Whats the meanest thing someone said about your weight?

My eight year old niece once told me, "You'll never do anything with your life and you'll never have kids and you'll never wear a bikini." She's now mature enough to not only know that I flunked out of college, don't have a job, physically can't have kids, and I'm fat.... but to also understand what it all means and what it says about me as a person. It would've hurt me no matter who said it, but because it was her it felt a million times worse. I've heard crueler words from strangers in the past, but none of them compared to this.

I've gotten comments on my body since middle school - it's tough being nearly 6 feet tall when you're 11 years old and already going through puberty. I had a perfect hourglass figure in high school, and could even hold water on my stomach when I laid flat on my back - and yet I was always told that I was fat and huge by my peers.

After I injured my knee (nearly a total reconstruction) playing varsity tennis, I started putting on weight...I started getting rejected by guys because I wasn't skinny enough - the worst was when an ex boyfriend from high school said that my weight gain was okay because there'd be "more cushion for the pushin' " in an effort to get back in my pants. /EPICfail on his part...I'd get a comment now and then from various people but nothing really too bad that I remember. But the comments I've gotten as an adult from other adults...those are the mean, spiteful ones that stick in my head.

Comments from my evil mother-in-law, disguised as concern for my health but said in such a tone..."I didn't know women your size could do yoga/pilates/karate/walk so far". This summer I completed a 2 mile swim each day while at their summer camp - her response, "I didn't know you could actually swim. I thought you were just relying on your weight to float around." I nearly slapped her for that, considering her three uber-fit sons couldn't even do it. When I was 3 days from my daughter's due date, I was taking a walk and had three young guys trail behind me, oinking and mooing, calling me a fat c*** and telling me I was jiggly and needed to lose weight. I managed to turn around and tell them to bugger off, that I was pregnant...which only spurred them on more, telling me that I'd be a s***** mother because I was so fat. I cried the rest of the walk home and for two days after.

Even now, when my confidence is higher than it's ever been, I'll often get the "such a pretty face" comment often. My favorite comment lately has been, "Are you sure you're a BBW? Your face is too thin for you to be so big!" Yesterday I had a guy online who I like a lot tell me that he thought I was absolutely beautiful...and then tell me that he doesn't find obese women attractive at all. Ummm, do you not notice the double chin and lack of collarbones in my pictures?? I've noticed lately that my confidence is starting to shine through more and more, and I've been getting more compliments and fewer rude comments. It might also be that I'm no longer afraid to be rude right back...

They were mean things to say, but at the time I don't remember being particularly hurt by it.

In junior high this boy walked up to me and said "I didn't vote for you because no one wants a fat cheerleader"

I got on the squad anyway. I weighed 218lbs. My floor cheer I did a front walkover into Chinese splits. The other contenders did cartwheels.

I'm awesome. :laugh:

In the line for lunch one day this boy started making fun of me for being fat. I told him to shut up or I would kick him in the face. He said "you're so fat you couldn't lift your leg high enough to kick me in the ankle." I kicked him in the face. His cheek was red and he turned around and kept his mouth shut after that. I meant to just swoosh my foot by his face, but I didn't gage the distance very well. I felt kind of bad about connecting.

At my heaviest I was called "Fat *kitten*, wide load, Toad" list goes on..and all this was from my family. -_-

Not to mention in school where I was picked on everyday. One time a group of guys threw Subway coupons at me and told me to start eating there. Then my cousin's friend one time picked up a pair of my shorts and said "you could fit three people in here" and laughed like a hyena. Needless to say I hated people then.

When I was pregnant and had put on more than just baby weight, my now ex-husband told me that I looked like the "before" picture in a weight loss ad.

Not to mention in school where I was picked on everyday. One time a group of guys threw Subway coupons at me and told me to start eating there. Then my cousin's friend one time picked up a pair of my shorts and said "you could fit three people in here" and laughed like a hyena. Needless to say I hated people then.

I feel you on that one. My cousin took my bra one time and hung it on a nail outside our room at camp and all the guys were shining flashlights on it and laughing about how big it was.

Kids are brutal.

Kids are awful, I honestly have never wanted children because I know how cruel they are.

At my heaviest I was called "Fat *kitten*, wide load, Toad" list goes on..and all this was from my family. -_-

Strangers making fun of you is hard enough, but there is such betrayal when it's from a loved one who is supposed to love you unconditionally and have your back.

I would be made fun of on the way to school, at school, on the ride home from school and then by my father when I got home. No sanctuary. My confidence as a young fat girl slowly turned into bitterness and anger and self-loathing as a teenager and young adult. I look back and I feel such pity for that girl.

At my heaviest I was called "Fat *kitten*, wide load, Toad" list goes on..and all this was from my family. -_-

Strangers making fun of you is hard enough, but there is such betrayal when it's from a loved one who is supposed to love you unconditionally and have your back.

I would be made fun of on the way to school, at school, on the ride home from school and then by my father when I got home. No sanctuary. My confidence as a young fat girl slowly turned into bitterness and anger and self-loathing as a teenager and young adult. I look back and I feel such pity for that girl.

Honestly, I think one of the worst things I heard (which I heard often) was...."You'd be so pretty if only you lost weight".....wow..what a backhanded compliment! lol! I always thought "Ohh so I guess I'm a menace to society now???"

I've had that one my whole life. I was going to write you should tell them "I'm pretty now B****" When I was typing it I heard the phrase narrated in my head by Jesse Pinkman's voice from Breaking Bad.

Being told by my mother-in-law that I was fat. THAT was the moment...