EVERYONE IS NOT HAPPY FOR ME

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  • Female_On_Fire
    Female_On_Fire Posts: 104 Member
    I prefer to not say anything at all to anyone. It's better when they say it on their own. Don't worry about what anyone else says or thinks anyways. You Need to love and accept you.
  • shabrick00
    shabrick00 Posts: 141 Member
    I prefer to not say anything at all to anyone. It's better when they say it on their own. Don't worry about what anyone else says or thinks anyways. You Need to love and accept you.
    INDEED!!
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  • bunnybutler29
    bunnybutler29 Posts: 291
    There is a huge difference. You look happier, more radiant and your face looks slimmer. Whatever your doin keep doing it. Ignore what others say. Some people just don't know how to give compliments and some well they are just down right ignorant or jealous.
  • wildchildzoom
    wildchildzoom Posts: 5 Member
    I have a very evil coworker who i dont ask for advice or her opinion, she just gives it from accusing me to being pregnant and not telling the office to mentioning how tight my clothes fit or how my double chin looked.

    Asking people's opinion about your weight loss will just lead to annoying comments, It is very obvious looking at your pictures that you did lose weight, you are glowing in the left side picture too. Just dont ask that coworker anymore. She is miserable and wants to bring you down.
  • nippoleon
    nippoleon Posts: 43 Member
    I don't see how it's rude to comment on the fact that those are two entirely different pictures. It doesn't mean that they're not happy for you. They're commenting that they do not (yet) feel that they see a difference and give you a valid reason why they're finding it difficult. The fact that you're not getting the answer you wanted to hear doesn't mean the answer they gave is rude.

    Chill.
  • shabrick00
    shabrick00 Posts: 141 Member
    I don't see how it's rude to comment on the fact that those are two entirely different pictures. It doesn't mean that they're not happy for you. They're commenting that they do not (yet) feel that they see a difference and give you a valid reason why they're finding it difficult. The fact that you're not getting the answer you wanted to hear doesn't mean the answer they gave is rude.

    Chill.
    everyones comparison pics will be entirely different right? one you look thinner and one you dont...and she didnt make any statements that the pictures were different she pretty much said that it looks different only because i held my phone at a different angle...i mean think about it... by head on the before picture is straight forward...I would expect bulging at the neck if my face was in a downward position....on the other picture my head is straight forward there is not way that I could create a double neck by angling and then take it away...some things are just common sense.. I was only trying to encourage this woman becasue she is too struggling with weight loss
  • jessannprice
    jessannprice Posts: 183 Member
    I can see a big difference! Your face and neck are much slimmer!

    Just ignore the rude people. Some people couldn't have happiness for someone else's obvious success if their life depended on it.
  • shabrick00
    shabrick00 Posts: 141 Member
    I can see a big difference! Your face and neck are much slimmer!

    Just ignore the rude people. Some people couldn't have happiness for someone else's obvious success if their life depended on it.
    This is true, Thank you!
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  • shabrick00
    shabrick00 Posts: 141 Member
    take a pic with your head at the same angle as the previous pic to show the haters
    you know, i was considering doing it and with no make up on since i am a professional make up artist who knows how to apply make up to make me look thinner...yeah right...smh
    but I wont dont it because im sure people will have something to say anyway
  • SSCartwright
    SSCartwright Posts: 7
    Whoever she is she needs glasses!!!! You look absolutely fabulous!!!!
  • highervibes
    highervibes Posts: 2,219 Member
    When I started losing it took 25-30lbs for people to notice. If you have a lot to lose like I did, it could take a while. Be patient, it'll happen. I do notice a big difference in the first picture though, but the fact that you look like you're going out in the "after" and you look like you might be getting out in the "before" may skew people's reactions. Just keep on keeping on :) Great work so far!
  • melinda189
    melinda189 Posts: 48
    Just dont waste your time sharing anymore pics w/this coworker/sometimey friend. Just wait for her or your other coworkers to start complimenting you on your weight loss. that way it won't appear that you're fishing for compliments. Great job on your weight loss, you look happy & that truly is all that matters
  • tinaslim
    tinaslim Posts: 48 Member
    Here's what I think....she's totally jealous! I'm talking eat up with jealousy...LOL! You keep doing what you're doing ;)
  • sherrybroadie
    sherrybroadie Posts: 2 Member
    I can tell a difference. Girl, you keep going. I remember when I was 184 lbs. Today? 138. Co-workers can be your worse enemy. Why? Because they are jealous. People are big to not say anything when you constantly eat and gain the weight. When you lose the weight, they have something negative to say. It got to the point where whenever others would bring in a cake or doughnuts, they would come straight to my office, telling me it won't hurt. Trust me, they see it and WISH they could be as successful. KEEP GOING, GIRL! LOOKING GOOD! SMILE
  • shabrick00
    shabrick00 Posts: 141 Member
    Whoever she is she needs glasses!!!! You look absolutely fabulous!!!!
    tHANK YOU!
  • shabrick00
    shabrick00 Posts: 141 Member
    I can tell a difference. Girl, you keep going. I remember when I was 184 lbs. Today? 138. Co-workers can be your worse enemy. Why? Because they are jealous. People are big to not say anything when you constantly eat and gain the weight. When you lose the weight, they have something negative to say. It got to the point where whenever others would bring in a cake or doughnuts, they would come straight to my office, telling me it won't hurt. Trust me, they see it and WISH they could be as successful. KEEP GOING, GIRL! LOOKING GOOD! SMILE
    THANK YOU! :-)
  • shabrick00
    shabrick00 Posts: 141 Member
    Here's what I think....she's totally jealous! I'm talking eat up with jealousy...LOL! You keep doing what you're doing ;)
    THANK YOU!
  • hararayne
    hararayne Posts: 261 Member
    She's a co-worker? I have no idea how long you've been working together, but could it be possible that she was trying to give you a compliment?

    Your 2nd picture, is clearly not as flattering as your first picture. But there is some major angle differences and depending upon how you showed her the picture, maybe she was trying to NOT hurt your feelings.

    I may be WAY off base, but I can kind of see the conversation going something like this...

    Co-Worker: I just wish I could lose weight, but it's so hard and I never see any results!
    You: I lost 13 lbs. Look at my pictures, see a difference? I look WAY better now...I look terrible in the older picture. What do you think?
    Co-Worker: Oh, it could just be the way your positioned in the old pic.


    Now obviously your conversation was quite a bit different, but I highly doubt she was trying to hurt your feelings or negate your excitement about your loss. Also if you lost 13 lbs like your ticker says, and I was your co-worker that saw you every day, I probably wouldn't have noticed the weight loss either. There's this thing I saw...it takes like 15 lbs for you to notice a difference and like 30 lbs for everyone else to notice anything.

    BTW, you look very pretty and healthier and happier in your first pic, so WAY TO GO!
  • pinkncrazee
    pinkncrazee Posts: 47 Member
    Ok. Honest opinion here.

    You look beautiful before AND after. Like I think you're a super beautiful lady - and I commend you on a job well done!!

    But honestly, one of my personal pet peeves is when people (in weight loss ads, TV, MFP, anywhere) have a before photo where they are clearly not looking their absolute best. No makeup, maybe not the cutest hairstyle or outfit they own...stuff like that...and then the after photo is of them at their best, with perfect hair/makeup and so on.

    I do understand that for a lot of people it just has more impact that way. That is why advertisers tend to go that route. And I get it that sometimes if a person has gained a lot of weight they may not be at their best mentally/emotionally and therefore dress less carefully etc. Then when they lose weight and confidence builds, some people are more likely to take more pride in their style and their appearance in general.

    BUT...I love it when people show before/after that has them the "same way" heavier & thinner. Whether natural and casual, or dolled up. To me personally it just has more impact that way and the change seems even more obvious.

    She probably wasn't dolled up, because she didn't feel like a doll! Good on you girl, and I definitely see a big difference!
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    A lot of people respond poorly to obvious fishing for compliments.

    Congratulations on your weight loss.

    Fishing for compliments or proud of her achievement? I feel it's the latter.
  • marilynx
    marilynx Posts: 128 Member
    A lot of people respond poorly to obvious fishing for compliments.

    Congratulations on your weight loss.
    wow that was really rude.....but to address your ignorance (lack of knowledge) I only showed her the pictures to encourage her as she is looking to lose weight as well...I dont need anyone to tell me anything because my measurements and the numbers on my scale are going in the right direction.

    That explains the hater attitude. She wants to lose weight but is having a hard time with it. Some people just don't like seeing other people's successes. If I were you I'd keep your distance from this coworker when it comes to the topic of weight loss. She knows you're losing weight (and it shows). You don't have to encourage her, especially if she's going to be rude about it. Let her come to you when she's ready.
  • meech2sandy
    meech2sandy Posts: 57
    You are Beautiful, and I can definitely tell the difference. Your friend has some jealousy issues.
  • shabrick00
    shabrick00 Posts: 141 Member
    You are Beautiful, and I can definitely tell the difference. Your friend has some jealousy issues.

    Thank You!
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    Ok. Honest opinion here.

    You look beautiful before AND after. Like I think you're a super beautiful lady - and I commend you on a job well done!!

    But honestly, one of my personal pet peeves is when people (in weight loss ads, TV, MFP, anywhere) have a before photo where they are clearly not looking their absolute best. No makeup, maybe not the cutest hairstyle or outfit they own...stuff like that...and then the after photo is of them at their best, with perfect hair/makeup and so on.

    I do understand that for a lot of people it just has more impact that way. That is why advertisers tend to go that route. And I get it that sometimes if a person has gained a lot of weight they may not be at their best mentally/emotionally and therefore dress less carefully etc. Then when they lose weight and confidence builds, some people are more likely to take more pride in their style and their appearance in general.

    BUT...I love it when people show before/after that has them the "same way" heavier & thinner. Whether natural and casual, or dolled up. To me personally it just has more impact that way and the change seems even more obvious.

    She probably wasn't dolled up, because she didn't feel like a doll! Good on you girl, and I definitely see a big difference!

    Yep remember that day, in the post you JUST QUOTED, where I explained that people often don't take "dolled up" photos before because they aren't feeling as confident?

    Yeah that was a nice day.
  • highervibes
    highervibes Posts: 2,219 Member
    I really loathe when people cry "jealousy" lol

    Maybe she doesn't care that you lost 7lbs? MAYBE it's uninteresting? MAYBE? Perhaps? Could it be?
  • Iwishyouwell
    Iwishyouwell Posts: 1,888 Member
    Everybody isn't a "hater". I think this co-worker might be getting needlessly villainized in this thread just because she might not see what you want her to.

    Angle and lighting is everything with photography. I'm a man, and not one who wears makeup, and I've taken selfies 40-50 lbs ago that made my fat *kitten* face look similar to how it legit does today. I could easily see how the before and after pics posted in the OP could be taken the same day, but one look significantly slimmer than the other. It's NOT difficult to hide a double chin and rolly neck if you shoot from the angle you did in the after, particularly since you have a more flattering look and could be sticking out your neck.

    Obviously you know that the size differences are attributed to real weight loss, but it's not unfathomable that somebody else might think they look similar, just with a shift in angle, lighting, makeup, etc.

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