"You're still fat"

One thing I have learnt from loosing weight is there are so many people out there that have such little self esteem that they need to feel better than someone to make themselves feel good.

A quote that I always think of is "Girls compete with one and other, Woman empower one and other."

Keep pushing on because at the end of the day you're getting out there and improving yourself to become the best you can be. When you reach that goal and your fit and fab they will still be as insecure and ugly on the inside.

Don't give the morons the satisfaction. Keep striving for your goals and use this as a fire in your belly to motivate you.

Ahhhh.... to be young and stupid. Use the ugly negative comments, put-downs etc as motivation. Put your game face on - the only person you have to answer to is yourself. Keep in mind... "how do you eat an elephant - one bite at a time. Same deal with weightloss - one bite at a time, one step at a time - slow and steady healthy choices! You are SO MUCH :flowerforyou: much more than your physical appearance.

Some of them may have been fat. It's hard to see their whole bodies in the car window hole. This wasn't so much about your size vs. theirs but more of a crime of opportunity. When I was a girl we used to yell out the window past guys putting gas in their cars wearing tight jeans..."tight butts, drive me nuts". We were a bunch of nerdy academic decathlon girls who liked rhymes and other word games taking the "short bus" to competitions. LOL. Silly, I know. When girls get together like that and get a little freedom they'll say anything to anyone. Unfortunately, they chose you and they chose to be negative. If it had been five minutes earlier it might have been a racial slur to a boy, or a wrinkle joke to an old lady. Their comment speaks VOLUMES about them, and way hay hay less about you. Now, how you interpret it will say a lot about you. Please interpret it as mouth diarrhea from a bunch of teeny bopper's who are full of chet. You are not "still fat", you are lighter than you were last week and lighter than the week before that, and more knowledgeable, and on a roll, and in the starting stages of realizing one of your dreams. That's who you are. Not that other thing wait, what were we talking about? Forget about it. Forget it.

(the proper reply to this is..."forget what?")

This almost brought a tear to my eye. :')

I am 1.5% softer than you...I did get a tear..in each eye. LOVE this! (the original post, not my tears)

You're still fat. But not as fat as you were yesterday. You are fatter than you will be tomorrow. All sounds like compliments to me.

As for those 'cute girls'... someday soon they will get knocked up by some similarly stupid cute guy, have a baby and then get dumped because they are not so cute anymore. They will yo-yo diet for years trying to get back to when they 'used to be a hottie'. One day they will wake up, realize they are 45, fat and alone... with no prospects for the future because while they might lose weight, they have lived their lives as horrible people that no one wants to be around.

You will see them again one day... they will be out exercising and you will be whatever weight you want to be at and see them and give them a look. To you, that look will mean "Keep rocking it sister... you can do it". But being the horrible person they are they will think you are thinking "look at that fattie run".

Karma is a b*tch.

Keep rocking it sister... you're not as fat as you were yesterday and tomorrow is yet to come.

Absolutely, positively, beautifully said.

I wish I could have been there to give them the finger :devil:

Screw those *****es. I mean they probably have way more self esteem issues than you do because I can't think of any reason why someone would want to do that, obviously you are working towards a change. Just let it motivate you more. It is never appropriate or necessary to call someone fat like that, you can say they have lifestyle issues or are overweight if they are someone you care about but outright calling someone you don't know fat like that is ridiculous. Let it motivate you more, someday they could be jealous of you.

people who are unhappy with themselves always try and belittle other people. Keep doing your workouts. There's a special place in hell for people who go out of the way to be mean.

You are doing GREAT!!!!!!!! U R amazing! I just hit 3.5 miles! Don't know what to say but keep up the good work! You will be powerful and healthy and they will be narrow-minded mean girls!!!! xoxoxoxoxoxo

These girls are probably young and stupid and never knew what being over weight is like, karma is a bi*ch though.

Good for you for keep on going, you didn't gain it over night and it won't come off over night but you are beating everyone sitting on the couch. People are cruel and I never understand why it is ever ok to call anyone any names, and especially someone who is obviously trying to do something good for herself.

I'm pretty sure most of us have been through something like this, and no matter how many times I have seen a thread similar to this, it really ticks me off that people are so hateful.

Reminds me of a friend of mine and makes me wonder why more people can't be like him. He was in the gym, seen an over weight family come in who looked new and lost. He said that the mother kept looking at him and she thought that he was judging her and her family and you could see how embarrassed she was. Being over weight and in a gym filled with a lot of fit people, it is intimidating. Well he approached the family, introduced himself and told them how awesome it is to see a family working out together and if they ever needed any help or anything to not hesitate, he's there every day and wouldn't mind helping them. He actually helped them to feel better about being there. I wish more people were like that.

You might still be fat, but they will always be jerks. Keep it up.

Congrats to you on making the 4 miles. That had to feel great. Don't allow shallow people take that feeling away from you. I believe that people who can do or say hateful things like that truly hate themselves and are more unhappy inside than we know. There's just no other explanation for spreading hate if you are a happy person. You are doing something amazing for yourself, taking steps to have a longer, happier, healthier life and you have every reason to be so proud of yourself!! Keep remembering you will come out better in the end of your battle, and they sadly will continue to be unhappy people trying to pull others down. You win in the end every time!! :flowerforyou:

Be proud of your accomplishment! You deserve it. We all have to start somewhere! I just have to shake my head thinking about the incident that happened to you. Unreal. As other people have said... Karma! Keep doing what you're doing and don't let anything stop you!

I appreciate you sharing your story. As you know your experience here at MFP is very important as we all need to here those words of encouragment. What amazes me is that we think because we are fat that we are somehow not as good as those who are skinny.

Im going to say it like I mean it. Skinny doesnt make you a good person. Ive found that skinny people have body image issues too. Trust me!!! when I was skinny I had low self esteem and thought I was fat and when I look back at my old pics. Im like, what I was thinking. Ive gained more confidence from the inside out.

So over the years of going up and down and up and down I had to remember that what I was telling myself was the most important thing. So instead of saying "Im Fat" I say, "Im getting healthier everyday and I love myself enough to do what it takes to reach my health goals."

"It's not about what others think about you, it's about what you think they think." So next time you think someone is laughing just change what your thinking about what they are thinking and laugh yourself to being a better you.

For example, There's some guys your walking by and they bust out laughing as you pass. This is what I tell myself now, " Their just mad that Im taken....Or....They wish they could look this cute." LOL I know it sounds crazy but it's NOT. Trust me it will help you keep your joy. Ultimately you are the only one in control of your happiness. SO ROCK ON. Good Luck on Your Journey!!!!!!