"You're still fat"

darrensurrey

I've had a few moments to think about this further.

You should feel sorry for her. I cannot imagine ever wanting to shout that out to someone who is trying to change their life for the better - when I see someone such as yourself out jogging I want to shout, "YES!!" (but I don't because this is Britain and the jogger will no doubt think I'm taking the piss). I can only assume she is so miserable inside that she feels the need to ruin a complete stranger's day.

CTCMom2009

Honestly, I am so proud of you- and I don't even know you! Any time I see anyone jogging/walking/moving while I am driving by, I think in my head "YOU GO GIRL (or boy)!!"- and I get even more happy when I see people who have some weight to lose working it. Ignore those silly little girls and keep up the good work. You are better than them!

^^^ This... those girls have bigger issues than trying to lose weight! You keep up the great work!

Ophidion

PS It doesn't matter if you are over weight or not, people might and most probably will say insulting comments and unsolicited advice because it is usually a reflection of their short comings.

ETA: Also some people just suck!

Mother_Superior

Watch something motivatioonal, get your mind on anything else and do your best to forget about it. You know you've done well, and that's what matters. Focus on victories, and only let your set backs serve as more motivation to win.

joselo2

You ignore those nasty spiteful people. You shuld feel good and proud. Partly because of the good you doing for yourself, and partly just because you a human being, worthy of respect and dignity!

I have lost 60lbs but am still classed as super morbidly obese. People got their clever comment,s but I try to remember this- The things they do and day reflect badly on THEM not me. Horribke people.

*hugs* so sorry this happened, lovely xxxxxx

Eleonora91

I have to share something that I have kept secret for a few days.
For the first time last friday, I actually got to the 4 mile mark during my walk. This was a huge, huge, huge accomplishment for me. All of my MFP friends know that I am about 100 pounds over- weight, but I have been working very hard and I am dedicated to being a better me. I am down 15 pounds and will probably hit 16 this week. With that said, I was at the end of my walk last Friday and I turned around to head back home. I came to a stop light. While at the stop light, I didn’t want my heart rate to drop, so I did a slow jog. I am not the most graceful person and I know that I am a sight to see when trying to run. But I was doing my best and I was proud of myself. While I was waiting at the light, a car full of cute “skinny” girls pulled up to the stop light. They rolled the windows down and made an effort to make sure I knew they were laughing at me. When the light turned green and they began to drive off, the person closest to me yelled, “You’re still fat”. I immediately stopped in my tracks and slumped over in sadness. How could people that I don’t even know steal my joy? How could people that I don’t even know be so cruel? Why did they even care? Why make the effort to go out of their way to be hurtful? I just don’t understand. This incident didn’t deter me. I am still just as focused on my goals as ever. But I can’t deny that it had an effect on me. When I got home and looked in the mirror, I said to myself, “you ARE still fat”. Sometimes the truth hurts. I obviously have a weight problem. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be doing this. But it is amazing how words either positive or negative can change your outlook. I don’t know what my point is here. I just want everyone to know that when you say “good job” or “you can do it”, it means more to me than you will ever know. Words are powerful. I won’t drop a bunch of cliché’s and antidotes in this situation because you probably have heard them all. I wasn’t even going to mention this to my MFP community, but I decided that getting it out would allow me to move on. I found a great quote. See below and be nice to each other. =0)

“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.” ~Shirley MacLaine

Wish it wasn't immoral and illegal to beat someone because of this. oops.

lainie644

They do it because we let them. Girls like that don't know any better; they are shallow minded. If you are a believer, then pray for them. Their problems go deeper than our weight challenges. It also probably affected you because you are working hard to get to a healthy weight. Just don't dwell on shallow minded people. You know what you want and you know how to get there. Keep up the good work. Elaine.

smerkord

Some people just like to heckle and they will find a reason. When I am out running, I get swerved at, yelled at, people try to startle me, people throw stuff out the windows. I guess it brings them joy. I went a few years just hearing about incidents like these, but recently they happen to me at least once a month.

Ripcode

Take what they said and use it to fuel you to your goals!!

conniemaxwell5

I love the Shirley MacLaine quote. It is so very true. You're doing the right thing, coming to your support system to vent and move on. You can lose all the weight in the world and miserable people will find something to criticize about you or anyone else who happens to be within their crosshairs at the moment. That's what miserable people do, try to make others more miserable than they are.

Don't let ANYTHING or ANYONE deter you from your goals. Don't let this get in the way of you getting out tomorrow and walking another 4 miles or jogging across an intersection. Hold your head high because you are working toward something to better yourself. Look at the world around you - not many people are doing that these days. Be proud of your 15 pounds so far and keep moving toward that 100 pound goal. You have what it takes and no one can take that away from you!

Kadoober

Oh man... It's hard not to hate people sometimes. However, when I get mad at stuff like this (and your story brought tears to my eyes), it quickly turns to pity. It's got to be hard, being raised so poorly that you have such little compassion for humanity. Poor souls.

You, on the other hand, are amazing, you're taking the bull by the horns, grabbing control of your life, and reaping the benefits. I salute YOU!

I think that from now on, when I see someone out there moving their buns, that instead of giving them a mental fist pump, I am going to just let them, out loud, know that they are kicking butt.

Nilasaurus

This almost brought a tear to my eye. :')

FancyPantsFran

Keep doing what you are doing... 4 miles is a HUGE accomplishment. Mean *****y girls suck but Karmas is a bigger *****!!

levicrouch

If its not in your playlist already, add it and crank it! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oz_-VaTHpc8).

"Get, that, dirt off your shoulder"

JennafurC

Thats terrible. If people would just be nice instead of going out of their way to be nasty, the world would be such a better place. When I see people running I always think to myself "you go girl/boy" - yesterday I was out for a hilly run and someone yelled across the street to me "RUN GIRL RUN" and it was awesome - there should be more people like her instead of the group of skinny girls who are just mean. You are stronger than them, skinny and fit are not synonyms like many people think they are. You are also mentally stronger because you are going to keep going and let us MFP friends into your head while pushing the negatives out. You can do it, everyone can. Keep going and prove the naysayers wrong.

nicoleisme

I don't understand why people go out of their way to be so mean either. But one thing I'm pretty sure of, those girls must not work out. Because personally when I go to the gym or when I go jog outside I love seeing anyone no matter what they look like or what "level" they're at working hard to change themselves. It motivates me more to keep going, I can't run a mile in under 11 minutes, so if people laugh at how slow I am going at my usual 14 minute mile then that's fine because I'm just proud of myself for not being on the couch. I have nothing but respect for people who are doing more than sitting around, because they obviously respect themselves enough to want to change and feel good, be healthy.
Keep up the hard work and listen to all the great choice of words many people above me have said!

Mcgrawhaha

seriously, do you realize how unhappy they have to be in their own lives, to have the need to go out of their way to try to hurt someone they dont even know? a normal, secure, and high-functioning adult wouldnt have the desire or time to roll down the window and make such a childish comment. dont let it get you down, let it open your heart to feel bad for people like her. she may look awesome on the outside, but her insides must be torn to shreds... people like that will never be happy, will never be content, and will never feel whole. you will! your beauty, body, and over all looks cant follow you to the grave, but your reputation will, so keep your chin up, keep doing what your doing, and pity the people like her!

Robin_Bin

How cruel! But keep working at it and you'll have a healthy body to support the rest of your life. And unless they make similarly hard changes, they'll still be pathetic people who cut down others in a futile effort to make themselves feel better.

You've made wonderful progress! Know that there are many people here who feel the pain and wish you the best -- many more than the number of crude and cruel girls in the car. Four miles! You earned that pride and joy in your accomplishment, let that be the feeling that stays with you!

_Bajiggity

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sunshyncatra

That is horrible. I'm so sorry that happened to you, but I'm glad you won't let it deter you.

Congrats on the four miles!

IamUndrCnstruction

So sorry to hear you had to go through that. As someone with probably about another 50 pounds to lose I know how hard it is to even start, let alone work through the small mindedness of little people (and I mean little in the mean spirited hurtful sense). You keep going!!! You keep doing it for you! In the same day I had two young women (because they sure were NOT ladies) sneer and laugh at me as I drug my oxygen tank behind me on my nightly walk, I also had a young gentleman say that he sees me walking every night and wanted to say "keep it up cause he can tell I am getting better!"

shadus

You seem like you have a good attitude about it overall and you're right-- moving on and not dwelling on it is the right answer.

Don't feel to bad about them though, they're just concerned that when you're a few pounds lighter that their boyfriends will be chasing you instead of them... they certainly are far to vapid and superficial to bother with in any serious manner... and they obviously know it and want to discourage potential competition.

Keep Calm and Carry On.

gailmelanie

I'm not nearly as big as you, but I'm not skinny, either. I've had more men make derogatory remarks about my body, especially when I'm in the gym. They make it sound like I should be there to be their eye-candy, not improving my fitness. But how else will I become eye-candy?! So, ignore mean, skinny twits and keep doing what you're doing. I realize it really must be a sight to see you jogging, but I would still be admiring and encouraging if I were to encounter you. I cheer your progress and determination.

lysslax

No one has the right to tear you down. Screw those girls, you're amazing!!! Congratulations on the 4 mile mark - that's a huge accomplishment and you should be really proud!!!

You got this :-)

also karma.

JWB42

I can understand the hurtful feelings you had at the comment. I CAN'T IMAGINE hollering anything out my car window to any body whether it's mean or not. It's obvious they are very immature and don't have a clue what you are accomplishing. Congrats on the 15 lbs lost!! That's so GREAT!! And I loved the quote you put on there, I wrote it down and am going to post it at work for myself. Let's hope Karma hits those bimbos right between the eyes. We ALL have improvements to make on ourselves. THEY NEED PERSONALITY IMPROVEMENTS!
Also, 4 miles!! YOU ARE ROCKING IT!! I need to lose a lot more weight and would love another MFP friend. I've sent you a request. Hope you have room for me!:bigsmile:

alt1268

Sorry you were subjected to such mindless, arrogant, *kitten*-oles. Just keep up what your doing, they don't know you and they don't know what is inside. We are here for you and we know what your going through and how hard this journey is. Support is yours my friend.

DonaGail

Yeah, I get you. Im a delivery driver in a small town and a guy in (there were two in the cab) a county truck yell out "if you ran more, you wouldnt be so fat!" as I ran to make a delivery up the sidewalk on main street. Mortifying. I pulled up my big girl panties and chased down his truck, got the number and reported him, but still..ouch.

Years ago it destroyed me when these things would happen, and they have happened to me a lot. Once I decided to ride a bike for exercize and a car full of guys pulled up and said some horrible things. I put the bike away and never looked at it again until I placed it on the curb. They won. Some jerks with nothing better to do.

A few years later I was delivering a package and after the door closed I heard the guys inside talking, yeah she was pretty but is really fat..I said very loud as I walked away "Im fat, not deaf you *kitten*!" Not real professional but hey, a girl has her limits.

You know which ones dont hurt as much? The two where I reacted and let them know it wasnt ok and they didnt crush me...especially the time I reported the county guy.

I guess as Ive gotten older and figured out that other people have agendas and issues that I will never change, but by not letting it tear me up too bad, I win. Yes, easier said than done but Im a work in progress too.

Congratulations on your progress! That is outstanding that you walked so far with a lot of extra weight on you, I am in the same boat and know its not easy to do. Soon we will both be skipping our much lighter bottoms up the road and damned what anyone has to say about it!!

fat2strongbeth

Thank you for sharing this! Brought tears to my eyes.

seltzermint555

If its not in your playlist already, add it and crank it! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oz_-VaTHpc8).

"Get, that, dirt off your shoulder"

Love it.

Also, I agree with the person who said it's always gonna be something. If you're overweight they will call you fat. If you're skinny someone will yell that you should eat a cheeseburger. My friend was walking with her 7 yr old son and baby niece in a stroller and someone screamed out of their car at her "F-ing stupid b

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soccer mom!" and threw a fast food cup at her.

eso2012

WTF??!!! I am glad the incident has not deterred you. By posting here I think you are still bothered a bit by it and please remember that is NORMAL. When we are on our journey, we can be positive and negative, happy and sad, brave and sensitive, all at the same time.

It's great for you to remember that there are decent people who would support you.

As for those ignorant morons, karma will take care of them

Take care!