Things People Say When You've Lost Weight

I don't make the assumption that people are being rude or inconsiderate when they ask about my weight loss. I like to think they are just being curious. I don't mind if they ask if I've been sick or if I'm losing "on purpose" because at one time I did lose 40 pounds in a month due to surgery and complications afterwards. I am glad to set their minds at ease, thank them for noticing and tell them about MyFitnessPal. If they say something like "you've lost enough" or "you're getting too skinny" I just smile, correct them, thank them for noticing and tell them about MyFitnessPal. Several of my wife's and my friends have become inspired by our success and have started to lose weight themselves. I call that a win.

I generally hate it when people talk about my weight. This seems to be the only thing my family talks about when I come home to visit - no "how are you feeling" but only "have you lost weight?" or "have you put on weight?", amongst comments on my complexion (I'm always too pale for them...) and my looks in general (usually positive though, except for "you look so ill" when I'm very pale in winter).

Don't you feel that it's rude to constantly comment on other people's appearance, even if it's meant well? I'm okay with "nice dress" or "great haircut", but anything beyond that feels like it's invading my very personal space. Ugh.

Rant over.

Seriously?! That's why I'm glad I've been documenting my progress through photos and I talk about it all often and they see me going to the gym and I tell them how hard it is! I show them my sweat haha

I hate 'Looks like your surgery went well.'
Now I have nothing against the bypass surgeries...my mother had one. My mother also went through some intense pain for the surgery, and then again for her tummy tuck. I hope she is happy now...but seeing what those surgeries did...cuttin people in half and stretching their skin...I decided no surgery for me.

No one believes it's diet and movement, no one.
Which makes me kinda sad.

Haha, right?! I think giving people the benefit of the doubt is important, yeah, some people may make insensitive comments about a sensitive subject but, oh well! So far I haven't had any negative comments, all good ones except for people not believing I have A LOT left to go!

Everyone has been super complimentary. So much so, I've been getting embarrassed. It seems silly to get irritated over people's comments and compliments. I mean c'mon I've lost 65 pounds, I look way different. Sometimes it shocks people, if they've not seen me in a long time. Plus I dress a whole lot better now too. Leave the house without my hair and make up done? No way!

Give people a break, you will live longer.

I had a strange thing said to me the other day. I met up with a friend who hadn't seem for awhile. She first said, "Wow! You've lost a lot of weight." I was about to say thank you when she added, "Did you do it on purpose?"

I actually said this to a friend I hadn't seen in some time. When you've had so many people around you have heart attacks, cancer, or other health issues, that can be the first thing that comes to mind. I was glad to hear that, yes, it was diet and exercise.

My favorite is "are you sick?" I've also got the you're wasting away. You're going to disappear if you lose anymore. People don't see the things I see like the thighs and hips that won't budge! I'm almost there but the closer I get the more remarks that get made.

Fortunate that I haven't received any snark remarks. Mainly because my co-workers and friends are mosty in the healthy weight range already. I joined MFP just wanting to get rid of some vanity weight. Not much difference in terms of appreance to make any comments. However, I'm still pretty glad for the lack of attention.

I've heard so many crazy comments from people about weight loss I've had over the years . You just gotta take it with a grain of salt. Most people who never had a weight issue dont realize what's coming out of their mouths. Keep it up your doing great.

A co-worker once said to me... "If you could just gain weight in your face"
Hahahaha.

I got that just this week! I've gone from 386 to 234 and still have about 75 left to go. I know the person who said she couldn't imagine how I had "that much left, you're so thin now" is a good friend and I know she wasn't being snarky, so I took it as a compliment. There are others who I know are just being brats. Them I ignore. Point is, it's my journey to being a healthy weight, not theirs. So go ahead and tell me your opinion of when I should be done or why I'm going about it the wrong way, I don't care. I'm doing what's best for me, so rant if you want.

PS - I did have weight loss surgery, the gastric sleeve. And I am very open about it, so if someone asks what I've done, if I had surgery, whatever, I will tell them. There is nothing wrong with what I've done, it was the best choice for me. It's not what's best for everyone so I don't preach it, but if you ask I will talk.

Just recently I went to a department store I used to work at, and I tend to be a friendly person, so I'll go up and say hello or give hugs to some of my former coworkers. One of them looked at me and her mouth dropped opened and she exclaimed" What Happened!" I was like "what? is something on my clothes?" (I thought there was a stain or something more embarrassing like tissue on my shoe or something like that) In the middle of my nervous scan of my clothing searching for the imaginary stain, she said "No, no that's not it... you lost weight!" I wasn't sure if I was supposed to be complimented or dismayed at the comment! lol I took it as a compliment because I think she was in shock, even amidst the large amount of people watching the exchange. I said "yeh I lost some weight!" then I made a quick exit only to get confronted by another coworker on the same thing, except this was an older gentleman, a real sweetheart and he said "Wow you looking good!" The amazing thing is I'd totally gotten so comfortable in my new size that I literally had forgotten that it might be a shock to some people! What I don't like and have gotten from family is if someone sees me snacking on sweets of any kind its like a terrible thing, I'm like "dude you don't actually think I cut out sweets do you, that's not happening my sweet tooth is eternal, I just dont gorge myself on it all the time like i use to!"

I don't know if this counts or not... but I moved away for a year and lost a lot of weight.. so when I came back, neither one of my parents recognized me. They thought I was one of my sisters friends and took a good while to figure out that it was me. lol

Are you kidding me?! Lol xD

I get asked if I've been unwell! I've lost so much weight they think the only way I could look the way I do is to have been suffering from some kind of illness. Actually, its the opposite of illness, its wellness. Eating very well and exercising every day. In other words it's been hard work, not passive illness. Thankyou very much!

I get the ridiculous cup cake comments too. Why do people get awfully offended if you say "looks delicious but not for me thanks"?

1. I don't actually even like cupcakes.
2. Dairy and excessive amounts of egg are both triggers for my IBD, I'm not going to spend 2-3 days in agony by eating a cupcake.
3. I'm 'spending' all my calories on major protein at the moment as I'm lifting and feel I need it to contain my appetite.

The way in which some women treat you when you are smaller than they are is something I'll never understand. I would be very sad to be in such a dark place as that.

I love my grandmother, with all of my heart, but she always has picked on my weight.

I think my favorite comment from her though was ,

" Wow mandy You look really good! Now You Only have one chin, You used to have three!!"

FML lmao

It's always the grannys, my granny is the worst. Comments like this along with remarks when I ate anything, then when I started being healthy and lost weight she would go on and on about how I wasn't eating properly and my face was scrawny. She's adorable though!