how do you deal with a broken heart?

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  • heylookitsval
    heylookitsval Posts: 1,141 Member
    Peace Tea Pink Lemonade + Tea mixed with Vodka...delicious.

    Wait, what?
  • AJinBirmingham
    AJinBirmingham Posts: 497
    I was at the gym Monday with a woman who had buried her husband last week. I think she's handling it well.

    Or if you like biblical advice: "Give strong drink to the one who is perishing, and wine to those in bitter distress; let them drink and forget their poverty and remember their misery no more." Proverbs 30:6-7
  • ekz13
    ekz13 Posts: 725 Member
    Get Chocolate wasted!! :drinker:
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    time.

    id quote that a million times
  • hannahpistolas
    hannahpistolas Posts: 290 Member
    Just broke up with my ex of 3 years/father of my child in October.

    I am:
    1. Fixating on my child. If you do not have children, this does not apply, although I definitely recommend spending time with a kid. Seriously. Their laughter is the most beautiful sound, even to the saddest ears.
    2. Flirting with anything and everything (trust me, the self-esteem boost helps).
    3. Going to start P90X3 and get super sexypants.
    4. Focusing on my career.
    5. Doing what I want to do. You don't realize how much you sacrifice to be with someone else until you have all that time on your hands to sit and think. And, let me tell you, getting to a point where your happy with yourself when you're alone is the best place to be.
  • hannahpistolas
    hannahpistolas Posts: 290 Member
    You'd have to fall in love to get a broken heart, and I don't fall in love.

    SASSY.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    Get Chocolate wasted!! :drinker:

    I WANNNNNNNAAA GET CHOCOLATE WASTED!!!!!
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

    this only works if it is good...bad sex makes you wish for the ex
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    You just move on.

    Find new hobbies, meet new people. Go back to school, work over time.
  • SamanthaD1218
    SamanthaD1218 Posts: 303 Member
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    But seriously, watching Bridget Jones' Diary will help heal your heart. I PROMISE!

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  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    It's like going through a death, I think.
  • bannedword
    bannedword Posts: 299 Member
    I had mine removed and replaced with a Microsoft product. Much more reliable.
  • ModernNerd
    ModernNerd Posts: 336 Member
    Hugs for you OP :flowerforyou:

    Finding a distraction has always been the key for me getting through break ups. Focus on self-improvement, not for him but I find it helps remind you that YOU are the most important person in your life:) I've found a ton of new interests in the times I was fresh out of relationships. Actually, a big part of why I started working out was to get out of my own head and force myself to get out of my room after I'd broken up with a guy.
  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    Squats and dead-lifts.
  • Kirstyw871
    Kirstyw871 Posts: 216 Member
    Sleep around.
  • samkelly89
    samkelly89 Posts: 198 Member
    Sometimes happiness is a decision. Choose to be happy.
  • TerryRobWasm
    TerryRobWasm Posts: 8 Member
    My heart is now permanently broken. I will NOT allow myself to be vulnerable again. Love hurts, sometimes too much. I've had enough hurt.

    Time heals all wounds, but the scars remain as a reminder. My scars run very deep.

    How do you deal with it??? One day at a time, sometimes one hour at a time, sometimes, one minute at a time. Sometimes crying helps.

    Never again!!

    All the suggestions for getting over someone and healing are good and are well taken. I'm soon to be 66 YO. Getting to be kind of late for me. Some hurt at my age can run pretty deep.
  • DeputySox
    DeputySox Posts: 78
    Do what my Army drill sergeant always told us to do. Fvck it and drive on! Good luck!
  • tzig00
    tzig00 Posts: 875 Member
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    Wait, no Ben and Jerrys?
  • Deipneus
    Deipneus Posts: 1,861 Member
    I never thougt about this until now. When I was in my teens and early twenties, I only had casual dating relationships that all ran their course and ended on friendly terms. I married my first serious love interest and we've been married 30 years. If this ends badly, I'll have to figure it out then.
  • YoungIronG
    YoungIronG Posts: 125 Member
    eat.
  • The_Enginerd
    The_Enginerd Posts: 3,982 Member
    time.
    It's a good magazine and all, but I'm not sure how helpful it will be.

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  • Elisabeth2016
    Elisabeth2016 Posts: 21
    No one really knows the way I dealt with it was to get back with my ex might not be a good idea for most but we're still together so?
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    Have a good cry, then go shopping, round up the girls for a night of getting loser drunk, one night stands...and then when the dust settles you need to make a plan of action. I agree with the working out. Nothing says eff you like a hot body and a new wardrobe. Now it's time to think about your career, hobbies, friends and family. Make him wish he never broke up with you, but remember WHY you broke up in the first place. Take good care of yourself...that's the most important thing.
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
    Stitches or glue. I prefer Stitches, they are more artistic. :)
  • bettacheckyoself
    bettacheckyoself Posts: 570
    max the credit card
  • funsmile1234
    funsmile1234 Posts: 83 Member
    time and completely distract yourself. Give yourself time to grieve but don't let it consume you. Find something you like a lot and do that thing. Cut off all contact with that person so you don't further injure your soul and be patient with yourself. It's a process.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Seriously, what do you do?

    Keep yourself busy
    Focus on yourself and what you want.
    Immerse yourself in interests.
    Go out with friends.
    Time is on your side.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member


    Keep yourself busy
    Focus on yourself and what you want.
    Immerse yourself in interests.
    Go out with friends.
    Time is on your side.

    This. He's absolutely right. Get out and do the things you like to do. That way when you meet someone, you'll already have one thing in common.
  • Inkratlet
    Inkratlet Posts: 613 Member
    Seriously, what do you do?

    Keep yourself busy
    Focus on yourself and what you want.
    Immerse yourself in interests.
    Go out with friends.
    Time is on your side.

    Truth.

    Be kind to yourself. Seek positive influences.

    Don't seek answers in destructive behaviours such as sleeping around, drink and drugs.

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