"You're still fat"

mrsduke2924

I'm so sorry you got hurt by shallow, rude people.
They'll still be stupid tomorrow - whereas you'll be one step closer to your goals
you can do this! :flowerforyou:

elainemorris1982

I'm sorry you had to experience that. I have seen this happen alot and straight away I think why did they need to say that, that's the last thing that person needs to hear. They just think its funny - ITS NOT!!. I'm glad you haven't let it effect your goal. U will get there keep at it. I hope writing this has helped you more to deal with this, there are lots people here to support you xxxxx

buzzcockgirl

Something like this happened to my mom, years and years ago, when I was a teenager. My mom always struggled with her weight, thru her whole adult life. Though she never outwardly seemed sad, or unattractive, she was just AWESOME! But I vividly remember weight watchers, and soup diets Jenny Craig and Susan Powter and the books and all of that... Well, one time she came home from jogging in our neighborhood, and was crying. I couldn't believe it-- my mom was STRONG, I rarely saw her cry. When my dad asked what happened, I overheard her telling him that while she was jogging, a car full of teen age boys drove by and yelled 'WHALE!'. And they kept driving by, over and over, yelling at her again and again. I was so sad for my mom, and angry-- that people would be so mean to my mom... or to ANYONE for that fact. It was then and there that I told myself I'd never make fun of anyone for their weight (because I'm sure at that point in my life, being a snarky teen, I had thrown a few insults myself!) Anyways- I still remember it to this day, 25 years later and sadly, 10+ years after losing my mom to breast cancer. I would give anything to have her back...and when I think about that- it pisses me off all over again!
So to you- be strong, glad to hear it wont deter you. And I agree with the other posters here-- they were probably just trying to hide their own insecurities. You keep doing what you know is good for YOU. And don't let those sh*tty people bring you down.

mlwalke

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

Eleanor Roosevelt

edreyrey

Congrats on all of the progress! You're doing great! Don't ever give up. Use their negative energy to make you stronger. Get mad, get motivated. I remember all the laughs that people had at my expense because I couldn't tie my shoe, because I couldn't get off the couch, because I have man boobs and for many other reasons and I use that energy and turn it around. We are all equal, no one is better than anyone else.

You want to know why they laugh at you? It's because they are filthy wh0res who don't have a shred of descency. They have some opinion that they are better than you and they are not! If they are lucky, they will realize how much damage they have done to others, they will feel pain for all the wrong they have done in their life. I am gussing that their life is so bad that they need to make some beautiful women feel bad for wanting to improve.

keep up the good work and never ever give up!

F those B's!

MrsFowler1069

Congratulations on your progress so far. I'm glad you got this off your chest if you felt you needed to, but the truth is, you sound like you've already got this under control. Today's a new day. Keep up the great work!

irisheyez718

Some people just suck! Congrats on all of your hard work, you're doing great!

susieoj

Your story just made me tear up, that's absolutely inexcusable behavior on their part. You are the better person and cruelty like that most likely comes from a place of their own misery but don't let it hurt you for even another second. Move forward and remember to take in the beauty of every day.

Mr_Excitement

OP, that is incredibly ****ty-- what a bunch of *kitten*.

For what it's worth, I would've given you encouragement in the same situation, and I expect there are a lot more in that camp than the *kitten* camp. I'm always impressed with the people I see on the road who are working to get in shape-- especially if they have a fair amount to lose. It takes a lot of commitment and it's hard not to respect that.

karolinacorrea

What this makes me think is that these people are so empty inside that the only good thing they have is their skinny bodies that they got without working hard. The only way they feel better about themselves is undermining people, they desperately cling to that. I pity them, once their body is gone, they will have nothing.

You are much more than that. You recognize your own value and you work hard on achieving your goals. Love yourself and keep up the good work. Some time from now you will look back and smile at this.

KisaraKaiba

I will never understand what makes people go out of their way to do or say something cruel to another human being. It is utter non-sense and I am so sorry that you happened to cross paths with such @$$hats.

You've made awesome progress so far and will continue to do so. At the end of the day, it's all for you anyway. No matter what you look like, some one will always have a negative thing to say about it - no one is perfect. So keep pushing for what really matters - your health, happiness, and well-being.

xxmarysmxx

I am so sad that happened to you. Keep moving and keep jogging at those red lights.. We all will be cheering you on!

Munchkin73113

Great for you on the 4 miles! I agree with the "Karma" comments, but seriously, take pride in the fact that you want to change and are working very hard. Some of the most beautiful women I know are the most UGLY on the inside...Don't let anyone steal your thunder! Great job and keep it up!

ken_hogan

I know the feeling...At least the way I am, something like that would bother me for days. BUT remember that you ARE doing a GREAT job for even going out there and doing what you are doing. Like others I have read, karma will come around sometime but I hope the support you are getting here will help you out to move past this incident. KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK...you ARE worth it!!

klaff411

I have to share something that I have kept secret for a few days.
For the first time last friday, I actually got to the 4 mile mark during my walk. This was a huge, huge, huge accomplishment for me. All of my MFP friends know that I am about 100 pounds over- weight, but I have been working very hard and I am dedicated to being a better me. I am down 15 pounds and will probably hit 16 this week. With that said, I was at the end of my walk last Friday and I turned around to head back home. I came to a stop light. While at the stop light, I didn’t want my heart rate to drop, so I did a slow jog. I am not the most graceful person and I know that I am a sight to see when trying to run. But I was doing my best and I was proud of myself. While I was waiting at the light, a car full of cute “skinny” girls pulled up to the stop light. They rolled the windows down and made an effort to make sure I knew they were laughing at me. When the light turned green and they began to drive off, the person closest to me yelled, “You’re still fat”. I immediately stopped in my tracks and slumped over in sadness. How could people that I don’t even know steal my joy? How could people that I don’t even know be so cruel? Why did they even care? Why make the effort to go out of their way to be hurtful? I just don’t understand. This incident didn’t deter me. I am still just as focused on my goals as ever. But I can’t deny that it had an effect on me. When I got home and looked in the mirror, I said to myself, “you ARE still fat”. Sometimes the truth hurts. I obviously have a weight problem. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be doing this. But it is amazing how words either positive or negative can change your outlook. I don’t know what my point is here. I just want everyone to know that when you say “good job” or “you can do it”, it means more to me than you will ever know. Words are powerful. I won’t drop a bunch of cliché’s and antidotes in this situation because you probably have heard them all. I wasn’t even going to mention this to my MFP community, but I decided that getting it out would allow me to move on. I found a great quote. See below and be nice to each other. =0)

“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.” ~Shirley MacLaine

Where the hell do you live? I would have walked up to the car and pulled the driver out and kicked her ****en teeth out. Then got in the driver's seat and had a nice little chat. I bet you ****en money they would have never even looked your way again.

See that *kitten* doesn't happen in NJ. You would die. People here are not tolerant of that kind of thing.

Myhaloslipped

What a bunch of *****es. So sorry that happened to you. Just feel sorry for them and lucky for yourself because you can always change your outer appearance, but they will always be rotten inside.

SueMizZou

You have to wonder who raised these idiots. Did they learn nothing? I like the idea of karma and know that paybacks are hell.

For a long time I had a plaque on my desk that read " illegitimi non carborundum." It looks like latin but it isn't really. The sentiment is "don't let the b*st**ds wear you down." It's good advice that always made me smile. Keep at it, you are not trying to please anyone but yourself

lithezebra

That comment had nothing to do with you. I'm just sorry that you crossed paths with a car full of pathetic people. If you pray, pray for them. You're doing fine and you're on the path to better health. They're the ones who need help.

Myhaloslipped

I have to share something that I have kept secret for a few days.
For the first time last friday, I actually got to the 4 mile mark during my walk. This was a huge, huge, huge accomplishment for me. All of my MFP friends know that I am about 100 pounds over- weight, but I have been working very hard and I am dedicated to being a better me. I am down 15 pounds and will probably hit 16 this week. With that said, I was at the end of my walk last Friday and I turned around to head back home. I came to a stop light. While at the stop light, I didn’t want my heart rate to drop, so I did a slow jog. I am not the most graceful person and I know that I am a sight to see when trying to run. But I was doing my best and I was proud of myself. While I was waiting at the light, a car full of cute “skinny” girls pulled up to the stop light. They rolled the windows down and made an effort to make sure I knew they were laughing at me. When the light turned green and they began to drive off, the person closest to me yelled, “You’re still fat”. I immediately stopped in my tracks and slumped over in sadness. How could people that I don’t even know steal my joy? How could people that I don’t even know be so cruel? Why did they even care? Why make the effort to go out of their way to be hurtful? I just don’t understand. This incident didn’t deter me. I am still just as focused on my goals as ever. But I can’t deny that it had an effect on me. When I got home and looked in the mirror, I said to myself, “you ARE still fat”. Sometimes the truth hurts. I obviously have a weight problem. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be doing this. But it is amazing how words either positive or negative can change your outlook. I don’t know what my point is here. I just want everyone to know that when you say “good job” or “you can do it”, it means more to me than you will ever know. Words are powerful. I won’t drop a bunch of cliché’s and antidotes in this situation because you probably have heard them all. I wasn’t even going to mention this to my MFP community, but I decided that getting it out would allow me to move on. I found a great quote. See below and be nice to each other. =0)

“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.” ~Shirley MacLaine

Where the hell do you live? I would have walked up to the car and pulled the driver out and kicked her ****en teeth out. See that **** doesn't happen in NJ. That's what people would do to you.

Haha yeah that isn't too smart to do to someone here in Detroit either.

SPPutnam

You may still be fat, but at least you can lose weight. Sadly, they will always have an ugly heart unless Jesus transforms their life. Stand tall. YOU are doing great!

LorinaLynn

I'm typically completely oblivious when I'm running, beyond basic safety and being able to hear traffic. But even at my thinnest, I still had some rude comments. My brother has it worse. He's had people throw rocks at him, question his orientation, and just the other day, loudly exclaim that his favorite football team (he was wearing their sweatshirt) sucks. They *do* suck, but I wouldn't yell it at him.

My point... some people are horrible human beings. You're not. Don't let their meanness bring you down.

likearadiowave

I have to share something that I have kept secret for a few days.
For the first time last friday, I actually got to the 4 mile mark during my walk. This was a huge, huge, huge accomplishment for me. All of my MFP friends know that I am about 100 pounds over- weight, but I have been working very hard and I am dedicated to being a better me. I am down 15 pounds and will probably hit 16 this week. With that said, I was at the end of my walk last Friday and I turned around to head back home. I came to a stop light. While at the stop light, I didn’t want my heart rate to drop, so I did a slow jog. I am not the most graceful person and I know that I am a sight to see when trying to run. But I was doing my best and I was proud of myself. While I was waiting at the light, a car full of cute “skinny” girls pulled up to the stop light. They rolled the windows down and made an effort to make sure I knew they were laughing at me. When the light turned green and they began to drive off, the person closest to me yelled, “You’re still fat”. I immediately stopped in my tracks and slumped over in sadness. How could people that I don’t even know steal my joy? How could people that I don’t even know be so cruel? Why did they even care? Why make the effort to go out of their way to be hurtful? I just don’t understand. This incident didn’t deter me. I am still just as focused on my goals as ever. But I can’t deny that it had an effect on me. When I got home and looked in the mirror, I said to myself, “you ARE still fat”. Sometimes the truth hurts. I obviously have a weight problem. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be doing this. But it is amazing how words either positive or negative can change your outlook. I don’t know what my point is here. I just want everyone to know that when you say “good job” or “you can do it”, it means more to me than you will ever know. Words are powerful. I won’t drop a bunch of cliché’s and antidotes in this situation because you probably have heard them all. I wasn’t even going to mention this to my MFP community, but I decided that getting it out would allow me to move on. I found a great quote. See below and be nice to each other. =0)

“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.” ~Shirley MacLaine

Jealousy. They just want to take your happiness and leave you with nothing.

No one can steal your happiness unless you let them.

klaff411

I have to share something that I have kept secret for a few days.
For the first time last friday, I actually got to the 4 mile mark during my walk. This was a huge, huge, huge accomplishment for me. All of my MFP friends know that I am about 100 pounds over- weight, but I have been working very hard and I am dedicated to being a better me. I am down 15 pounds and will probably hit 16 this week. With that said, I was at the end of my walk last Friday and I turned around to head back home. I came to a stop light. While at the stop light, I didn’t want my heart rate to drop, so I did a slow jog. I am not the most graceful person and I know that I am a sight to see when trying to run. But I was doing my best and I was proud of myself. While I was waiting at the light, a car full of cute “skinny” girls pulled up to the stop light. They rolled the windows down and made an effort to make sure I knew they were laughing at me. When the light turned green and they began to drive off, the person closest to me yelled, “You’re still fat”. I immediately stopped in my tracks and slumped over in sadness. How could people that I don’t even know steal my joy? How could people that I don’t even know be so cruel? Why did they even care? Why make the effort to go out of their way to be hurtful? I just don’t understand. This incident didn’t deter me. I am still just as focused on my goals as ever. But I can’t deny that it had an effect on me. When I got home and looked in the mirror, I said to myself, “you ARE still fat”. Sometimes the truth hurts. I obviously have a weight problem. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be doing this. But it is amazing how words either positive or negative can change your outlook. I don’t know what my point is here. I just want everyone to know that when you say “good job” or “you can do it”, it means more to me than you will ever know. Words are powerful. I won’t drop a bunch of cliché’s and antidotes in this situation because you probably have heard them all. I wasn’t even going to mention this to my MFP community, but I decided that getting it out would allow me to move on. I found a great quote. See below and be nice to each other. =0)

“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.” ~Shirley MacLaine

Where the hell do you live? I would have walked up to the car and pulled the driver out and kicked her ****en teeth out. See that **** doesn't happen in NJ. That's what people would do to you.

Haha yeah that isn't too smart to do to someone here in Detroit either.

You never know. People are ****en psychos. I got chased down by some chicks once over a cab.

LishLash79

I completely understand how you feel.. I have had this happen to me more then once.. and it sucks.. for a long time I only ran or walked at night.. then I invested in a good pair of headphones to drown it all out. You are making an effort, you are doing great. I would hear the comments and then after a while I learned to say to myself, "Im out here, doing it, not sitting around at home, so who cares"

keep it up.. you are worth it you are doing great.. keep it up

justaloozer

The only person you need to be listening too is yourself so keep up with positive self talk and you will continue to see successes! Great job!!!

Exactly this. Screw them. Don't give them any power over you. They are insignificant in your life and their stupidity can not take anything away from your amazing accomplishments.

Elliesque

Honestly, I am so proud of you- and I don't even know you! Any time I see anyone jogging/walking/moving while I am driving by, I think in my head "YOU GO GIRL (or boy)!!"- and I get even more happy when I see people who have some weight to lose working it. Ignore those silly little girls and keep up the good work. You are better than them!

I have encountered more people who will give me a thumbs up, a wave, a smile, etc when they see me walking/hiking. And I do the same when I see someone (fat or thin) doing something to better themselves and their health. It's horrible that there are people being mean/cruel to someone who is actually up off their butt and doing something!

danasings

I am at a healthy weight and people still yell rude comments out car windows at me. It happened yesterday, in fact.

This world is full of disgusting excuses for human beings, and it's also filled with supportive, wonderful people. Try your best to tune out the former and focus in on the latter. And congratulations on reaching your four mile goal!! :flowerforyou:

mrsfoster102613

Shame on them. How cruel and awful of them to steal your excitement and sense of accomplishment. I don't even know you, but I'm very proud of you!

I struggled with being underweight in my youth. Kids were cruel to me then, especially the boys. It was something I grew out of (obviously as I'm working on losing a few more pounds and building muscle), but it hurt terribly then. It never feels good to be made fun of for your weight, especially when you're working on changing it.

Even though it probably still stings, you're doing great not focusing on it too much. You may still be "fat," but you're working on it. Their cruel behavior will define them forever, but your weight doesn't have to define you.

Much love and keep up the hard work!

~Andrea

EllieKish

I am so sorry that happened to you!!! Those girls probably have so many issues that they don't want/can't deal that only knocking someone else down makes them feel better.

They say everything happens for a reason, and not saying that what happened was right by any means........but it brought me to tears to see how much love and support you really have from everyone on here. Those girls don't mean nothing, some of the people on here (me included) don't personally know you, but we care about you and are so excited to see that you are doing such a great job. The next time someone says something like that - which unfortunately they will, remember you have a community of friends that love and support you And I bet those mean girls don't have anyone but each other - and how sucky is it to only have cruel friends....they are the sad ones!

Keep up your great work.

sepulchura

Goal I would rather hang out with you than those skinny twits in the car any day, keep up the good work and realize those chicks are going to turn 40 and be very very very lonely one day (unless they change their ways), while the rest of us happy people enjoy our loved ones and good times.