Living with an unhealthy eater

I have seen this topic posted dozens of times, and honestly the best advice I've seen is

1. Do NOT expect your partner to change their habits just because you're changing yours. Sure it is possible. But it is not likely to work unless it is their idea and they really want to change, too.

2. Get used to the idea of buying and eating separate foods much of the time.

You will probably get a lot of responses saying "It's up to YOU to resist the junk!" That's true. But I think it can get much easier when you get away from the thinking that your partner is somehow sabotaging you or that it's not FAIR for them to eat junk while you "have to" eat healthy. Look at it as your nutritional habits differing from theirs.

Also, you can still enjoy the occasional treat or even fast food together. Just change the way you view it and the way you behave. You're in control of you, and your partner is in control of himself. The two do not have to be connected.

Refuse to go out with him to get crap food.
Sit him down and explain to him why this is so important to you.
Cook yourself some healthy food while he eats his pizza, or hell, go for a run WHILE he eats his pizza.

I totally understand my husband eats like a child sometimes...Lol he likes to munch on things and to make it worse he likes the foods that I try to stay away from like chips,donuts,pizza,soda.....I admit it is hard and sometimes I want to smack him for bringing it into the house...but I use that as a test for my self control and i try avoid those foods as much as possible

I have a husband and 4 kids. All of them love pizza, burgers and icecream. As do I. You can have those things in moderation or everyday if it fits into your calories. My husband and kids are at healthy weights, so I don't expect them to live like me. It's called will power. Many times I loved to blame others, "you shouldn't have bought that, now I have to eat it." Wrong! No one force fed me. You'll just have to keep other healthy substitutes of food in the house. He has a donut, you have strawberries and whipped cream. He gets a burger, you get a turkey burger wrapped in lettuce. Good Luck!

My husband eats like pure crap... I draw the line to the point if he wants it then HE has to go to the store and get it. I refuse.

He can eat what he wants and I don't care - I eat mine and he eats his. He DOES support me and is proud. The most I can hope is he will want to change himself but if not then that is his problem lol I am doing this for ME!

I live with a 17 year old teenager! I HAVE to expect there to be high calorie foods galore available. I choose not to eat them. If I do have something, I log it.

Bottom line: The only person you can control is you. Choose not to eat the food he brings home, if it doesn't fit your macros. Make sure you are getting plenty of protein (I have found this is critical to avoid binges) and I've also cut way back on the alcohol. Because it increased the likelihood of my binging.

You got this!! (>‿◠)✌

Oh I've been there. I decided to learn how to cook and we RARELY eat out because I'm constantly providing and preparing us with healthy and good food. It DOES take time and prep though! I know our lives get super busy with work and school, etc, so it took me a while to get the hang of it. I started with simple recipes and meal planning. I would plan our meals our for 5-6 days in advanced and then prep the food as much as I can, such as precutting the veggies, cooking the meat beforehand, and the most helpful of all was crock pot recipes. Skinnytaste.com has a bunch of EASY, HEALTHY and TASTY meals he won't even know that you're slowing turning him into a healthy eater as well! Also, for my boyfriends unhealthy snacks ( I did not make him give anything up, he has to make his own choice) I try to buy things he loves, but that I do not like very much that way I'm less likely to want it... and we put it on the top shelf, out of my view. I'll always make some room for pizza and burgers though because I am a real person! So if you know you normally go crazy on the weekends, make Monday-Friday hardcore dedication days and plan to eat a cheeseburger ahead of time. You can make it fit.

You can do it! :flowerforyou:

My husband freaking loves Costco Cheesecake. Seriously, we buy it every month. He can eat the whole thing in about a week. He cracks me up! He also eats ice cream every day. That's what he does along with chips, etc.

I am responsible for what I eat. Sometimes, I will have cheesecake if it works into my calories that day.

You're going to have to accept him for who he is. You need to take responsibility for yourself. You really need to get a grip on this. Your weight has nothing to do with him....

Have you tried talking to him about not bringing certain things home that you can't resist (donuts)?

As for the eating out thing - I have a good solution to that. Plan every single meal for the entire week. That way if you're out and about and that close to home anyway and he suggests getting burgers and fries, jyou can say something like "well, I have some chicken thawed that I was planning to make a yummy stirfry so let's just go home and have that. It only takes 15 minutes to make and will be cheaper and healther than fast food". I do this all the time at home. Hubs may want take-out but if I've got meat thawed that needs to be cooked or it might spoil, he's totally fine with waiting another day or two for pizza/chinese/thai. That way too, I've got a day or two to plan out my days well so I can make sure I have the calories for that kind of dinner.

My Hubs has no interest in eating healthier either but I'm the cook and he's not that fussy so he eats whatever I cook. For the most part it's not that much different than what I've always cooked but I make some healthy swaps and keep portions reasonable for me. For instance, I may only be able to have calories for 1 serving of a casserole but he can have 2 or 3 servings if he's hungry enough.

Excuses, indeed.

Does you boyfriend shove the food down your throat? I wouldn't think so. When I was fatter and depressed, I would tell myself I was the way I was because people eat that crap in front of me. Stop that! You are in control of YOU! And until you learn that, you can't go to parties, family dinners, vacations because you will be surrounded by food that is forced on you, right? No. It isn't your boyfriends fault or anyone elses', it's your fault and your relationship with food.