support for Binge Eating Disorder

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  • Behavior_Modification
    Behavior_Modification Posts: 24,482 Member
    Oh Mollie, that was a great post. I enjoyed reading about your success, that is wonderful!
  • Hey Mollie1037!

    I can not tell you how many times I have done that picked up a food at a store and stand ther for what seems like for hours and end up putting back. I hear ya! But good for you!

    I had a bad weekend and yesterday to because I was sick no working out, but today was great really starting to get a grip on stopping myself before I eat and figuring out when I'm hungry and when it is something else. Like today for example I started to eat then said ti myself why I'm I eating and it was because I was bored. So I stopped what I was doing and did something else.
    Pat on the back for that!

    Anyway I hope all went well for everyone else take care,
    Melissa
  • Behavior_Modification
    Behavior_Modification Posts: 24,482 Member
    @Melissa, a pat on the back indeed!

    As for me, I'm hanging in there. Still pretty sick but not nearly as bad as yesterday. My throat is really sore. It's amazing how much I don't want to eat because it hurts going down. Except ice cream of course. LOL. Ice cream is really soothing (and I did buy fat free ice cream this time) on my throat. I need to take it easy for a while to regain my strength. I'm really weak. And the scale sure reflected that this morning. I was down 6.5lbs from my last weigh in. I know that is from being sick mostly so I'm not logging it, I'll wait another week and see where I leveled off.
  • LOVEsummer
    LOVEsummer Posts: 304 Member
    This thread has inspired me so much. It has been one week since I last binged or ate anything in a crazy food frenzy. When I have snagged a bite of something off of my bfs plate or a leftover tupperware (MY WORST HABITS!!!) I have logged every last bite of it and I. Feel. Great! Eating less has me feeling a little bit more tired but I know that I can push through until I reach my goal weight/size and then mellow out the hardcore workouts and calorie restriction. Those last 10 lbs are the hardest right? Well I am going to beat them!

    Keep up the good work everyone <3
  • Behavior_Modification
    Behavior_Modification Posts: 24,482 Member
    Great job LOVEsummer! Thanks for posting! :flowerforyou:
  • I suffer majorly from BED and occasional bulimia. I don't know if anyone can see my blogs but I'm in major need of some motivational words. Even reading this thread makes me want to binge. Not sure what I need to do or where I need to go from here... It's an awful battle and I feel sorry for anyone that has to go through this.
  • Hey! LOVEsummer & Raina0512 Welcome

    LOVEsummer I hear ya I'm about 15 pounds from my weight loss goal as well! I really want it badly I have been doing this for a year and half and I'm so tired of the whole thing. But I really want this weight loss goal and for the most important reason is to lose the weight and be happy and healthy. I'm really bad at eating my kids or hubby leftovers off their plates after they are done. But someone on here said to "waste it or waist it on my tummy and butt yuck" It really helped me.

    I'm with ya with pushing to get off and only eating what I needed to get it off. But one thing we have to remember is it is a lifesyte change. So what I'm doing is really trying to learn how to eat heathly and workout for life. Now I'm not saying that it is bad to do weight loss a certain way do what works best for you.

    But I think we can both help each other get to our goals, Lets check in with each other every couple of days to help push each other. Keep it up we Can Do This!!!!!!!!!! It will not be beat us.

    Raina0512 Hang in there!

    We are all here for you, don't give up you can do this hour by hour day by day. Try to find something to keep your mind off the food. That is my biggest problem keeping busy to keep my mind of food. Sometimes that is all I can think about.

    Anyway find a hobby or help someone out. That's what I found really helped me was helping some else with what every they needed. Find what works for you and do it.

    Also there is a Overeating website that really has helped me.They have meeting all over the world and online. Here is the link.

    http://www.oa.org/meetings/find-a-meeting-online.php

    Good luck

    My day was not so good binged today but learned something from it, the food is so not worth eating it. I'm worth way more than the food. After the binge I really sat myself down and asked myself what is worth more the taste of food or my family and my life.

    I can not believe food can take over so much of my life. I slip up but it matters what I do after it that counts. The rest of my day will be better and it has been.

    We Can All do this Good luck to everyone else today,

    Melissa
  • StacySkinny
    StacySkinny Posts: 984 Member
    I suffer majorly from BED and occasional bulimia. I don't know if anyone can see my blogs but I'm in major need of some motivational words. Even reading this thread makes me want to binge. Not sure what I need to do or where I need to go from here... It's an awful battle and I feel sorry for anyone that has to go through this.

    I know what you mean. Reading this thread makes me want to binge too and I haven't binged in years. I think sometimes when we talk about something a lot and/or think about something a lot it makes it that much harder to keep from doing that thing. My best advice is to stay active/keep busy. And send as much time as possible around people who have normal relationships with food. Don't keep "trigger" foods in the house either. If you're less likely to binge on fruit and veggies stock your fridge and cupboards with them. Not only will it keep you from binging at home but will be all around healthier for your body.

    I had to train myself to slowly phase out the stuff that I liked to binge on. After you stop having it in the house and start eating more healthy foods your taste buds WILL change. And you will develop an actually dislike for the foods you used to find irresistible and binge worthy. I used to love cup cakes and could eat 4 or more in one sitting - after staying away from them for months I went to eat one again and found that it was so overpoweringly sweet that it burned the back of my throat. So goes with most other sugar loaded things now and even salty stuff. It's sugary and salty foods that are the most addicting and the most likely to trigger an average binge eater. Phase that junk out of your life and you will find yourself binging less and less until eventually you've broken that cycle.
  • Been through same thing and truly do understand. I just recently joined OA overeaters anonymous. I joined once before when I was in my mid twenties and I couldn't relate to the people or the concepts but now in middle age when my emotions are driving the eating and insanity about food that can't be explained, this concept of OA, based on AA actually makes sense. You might want to give it a try. Doesn't cost, nice group of people, all with the exact same issues as us all willing to help you through it. I've been reading some of their literature and it's so ME. Give it at try.
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,385 Member
    Been through same thing and truly do understand. I just recently joined OA overeaters anonymous. I joined once before when I was in my mid twenties and I couldn't relate to the people or the concepts but now in middle age when my emotions are driving the eating and insanity about food that can't be explained, this concept of OA, based on AA actually makes sense. You might want to give it a try. Doesn't cost, nice group of people, all with the exact same issues as us all willing to help you through it. I've been reading some of their literature and it's so ME. Give it at try.

    This was almost my same experience. I went to a few OA meetings in my late 20's and thought this is too spiritual for me. I was very uncomfortable with the Higher Power language because I believe in God. So I went to about 2 or 3 meetings and stopped.

    In 2004 I had weight loss surgery and thought this was do it. Even they the kept telling us it is just a tool. It did not matter one bit. So I had my surgery and lost 300 pounds. Then the honeymoon period was over and I had to do the work. I have did therphy off and on for what seems like a life time. 1st eating disorder group at age 23 or so. It helps but the problem will always be there but has to be controlled. So in 2007 I started gradually going back to old habits and over a 3 year period I had gained back 80 pounds from over eating. I still can not have a full fledge binge because of my surgery but I can graze which is the exact same result. I could not stop eating and unlike before I was not in denial because I had a scale. My program insisted I get one. So finally this year I went to a WLS dinner and had a melt down. I did not want to go but I wanted to face my demons. So I went and now I am glad I did. It was painful but I needed it. I realized so much from that experience. That I was not a filure and I had kept off over a 2 thirds of my weight but I had to find a resolution to my binge/grazing problem. My surgery was not a cure for my over eating.

    Thru another site I learned about MFP and then the same site referred me back to OA. So in April I went OA and signed up for their online emails and I love it and what I once thought was too spiritual is no longer that. I get it and like you I read the book and that is ME. I am a COE. So I have noticed most people there are older meaning over 30. I think in your 20's you still may not get it to the full extent. Just an observation of mines on the age. So do give OA a try online and face to face meetings. I do them both.
  • Brady_
    Brady_ Posts: 108 Member
    Just marking territory here..deff got the BED going on. it got the best of me tonight, hope all is well with everyone!
  • PoshTaush
    PoshTaush Posts: 1,247
    I really binged hard tonight... I feel terrible... I used to purge but at least I didn't do that.... it makes me sad.
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,385 Member
    I suffer majorly from BED and occasional bulimia. I don't know if anyone can see my blogs but I'm in major need of some motivational words. Even reading this thread makes me want to binge. Not sure what I need to do or where I need to go from here... It's an awful battle and I feel sorry for anyone that has to go through this.

    I know what you mean. Reading this thread makes me want to binge too and I haven't binged in years. I think sometimes when we talk about something a lot and/or think about something a lot it makes it that much harder to keep from doing that thing. My best advice is to stay active/keep busy. And send as much time as possible around people who have normal relationships with food. Don't keep "trigger" foods in the house either. If you're less likely to binge on fruit and veggies stock your fridge and cupboards with them. Not only will it keep you from binging at home but will be all around healthier for your body.

    I had to train myself to slowly phase out the stuff that I liked to binge on. After you stop having it in the house and start eating more healthy foods your taste buds WILL change. And you will develop an actually dislike for the foods you used to find irresistible and binge worthy. I used to love cup cakes and could eat 4 or more in one sitting - after staying away from them for months I went to eat one again and found that it was so overpoweringly sweet that it burned the back of my throat. So goes with most other sugar loaded things now and even salty stuff. It's sugary and salty foods that are the most addicting and the most likely to trigger an average binge eater. Phase that junk out of your life and you will find yourself binging less and less until eventually you've broken that cycle.

    Thanks Stacey for sharing here with us. It is very helpful. I don't know too many peoples who binge off of fruits, veggies....:-) Your experiences and thoughts are helpful and speaking for myself, keep me mindful, gives me conviction that I am on my way and are good reminders also that this can be done. I hope sharing is a benefit to you. I have to believe it helps you remain mindful and reflect on how far you have come in your journey. Keep up the good work and please keep sharing if not too painful for you and I certainly don't want you to binge, but I do understand what you all are saying regarding this. It is similar to seeing a food we like and wanting it when before it being in site it was not in your thoughts.
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,385 Member
    I really binged hard tonight... I feel terrible... I used to purge but at least I didn't do that.... it makes me sad.

    One day at a time. I am glad you did not purge. It is good you shared with us and hopefully this is helpful to you. Yes we can get sad. But it is important to seek help if possible. ODAT. Forget about today and tomorrow is another day.
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,385 Member
    I have done pretty good this week thus far. Tonight I did have a spell of over eating but not a binge.

    Thank you all for sharing. The posts were encouraging and helpful for sure.

    Have a good day tomorrow!:flowerforyou:
  • May I join you all? :-)

    I am well within my "healthy" weight range but my UK size 8-10 figure does not tell the whole story. I weigh foods and track my calories for 4 days, then go into a feeding frenzy and consume 3000 calories withing the space of 2-4 hours.

    This started about 4 years ago when I was having a real porblem with athritis pains and used food to dull the hurt. I've been working on self esteem issues this past year after hitting rock bottom around April and things are getting far better.

    I tried Overeaters Anon. but just can't do the "god" thing and daily readings from their "bible - like" books. Last binge was on Wednesday this week and I would sincerely, with your support, like to make it my last.

    I find eating about 250 calories 6 times a day works for me, keeping me getting so empty I fill up with junk. Best wishes to all in this thread and I look foward to us all working on a future free from the grip that binges have on our lives.
  • Bettany
    Bettany Posts: 14 Member
    I think you are right WhiteViolet. I tried eating several small meals yesterday at work (my most dangerous binging time) and didn't binge once. I couldn't believe it. I rarely make it through a day without either binging or eating something extremely fattening. I don't know why I binge. I use to never eat desserts and now I eat several sweets all at once. What the heck is wrong with me. I can do so well all day and find myself ordering an extra value meal at McDonalds.
  • Hey!

    Welcome guys! For me I didn't start to binge for a long time untill I started to diet. So my plan right know is not to diet and eat everything within reason. From what I'm been reading on binging is not to diet or put foods on a can't have list. Because then you want it more. Also I have been reading what has been working for me is eat like people are watching me.

    Yesterday was a bad food day, what I was binging on was all the no no iteams that I said I wouldn't eat. So all foods are good to eat within reason.

    Melissa
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,385 Member
    Hello all and welcome new ones,

    I have a bad eating weekend. Today is anothe day. Thanks Melissa for posting. I will try the idea about think as if people were watching you. So much of binge eating is done in secret. But I will try it for sure.

    Have a good week and one day at a time.
  • Hi everyone,

    I had a bad week. I went on a binge streak. I'm trying to break it. I know i can. Because I've dont it before. Many times. And I'll probably have to do it again some time in the future. But it does make you feel sad. To eat uncontrollably makes you feel lonely and isolated. And that's no good. But I can and will do this. I dont' have to keep going just because I've started (which is a major part of my BED thinking pattern).

    So, I'm just checking in.
  • Hey!

    Well I have been binging for like 2 months straight it has been driving me crazy, just could not get back. Well I stepped on the scale just now I have gained a total of 20 pounds in the last 2 months yuck! Any way went to the gym tonight felt really good going to try to go every day.

    I think I can I think I can!

    I hope this is the butt kick I need to get me on the right path again.

    Melissa
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,385 Member
    Hello Titiana,

    I am glad you know that you can. Because you can. Yes all or nothing attitude is a challenge

    Melissa,
    I am proud of you for getting on the scale tonight. I think knowing that you have gained 20 pounds back will help you tremendously. You know we can not always say why we binge and when we can't figure it out we have to resort to stragies. Not weighing is is a form of denial for us. That is how I got up to 600 pounds by not having a scale as a child and then continuing it when I was an adult.

    7 years ago was the 1st time I brought a scale and it was recommended to me by a director and nurse. He also recommended to me to weigh myself daily once a day. I don't always do this but I can tell you one thing I do better when I weigh myself daily. Right now I am doing it because the number on the scale from the morning stays with me all day. I am not suggesting this to you or anyone else. It does not work for everyone. But it works for me. If I know I have not eaten enough to gain weight I chalk it up to sodium and I do not let it bother me. What I am looking for is overall weight loss, not day to day so I don't go crazy over gains from day to day because it even's itself out by end of week. I only count my weight from 1st day month to the next and on Thurs or Fridays weekly.

    If you can take it try it. Does anyone else wegh daily? Have you ever tried it?
  • Hey!

    Tks for the suporrt it really helps, I'm going to try and weigh myself every couple of days, and she if that will help. One step at a time.

    Melissa
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,385 Member
    Hello Melissa,

    Even if this does not work, I recommend stepping on the scale at least once a week for sure. Keep me posted.

    Have a good day everyone! One day at a time!
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,385 Member
    Hey!

    Well I have been binging for like 2 months straight it has been driving me crazy, just could not get back. Well I stepped on the scale just now I have gained a total of 20 pounds in the last 2 months yuck! Any way went to the gym tonight felt really good going to try to go every day.

    I think I can I think I can!

    I hope this is the butt kick I need to get me on the right path again.

    Melissa

    I know I can I know I can!.:wink:
  • Hello, is anyone still on this thread? l know that when l am really really upset l have binged on food, l was always thin most of my life and when l hit my late 30's thats when l noticed l would binge when l was upset. To be honest, l didnt even notice at first l just starting doing it, with not even realizing what l was doing. Then the weight came on and l woke up. I struggle a lot with problems with my ex and the kids, he doesnt parent with me, and when l got so upset, l would eat till l felt like l was going to be sick. I couldnt believe that l had turned to food like this.I am trying so hard to stop. I was upset the other day and started eating and l was in the kitchen, and l stopped after l ate 3 cookies which is pretty good, l would of kept going but l stopped. I wanted more but l went in my room and cried instead. It wasnt the best alternative but atleast l stopped lol. I am just going to have to get myself out of the habit, what do you guys all do any suggestions? thanks for listening Tamara
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,385 Member
    Welcome Tamara!

    Crying never hurts anyone. Crying is good for the soul and much better than binge eating. Keep posting and read the thread. There ae many suggestions within this thread.

    Keep posting! Some post daily.

    One day at a time.
  • Thank you Molly for your support, and yes l do plan on posting everyday! l believe that if l keep connected, l will keep on track and know that l will reach my goal if l just take one day at a time! Have a great day everyone :)



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  • Welcome tamara003!

    I'm glad you found us! Loads of good idea check it out!

    I'm proud to say I did not binge today even though I wanted to! So I'm putting out there the newest goal I have, now not to sure if this will happen it is just to see what it is all about. I have been waiting 6 months to get in to this Drs. place. I may be getting a tummy tuck done, I have a appiont to see what it is all about on Dec.8/10 but it really depends on what they say and if I can get most of this weight off.

    I figure if I put it out there I will work hard on it.
    I hope everyone else had a good day.

    Melissa
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,385 Member
    I wish you best Melissa on tummy tuck!

    I did not binge today but I did have FAT food and still stay within my calories so I am happy! We are getting close to the end of the thread peeps!! 500 and we will be in part 2!! Cool beans!

    Good night all and happy hump day!
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