Do you let your partner tell you what to wear?

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Mutant13
Mutant13 Posts: 2,485 Member
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Ok, so without going into too much detail- my partner attempted to tell me I couldn't/shouldn't wear something because he was concerned I might get too much attention.

He got a total and utter verbal beat down. I'm a grown adult and I can dress myself, I'm not stupid and can make my own decisions about appropriate clothing.

It made me wonder though, is it ever ok for your partner to tell you what to wear? Has it happened to you?
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  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
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    Yeah, I'm told all the time I don't match, or that my shoes should be black or brown.
  • Mutant13
    Mutant13 Posts: 2,485 Member
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    That's mean
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,406 Member
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    No. My boyfriend is really good at only giving his opinion when asked when it comes to my appearance. I am grateful that he is honest too for when I do ask.
  • juliewatkin
    juliewatkin Posts: 764 Member
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    It's a bit of a grey area. What were you wearing that your partner took issue with it? Why did he feel it would draw undo attention? Did you ask him?

    I don't think I've ever really objected to something my husband was wearing but may make gentle suggestions as to what I think may be appropriate for an occasion. In addition, if he felt uncomfortable with something I were wearing I'd take his thoughts and feelings into account just as I'd expect him to take mine into account.

    In most relationships it's not about control and telling another what they can and can't do or wear but considering another's feelings.
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,487 Member
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    No way. He only offers his opinion if I ask. He does not mind if I get too much attention either as long as people keep their hands off.
  • PunkyRachel
    PunkyRachel Posts: 1,959 Member
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    I dress my husband, but he would never try and tell me what to not wear. lol Then again, my husbands color blind too so he has issues matching things.
  • Sovictorrious
    Sovictorrious Posts: 770 Member
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    No
  • Mutant13
    Mutant13 Posts: 2,485 Member
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    It's a bit of a grey area. What were you wearing that your partner took issue with it? Why did he feel it would draw undo attention? Did you ask him?

    I don't think I've ever really objected to something my husband was wearing but may make gentle suggestions as to what I think may be appropriate for an occasion. In addition, if he felt uncomfortable with something I were wearing I'd take his thoughts and feelings into account just as I'd expect him to take mine into account.

    In most relationships it's not about control and telling another what they can and can't do or wear but considering another's feelings.

    It's pretty tame. A long dress with a slit to mid thigh.

    I can understand saying things like 'it might be a bit cold for that shirt' or 'here, why don't I iron that for you?' Or even something like 'the Smiths are really conservative, maybe you should bring a jacket or something...'

    Beyond that I think it's a pretty sh!tyy thing to do
  • Naomi0504
    Naomi0504 Posts: 964 Member
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    No, but he will make stupid comments if he doesn't like it, in hopes that I'll go change. Which I don't. I'm also grown :smile:
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
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    I don't want my boyfriend telling me what to wear, but at the same time, I wouldn't want him to be ok with other guys looking at my "stuff" if I was wearing something too revealing. Ultimately, it is my decision though,
  • LurveTheDoctor
    LurveTheDoctor Posts: 303
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    My husband and I are life partners and his opinion on my clothing matters. I don't want to wear shirts w/ my tits hanging out bc those are for feeding babies and my husband to see.

    So, If he said something didn't look good or he didn't like how revealing it was I wouldn't wear it. Then again, He never would bc he really just doesn't care.

    And, I constantly tell him what to wear and dress him and buy all his clothes.. bc he doesn't care.

    I go out of my way to try and make sure all of his clothing matches with each other bc he doesn't even try to look good in that aspect.
  • notreallychris
    notreallychris Posts: 501 Member
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    I'm a confused dude. So I usually ask the Mrs. if what I'm wearing is acceptable.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
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    No.
  • KimberlyinMN
    KimberlyinMN Posts: 302 Member
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    Nope. I might ask him his opinion between a couple of choices that I've put together. Although sometimes he's suggested I wear "this" or "that", but he doesn't TELL me. (I'm always up for listening to advice, but I may not always take it.)
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
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    My wife and I are grown adults. She's more than capable of picking out my clothes, and I'm quite adept at freaking out over her bikinis. I'm sorry, what was the question?
  • TheRealBruceWayne
    TheRealBruceWayne Posts: 22 Member
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    Not a chance.. the majority of women don't know nearly as much about style and dressing men as they think they do. I dress myself and I look good doing it. If my girlfriend wants to be sexy or topless for that matter I don't care.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
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    My ex used to. My current likes when I dress sexy. :bigsmile:
  • rakufire
    rakufire Posts: 21 Member
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    My guy has excellent taste and a great eye, so if he gives his opinion, I sure as hell listen. Besides which, I want to look good for me first and him second, so his opinion is important to me. Having said that, I can't imagine him ever outright banning or demanding anything.
  • HeyGoRun
    HeyGoRun Posts: 550 Member
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    Only at bed time which is always "wear nothing" lol im cool with that
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
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    Nope never been told what to wear. If it were up to my husband I would be in tight sexy clothes 24/7, he's not threatened by the attention I get, he takes it as a compliment.

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