ouch :-/ When I reached my all-time high of 307 lb, I managed to get back down to 272 through walking a few miles every night. Several random (overweight, all of them) older ladies along my favorite walking route would comment stuff along these lines. "With all that walking I can't believe you're not skinny!"

Thanks. A. Heap.

Not really a compliment, but...

Me: Oh hi *so and so* How are you?
Them: Uhh do I know you?
Me: Yeah we met a couple different times at *such and such place*
Them: Oh I don't recognize you, you have a very forgetful face.

WAIT... WHAT?!

any time I'm single my extended family is like, "it's ok, you'll find someone, you're so smart and funny and your face is so pretty!" as if I am sooooo sad about being single. no need for the backhanded compliments!

Oh yeah...I am very familiar with the "pretty face" compliment. UGH! I used to work with a much younger woman who was very traditionally "hot" and she would say stuff like that to me all of the time. I really don't think she meant anything mean by it but it was irritating.

seriously. If they didn't mention "face" it would be a compliment, but they just have to go and make it backhanded!

Yes!! There's absolutely no need for 'face' to be in that sentence! :P

I once saw something written about me - 'she's fat, for a hot girl.' (I don't understand why it wasn't 'she's hot, for a fat girl', but meh.) I wasn't ever meant to see the comment, and the guy who wrote it would never have said it to my face... but it gave me a tiny bit of pleasure when I confronted him and I watched as he tried to squirm his way out of it :P

I was auditioning for the part of Mary Magdalene in Jesus Christ Superstar once, and I was nervous as I was up against some gorgeous girls, all of whom were very slim and looked the part. So my flatmate decided it would make me feel better by saying 'you know though, you'd suit the part much more than them because, in those days, Mary realistically would've been quite chubby.'

Some guy, who claimed to be in love with me, decided to have a big heart to heart about his feelings for me one day. This included him telling me that I had one of the most beautiful faces he'd ever seen but that there were some things he'd change to make me his 'perfect woman'. He couldn't understand why I didn't want to be with him.