what is the worst thing you have been called?

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  • LoudmouthLee
    LoudmouthLee Posts: 358 Member
    Hi, Everyone.

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    This was me, on national TV, during an episode of Minute to Win It. Scratch it off the bucket list. Was on a game show.

    The internet can be cruel, however... It wasn't that there wasn't a "mean thing" that stuck out in my head, but there were hundreds upon hundreds of comments... ranging from me weighing a thousand pounds to an orca whale... it didn't matter. I knew I was heavy, but I had a great job, a loving family... that's all I needed.

    I wasn't struggling with my weight. I just didn't care.

    Here I am now, about 120 pounds and a ton of muscle later...

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  • I have been called everything mean you can think of.. from a ugly ***** to a Fat ****. Chainsaw lips, ive been told i look like i was ran over like a tractor..

    I been called rude things since i was in 5th grade,
    i can proudly say in the last 2 years my life has dirasctically changed

    People dont really understand just because i'm a bigger size then you , just because i have braces doesnt mean that i dont have feelings. I weighed 130 pounds until i was 14 and was forced to get on birth control.. the weight issue has increased from there..

    But in the mitsed of all the hatred and chaos, I am now the wife to a loving husband and the step mother to a beautiful angel,
    Nothing physical has changed about me. im still 205 pounds
    i still dont wear make up i'm still the same girl, i just dont go around the negative kind of people..
  • kissers84
    kissers84 Posts: 6 Member
    A couch in Chinese.
  • kissers84
    kissers84 Posts: 6 Member
    Yeah I got that, but mine was "Your face is so pretty. If only you were skinny".
  • :mad: SPICK :explode:

    My parents brought my siblings and I to this great country when I was 9-years-old from Cuba... I will forever be grateful because I was giving a home considering we were left out on the streets of Havana, no home, no food, no job, simple because my father was a political prisoner... Keep in mind that my father is Sicilian and as a young man was taking to Cuba by my grandparents where they subsequently passed away and my father was orphaned...

    Thirty-three years ago when we got to the states and started school, the only two language I spoke was Spanish and Italian and even though I was bilingual and I thought then that it was awesome, it turned out that it didn't matter how smart I was much less that I spoke two languages... I was a F@#&ing SPICK... Not necessarily what a child would expect and it did bother me for a long time, but I learned English within 6 months and it was incredibly easy to acclimate to my new home, surroundings, and language because I was a child and I had nothing to worry about...

    Please don't get me wrong, I LOVE THIS GREAT COUNTRY :heart: , It gave me shelter when my own country wouldn't because we weren't worthy... I LOVE The Bill of Rights we all are so privileged to have and my favorite being #1 Freedom of Speech, Religion, and The Press, these three are of most importance because it's what my father and many in my country don't have... I understand that children only repeat what they hear at home and from other children, but it still hurt nonetheless :brokenheart: ... I also understand that racism is something taught and we can teach our children otherwise :smile: ...

    Thanks for reading this long story, it's wasn't meant to be long I just got caught up in the moment :embarassed: ...

    Taking a step at a time to reach my goal always :flowerforyou: ...
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Hi, Everyone.

    photo_10.jpg

    This was me, on national TV, during an episode of Minute to Win It. Scratch it off the bucket list. Was on a game show.

    The internet can be cruel, however... It wasn't that there wasn't a "mean thing" that stuck out in my head, but there were hundreds upon hundreds of comments... ranging from me weighing a thousand pounds to an orca whale... it didn't matter. I knew I was heavy, but I had a great job, a loving family... that's all I needed.

    I wasn't struggling with my weight. I just didn't care.

    Here I am now, about 120 pounds and a ton of muscle later...

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    OH my god...i can't imagine having to endure something like that PUBLICLY! COngratulations on your TV moment bucket list checkmark AND your incredible fitness success. You are amazing!
  • Sassyallday
    Sassyallday Posts: 136 Member
    I am so thankful for everyone who has shared their experience here.

    The comment that hurt me most came from my father. And, while it might sound strange, it never occurred to me that any other father, mother, husband or friend- - -or anyone from whom they had a right to expect caring, would speak to them that way. Deep down, I thought it happened to me- - -alone- - -because I deserved it.

    If I wasn't fat, no one could call me fat, right? I know, intellectually, that doesn't give anyone a reason to be mean. But it's hard to think, in the moment of how to object to a comment about something I am painfully aware is true.

    I am not glad this happened to anyone else. But deeply appreciate everyone being willing to share their experience and the feelings it created. It helps not to feel alone.
  • SemperAnticus1643
    SemperAnticus1643 Posts: 703 Member
    Stupid b*tch wife. lol I was called this by my husband's ex girlfriend with whom he has a child with. I swear she hates me just because my husband and I got married after 1 year together and he never asked her after 5 years.
  • RozayJones
    RozayJones Posts: 409 Member
    My step-daughters mother told them to laugh at me because I had cancer. As you can see in my pic I have a scar from srugeries I had to have to remove it...after picking up my step-daughters one day she said "watch you neck, it makes you ugly"....
    It hurt at the time becasue I was still dealing with the meds and surgeries - after awhile I realize what a sorry person she is and took a lot of time explaining to my step-daughters that cancer is not funny, we read many books together and now they help each year in Relay for Life, donating their time and allowance to find a cure!
  • OoOJennieOoO
    OoOJennieOoO Posts: 14 Member
    I know how you feel, I was taking a test in class and my teacher screamed my name and everyone looked at me and I looked up because he startled me, He told me to put a big fat "O" on my paper because he "caught" me cheating. I wasn't, at all, I have never cheated on a test. I'm not that sneaky! I cried, and I was so embarrassed. this was in high school too :-/
  • OoOJennieOoO
    OoOJennieOoO Posts: 14 Member
    Also, my mother in law says I have a big "pansa" pansa means stomach in spanish.
  • sewerchick93
    sewerchick93 Posts: 1,438 Member
    I was mistaken for my mother once and called by her name......it was horrible!!
  • bam bam bigelow, though I was no where the size of him. I have been called Sausage roll and many other names. But it is all good. Never bothered me to much.
  • When I was younger I was very skinny due to dieting and work outs, I was called anorexic and bulimic, even though I never had an eating disorder. I then put on some weight and those same people started calling me fat and talking about how big my belly is. I've learned to just try and ignore people and have just started working out and eating better for myself.
  • SharonCMach
    SharonCMach Posts: 305 Member
    I was mistaken for my mother once and called by her name......it was horrible!!

    ^^^This...my brother told me I looked like my mom. And my husband told me once that I was starting to look like her. My mom is short, fat & crazy in the head!! :explode:
  • Sassyallday
    Sassyallday Posts: 136 Member
    My step-daughters mother told them to laugh at me because I had cancer. As you can see in my pic I have a scar from srugeries I had to have to remove it...after picking up my step-daughters one day she said "watch you neck, it makes you ugly"....
    It hurt at the time becasue I was still dealing with the meds and surgeries - after awhile I realize what a sorry person she is and took a lot of time explaining to my step-daughters that cancer is not funny, we read many books together and now they help each year in Relay for Life, donating their time and allowance to find a cure!

    What a fabulous turnaround you did with this!
  • My classmates would always call me "beached whale." In first grade or so, we read The BFG (or Big Friendly Giant) by Roald Dahl. The other kids in my class decided to change it to BFT, or Big Fat Tiffany. Some of them told me they were going to save their lunch money to send me to fat camp. By the time I was in fourth grade, I had been told to kill myself, leave school and never come back, and that I should live alone on an island so no one could see me. Needless to say, kids are cruel. I even told one kid's mom about what he was saying to me, she looked me up and down and said that he was OBVIOUSLY trying to do me a favor. My sister would also CONSTANTLY touch my stomach while saying "Oh great Buddah."
  • admegamo
    admegamo Posts: 175 Member
    My grandpa has never liked taking me out in public because of my weight. One time he had no choice and we ate at a restaurant. I asked what was in the fruit salad and she named off a few melons including cantelope which I'm allergic to. I said, "Oh no thank you. I'm allergic to cantelope." He said, "Too bad you're not allergic to pizza." He made her face go red. I just glared at him.

    I don't really know what the worst thing I've been called because I don't get my feelings hurt easily but my grandpa was a good man when he was young. He married my grandma who had 6 kids at the time and even when they divorced he raised them. He is the only grandpa that we grandchildren know. My grandma even offered to give him a child and he said no because he was afraid he would treat the other children different than his biological child.

    So knowing how he feels about me and the words he says really stuck to me and made me kind of feel unloveable even though I know it's not true.
  • james6998
    james6998 Posts: 743 Member
    A cripple.
  • FixIngMe13
    FixIngMe13 Posts: 405 Member
    A cripple.

    And to me that is harsh.

    ((hugs)) :flowerforyou:
  • FixIngMe13
    FixIngMe13 Posts: 405 Member
    My parents were nothing but supportive of me growing up. Of course however I didn't have a weight problem at that time. My weight problem came after I got divorced and wanted to just eat my problems away. I honestly have never heard anyone call me names to my face, because well... back in the day I'd beat you down and take your ho ho and smother your face with it. It seemed like everyone was afraid of me, and never wanted to be on my bad side. Honestly... I hate that I potrayed that kind of person! I'm completely opposite of that now!!!

    I'm my own worst enemy... no one has to call me a name... I could think of plenty to call myself.

    For all of you that had to endure that growing up... I am so so sorry.
  • james6998
    james6998 Posts: 743 Member
    A cripple.

    And to me that is harsh.

    ((hugs)) :flowerforyou:
    Well at least this cripple can still kick some *kitten*, hehe, and ty for the
    ((hugs)) :flowerforyou: :heart:
    We all can't choose what happens to us, but we sure can make the best of it
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    Stupid, Spoiled, ***** & Self-Centered...all of which come out of my husband's mouth. It's quite sad really cause it has nothing to do with me being overweight or skinny. Guess Im just a ****ty person in his eyes. :cry:

    You need a different husband. You don't deserve that.
  • BrendaLee
    BrendaLee Posts: 4,463 Member
    Fat b*tch has always been my favorite.
  • BonnieandClyde29
    BonnieandClyde29 Posts: 1,026 Member
    Pregnant, I've always been bigger around the belly area...and I've had an old manager of mine argue with me thinking I was really pregnant, and NO I have no kids....so I have always had mixed reactions just trying to find the right way to handle it, but no matter what it still burns inside me being asked that... I had a girl even purposely know I wasn't being pregnant and harrassed me about it and she was 2ce my weight, she wanted to fight though and I ended up kicking her *kitten* so that made me feel better lol
  • xoeva
    xoeva Posts: 209 Member
    :( That is sad.

    I have been called many things, before I lost weight, my husband called me a fat lazy *kitten* once. In his defense we were fighting but yeah.

    Recently I was called fake because I naturally have big boobs, and the person said that everyone knows that when you lose weight you lose your boobs, I lost some but not all of them, so because I have natural curves, I'm fake.

    I use to hear "You have such a pretty face, it's a shame that you are so fat."

    Had a guy once tell me that if I was thinner he would totally date me but he isn't into fat chicks (That was in high school and I wasn't even at my biggest).

    I was told not too long ago that my mom (Who is 5'5 and weighs 125 lbs) looks great now, but me who is 5'1.5 and at the time was also 125 lbs, I looked sick and needed to go eat a hamburger.

    I could go on and on, the hate and mean things don't stop even after you lose the weight. I get more flack now at 118 lbs then I did at 250 lbs. Just today I was shopping and this girl kept staring at me and whispering to her friend and her friend kept turning around to look at me. I smiled and walked away, not worth my time.
    As I'm reading all these posts, I was thinking about this one comment by this one person which I still think about...wondering if I should post...and YOU had heard the same thing "You have a pretty face, it's a shame that you are fat" - mine was very similar... 'Wow, you are lucky you have a pretty face because you are so chubby..." Why oh Why do people say things like that? Couldn't she have stopped at 'you have a pretty face' or nothing at all (it's not like I asked her)...but I *do* feel proud of keeping MY mouth shut because I felt like saying to her (because it was true) " you are lucky you have a great body because your face is not pretty at all"...but I kept my pretty mouth shut! ha ha
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    Eta:
  • xoeva
    xoeva Posts: 209 Member
    Pregnant, I've always been bigger around the belly area...and I've had an old manager of mine argue with me thinking I was really pregnant, and NO I have no kids....so I have always had mixed reactions just trying to find the right way to handle it, but no matter what it still burns inside me being asked that... I had a girl even purposely know I wasn't being pregnant and harrassed me about it and she was 2ce my weight, she wanted to fight though and I ended up kicking her *kitten* so that made me feel better lol

    Pregnant, yep...many many times...usually in a 'oh wow I didn't know you were pregnant' or 'congratulations' , 'when are you due' or in high school I had a teacher pull me aside once and asked me 'who did this?' - we were in a hallway with graffiti and I thought she was talking about the graffiti, not by belly!
  • Hauntinglyfit
    Hauntinglyfit Posts: 5,537 Member
    A 9.
  • I would have a shorter list of names I haven't been called, to be honest.

    Instead of "Bella", people would call me "Belly".

    Then when I started middle school it was "fat wh*re"... character development? Haha.

    I take it in stride nowadays. It just shows me the people I shouldn't hang around without having to waste my time filtering them out myself.