support for Binge Eating Disorder
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I am really new to understanding my eating problems. What I am struggling with is the emotional satisfaction with binging. I know it is bad for me, but I really love to eat and it feels so good. How do you find something to take the place of food?
Hi Bettany, Find hobbies, find interests, do things outside of the house away from food, away from temptations. Every day is a new challenge to find ways to make ourselves feel better without feeding the emotions. I know you can do it, just take it one day at a time. :flowerforyou:0 -
I am so happy I stumbled upon this topic. I need a support group. Last night I had a breakdown and now my boyfriend is on board to sort of help push me through the next month or so, watching my back. I have realized lately that I can't stop having an unhealthy relationship with food without help. What kind of doctor would you all recommend me going to and how would I look one up in my area.
My binges aren't huge or very regular, however I do have a terrible time telling myself no. Or ordering something healthy but eating half of my bfs/sisters/friends food. I eat when I am not hungry and I rationalize it, I convince myself it wont hurt, that I will workout harder etc. but right after I eat that pointless snack, I am still "hungry" and I feel terrible.
I want to think of food as fuel, I don't want it to consume my every thought every day. I have snuck food when no one is around, gotten out of bed at 3am to eat peanut butter, you name it. I hope that I can check in every few days with my progress. Today is day 1
Ashley0 -
Welcome Ashley! We are here for you, please post often. I was seeing a nutrition coach. It helped a lot!0
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Hey StacySkinny!
Tks so much your sucess is really insiring to all us and myself to I know I can do it. IT just finding the balance and most of it is mental and only to eat when hungry not for other reasons.
One day at a time!
Melissa
Was fighting a realy bad choc. craving so I chewed gum and drank a diet pop and it helped Yay!!!!!!!0 -
Welcome all the new peeps!
What I do is keep myself busy, read, excerise chew gum, diet pop, go out of the house away from the food. But I found must of it is mental more the pshyical. As I have been binging for a long long time I have understand that it is not about the foos it is how I feel and how I handle my stress. IT is really sometimes but always have your goal in mind.
I have a pair of pants that I really want to waer they are a size to small right know, so every time I get an urge I put the pants on and it helps. Goals are important short and long they keep you going.
Find what works for you and roll with it.
Good luck,
Melissa0 -
Welcome new ones!
Melissa and DIane covered it all!! Thanks!
Ashley,
Not sure what area you live in but there are thearpists who specialize in all eating disorders. Google it. I have always had thearpists who specialize in this field. I have heard that nutrition coaches are good also.
I personally am at a point now it is up to me and I refuse to pay one more dime for this. I currently go to OA and I highly recommend OA also. OA is Overeaters Anonoymous. Give it more than one try. Sometimes you have to find a group you are comfortable with and total at ease in putting it all there. It took me some time but now I have 2 groups to go to when I need to and I have yet to get a sponser. I also do OA on line and receive the recovery emails that are truly helpful and keep me mindful of my goal to stop being a compulsive overeater. BED and COE go hand in hand.
Regarding me, I have my whole day planned for eating. I left myself a few calories just in case, but the plan is to stick to my list. So far so good! I will let you know tonight or tomorrow how it goes. Some wonder posts today!! Thanks for all suggestions!!
ODAT - One Day At a Time0 -
Can a doctor even do anything for this? or just a therapist?0
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I sort of gave up trying to understand why I have such issues with food. Self knowledge and self improvement are wonderful things, but it make take me a lifetime to work out all my demons. But i have to go on living in thd meantime! So I just focus on strategies. And on rules. Like, I always binge on pizza..even if I control my intake and it's not technically a binge, I eat it like a binge...I eat way too much, I get anxious while eating it, I eat faster and faster. So I just don't eat pizza much. Maybe 6 times a year. I'm the same way with cake and cookies. So I mostly just don't eat them. I eat on a plate, at a table, and try to be mindful. I'm not "cured." for me, I consider it a chronic condition that I can control, not cure. I've lost quite a bit of weight, and I have certainly not been binge free the whole time. But I just acknowledge it, think through how it happened, and start again. I just try to accept myself, lovingly, but with a firm hand. I try not to spend energy beating myself up, but just try to move forward.
That's how I get through each day.0 -
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I sort of gave up trying to understand why I have such issues with food. Self knowledge and self improvement are wonderful things, but it make take me a lifetime to work out all my demons. But i have to go on living in thd meantime! So I just focus on strategies. And on rules. Like, I always binge on pizza..even if I control my intake and it's not technically a binge, I eat it like a binge...I eat way too much, I get anxious while eating it, I eat faster and faster. So I just don't eat pizza much. Maybe 6 times a year. I'm the same way with cake and cookies. So I mostly just don't eat them. I eat on a plate, at a table, and try to be mindful. I'm not "cured." for me, I consider it a chronic condition that I can control, not cure. I've lost quite a bit of weight, and I have certainly not been binge free the whole time. But I just acknowledge it, think through how it happened, and start again. I just try to accept myself, lovingly, but with a firm hand. I try not to spend energy beating myself up, but just try to move forward.
That's how I get through each day.
Well I do agree with you on one point here and that is I also believe there is no cure and it is a chronic condition that we can learn to control but we will never be totally free from the struggle of it. Similar to drug addicts and acholics. and you are good to stop beating yourself up about it because this is only destructive to us.
Keep up the good work! One day at a time....0 -
Can a doctor even do anything for this? or just a therapist?
There is no yes or no answer to this question. There are therapist who specialize in BED and eating disorders period. There is Overeaters Anoymous which is free and can be very theraputic. There is no medicine a doctor can give you if that is what you mean. Therapist can definitely help you with digging deep for reason why you binge. OA is different. Sometimes there many not be a real reason except the love of food. For me it is a little of both. I feel there is a reason and that we use food to feel good and to medicate ourselves just like any addict.
But there are times I feel we just love food and we are addicted to certian foods. Just like the recent post about pizza and cookies. Those just happen to be 2 of the same foods I can't do often at all. I never by cookies or bring into my home because I will eat the whole pack. Now when I want a cookie, I only eat 3 or 4 and I buy in single packs. Most times when I eat cookies and pizza it is at work in a controled enviroment. Pizza especially is something I can not control myself on it so it is better if I don't start on it because I will binge on it.
I recommend you try to seek help for stragies, coping ideas and ways to control the binges. Good luck to you!0 -
No binge for me today. I did overeat but came within calories. Exercise helped with this. One day at a time. I am beat now and I need one more workout at the gym today before the weekend comes. I have plan well for this weekend because this is most dangerous time to binge for sure. I am off work tomorrow and Monday so I have a 4 days. One day at a time.....
Have a good day tomorrow guys!0 -
No binge for me today. I did overeat but came within calories. Exercise helped with this. One day at a time. I am beat now and I need one more workout at the gym today before the weekend comes. I have plan well for this weekend because this is most dangerous time to binge for sure. I am off work tomorrow and Monday so I have a 4 days. One day at a time.....
Have a good day tomorrow guys!
Sounds like a great day, Mollie! You where within calories and didn't binge! Well done!
You're totally right "One Day at a Time". 
You're doing awesome! 0 -
Not such a great evening last night. The waiting got to me. As I've mentioned, I hate waiting. I don't know why but I feel like I must be in control of time. When I'm not, I feel (well I can't really describe what I feel exactly but...) such a sense of loss of control and I know this is something I need to and will continue to work on.
I'm really glad I still haven't brought any extra temptation into the home because this has helped control the binges since I am not reaching for the chocolate and ice cream.
I do have some extra stress in my life right now too and stress is always a setup for disaster. Once I get through the weekend it will be better for a little while.0 -
Hey dianeg1981!
So sry you are having a tough time right now, I know you can get through girl! One idea for the whole waiting thing keep a book with you or a puzzle so you keep your mind of it or maybe even a MP3 player to listen to something while you wait.
I hope you have a great weekend and good luck,
Melissa
I'm doing great today had a really bad craving to binge but beat it by going out for a walk it worked. yay!!!!!!!!!!!!
Still working on only eating when I'm hungry working pretty good so far. And I'm have been binge free for a week know!0 -
Thanks Melissa, those are great suggestions too. Unfortunately this happens when I'm at home and have 100s of things around me that could keep me busy, but instead of doing them I go for the food. Like I said, it will be something I will continue to work on. I appreciate your support dear!0
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@ dianeg1981 - Girl, no one can control time. You're only human. This is a process and any change worth while takes time. A year will pass no mater what. So we can spend the year gaining weight, staying the same weight, or losing it. We may as well spend it losing. You can do it, hun. *hugs* 0
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@ dianeg1981 - Girl, no one can control time. You're only human. This is a process and any change worth while takes time. A year will pass no mater what. So we can spend the year gaining weight, staying the same weight, or losing it. We may as well spend it losing. You can do it, hun. *hugs*
Thanks for the hugs Stacy. I think you may have misunderstood me though. I'm not upset about how much time it is taking me to lose weight, (of course I'd like it to be faster, but I'm well aware it isn't going to be) my problem with time is waiting on other people on a day to day basis. I need to work on preoccupying myself so that I keep busy. For example, my fiancee and I are complete opposites when it comes to the concept of time. I'm a time Nazi and he's never on a clock. Time is just not important to him like it is to me. I admire this about him sometimes. Mostly it annoys me, but I can look past my annoyance and see how valuable a quality like that is. It eliminates the stress factor associated with time, that's for sure. It doesn't bother him like it does me when he's running late for stuff. He also doesn't even make time commitments like I do. My life revolves around the clock. It is a factor that we have to compromise on big time and unfortunately I can't always get my way........so I wait, and wait, and wait, and wait........
I'm not looking for relationship advice, just wanted to go into a little more detail of an explanation of what I'm feeling. 0 -
Thanks Stacy for encouraging words!
Melissa good job on no binges this week! You go girl!
Diane,
Hang in there. You will find your way. I am a time fanatic also and hate to be late for stuff.....:-)
I am doing good on my 1st day off work. Had a good work out 1st thing. This seems to always help me stay focused the rest of the day. I have eaten clean so far today and have eaten according to my plan completed last night. I may even eliminate some stuff since I have too much left to eat tonight.
Everyone have a good weekend!!0 -
Hey!
Anyone else have this problem, I have a fear of being hungry it is like sometimes I will eat just a little more before going out because I affaird of being hungry when I'm out and making a really bad food chioce. I hate being hungry I feel sick to my tummy and feel like I'm throw up.
And also if I do go a while without eating for to long I will overeat when I do.
I quess I just need to bring food with me every where I go. But it seems so silly, I was telling my hubby about it and he was like it is ok to be hungry or have the hungry feeling.
Just thought I would put it out there.
Melissa0 -
Melissa,
I sort of do the same thing you do. I take fruits, baby carrots, cheese sticks, or somehting similar with to make sure that when I am out I am not tempted to buy junk or stop at FAT foods places because I get hungry. I also make sure I have 2 or more bottles of water with also.
I also keep something in the car at most times. I can not afford to caught out without nothing. It works for me most times.
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I just found this thread this morning, and have already read through it. Reading it made me realize that I may have this eating disorder and I really want to change that. Just last night I had a small binge, but this past weekend, I binged Saturday and Sunday, ALL DAY. I just ate whatever I wanted, not caring if I was hungry or what the calorie count was. I ended up gain quite a few pounds and worked my tail off all this week to lose them. Then Friday night came around, and I ate more than I should have. I usually binge at night when I get bored.
I really hope posting on here will give me accountability, and allow me to shake this horrible habit. I want to finish losing this weight, and binging is certainly not helping the process. I saw many people saying just to take it one day at a time, and that's what I'm going to do. Today WILL be day number one of not binging.
I look forwarding to posting on here and getting to know all of you guys :]0 -
@ brittanyr8 - Welcome to the group, hun.
It sounds like you're not sure if you have Binge Eating Disorder (BED). We all have our days of over-eating. But if it becomes a chronic thing, where you do it over and over again (usually at least twice a week), over the period of months or longer then it goes behond the average over-eating slips and is probably BED.
Either way, I hope you find some support and and encouragement here. 0 -
"No taste on the tongue and not food in the stomach will appease inner yearnings, emotional longings, or spiritual emptiness. There is no getting around the need to do the work necessary to address these." ~ Victoria Moran, Fit From Within0
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Welcome brittanyr8!
I hear ya! Being close to my goal weight and binging does not help. I hope you find some helpfully tips from the post there are alot of great ideas. You are right one day at a time, one of my rules is I log everything in so I can see how much I ate and be aware of the food and the time of day and what is going on in my life at this time so I can learn why and grow from each binge I have. It is hard not to overeat sometimes, I eat when I'm bored too or stressed. That is a big problem for me is the stress trying really hard to find other way to deal with it.
But anyway what I find helps is to not stay doing something for to long, for example watch tv for like hour then do a hobby or clean then do something else keep yourself busy so your not thinking about food. Good luck we are all here for ya!
Well I binged yesterday most of the food was healthy but I had a few choc. bars. I had a fight with my hubby and that set it of I was just off for the rest of the day. Good thing my family was home or it would have been way worse. Next time I'm going to remove myself from the problem right away and clam down before I came back and relax or exercise so I don't turn to food first.
Today a new day and will be better, had a chance to talk to him and work it out so things are better and I feel in a better place so a better day today next time I will talk a time out before I go crazy again.
Melissa0 -
Welcome brittanyr8!
I hear ya! Being close to my goal weight and binging does not help. I hope you find some helpfully tips from the post there are alot of great ideas. You are right one day at a time, one of my rules is I log everything in so I can see how much I ate and be aware of the food and the time of day and what is going on in my life at this time so I can learn why and grow from each binge I have. It is hard not to overeat sometimes, I eat when I'm bored too or stressed. That is a big problem for me is the stress trying really hard to find other way to deal with it.
But anyway what I find helps is to not stay doing something for to long, for example watch tv for like hour then do a hobby or clean then do something else keep yourself busy so your not thinking about food. Good luck we are all here for ya!
Well I binged yesterday most of the food was healthy but I had a few choc. bars. I had a fight with my hubby and that set it of I was just off for the rest of the day. Good thing my family was home or it would have been way worse. Next time I'm going to remove myself from the problem right away and clam down before I came back and relax or exercise so I don't turn to food first.
Today a new day and will be better, had a chance to talk to him and work it out so things are better and I feel in a better place so a better day today next time I will talk a time out before I go crazy again.
Melissa
I get set off by triggers like a fight with my hubby or a bad day at work too. I do try to cope in other ways like taking walk, talking to a friend, etc... but for some reason, nothing seems to soothe like an entire bag of chips followed by a dozen giant cookies, you know? Except it doesn't soothe. After a binge I am all the more upset because I feel physically ill and disgusted with myself. I need to stay away from food when I am upset but it's easier said than done. Had a binge myself on Friday night but it's been a good rest of the weekend.0 -
Hey! itsmewendylee
Tks so much, I hear ya about the whole "nothing seems to soothe" becuase sometimes it is just that way for me to.
I just feel trapped like I can not get away from the stress or problem so I turn to food. Not cool I know but one day at a time.
I'm doing ok today trying to move on so I don't binge anymore.
Melissa0 -
Hi Brittany & Wendy, welcome to the group! :drinker:
Hi Melissa, thanks for checking in this weekend. :flowerforyou:
I'm doing okay. :ohwell: Not a great weekend food - wise but it's a new week and will be better! I joined Mollie on an exercise challenge and am proud to say I made it. :happy: The goal was 360 min/ week and I did 390 last week! That's the most exercise I've done in a week since departing with the trainer. My body aches but I'm also a little under the weather so that is not helping. I also have a bad habit of feeding my ailment to make me feel better. I was feeling so icky on Saturday that I didn't eat anything all day and then when I started to get hungry I rationalized ice cream because I had so many calories left, I know it would make me feel good (of course sugar & fat will), it would soothe my sore throat, and it was really all I wanted. So I went to the grocery store and bought a 1/2 gallon of Breyer's chocolate/vanilla and ate some. At least I used a small bowl and only ate like 3 servings at a time. And I let Joe at it so it is almost gone now. I know how this must sound, pretty bad when I'm saying I *only* ate 3 servings at a time, but you gotta know that this is SO much better than what I would've done otherwise. It is an improvement and another example of trying to re-learn this behavior. "Just because I'm sick doesn't mean I get to eat anything I want." Next time will be even better!
Have a great week everyone! Please post often. It really does help us all to know we're not alone! :flowerforyou: 0 -
Welcome Brittany & Wendy!
Thanks for inspirational post Stacey! Food for thought for sure -- "No taste on the tongue and not food in the stomach will appease inner yearnings, emotional longings, or spiritual emptiness. There is no getting around the need to do the work necessary to address these." ~ Victoria Moran, Fit From Within
I had a busy and eventful weekend so I did not have a binge on weekend. My weekend is classified as Friday night to Sunday night. I did well on Friday and Monday even though I was off work. I am using tips from here to get thru the mind set of eating out of boredom. I cleaned on Friday and Monday. Did some cooking for my lunch yesterday too.
The most awesome thing I want to share is my favorite Pizza joint had a special on yesterday and I fought it all day and I did not get the pizza. Me and my sister was going to go to the resturant, then I told her I really did not need to since i was cooking all of my healthy lunches and dinners for this week. Then about 6 oclock I wanted the pizza again......:-( So I tried calling in the pizza and I was not going to tell my sister. I was going to bring half of it to work and free it into 3 servings at least. Well I could not get thru until 8 30 and the guy told me to get a raincheck because they were not taking any more orders. I did go in and get the $10 gift card. So now I can have my single serving when I have a taste. That is my rule for pizza, to have someone to share it with or buy one slice--which is really 2 slices here in Chicago. At this place anyways it is 2 servings. And that is plenty and has satisfied me in pass also. Like if me and my Sis would have went, I would have ate what I would there and sent my part home with her to share with my parents.
I tell my Mom I gave it to her because I don't want my sister to keep it because she is obese and does not need it. Not that my parents do either but at least none of us will be overeating if we share a pizza. So I was glad that they ran out of the special and I have my gift card for future indulgences.
I went to a dance Saturday night and did not go back for 2nds and really mingled. And the scale rewarded me for keeping the binging down. I will record it on Thursday.
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Welcome Brittany & Wendy!
Thanks for inspirational post Stacey! Food for thought for sure -- "No taste on the tongue and not food in the stomach will appease inner yearnings, emotional longings, or spiritual emptiness. There is no getting around the need to do the work necessary to address these." ~ Victoria Moran, Fit From Within
I had a busy and eventful weekend so I did not have a binge on weekend. My weekend is classified as Friday night to Sunday night. I did well on Friday and Monday even though I was off work. I am using tips from here to get thru the mind set of eating out of boredom. I cleaned on Friday and Monday. Did some cooking for my lunch yesterday too.
The most awesome thing I want to share is my favorite Pizza joint had a special on yesterday and I fought it all day and I did not get the pizza. Me and my sister was going to go to the resturant, then I told her I really did not need to since i was cooking all of my healthy lunches and dinners for this week. Then about 6 oclock I wanted the pizza again......:-( So I tried calling in the pizza and I was not going to tell my sister. I was going to bring half of it to work and free it into 3 servings at least. Well I could not get thru until 8 30 and the guy told me to get a raincheck because they were not taking any more orders. I did go in and get the $10 gift card. So now I can have my single serving when I have a taste. That is my rule for pizza, to have someone to share it with or buy one slice--which is really 2 slices here in Chicago. At this place anyways it is 2 servings. And that is plenty and has satisfied me in pass also. Like if me and my Sis would have went, I would have ate what I would there and sent my part home with her to share with my parents.
I tell my Mom I gave it to her because I don't want my sister to keep it because she is obese and does not need it. Not that my parents do either but at least none of us will be overeating if we share a pizza. So I was glad that they ran out of the special and I have my gift card for future indulgences.
I went to a dance Saturday night and did not go back for 2nds and really mingled. And the scale rewarded me for keeping the binging down. I will record it on Thursday.
Have a good day all!0
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