diet sadness

All these smug peoplegoing on about how they don't experience this should just go away and stop rubbing it in. It is like someone saying to me 'I have terrible insomnia, it is a nightmare' and me saying 'Oh well, as it happens, I don't get that at all... I sleep soundly and easily for 8 hours every night... you should be like me, then you'd not be an insomniac' the skip away smugly.

This is really not helpful or contributing anything. Perhaps you should fuel your negativity into a person blog.

OP, you CAN have what you want! You had your piece, and so many people feel sad because they cut everything out. It's great you're practicing moderation. If you feel legitimately sad about portions, it could help to talk to someone. Otherwise, try making room in your day to have more than one slice.

Too much smug for my liking. People who restrict portion control don't always manage to restrict their greasetastic food choices.

I am not rude, little or a hater. I just hate when people write about problems they are having and people come in all smug just to say they don't experience it, like they so perfect. I think that is the real rudeness! But whatever, since you aren't reading this.

I am reading this. No one is being rude at all except for you :frown:

???? You just called somebody a 'rude little hater'. Which REALLY isn't especially polite. Just sayin...

Did this topic make anyone else want banana bread?

I totally get it. I miss being able to just go and eat whatever I want. There are things I love that I haven't had in ages, just because I can't realistically fit them in my daily calories (like cheesecake, although those Trader Joe's cheesecake wedges are helping with that craving). To be fair, it's been harder and harder though. It was much easier when I started. Now I'm getting close to maintenance but when I get there, I'll pretty much maintain at what I'm eating right now, so it's not like you can really tell yourself that it will be better once you're at maintenance, lol.

But obviously the results are a great trade off. I passed on cupcakes at a birthday party yesterday, and it was hard, but really, I don't know about you but I never regret not eating something.

I feel exactly the same as the OP - and I've just had an epiphany - I used to feel that food was my best friend - always there if I was sad or happy now I feel that it is my worst enemy (and always has been really). I know I have issues with food and find it hard to control binges and to eat properly (and I do get that this is my fault, not the foods). Some people find it easier to cope with controlling portion sizes I don't. I find it hard and in a silly way mourn the way I used to be - eating what I wanted, when I wanted (and often large quantities of it). I have also recently realised that i don't think I'll ever be able to relax about food, I'm always going to have to 'keep an eye' on myself. I really hope one day that things change, I've taken steps to improve, I've lost some weight (still a long way to go) but I want to be able to have one biscuit/cookie or chocolate and be happy that I'm not going back for one handful.

I want to be one of the people saying they are happy because they can have what they want - just in moderation, that losing weight makes them feel happier than the food and that nothing tastes as good as skinny feels - I'm really not there yet, and sometimes doubt I ever will be.

But I can hope

Eat what you want... Just in a more responsible way.

What was it that silly cross-eyed model said? "Nothing tastes as good as being skinny feels"? She was completely wrong. Nothing tastes as good as pizza, and banana bread, and other goodies in moderation feels.

If you ate the whole thing, you would've made yourself sick.

i dont understand the question

Your contribution isn't needed then. Whoopydoo for you that you don't experience this, aren't you wholesome an everything.

That's a little harsh. Everyone on this site has had issues with food at one time or another. The ones you are directing your comment at, are the people who have found a way to have treats, but not binge on them. That's a skill that everyone must learn to lose the weight and KEEP it off. We have ALL experienced this and more.

The OP has obviously learned that and is in the process of working through the feeling she has about not being able to have the whole loaf of banana bread. Good for her. She may be sad now, but the future healthy her is cheering her on every minute of every day.

This is getting ridiculous. Why did the person who you say DID understand the question say she DIDN'T understand the question in the first place?

Yours, genuinely confused,

Hildy, Liverpool

exactly. Sorry if i overeacted, but come on, this person wasn't sayng'hey i used to experience that but now i found a way to overcome it, which i will tell you...'. They were saying 'Huuuh? I don't even begin to understand about this 'wanting to eat more than is good for you' thing you speak of.' If they don't understand the issue, then their contribution don't help.It seemed like only a boast to me. But sorry if I overeacted, if is hard to convey sentiment online sometimes, so maybe we both picked each other up wrong.

Here is what she said: "What I meant was - why do you feel that you are giving everything up - when it is obvious that you understand and allow yourself to still have some of these things? You are right to just have smaller portions. I totally get how sometimes you just want to eat the whole thing. But you're not really denying yourself from having these things ever again - if you are actually letting yourself just have smaller portions.

self-control and moderation are beautiful and Im glad you are on the right track "

Sorry you're both confused. I understood the point she was making and I agree with it. My contribution and her contribution to the thread were meant to share what works and to congratulate her on getting over the hurtle of the mindless eating that some of us do. I don't come into threads to just attack other posters.

Yep.

Have to ditch the turkey sammich I was going to eat for supper because the turkey has too much sodium in it.

It's never the calories I can't fit in, it's the f***ing sodium. HBP sucks.

i dont understand the question

Your contribution isn't needed then. Whoopydoo for you that you don't experience this, aren't you wholesome an everything.

That's a little harsh. Everyone on this site has had issues with food at one time or another. The ones you are directing your comment at, are the people who have found a way to have treats, but not binge on them. That's a skill that everyone must learn to lose the weight and KEEP it off. We have ALL experienced this and more.

The OP has obviously learned that and is in the process of working through the feeling she has about not being able to have the whole loaf of banana bread. Good for her. She may be sad now, but the future healthy her is cheering her on every minute of every day.

This is getting ridiculous. Why did the person who you say DID understand the question say she DIDN'T understand the question in the first place?

Yours, genuinely confused,

Hildy, Liverpool

exactly. Sorry if i overeacted, but come on, this person wasn't sayng'hey i used to experience that but now i found a way to overcome it, which i will tell you...'. They were saying 'Huuuh? I don't even begin to understand about this 'wanting to eat more than is good for you' thing you speak of.' If they don't understand the issue, then their contribution don't help.It seemed like only a boast to me. But sorry if I overeacted, if is hard to convey sentiment online sometimes, so maybe we both picked each other up wrong.

Here is what she said: "What I meant was - why do you feel that you are giving everything up - when it is obvious that you understand and allow yourself to still have some of these things? You are right to just have smaller portions. I totally get how sometimes you just want to eat the whole thing. But you're not really denying yourself from having these things ever again - if you are actually letting yourself just have smaller portions.

self-control and moderation are beautiful and Im glad you are on the right track "

Sorry you're both confused. I understood the point she was making and I agree with it. My contribution and her contribution to the thread were meant to share what works and to congratulate her on getting over the hurtle of the mindless eating that some of us do. I don't come into threads to just attack other posters.

OK.... so was the 'I don't understand the question' comment not a boast, or a put-down, do you think? Why didn't she say the second, reasonable thing first. The first thing was just meaningless... or at least open to interpretation. I'm English, is that what Americans say to be snarky: 'I don't understand the question'. If you said that here, you'd get somebody politely explaining it to you at great length. We are a literal people.

Back to confused now :sad:

It's not that you "can't" eat that way any more... You never could in the first place. Look where it got you.

Does it ever make you SAD that you can't eat whatever you want???

We are all different but I'm never sad about not being able to eat whatever I want in whatever amounts I want to eat it. Being fat made me sad.

You are not alone. I had a coworker who underwent gastric stapling in order to lose weight. She did lose weight and was very happy with that, but it was 8-9 months before she was allowed to eat "real" food, and, obviously, even when she could eat real food, it would never be the way it was before she had surgery. There will be a period of grieving for the "Old Way." I asked my coworker how this fetl to her. She said that, indeed there was a mourning period of a (forced, intentional) lost lifestyle. I confront that on a daily basis and I wonder when I will be able to adopt the beneficial habits and forget about yummy stuff. It is sad that we have to discard the practice of eating just because it tastes good and just for the sake of tasting. The sensory input we get from food is what many of us get caught up in and don't stop because we like that more than the fact that food is supposed to be sustanence more than a source of pleasure. It needs to be pleasurable for us to want to eat to sustain ourselves, but we need to find other ways to stimulate our senses. I know it's difficult. I struggle with it, too.

You are not alone. I had a coworker who underwent gastric stapling in order to lose weight. She did lose weight and was very happy with that, but it was 8-9 months before she was allowed to eat "real" food, and, obviously, even when she could eat real food, it would never be the way it was before she had surgery. There will be a period of grieving for the "Old Way." I asked my coworker how this fetl to her. She said that, indeed there was a mourning period of a (forced, intentional) lost lifestyle. I confront that on a daily basis and I wonder when I will be able to adopt the beneficial habits and forget about yummy stuff. It is sad that we have to discard the practice of eating just because it tastes good and just for the sake of tasting. The sensory input we get from food is what many of us get caught up in and don't stop because we like that more than the fact that food is supposed to be sustanence more than a source of pleasure. It needs to be pleasurable for us to want to eat to sustain ourselves, but we need to find other ways to stimulate our senses. I know it's difficult. I struggle with it, too.

This is one of my main reasons why i'd not consider gastric surgery, to be honest

I totally get what you mean, OP. I sit here right now as my growing teenage son is munching on microwave popcorn, the smell wafting right over to me. My tummy is rumbling. I feel sad and grumpy, and I want to be rude to him, and I just hate that I feel this way.

So just now, I tried filling my senses up with some deep smelling. My son kind of looked at me funny just now as I leaned toward him with nostrils flaring. But whatever.

And now I'm going to go get a drink of water, because I'm thirsty after sniffing all that salty buttery popcorn. Just kidding. I'm going to go drink because water is all I get this late in the evening.