Husband not supportive

You have been married for less than a month. Why did you marry someone who is so controlling that he won't let you leave the house?

Get counselling. This isn't what marriage is supposed to be like.

You do not have to sucumb to his yelling /berating/bull crap...........When he yells.. put your sneakers on, get your ear buds in, put the baby in a stroller and go Power Walking... block him out completely........ Just Go do your thing... He will get the point eventually...or he wont...whichever... Right now, You need to work on YOU!

Absolutely this.

When I was still an Army wife, our FRG (Family Readiness Group) did a great job of supporting each other. We even organized walks through post, with our kids in strollers or on bikes. The post I work for now has that, too. MWR (Morale, WElfare & Recreation) does a great job of organizing 5Ks every month. The hospital has a great wellness program, and most of them have clinical dieticians, too. The gyms on post have daycares, too. Utilize the resources that are available to you. Tune out the noise and tune in to what you really want. Either the hubby will come with you or he won't, ultimately you decide what is and is not a deal breaker.

You've also got counselors, chaplains and his chain of command's spouses at your fingertips...those are some hefty resources, too.

This is a trainwreck of a thread that just keeps getting worse. I hope it's a troll, yet I'm sad that it might not be.

I agree. If it's not, all I can say is that you have to want it badly enough for yourself and your child before you will make things happen. You can if you want.

Did you really need us to tell you this is a bad relationship? Go back and read your own post. Unless I missed it, I haven't read one post supporting your husband, even from the guys. This goes beyond what counseling can fix. You can and should do better than this. If not for yourself, do it for your child. If you can't take the first step to get out of it, ask a friend or relative to make the call for you. I promise you, after the clouds clear, you, and your child, will feel much more alive. Do it right now!!

you will lose the baby fat no doubt! sorry to hear about the relationship problems dont know what to suggest but you are the master of your destiny no one else so dont accept abuse

Hon, don't get me wrong and I'm not trying to be mean, but everyone needs a bit of tough love sometimes.

Everything you said was an excuse. Weight loss is something that takes A LOT of life changes. Like when you eat, how you eat, what you eat, planning, making time, etc. It's a huge adjustment. But blaming it on your husband, or any other object is just making excuses. I live with my BF. He likes beer (so do I), he drinks about 2-3 a night of high calorie/high % beer a night. I got to the point where I had to tell myself, who cares what HE's doing, it's about what I'M doing. When I lost a large chunk of my weight, I lived alone. But I still had excuses, like everyone. But I WANTED it. And I still want it, but it's harder. You have other reasons not to eat well, not exercise, etc. But hon, you have to find the strength, the power, the motivation, the WANT for yourself. Support from the outside is like 10%, everything else has to come from yourself.

So, ways around the excuses. Get up early, go out and take a 30 minute walk/day. Plan YOUR menu ahead of time and stick to the plan. Just because your husband makes dinner, doesn't mean you have to eat it. Just because your husband wants Pizza, doesn't mean you can't order a salad. See the pattern?

Now, either you WANT this or you don't. That's for you to decide.

^^ this is what I was thinking. Yes your knee, your asthma... I tore my MCL twice, and I still play tennis, just like the 2 times i tore it I was playing tennis...

You need to WANT this. My family wasn't on board with my weight loss... I did it for ME. My doctors were all pretty upset, they couldn't figure out why, I was 144, and now i'm 125. I feel FABULOUS. This is where I WANTED to be... You need to learn to do things for yourself, and if all you can do is bad mouth your husband, do yourself and all of us a favor, get the hell out of there. Plain and simple. I'm sure your husband could say a crap load of mean things about you too, but I don't see a post on here from him. You need to talk to him, not vent on the interwebs about how horrible your husband is because he doesn't agree with you.

Tough love sister. Do this for you, and only you. You're all you have in the end.

Sorry, this isn't an excuse. I don't get to go grocery shopping, I can't buy healthy food, I can't leave the house without him threatening to call the cops. I do want it, I have done it. If he makes dinner and it's not healthy and I decide to eat something else, he yells at me. Clearly you didn't read the first post. I DO want it. They aren't excuses.

You NEED to get out. Go to a women's shelter and call the cops on him YOURSELF. He's abusing you THIS IS ABUSE!

Stop with the non-action! Your son needs a strong mother who is willing to protect him and herself.

I second this. Seriously. For the safety of you and your son.

This is my husband without the yelling at me for everything. He doesn't want to eat healthy. or go do anything. He has lost weight just getting up and working after 2 years of doing nothing. He lost 50 pounds in 3 months. He still has more to go but he doesn't do anything to try to lose weight.

I want to do all the things you say but can't because it is not safe for my children and I to go out to the park.

BUT....

What I do is get on Youtube and find things that I enjoy doing like Dance workouts or Zumba. I walk up and down the stairs to our deck in the back, I jog in the back yard with the kids in the grass racing back and forth and giggling the whole time. I will walk on my street during daylight with my kids and we have fun doing it.

You have to just do what makes you happy and what you can get away with. I would try to get him to start taking some vitamins and see if you can get him to start feeling better about himself. Make sure you show him the love and affection that you want.

as far as the food goes. everything in moderation. keep track of your calories and exercise as much as you can. I know its hard with bad food in the house and being depressed.

I don't have all the answers either but if it is really bad and you don't love him anymore and there is no compromise and you feel defeated and you know there is no way to get the love back then I would say it may be time to give up on him and move on. This is something you have to decide for your self and don't let anything anyone here says sway your mind. You know your heart. you have to go with it and live with the choice you made not only for you but your son as well. Think hard about if it.

Good luck my dear.

This is a conversation you need to have with your divorce attorney, not a bunch of armchair internet psychologists.

Only other option is to build a time machine and prevent yourself from marrying a ****.

Edit: Seriously, asterisks? Come on.

have a calm conversation with him about it. not going to fix it posting on here