Whats the meanest thing someone said about your weight?

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  • arcana7609
    arcana7609 Posts: 212 Member
    Being told by my mother-in-law that I was fat. THAT was the moment...

    UGH I can't imagine having someone say something to me as an adult, especially a family member.
  • ZealousMissJJ
    ZealousMissJJ Posts: 454 Member
    Buying a new toilet seat with the boyfriend. I point out one and he says the legendary words:

    "Do you think your *kitten* will fit on there?"


    :noway:
  • GADavies
    GADavies Posts: 62 Member
    The meanest thing anyone has said about my weight? That it's above average.

    Ok ok, I'll get my coat...
  • drgmac
    drgmac Posts: 716 Member
    You look sick, eat a steak or something.
  • huv123
    huv123 Posts: 54 Member
    I had a fight with my mom over my eating french toast (she thought it was too fattening to eat) and she told me that I was bigger than my then pregnant sister in law. The irony is that I was so hurt by her I put on another 40 pounds just to show her (negative feedback does not always spur change in the way you would expect =(

    I would get called fat a lot by my brothers especially when a kid (even when I wasn't) and it really skewed my idea about my body. I was at one point 120 pounds and if you had told me that I looked like i was 400 pounds I would have believed you.
  • MrsK20141004
    MrsK20141004 Posts: 489 Member
    I worked at a bank previously and one customer couldn't be bothered to remember my name. he had already alienated the entire staff so I was the only one who got the pleasure of dealing with him. He came in and asked the front desk, "where is that fat girl with blond hair?". The girl at the front desk thought it was hilarious and then told everyone what he said... because you know it was totally appropriate. She didn't bother telling him my name because it was funny to her and then they both just kept calling me that when they were together.

    In hindsight I should've said something to her but I was so hurt...
  • hopefaithlove24
    hopefaithlove24 Posts: 454 Member
    Called too skinny when I was 119lbs, now called fat at 129 lbs! I'm 5'7"
  • huv123
    huv123 Posts: 54 Member
    I noticed some clothes were missing from my wardrobe. I asked my mother had she seen them and she told me she put them in the chairty bag because I had gotten too big to wear them. I flipped out at her and took them back out of the charity bag and now love wearing all of them in front of her even though they are all too big now.

    :noway: :noway: :noway: :mad: :mad: :mad:
  • tmauck4472
    tmauck4472 Posts: 1,785 Member
    Lets see, I've been called a whale by a group of college kids. I've been asked to stand a shelf that was supposed to hold 800 lbs (my husband and I both were supposed to see if it held us) I will never see those people again, but I'd sure like to see their faces. BTW I'm still fat and def working on it
  • MzTanya77
    MzTanya77 Posts: 79 Member
    When I was younger people would call me Mama Lucci (who is that?? LOL) and then I was always told I looked like overweight celebrities such as Star Jones when she was heavy, Oprah Winfrey, etc.
  • I had an ex say that I was everything he ever wanted but he felt I could still be better if I lost some weight. Needless to say that's why he's an ex. lol
  • This was the most polite and professional dig ever!

    I was at the Doctor's office and he was reviewing the notes on me from another Doctor. He was reviewing the notes audibly when he read "a well nourished white male xx years old". I was really impressed by the "well nourished" comment in that it was right to the point without being too personal.

    That higher education paid off.
  • momjmd
    momjmd Posts: 296 Member
    In my high school, I was on the track team. I was never the star or anything but I was not bad either- just middle of the pack. When we first started, the coach (who looked more like a female santa claus with her huge belly) pulled me aside to see if I really was in track for the right reason b/c she thought that I was only there to lose weight. Hmmmm. Really? At the time, I wore a size 7-8 and was probably about 150 lb- so not skin and bones but a far cry from being overweight. It really made me feel fat though. Still, I stayed in track and continued to run the mile and 2 mile that year but didn't do it the next year.
  • I worked at a bank previously and one customer couldn't be bothered to remember my name. he had already alienated the entire staff so I was the only one who got the pleasure of dealing with him. He came in and asked the front desk, "where is that fat girl with blond hair?". The girl at the front desk thought it was hilarious and then told everyone what he said... because you know it was totally appropriate. She didn't bother telling him my name because it was funny to her and then they both just kept calling me that when they were together.

    In hindsight I should've said something to her but I was so hurt...

    Ouch,what a witch!
  • momjmd
    momjmd Posts: 296 Member
    And this year, my son was looking at the weight limit on trampolines (we were thinking of getting one) and said, "Mom, do you weigh too much to jump on the trampoline." Gee, thanks kiddo. No.
  • "You'd be so pretty if you weren't so fat."

    Or my ex husband, who refused to let me go to the gym at the same time he did, because he didn't want all his gym friends to see his fat wife.


    You are gorgeous! Your ex was a loon!
  • jazi719
    jazi719 Posts: 150 Member
    I was always skinny/fit. In my late 30's I started gaining weight ... I blame my ex boyfriend. :angry:

    Anyway, I worked in a medical office and a pharmaceutical rep came up to me and said "do you realize you're gaining weight?" Seriously? No I didn't effing notice. Idiot.
  • jazi719
    jazi719 Posts: 150 Member
    And this year, my son was looking at the weight limit on trampolines (we were thinking of getting one) and said, "Mom, do you weigh too much to jump on the trampoline." Gee, thanks kiddo. No.

    Damn kids. That's what we get for teaching them to be honest!
  • My senior year in high school the basketball coach (male) asked me to consider trying out for the team because he "needed some meat under the basket". :explode:
  • jodycoady
    jodycoady Posts: 598 Member
    When kids say it, I take it as a good "rebukin" (God love their honesty)

    But when adults say it, it hurts like hell..

    When family say it it, it makes me cry.

    But as good old Blue Eyes says "When I find myself, flat on my face I just pick myself up and get back in the race"
  • Docmahi
    Docmahi Posts: 1,603 Member
    Buying a new toilet seat with the boyfriend. I point out one and he says the legendary words:

    "Do you think your *kitten* will fit on there?"


    :noway:

    lmao - has he seen dat *kitten*!! silly guy
  • Docmahi
    Docmahi Posts: 1,603 Member
    I'm not sure if this was mean, but it definitely hurt my feelings. When I was younger, probably 12 or 13, I was at an amusement park with my brother and sister, who are 18 and 13 years older than me. I was walking behind them and I heard my sister talking to my brother, asking if maybe I was so heavy because of a thyroid problem since my mom had recently been diagnosed with hypothyroidism. It was said out of concern, but it was the first time a family member had really acknowledged that I was fat.

    Not surprisingly, as soon as I told my sister that I'd lost quite a bit of weight, the judgmental comments started coming out. She was particularly adamant that she felt she'd failed as a big sister because I was overweight. It hurt more, after starting my weight loss journey, to hear how she really felt about my weight. People think that they can say bad things about how much you used to weigh just because you've lost weight, but that's not really nice either. I love me, and I loved me when I was 50 pounds heavier too. Not to mention that I'm still pretty dang overweight, so I'm sure many of those negative feelings still apply.

    i can understand that - I used to be that way too where when my friends would openly joke about how fat I used to be and it would bother me. But honestly, i mean they only say it now because they dont picture you that way anymore - its a good thing really, they knew it would hurt your feelings before so out of concern they never said anything, and now they are proud of the changes you made/dont see you the same way so its okay to say

    thats just the way I look at it - def doesn't bother me at all anymore
  • Till I was in my 30s I was underweight and many of my friends' parents would say "wait till you have kids"! When I gained weight with three back-to-back pregnancies, one laughed and smugly reminded me of her comments years earlier, then laughed.

    My aunt also has taken to making rude comments-"you have mother's arms now" meaning flabby/big, calling me 'Slim' & poking my bottom when get in the car ahead of her. Her worst comment by far was "look how fat and disgusting you are!" As she poked my stomach and laughed. I was about 20 lbs overweight. She was about 40 lbs overweight. I told her if I wanted to be belittled and put down I would have remained in my abusive marriage & don't expect those who are supposed to be family to be so mean. I don't spend much time around her since, but she has not made any comments since.

    And now that I am in a healthy weight range (albeit near the top of healthy) those who laughed at my weight gain have nothing to say.
  • kdb247
    kdb247 Posts: 326 Member
    My EX-spouse scrunched up his face, pointed to my exposed belly and stated "That's Gross!"
  • ekz13
    ekz13 Posts: 725 Member
    Buying a new toilet seat with the boyfriend. I point out one and he says the legendary words:

    "Do you think your *kitten* will fit on there?"


    :noway:

    lmao - has he seen dat *kitten*!! silly guy

    Bettin he never saw dat *kitten* AGAIN!! :laugh:
  • justal313
    justal313 Posts: 1,375 Member
    "Do you bowl? You look like a bowler.."
  • echofm1
    echofm1 Posts: 471 Member
    I'm not sure if this was mean, but it definitely hurt my feelings. When I was younger, probably 12 or 13, I was at an amusement park with my brother and sister, who are 18 and 13 years older than me. I was walking behind them and I heard my sister talking to my brother, asking if maybe I was so heavy because of a thyroid problem since my mom had recently been diagnosed with hypothyroidism. It was said out of concern, but it was the first time a family member had really acknowledged that I was fat.

    Not surprisingly, as soon as I told my sister that I'd lost quite a bit of weight, the judgmental comments started coming out. She was particularly adamant that she felt she'd failed as a big sister because I was overweight. It hurt more, after starting my weight loss journey, to hear how she really felt about my weight. People think that they can say bad things about how much you used to weigh just because you've lost weight, but that's not really nice either. I love me, and I loved me when I was 50 pounds heavier too. Not to mention that I'm still pretty dang overweight, so I'm sure many of those negative feelings still apply.

    i can understand that - I used to be that way too where when my friends would openly joke about how fat I used to be and it would bother me. But honestly, i mean they only say it now because they dont picture you that way anymore - its a good thing really, they knew it would hurt your feelings before so out of concern they never said anything, and now they are proud of the changes you made/dont see you the same way so its okay to say

    thats just the way I look at it - def doesn't bother me at all anymore

    I guess I've done similar things with my friends too. For some reason, talking about my weight with them doesn't feel as weird as talking about it with my sister. Part of it might be that I've always talked about it with my friends, most of who are bigger as well. Whereas my sister has always been incredibly athletic and thin, though she never really thinks she is. She had two kids and got a little bit chubbier, but after losing 10 pounds she said she was back at high school weight and went from a medium to a small dress size.

    The incident above was also the first time my sister had seen me since losing a noticeable amount of weight, since she lives several states away from me. Maybe it's just because it's too soon? I'm trying not to hold it against her though, because I know she's not trying to hurt my feelings.
  • aedreana
    aedreana Posts: 979 Member
    OMG-- this was by far the worst insult I have ever received about anything! In 1985, I heard through a third party that someone we knew thought I might have some type of eating disorder because I ate so much food for my size.
  • jstavix
    jstavix Posts: 407 Member
    My co-worker told me that her husband said I had such a pretty face and she said she told him that she felt God blessed large women with beautiful faces because their bodies weren't. And she smiled as she told this story. I had to walk away because I wanted to punch her in the face.
  • BeautifulSoul705
    BeautifulSoul705 Posts: 123 Member
    After given birth to my third child seven years ago, my baby sister who is a fitness Queen and never had kids points at my stomach and says, " you better do something about that". Six weeks after giving birth, I mean I stayed healthy and fit my whole pregnancy and it looked like I swallowed a basketball when I gave birth. I only gained 20 lbs and 9 of those pounds were my Jade Alexa. Sigh!
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