Things People Say When You've Lost Weight

I wonder if people don't realise that some people don't want to hear this stuff. It's nice when someone says "You're looking good today" ect but the wasting away and rude comments... I just don't understand why people say them =/ I still just smile and say I have a long way to go before i'm healthy. I guess that's all we really can do.

I think it would be okay to tell your family exactly what you've said here... that you really don't want to hear that stuff, the wasting away and rude comments, that the compliments and support are nice, but to stop the rest.

she routinely gets people who ask her if she's expecting...

As a guy, I learned a long time ago: Unless you see a baby poking out from between her legs, never, ever, ever comment, assuming a woman is pregnant. :embarassed:

So true, even if it seems very obvious. I have a friend, she is so skinny in her legs and has no bum, but a lot of excess weight round her middle. She gets asked daily

People just should not make comments about weight. At all. When I see someone who looks like they have lost weight I may tell them they look great or I love their outfit on them,etc, but I think weight related comments are just rude. Although maybe its because I grew up on a household where everyone commented on each other's weight constantly. Ugh. Not doing that to my kids.
Anyway, my point is, loss or gain...dont comment. Maybe they are sick and dont mean to be losing, maybe they are pregnant and have gained a few but dont want to make it public yet. You just never know.

THIS. If you must comment, tell them they look nice. *Anything else is none of your business.* It might feel like your business because you can see a change, but they don't have a choice about whether or not you see that change. It's often a very private battle that they are forced to carry out in public because it impacts the way they look to other people.

There will be people who enjoy being asked about their weight loss, but these are the people who will tell you they lost weight when you tell them they look nice, which opens the door to whatever else you might want to (politely) ask about or comment on.

I work from home so no one in the office has seen me in a few months. At Christmas this year, I hope to surprise some relatives. I'll post the reactions. You go Girl.

A co-worker once said to me... "If you could just gain weight in your face"
Hahahaha.

Now that is rude. Hope you laughed in her face.

'Stop dieting your getting too skinny' or
'can't you afford to eat anymore?'

I want to tell these people that I'm eating 2500 calories and bulking right now... but I don't because I people that give snidy comments like that don't deserve an honest answer that tells them about my personal life.

Some people are just not capable of just being happy for others. You know your awesome, they probably know your awesome, that's all that you should care about!

It's weird, but I get uncomfortable when people ask me to help them lose weight...I'm no trainer/nutritionist, I'm still trying to figure out what works for me!

My favorite quote is: "What are you doing to lose weight?"

--As if healthy eating and exercise isn't obvious. Yet, they so look stunned by my response.

Another response that I have gotten from a friend was: "I am so jealous of your weight loss. I want to lose weight too. "

--That is really annoying to me because I don't lose weight for anyone else...aside from my children. I do it for my health and instead of being jealous, how about joining me. Don't ask me for my advice just to be eating chips and a cupcake 2 min later. :noway:

I guess that they mean well though. Rant over. lol

Open mouth, insert foot. sometimes its tough to take the high road!

In the course of me losing weight, I've received some variation of most of the comments mentioned in this thread... plus one I didn't see. When my brother-in-law saw me for the first time in more than a year, he said "You look like an Auschwitz survivor!"

I take all the comments as complements. Of course, I'm very comfortable with myself, very emotionally stable, and very hard to offend. My self-worth doesn't come from other people or what they think of me (with the possible exception of my wife).

When people tell me it's like I've lost a whole other person, I agree with them, because 115 lbs could easily be another person. When they tell me I'm half the man I used to be, I agree. (That's not really true, but it's close enough to laugh about.)

I've had people tell me I don't need to lose any more weight, even when I was still just barely crossing the line from Obese to Overweight. I don't feel bad about comments like that because, what they are really saying is that I've made a lot of progress, and that is true. If I reply at all, I simply say something akin to "I'm keeping track of that." (Or "I'm getting close," which now happens to be true.)

The most uncomfortable comments I've gotten was from my manager at work about not needing to lose any more weight and that I wasn't the same person she hired. My response was simply that I am keeping close track of where I am and have no intention of becoming underweight, and that I hoped me being different from who they hired was a good thing. (It helps that my job performance is excellent.)

If people ask me how I did it, I tell them... diet and exercise; calories in and calories out. If they want to know more, I'm happy to bore them to tears with details. I'm proud of what I've done, and happy to share.

I throw all comments I get from people about my weight loss into three categories:

1. Comments that are true, or mostly true. I agree with the other person on all of these, even if it means agreeing that I was the size of an ocean liner before I started losing weight. If it's true, it's true, even if it is not complimentary to me. If anything, it just emphasizes how much progress I'm making. If I get a comment about myself that is true but I don't like it, I consider the ways I can change myself or my behavior to be a better person. Getting mad or upset about a statement of the truth is about as productive as getting mad at gravity.

2. Comments that are not true. These come from people who are either ignorant (uninformed) or mean. I surround myself with people who are generally nice, so I go about my life assuming people aren't trying to be mean to me. The most ignorant thing people say is that I don't need to lose any more weight. If it's not true, it's not true. Untrue comments don't really apply to me so I make no emotional investment in them, and don't get mad about them. If they insist it's the truth and I evaluate the comment otherwise, I say so. I know where I am.

3. Comments with some truth and some exaggeration that are meant to be funny. I laugh along with the person and never take offense. (I laughed at the comment about me being an Auschwitz survivor. I'm clearly not anywhere close to that, but relative to where I was, it might seem that way on the surface.)


People who let others' comments about their appearance make them mad or upset really need to do a lot more emotional work on themselves. They are seriously at risk of letting other people be in charge of their life. They need to grow up. You may not be able to control what other people say, but you can control your reaction to what they say, if you are an adult.

My Girlfriend and my best friend have really hammered home the difference between the sexes when it comes to asking about weight loss.

Girlfriend: "You look slim, have you lost weight?"

Best friend: "You look less fat"

Cheers mate :grumble:

I've been getting the "you shouldn't lose anymore weight you are too skinny". One person asked if I had calculated my ideal weight, yes and I am still a bit away from that since that is basically my goal!

My mom always keeps me in my place. The second I eat something junky I get the "you don't want to pack on the pounds again." Love ya mom.

lol yesterday someone asked me if I was doing it in a healthy way. I was a little insulted because I breastfeed my baby so why would I take pills and junk and risk her heath? People are stupid!

I can't wait for Christmas. I'm going out of state to visit relatives. I'll have to see what sort of comments I get. Most of these people don't know I'm on a goal to lose "tons of weight".

I got (just last night) - "You look good! You lost a lot of f@#$in' weight!"

Umm, thanks?

I do like the "eat something!"

My favorite was a friend of mine telling me "damn girl, let's go have a quickie." With my husband right there haha!

People don't think. Never do. Never will. Be graceful. Say thank you.