Ladies: What makes the perfect boyfriend?

Edited my post above with this, but realize most may not go back and see it....

Added: @ DeonnPaul -- sounds like you found "The One" for you!

@ OP -- Not every gal wants the same things (thank God...we'd all be after the same man) so before asking others what makes a "perfect" boyfriend/life partner, ask yourself what YOU want. Do you need emotional support? Physical strength? A co-party-er? Someone to gritch at that won't take it personally? We all want things that aren't totally PC, but be honest with yourself and look for your counterpart from there.

That "friends first" thing keeps popping up...maybe us old marrieds know something? It's perfectly ok to just be friends with lots of guys without needing each one to become a serious and monogomous relationship. If you start out as buddies, it means you must have some things in common. If the connection just gets deeper and deeper (even after you see each other at your worst and without trying to be sexy) you've got something from which to build a life together.

When you start a potential relationship by dating, there tends to be a lot of pretense going on from both sides. If you move straight from dating to relationship without really becoming friends, the shock of reality is what splits most couples up. By being friends and engaging in some non-date, casual group or public activities first without romantic expectations, there's a better chance of knowing the real person much earlier.

I know I sound odd -- how to meet without dating? Try your workplace (but not too close), join a church, volunteer at a food bank or humane society, do a fun run, strike up a conversation in the grocery store. Group flirt in a bar (keep your pants on) and arrange for all you gals and guys to meet in the park for a picnic the next day. Join a club or society that does public events (met my hubby at a Society for Creative Anachronism demo). Don't fall for Mr. Right Now just because you HAVE to constantly have a BF. Being single and free to eventualoy choose from your gathered pool of "talent" is great.

Internet dating and set ups through friends seldom really work despite the commercials...you may actually need to indulge your real interests and possibly kiss a few toads (not literally!) before you find your prince.