I dont want to eat twigs and berries

I eat good meals . I just eat to much and everytime I go on a diet or try to change my life style I HATE IT!!!! I feel hungry all the time and I can't eat something if it doesn't taste good. I love to cook and me and my bf love food . Everytime I try to change I get so depressed about food. I want to still be able to eat the foods I love ( I don't eat fast food) . Help !!!
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  • Phoenix_Warrior
    Phoenix_Warrior Posts: 1,633 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    ^Please read. This completely changed my view of diets. You shouldn't have to cut out things. ;) I even eat fast food.
  • KateK8LoseW8
    KateK8LoseW8 Posts: 824 Member
    So eat what you like and count the calories. Over time, you may find that you can live with some substitutions or changes if that means being able to eat more of your favourite foods. For example, tonight I'm having ravioli and leftover Christmas cake, so that means the rest of my day consists of fruit, salad, carrots, cucumbers, and low fat cottage cheese. Over time you'll learn what you can live without, or what you can do to make more room in your diet for things that you love. Just takes time and practice. Get logging!
  • I also want to add I'm on a tight food budget . We eat a lot of food we have killed and butchered ourselves. Deer, moose , pig and chicken
  • weightliftingdiva
    weightliftingdiva Posts: 522 Member
    You can still eat the foods you love, just eat smaller portions. If eating more fruits and veg (or twigs and berries, but eating twigs is kind of unappealing lol...) is a goal, start slow, and learn some tasty, lower cal recipes for side dishes. You may find you actually develop a liking for things you didn't like before.

    Sometimes the biggest thing you can do for yourself is an attitude adjustment. Sometimes if you shift your attitude, your behavior changes will come more easily.

    Good luck and best wishes! You can do it!
  • Barbonica
    Barbonica Posts: 337 Member
    You are correct, if you don't have a healthy relationship with food, you will likely not see the results you seek. You don't have to make massive changes that don't fit into what you like. Start by logging. Everything. Even taste tests. That single skittle you snuck from the kid's snack. Do this for a couple of weeks, and start looking at where you can make small changes. Switch that bag of chips for an apple. Eliminate that afternoon soda. Whatever works for YOU. Add a little exercise. Take a walk, do a video, something. After 4 weeks, see how you are doing. Have you lost any weight? If not, modify again. It took you years to gain weight, you have to be patient to lose it. Success is changing your lifestyle. I did that successfully 3 years ago, and lost about 45 pounds without logging anything. I wanted to lose another 20-30, so started on this website, and have made a lot of progress (19 additional pounds lost). Be kind to yourself, you can do this - but you have to be honest about the entire journey. Happy New Year - you can do it!
  • michellekicks
    michellekicks Posts: 3,624 Member
    So you set yourself up with a very modest caloric deficit - aim for 1/2 a pound loss weekly - and eat all the foods you like. You weigh and measure everything, put your recipes in the recipe tool and dish up!
  • ka97
    ka97 Posts: 1,984 Member
    :laugh: My favorite cereal is Kashi go lean, with fresh blueberries!

    Eat what you like and adjust your portion sizes accordingly. Examine your food log to figure out what you might be able to substitute or cut back on. But also be open to trying new things. You might discover new foods or recipes that you really like.

    Two examples....
    -I love pasta. Refuse to give it up. So I will still eat a big bowl of pasta. However, I cut the portion size of the pasta in half, add LOTS of vegetables and lean protein. Still eating what I like. Still feel like I'm eating a big bowl of pasta, but I've cut way down on the calories.

    -Greek yogurt - didn't care for it, except as a substitute for sour cream. But kept experimenting with different combinations. Now....I could eat it three times a day. It's become my go-to breakfast because I can prep it the night before, it's yummy, and it keeps me full through the morning.

    You don't have to eat twigs and berries. You just need to be open minded and figure out what will work for you.
  • WhiteRabbit1313
    WhiteRabbit1313 Posts: 1,091 Member
    I eat good meals . I just eat to much and everytime I go on a diet or try to change my life style I HATE IT!!!! I feel hungry all the time and I can't eat something if it doesn't taste good. I love to cook and me and my bf love food . Everytime I try to change I get so depressed about food. I want to still be able to eat the foods I love ( I don't eat fast food) . Help !!!

    Your perception of nutrition is all wrong. If you eat good, home-cooked meals, continue to do so, just do it in smaller portions. You don't even have to cut back drastically, all at once. I read French Women Don't Get Fat (not true--some FW do get fat. lol), but the book helped me to develop a MUCH healthier view of food. Eat butter, cheese, and whatever you like, BUT do it mindfully and trim your portions back. Personally, I started by eating half of what I normally ate, but it's totally fine to start with eating 3/4 of what you'd normally eat. Also, I stopped eating so many carbs/starches (which aren't inherently evil), because they don't fill me up well and the calories add up. I.e.: If I normally ate a hamburger, I ate an open-faced burger. If I had pasta, I didn't have bread (or I'd half both). I also stopped eating low quality foods, like grocery store desserts that aren't that tasty, when you actually pay attention when you eat them. If I had cake, I'd eat half of what I'd normally eat, and only if I REALLY wanted it. Sometimes, I just savored 1-2 small bites and pushed the rest aside. These little things added up to me losing 20 lbs. in 2-3 months. I felt good about myself and what I was eating while doing it. That's the relationship you SHOULD have with food. If you don't enjoy your new eating plan, then you're doing it wrong. :wink:
  • krista2131
    krista2131 Posts: 33 Member
    If you eat what you like in normal portion sizes and watch calories, you should be able to lose weight. I know that I had to change my eating habits significantly due to allergies I never knew that I had. Good luck to you and feel free to add me. I could always use motivation
  • I love fruits and vegatables don't get me wrong. I just meant I don't want it to be ALL I get to eat. I was just ranting a little. I think I just get scared . Food is a comfort for me
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    ^Please read. This completely changed my view of diets. You shouldn't have to cut out things. ;) I even eat fast food.
    Bingo. Read this, and then tweak it to fit your own lifestyle.
    No one says you have to eat twigs and berries (granted, berries are AWESOME). Eat what you want, as long as you fuel your body.
  • LishieFruit89
    LishieFruit89 Posts: 1,956 Member
    I love fruits and vegatables don't get me wrong. I just meant I don't want it to be ALL I get to eat. I was just ranting a little. I think I just get scared . Food is a comfort for me

    You might want to examine your relationship with food then so you can succeed at this.
  • GingerLolita
    GingerLolita Posts: 738 Member
    You don't have to eat twigs, but I can't understand the desire to avoid berries. I could eat a pound of strawberries per day and I would if they weren't one of the most expensive fruit options. :)

    If you could open your diary, we could give more specific advice, but it's clear that you're eating the wrong foods. Something that worked for me to get excited about and interested in eating healthy was to buy some healthier cookbooks (400 Calorie Cookbook, Flat Belly Diet Cookbook, Ellie Krieger's The Food You Crave, Cooking Light) and learn how to be more adventurous while being healthy. You don't need to eat twigs and berries, you can eat delicious homemade meals, as long as you know how to make them!
  • jigsaw_me
    jigsaw_me Posts: 616 Member
    I also want to add I'm on a tight food budget . We eat a lot of food we have killed and butchered ourselves. Deer, moose , pig and chicken

    Great food choices - now just add some veggies and go easy on the pasta and watch your portions.

    Put the recipes you use into the Recipe section of your food diary and then you'll know exactly how many cals are in each portion.

    Oh and read that guide ...
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    You can still eat the foods you love, just keep portions under control. I was the same way for a long time - thought I had to live on rabbit food in order to lose weight and that never worked out. I always felt deprived and unsatisfied and would just completely give up in frustration after a month or two.

    Then I finally smartened up and realized it wasn't necessary. I might tweak recipes a bit to make them lighter or more healthy (less pasta/rice, more veg, leaner meats) but if not, I just try to keep serving sizes low so that the foods fit into my daily calorie limit. Or I exercise to make up the difference - on MFP, you earn calories by logging these activities.

    Good thing about the meats you tend to eat is that most game is naturally low in fat and therefore lower in calories. Not sure about pig and chicken but assuming it's like the meat you'd buy in stores, you can lower fat/calories by trimming the fat and/or removing skin.

    Regarding the comfort part of it - that's pretty common. At some point you have to become more mindful of your behaviors and find ways to change them. Stop letting food be your comfort and find better ways to deal with your troubles (meditation, yoga, exercise, new hobbies). For me, boredom and lonliness are a huge trigger. Once I identified that, I was able to start changing my behavior over time. Instead of turning to food, I'd find something else that occupied my time - reading, going for a walk, playing games on my tablet - whatever it took to distract myself. Don't get me wrong, this has been a long process and I still have trouble from time to time but it's gotten much better.
  • I guess I freak out .... I make the decision to lose weight and instantly I'm hungry haha. Then I do this thing were I go around the cupboards and say I can't eat this and this. Then at meal time I get all in a panic trying to find something to eat and I always make something really small or a salad . I guess I just don't know how to do it without going extreme
  • spoiledpuppies
    spoiledpuppies Posts: 675 Member
    I was similar. I actually haven't changed what I eat all that much because it was always (mostly) healthy. I just stopped going out to eat so much and cut my portions by a whole lot. Have I been hungry over the last few months? For sure. I even asked my husband to stop asking me if a meal filled me up (if he though it looked small) because, frankly, my meals often don't fill me up in that stuffed and super-satisfied way they used to. I have to remind myself that I did, in fact, eat enough--it's about fueling my body, not been stuffed. I also try to feel good about the times I'm hungry. It means my body is using other fuel (fat), which is exactly what I want it to be doing. Being actually hungry will also train you to know what it feels like versus a craving or just a desire for that full feeing.

    Parts of this are not fun--but it sure is fun to look and feel better!
  • jigsaw_me
    jigsaw_me Posts: 616 Member
    well then maybe for week 1 don't change anything, just log everything .. then you can see where you need to make changes ...
  • ryry_
    ryry_ Posts: 4,966 Member
    No other information is needed outside of the first post by Phoenix Warrior. Please read and come back if you have questions.
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    I eat good meals . I just eat to much and everytime I go on a diet or try to change my life style I HATE IT!!!! I feel hungry all the time and I can't eat something if it doesn't taste good. I love to cook and me and my bf love food . Everytime I try to change I get so depressed about food. I want to still be able to eat the foods I love ( I don't eat fast food) . Help !!!

    Your perception of nutrition is all wrong. If you eat good, home-cooked meals, continue to do so, just do it in smaller portions. You don't even have to cut back drastically, all at once. I read French Women Don't Get Fat (not true--some FW do get fat. lol), but the book helped me to develop a MUCH healthier view of food. Eat butter, cheese, and whatever you like, BUT do it mindfully and trim your portions back. Personally, I started by eating half of what I normally ate, but it's totally fine to start with eating 3/4 of what you'd normally eat. Also, I stopped eating so many carbs/starches (which aren't inherently evil), because they don't fill me up well and the calories add up. I.e.: If I normally ate a hamburger, I ate an open-faced burger. If I had pasta, I didn't have bread (or I'd half both). I also stopped eating low quality foods, like grocery store desserts that aren't that tasty, when you actually pay attention when you eat them. If I had cake, I'd eat half of what I'd normally eat, and only if I REALLY wanted it. Sometimes, I just savored 1-2 small bites and pushed the rest aside. These little things added up to me losing 20 lbs. in 2-3 months. I felt good about myself and what I was eating while doing it. That's the relationship you SHOULD have with food. If you don't enjoy your new eating plan, then you're doing it wrong. :wink:

    *applause*

    Your success will depend heavily on your attitude. If you're not enjoying what you're changing, you won't stay motivated. Start small.
  • You can still eat the foods you love, just keep portions under control. I was the same way for a long time - thought I had to live on rabbit food in order to lose weight and that never worked out. I always felt deprived and unsatisfied and would just completely give up in frustration after a month or two.

    Then I finally smartened up and realized it wasn't necessary. I might tweak recipes a bit to make them lighter or more healthy (less pasta/rice, more veg, leaner meats) but if not, I just try to keep serving sizes low so that the foods fit into my daily calorie limit. Or I exercise to make up the difference - on MFP, you earn calories by logging these activities.

    Good thing about the meats you tend to eat is that most game is naturally low in fat and therefore lower in calories. Not sure about pig and chicken but assuming it's like the meat you'd buy in stores, you can lower fat/calories by trimming the fat and/or removing skin.

    Regarding the comfort part of it - that's pretty common. At some point you have to become more mindful of your behaviors and find ways to change them. Stop letting food be your comfort and find better ways to deal with your troubles (meditation, yoga, exercise, new hobbies). For me, boredom and lonliness are a huge trigger. Once I identified that, I was able to start changing my behavior over time. Instead of turning to food, I'd find something else that occupied my time - reading, going for a walk, playing games on my tablet - whatever it took to distract myself. Don't get me wrong, this has been a long process and I still have trouble from time to time but it's gotten much better.
    Thanks and hey I'm from maine 2!!
  • KatAdele
    KatAdele Posts: 290 Member
    I don't have anything 'off limits' in my diet which is part of the reason I've been able to stick with it for so long this time. I just try to balance out healthy foods with sometimes foods an if it's a treat it better be a good one because I don't want to waste calories on food I won't enjoy LOL.
  • elainecroft
    elainecroft Posts: 595 Member
    it sounds like you need to focus on changing your approach - moderation is key you want something you can stick with. Good luck we are here for you!!
  • Grumbers
    Grumbers Posts: 111 Member
    Personally I think it's essential you're eating food you like! If not, you'll never succeed.

    There are a lot of good foods that taste great and can be really healthy too.

    For example :-
    Tandoori Chicken
    Indian spiced vegetables
    Flapjacks
    Cereal
    Lean Meats
    Yogurts
    Flat breads
    etc etc

    It's all about being creative with what you cook. Raw veg and salad can be bloody dull!
  • LiftAllThePizzas
    LiftAllThePizzas Posts: 17,857 Member
    Eat the foods you like.

    Count calories.

    The end.
  • jonnythan
    jonnythan Posts: 10,161 Member
    I eat good meals . I just eat to much and everytime I go on a diet or try to change my life style I HATE IT!!!! I feel hungry all the time and I can't eat something if it doesn't taste good. I love to cook and me and my bf love food . Everytime I try to change I get so depressed about food. I want to still be able to eat the foods I love ( I don't eat fast food) . Help !!!

    The answer is obvious: eat the good meals you love, just eat less of it.

    Easy right?
  • jonnythan
    jonnythan Posts: 10,161 Member
    I go around the cupboards and say I can't eat this and this.

    This is why restrictive diets are doomed to failure.
  • nmcknny
    nmcknny Posts: 479 Member
    I don't like salads and vegetables very much but I'm going to have to eat more of them to reach my goal of losing weight. I really like to cook and I'm used to eating just what I want (which is ultimately the problem). There's lots of good advice on this thread--and welcome humor--and I'm going to try to take it. Right now I'm going to read that link. Thanks, everyone :smile:
  • For the rest of this post can we please stop with the penis jokes!! Yes I said twigs and berries haha . I would appreciate serious advice thanks
  • Phoenix_Warrior
    Phoenix_Warrior Posts: 1,633 Member
    I guess I freak out .... I make the decision to lose weight and instantly I'm hungry haha. Then I do this thing were I go around the cupboards and say I can't eat this and this. Then at meal time I get all in a panic trying to find something to eat and I always make something really small or a salad . I guess I just don't know how to do it without going extreme

    That's why I failed my first time. I got too caught up in "good" or "bad", when I really just needed to look at things like "nutrient dense" and "delicious". Leave the negativity and bad stigma behind. Focus on finding things YOU love and not what the latest fad says is the way to diet and you'll have the map to long term success. Weight loss is calories in vs out and health is about the nutrients. Which can be found in virtually any food. :)