HALP! Is this MFP Love or Infatuation?

I think you have to meet someone at least a few times to know whether its real or not. Ever heard of phishing? It's also an MTV show lol. But really, it's these people who go on the internet to build up relationships and make the other person feel like it's real, only to get them to give them SOME kind of money or something. So you really gotta be careful. Little flirts and all are okay, but taking it to the "I Love You" stage....NOPE....BIG NOPE. Been there once. We both made plans to go see each other time after time after time. We started talking, we stopped, we started, we stopped. So I came to the conclusion we both used each other for when we were lonely. We both knew we'd never actually meet in person. But, some people really do believe this whole internet relationship deal can work. I DO NOT.

Of course it can work out. There are many instances of this (one in this very thread). But certainly, safe guards must be put in place, and it's best to meet in person as soon as possible before too many expectations get built up.

If stuff moves too soon, sometimes it's best to take a step back, though..

When I said meet, I meant just that. I guess even a video chat is better than just going by a photo and building up too many false expectations.

True point. Only problems would be when there are too many things already in the way.
Sigh.

I'm also just curious how this thread is going to turn out.

Also, I'm shocked that JoyJoy was deceiving everyone by posting a photo of her cat from a younger age. :noway:

In her defense, they do grow up REALLY quickly. It's the kitty way, I'm afraid.

And, it was cuter as a kitten.




Yes, I went there.

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I think you have to meet someone at least a few times to know whether its real or not. Ever heard of phishing? It's also an MTV show lol. But really, it's these people who go on the internet to build up relationships and make the other person feel like it's real, only to get them to give them SOME kind of money or something. So you really gotta be careful. Little flirts and all are okay, but taking it to the "I Love You" stage....NOPE....BIG NOPE. Been there once. We both made plans to go see each other time after time after time. We started talking, we stopped, we started, we stopped. So I came to the conclusion we both used each other for when we were lonely. We both knew we'd never actually meet in person. But, some people really do believe this whole internet relationship deal can work. I DO NOT.

Of course it can work out. There are many instances of this (one in this very thread). But certainly, safe guards must be put in place, and it's best to meet in person as soon as possible before too many expectations get built up.

If stuff moves too soon, sometimes it's best to take a step back, though..

When I said meet, I meant just that. I guess even a video chat is better than just going by a photo and building up too many false expectations.

True point. Only problems would be when there are too many things already in the way.
Sigh.

You mean like husbands or wives?

Like family that is un-accepting and that needs to be visited before they mess their lives up even further + family in other countries to see before they die.

No way to know if it is true love until you both have farted in bed during oral. at least once.

FIFY.

No way to know if it is true love until you both have farted in bed during oral. at least once.

FIFY.

HAHAHAHA! :laugh:

I would say infatuation right now. I've been there, done that with an MFP'er. I could think of nothing else but him for months. We talked all of the time; first on MFP, then email, we Skyped, texted and spent many hours talking on the phone. When we finally met things took off rather quickly, but once he moved to my state things started going bad in a hurry. I wish I had long-distance dated him longer before allowing that step to happen because there were things (that ultimately caused the romance to end) that I didn't learn about him until he lived near me and we were spending a lot more time together. Before he moved here I thought he was "the one" but in hindsight I realize that most of that was based on infatuation and not on a real life romance.

It just depends I suppose...I know of MFPers that have successful relationships after meeting here, I know of a few couples that didn't make it, and one couple that got married not too long ago. Just take your time and see where things go, but don't even think about 'getting serious' until you at least meet!!

also keep in mind some on here do not post their own pics, so you may be crushing on someone who is not who they say they are.

Agreed...ever watched the show Catfish?

What do you do to make sure pictures are real and it's really the person you think it is behind the image?

Didn't you say you guys face time? :huh: Unless he's holding up a picture in front of the video chances are good that the person you're talking to might be him.

I'm a pragmatic person by nature so this type of stuff doesn't intrigue me. My view is that you are reacting to your personal fantasies and conjectures regarding this person as opposed to what the reality of it all is. That's fine. Just know it's mostly all in your head and you may be setting yourself up for big time disappointment.

However, strange things do happen when we keep an open mind so, as unlikely as it may seem to me, you may have hit the love jackpot with this person and will live happily ever after.

Just keep tracking your calories and get in your workouts because that's the main reason you're here:flowerforyou:

No way to know if it is true love until you both have farted in bed. at least once.

CRAZY....but so true!

very true...and it's true love if he dutch ovens you and you still love him after that :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

I'm not a player I just crush a lot lol

Lol!