Whats the meanest thing someone said about your weight?

I was very lean growing up, despite eating like a horse. I can't count the number of times spiteful girls told me that I was anorexic. It was hateful and hurtful and did nothing at all to boost my already low self-esteem.

As an adult, I'm still lean - but I am because I work at being fit and healthy, and it pisses me off when people say things like, "Why do you need to work out? You're already skinny."

I went to breakfast with my boyfriend (now my ex). I am getting ready to eat and he proceeds to tell me that my legs look chunky and starts joking around about how he is going to take me to the beach for a walk. How romantic? No thanks *kitten*. Needless to say I lost my appetite.

People say mean things, thinking they are "motivating" you. Really they are hurting you. They sometimes think the hurt will affect you and you will change and become what they think is "acceptable".

Just focus on being a better you today. If you do that everyday you will get where you want to be. If you go emotionally eat and get down on yourself you will be picking up the abuse where they left off. Good luck, keep your head up

When I took up martial arts training after about a 10 year hiatus, I was just over 300 lbs. I had lost about 45 lbs. over the course of 4 years, but was still fairly overweight. Then, I had to have a full hip replacement. Between the months of inactivity and the prescribed steroids I was on, I ballooned back up to about 285. It was 5 months post surgery and had just started participating again for about 2 months, and I was still on the pain meds and steroids. During a promotional ceremony, each higher ranking black belt was asked to come to the front, and take a formal kneeling position, and address the testing candidates before their promotions. This was difficult for me and I needed assistance to stand up after kneeling. The school owner's wife was shooting video of each person's speech to the candidates, which she later posted on YouTube and Facebook. During my speech on the video you could hear her snickering as she commented to someone, "I can't believe how huge his stomach is".

A friend saw a picture of me and said she wondered what happened to me because my face looked so swollen. I think it was her way of telling me I looked fat without saying it.

I had friends that would tell me I was fat. And I would tell them they were fat. We would call eachother Fatty McFaterson, etc. But we were all fat and we all knew it. Not like the truth was going to hurt our feelings.


Plus, guys don't have feelings.

When I was in seventh grade my Dad's best friend had comments about my front porch. Nice.

Someone actually told me once that I should go and die somewhere because I was so fat and costing the NHS soooo much money. A complete stranger that I'd met through a friend only 5 minutes beforehand. That comment made me cry myself to sleep for a very long time afterwards.

I hate the fact that people can only be seen as being happy when their skinny. I know I'm pretty slim at the moment, but I only lost loads of weight and took up exercise because I'm diabetic and didn't want to get seriously ill, but people shouldn't be made to feel this way, no matter what size you are. If you're happy, you're happy and other people should keep their bloody noses out of other people's business.

From my grandmother when i was 13 :brokenheart: "Girl your getting to damn fat, you need to lose weight!" haha yes my grandmother told me this years ago when i was in puberty!

Honestly the meanest thing anyone said was my mom calling herself fat (at 103 pounds) while I was 50 pounds overweight. It was like a slap in the face.

My sister in law said after I lost about 25 pounds: oh, my god, that bulge around your waist is gone! It was not that I didn't knew I had it before but the fact that before losing this weight she was always saying: cutt it out, you're not fat at all! Isn't that a person to keep close by?:huh:

That's awful! I've gotten "When are you due?" when I was at my highest weight. When I was in high school (and actually thin) a friends mom told me I have "Large child-bearing hips", and that really hurt my feelings.

I've never ever never ever ever asked a girl when she was due but i have been present for one of those super awkward moments. Now, I will only ask a woman if she is due if her legs are up and a doctor has the baby's head in his/her hand saying "one more push".

Let's see...I've gotten the whole 'You'd be so pretty if you just lost the weight', or 'Your boyfriend will really have to work to keep you after you lose the weight' (Side note, Like I'm not worth him fighting to keep NOW?)

Then there is the one time I was asked 'When are you due?' in Walmart...Thank goodness it was someone I didn't know and could brush off as pure ignorance.

Then there have been one or two times where a guy would flirt with me and try to weasel his way into my pants, and when I turn him down, I suddenly turn from being 'The most beautiful woman he's ever seen' into a 'hideous fat cow'.

Once when I was in college a girl that my acting class friends and I disliked very much, asked one of my best friends 'Why are you even friends with that cow anyway?' That one stung. Especially because she didn't refute my being a fat cow, just told her that she was my friend and it wasn't any of the other girl's business why.

Or my ex-boyfriend when I was 18 (I also weighed 8 pounds less than I do now, but 40 pounds less than my heaviest) and I were going to go clean out his new truck (it was and older truck that had sat for a while)...So he gave me a pair of his work pants to wear so I wouldn't get my jeans dirty (he was a mechanic). When I couldn't button them (he had smaller hips than I did, but a large tummy, so he weighed roughly what I did) he looked at me with a look that was half incredulousness and half disgust and said 'You're HUGE!' Oh in hindsight, if ONLY I had dumped him over that one

My self-esteem is slowly but steadily growing. I'm not to the point where I can quip back witty one-liners to people being ignorant donkeys, but it's getting to where I can *almost* let stupid comments like that roll off my back and not hurt my feelings. Almost.

At 325 lbs, I was told I look like a doughnut with feet.

My mother constantly used to make comments - think the final straw with her was when she said "you are so fat your husband is going to cheat on you and you'll have noone to blame but yourself" I'm 5'10" and was 212lbs at the time...

Again, thinking she's motivating you but really she's just inconsiderate. That's a sad one

I had been doing P90X for one month when my on and off again BF said "you should stop, you're starting to get bulky"