Do you let your partner tell you what to wear?

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  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    I ain't scared to say it, but he probably thought you looked like a Hooker in your outfit & that's why he said not to wear it.

    Are hookers wearing formal gowns now?

    Depends on how classy the hooker.

    Julia Roberts in Pretty woman.
  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 9,282 Member
    Fashion advice no...but I do think your partner should be able to voice his opinion on whether or not he finds your outfit to be too sexy.

    I think your partner has the right to voice his opinion on it, sure.

    I dont think he has the right to tell you, you are not allowed to wear it though.

    Ultimately that is up to you.
  • VeganLexi
    VeganLexi Posts: 960 Member
    Nope, but I do value his opinion on my choice of outfit, ultimately the decision is mine.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    I would tell my ex husband when he looked like a homeless man. He has a penchant for wearing ripped jeans. Drove me crazy.
  • AlbaAngel25
    AlbaAngel25 Posts: 484 Member
    no way, even when I ask for my husbands opinion he doesn't like to say much, "i dunno women's style, you look good to me". I think sometimes he just doesn't want to get me upset lol
  • JenAndSome
    JenAndSome Posts: 1,893 Member
    I can't think of single time my bf has said anything about what I was wearing, but I don't dress up too often. I think he likes it when I look a little sexy, but that's only because he smacks my rear, not because he says it.

    I think if your partner was objecting because he thought the dress was inappropriate for the occasion it might be one thing, but if it was just because he was worried about the attention you would be getting that's unfortunate. If he trusts you, people thinking you are sexy shouldn't be a problem.
  • CookNLift
    CookNLift Posts: 3,660 Member
    yeah, I'm a guy with little to no fashion sense. She helps me look good lol otherwise I'd be in black t-shirts and sweatshirts 24/7
  • just_Jennie1
    just_Jennie1 Posts: 1,233
    My husband buys me clothes to wear (I love it when those packages arrive) and if we go out he'll say something like 'Wear something sexy. And by sexy I mean NOT JEANS!" Lol.

    I'll ask his opinion on how I look or what I'm wearing and he always gives an honest answer. If I put something on and he said "Why don't you wear X instead" it wouldn't bother me at all.

    On the flip side I will let him know if something he has on doesn't look right and suggest another item to wear.
  • just_Jennie1
    just_Jennie1 Posts: 1,233
    I ain't scared to say it, but he probably thought you looked like a Hooker in your outfit & that's why he said not to wear it.

    Have you ever watched cops? Most of the hookers they're arresting or who they set up sting operations for are wearing jeans and sweatshirts. They're definitely NOT what one would think a hooker looks like.

    Just sayin'.
  • bmqbonnie
    bmqbonnie Posts: 836 Member
    With the way the OP said, that definitely sounds controlling and I wouldn't be ok with that.

    I do value my fiance's opinion and often ask should I wear this or this when getting ready to go out. Some clothes I have are really hideous that I only wear for dirty work and sometimes he'll make a little fun, but it's always something I've pointed out as being absolutely hideous myself before (I have a pair of jeans that make me look 20 years older and 20 pounds heavier, for example).

    If anything, he likes it when I wear stuff that attracts attention. He likes to show me off and is confident enough to where he isn't worried about me getting attention from other guys.
  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
    ex-husband: didn't like some of my outfits (bold/wild color choices, 'immature' styling) and would give me an honest answer when i asked. didn't insult or offer unsolicited advice. rarely comlimented my appearance. i learned not to ask, most of the time. just fine with it.

    ex-boyfriend: frequently commented (positively) on my appearance. coordinated outfits with me. loved my style. stole my jewelry. i would ask him for input regularly. just fine with it.

    ex-boyfriend: frequently commented (positively) on my appearance, apropos of nothing i was WEARING. just fine with it.

    i'm pretty easygoing when i comes to how i look. if you don't like it, you can suck it.
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    no way. On the other hand however, I cannot count how many times I've got out of the shower to a naked husband holding a different shirt/tie combo in each hand looking befuddled.
  • Blacklance36
    Blacklance36 Posts: 755 Member
    I dress my husband, but he would never try and tell me what to not wear. lol Then again, my husbands color blind too so he has issues matching things.

    Is he allowed outside or is he chained up in the kitchen? Do you allow him to have friends? Is he allowed to speak without your permission? Seriously, I don't know any MAN who has his SO dress him...or that would allow a SO to tell him what to wear. Maybe its your choice of words that makes you sound so controlling.....
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I'm sure that my wife and daughters would like to give me some fashion advice, but they know I'm going to dress how I want.
  • amandatapar
    amandatapar Posts: 246 Member
    My husband may say he likes the way I look in a certain pair of jeans better than the ones I have on. But it is a just a suggestion.
  • just_Jennie1
    just_Jennie1 Posts: 1,233
    I dress my husband, but he would never try and tell me what to not wear. lol Then again, my husbands color blind too so he has issues matching things.

    Is he allowed outside or is he chained up in the kitchen? Do you allow him to have friends? Is he allowed to speak without your permission? Seriously, I don't know any MAN who has his SO dress him...or that would allow a SO to tell him what to wear. Maybe its your choice of words that makes you sound so controlling.....

    Didn't you read the part where she said he's color blind?

    Personally I think you're reading a little bit too much into this comment. Sounds like you're just trying to instigate an argument. I didn't see anything that sounded as though she was controlling.
  • BringingSherriBack
    BringingSherriBack Posts: 607 Member
    Not telling me what to wear but may make comments about what they like on me. :wink:

    Now I did date a guy that had sort of a foot fedish and let me tell you he could pick out the cutest and sexiest shoes ever so I definitely took him shoe shopping with me and listened to his opinion on my picks. :tongue:
  • WeepingAngel81
    WeepingAngel81 Posts: 2,232 Member
    My ex did in a strange passive agressive way, and the clothes he went on about where my work clothes. I work in an office with a dress code so it's not like I dress scant or anything. During tax season I would take a couple $100 for myself to purchase new work clothes. The year before we split I got a promotion so I treated myself to an outfit from Express. In turn, he spent $2,000 on computer parts becuase he was pissed I spent the money on myself. THEN he turned around and said I was only wearing "sexy" work clothes to grab the attention of some guy in my office. Paranoid much????

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