Lady to give out "you're too fat for candy" letters?

So.. a letter explaining that your child is a little overweight
=
getting your *kitten* kicked
Getting your tires slashed
getting your house egg'd
getting thretened to the point of needing to move.

And we wonder whats wrong with society today....

Don't be dense. It's not a letter "explaining that your child is a little overweight." It's an insulting, demeaning, humiliating slap in the face of a child. A child who may already be feeling crappy about being obese and is just out having some fun with his/her friends. Really. Don't be an *kitten*.

I am being an *kitten*?
People are saying that they would resort to physical violence for getting this note.
And I am the *kitten*?
I am not saying that this lady is right however; assuming that the kids are right there, punching this lady in the face is really the wrong message to pass to the kids.
What is going to happen when she decides to stand her ground and defend herself from the physical assauly with deadly force?
Won't that be a wonderful lesson for little Timmy?
"Look, Daddy got his heart blown out because he decided to punch a housewife."

No one should resort to violence.
But, yeah, if people blowing off steam after hearing about this horrible woman's plan gets your more rankled than the actual horrible thing she's going to do, then you are being an *kitten*.

She's entitled to her opinion because her tax dollars will be paying for your obese child's healthcare.

right, and my tax dollars paid for your public education. do I get an opinion on which idiotic statements you get to spout off?

I have a friend (a school nurse) who feels the same way about passing out candy. She passes out glow in the dark slap bracelets. The kids love them. Much nicer than an unkind letter and probably more effective.

I like that. Great idea. Much better than mountains of candy. And of course of that letter.

So.. a letter explaining that your child is a little overweight
=
getting your *kitten* kicked
Getting your tires slashed
getting your house egg'd
getting thretened to the point of needing to move.

And we wonder whats wrong with society today....

Don't be dense. It's not a letter "explaining that your child is a little overweight." It's an insulting, demeaning, humiliating slap in the face of a child. A child who may already be feeling crappy about being obese and is just out having some fun with his/her friends. Really. Don't be an *kitten*.

I am being an *kitten*?
People are saying that they would resort to physical violence for getting this note.
And I am the *kitten*?
I am not saying that this lady is right however; assuming that the kids are right there, punching this lady in the face is really the wrong message to pass to the kids.
What is going to happen when she decides to stand her ground and defend herself from the physical assauly with deadly force?
Won't that be a wonderful lesson for little Timmy?
"Look, Daddy got his heart blown out because he decided to punch a housewife."

this is valid.

but i still think that lady is nuts. why not just not give candy at all? or maybe give a healthy snack. or something? its not so much as insulting to the kids. as the parents i think.

Honestly violence is not the answer, and escalating is even worse.

What she should seriously do is not be home on Halloween so as not to contribute to obesity or turn off her front porch lights and leave a sign saying "No candy" which is the acceptable custom that people who don't wish to participate for ANY reason do all the time.

She should then seek out and find other ways to speak out against childhood obesity perhaps at health fairs and the like. If she cares this much about it to risk hurting the feelings of totally unawares and vulnerable trick or treating children then perhaps she cares enough to take a more rational, mature, and effective approach. This tactic will result in bad things. Very bad things. And regardless if she defends herself adequately she will still go down in the public eye as the instigator of the whole mess. I hope she rethinks this horrible idea before tomorrow. You are on notice lady. You have 24 hours to forget this stupid plan.

This lady is a grade A Catch U Next Tuesday, for sure.

If I would have received a letter like that while trick or treating with my friends, an eating disorder would have been sure to follow.

What a nasty *****.

Quite honestly if I were a fat little kid this would make me go home and cry into my candy jar and eat it all tonight. It sure as **** wouldn't do a thing to make me any healthier.

Why not start trying to sponsor kid's physical activities (many activities need funding) or something productive?

I have a friend (a school nurse) who feels the same way about passing out candy. She passes out glow in the dark slap bracelets. The kids love them. Much nicer than an unkind letter and probably more effective.

I like that. Great idea. Much better than mountains of candy. And of course of that letter.

This I see lot's of this. Every year I try to give out pencils just because the kids get more candy than they know what to do with and I was a nerdy enough kid that I liked that extra stuff. Hubsters though insists candy all the way and not any candy, only the best and full sized. It's one day a year, the kids are counting on it, and we don't wanna be "that house", he wins this argument every year and I put back the spider rings, pumpkin erasers, or whatnot. And then wait for all these cute things to be in kiddo's bag. LOL. Let the kids be freaking kids ONE DAY A YEAR. How do we know these little tubby kids aren't being put on check for every single meal every day of the year already in a concerted effort by their parent's and pediatricians? How do we know Halloween wasn't a hertofore agreed upon "cheat day" for the kid. We MFPers can relate to that right? Let the kids be kids. OMG kids...my sore spot. Every. Damn. Time. I'm getting predictable.

she got ppl talking about childhood obesity. she can forget the stupid plan and NOT do what she said she was going to and she's still done SOMETHING. kind of have to hand it to her, there...

"Waaaaahhh, waaaahhhh! Mommy! Daddy! She called me fat!"

C'mon...do we really need to care what others think? Throw the damn note away, and eat the other candy received from the countless other houses.

The letter does not have very good grammar. Basically, it is poorly written.

I was a fat kid, unfortunately, and had a few people in my past say words like this to me. Thankfully, I had great parents to teach me the other ways of the world that are much better. Today, those people which I do remember, have had some fates that were and are less than desirable. I did not wish any harm on them and still don't. But as I introduced myself to one of them, the shocked look of success on their face was enough to bring a smile to my face. No, they did not contribute to it at all, but walking away I realized how I am going to go back to my wonderful life, while that person is living a life of pity. No, I did not wish, nor do I wish harm. I surrounded myself with great people because I was taught to do so. People like this I left alone. Friends they might have, dunno, and I basically don't care.

In this case, the lady will get what's coming to her. Maybe she will see the light. Teach your kids. Throw the note away. Don't egg her house, don't waste your money. The best way to get back at her is to totally ignore her.

Seriously...think about it...just who is the victim here. I find it hard to believe that we have sunk so low that we truly believe its the children.

So.. a letter explaining that your child is a little overweight
=
getting your *kitten* kicked
Getting your tires slashed
getting your house egg'd
getting thretened to the point of needing to move.

And we wonder whats wrong with society today....

Don't be dense. It's not a letter "explaining that your child is a little overweight." It's an insulting, demeaning, humiliating slap in the face of a child. A child who may already be feeling crappy about being obese and is just out having some fun with his/her friends. Really. Don't be an *kitten*.

I am being an *kitten*?
People are saying that they would resort to physical violence for getting this note.
And I am the *kitten*?
I am not saying that this lady is right however; assuming that the kids are right there, punching this lady in the face is really the wrong message to pass to the kids.
What is going to happen when she decides to stand her ground and defend herself from the physical assauly with deadly force?
Won't that be a wonderful lesson for little Timmy?
"Look, Daddy got his heart blown out because he decided to punch a housewife."

No one should resort to violence.
But, yeah, if people blowing off steam after hearing about this horrible woman's plan gets your more rankled than the actual horrible thing she's going to do, then you are being an *kitten*.

There is a HUGE difference between blowing off steam and physically assaulting someone.
Unless we have an entire thread full of liars, the majority feels justified to punching this woman, kicking this woman, or burning down her house.
Awsome role models for the kids.

If she was really this concerned, handing out jump ropes with a cute little poem attached about exercising to burn off some of the extra candy energy would be much more effective. My kids would be thrilled to receive something like this and it gets the kids moving without offending anyone.

Some people just don't think things through. I don't think egging, tp, or violence is ever a good idea, but there are some people that would do it in a heartbeat. She sure is placing a target on herself.

Meh karma...hurt a child it comes back triple fold

Thank you. I think this is the best response I've seen this thread.

I am so angry about this woman's letter, and about the way a few of the responses supporting her decision were worded, that I haven't been able to type an appropriate reply without enough vitriol to get at least a strike You came in with a voice of reason that reminds me I can let this go.

See, I have a child with a chromosome deletion that causes hypotonia, so even though he is near underweight, he has a pot belly and big droopy cheeks. I am always hearing "Oh, he's so chubby!" (He's young enough that right now people think it's a compliment :noway:) When, in fact, we are adding calories, and especially fats, to every meal just to keep him on the charts at all. In 5 years, I'm sure I'll get those well meaning comments about childhood obesity and, while I know better, it already breaks my heart.

Yes, my situation is not typical. But my point is, you never know what is causing the physical appearance of obesity. And shaming other people, especially kids, or their parents for being "bad parents", is never going to help.


OK, now I really can let it go.
<deep breaths>

If someone ever handed my child a letter that said they are too fat for anything I would most likely punch them in their slim, uppity face.

If they want to have that conversation with me as a parent, that is one thing, but you make my child feel bad (as a complete stranger who knows nothing about my child) and I will eff you up.

This...definitely this...it's one thing to talk to me about it...but to give something like that to a child who may develop issues from this, this could be very damaging to the child and the person passing out the letter...more so to the woman passing out the letter...I'd punch a b***h.

To the poster above who says that he doesn't believe some of us would assault the woman...I don't have any kids, but if this happened to my niece or nephew, yeah, you better believe I would. I'd go to jail for assault for someone basically verbally abusing my niece/nephew. It is not her right to give a letter to the kids. Come talk to the parents all she wants, but to actually pass out letters to kids?!?! Kids who may already have self esteem issues and already hate the way they look. I was 9 and waaaaay overweight. I was struggling just to stay positive, I was struggling when I changed my ways, and I still have issues. I didn't need anyone else pointing out what I already knew at age 9. Though I had kids and my own brother and sister calling me fat and such. Things like this can have a lasting effect on kids that will be there their whole lives.

Hand out a healthy snack to the kid, and the letter to the parents. If she feels the need to voice her opinion that is.

Disagree. Either all the kids get candy or all the kids get healthy snacks. It's still discrimination based on weight.