I am the woman in the freeweights section of the gym

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  • juiletflt
    juiletflt Posts: 159
    Love this post!!! I was so terrified the first time I went.
  • ChrissyC1985
    ChrissyC1985 Posts: 406 Member
    Great post OP, this is brilliant. I am usually the only woman in the freeweights area of the gym too. All the regulars are really lovely, offer to help if I appear to be struggling with something, will work in with me if its busy and are generally some of the nicest people I speak to. They treat me like one of them, and yea occasionally if my form is off they will correct me but I am happy with that as it stops me from injuring myself.

    I do get the odd stare every now and again but I just smile and carry on, power through with the music in my ears.

    Thanks for posting this OP. :smile:
  • Pollart77
    Pollart77 Posts: 264 Member
    Awesome post OP!
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    Awesome post, Bean! I haven't been in the weight room yet, but I will by Tuesday, for sure. I am a little nervous, because I didn't see any girls in there during the tour, but I kinda know what I'm doing, so I'l be ok. This was a great read! *sodastreamforyou*
  • Blacklance36
    Blacklance36 Posts: 755 Member
    Good post. It goes both ways, woman dominate the cardio at the gym I frequent and as far as the classes go its almost rare to see a man in there. However, I do both and don't let it bother me.

    Just a comment, I have heard woman say that men stare at them in the mirror and they may, but just as often they are looking at themselves to see if their free-weight form is correct.
  • in4nomz
    in4nomz Posts: 230
    This is a great post. I don't see why some women are so intimidated of the weight floor. Yes, it's usually dominated by men but in all reality...no one cares what you are doing. People are focused on THEIR workout, not yours. People shouldn't be self conscious of their workouts, just do what you do and do it at your best!
  • stumblinthrulife
    stumblinthrulife Posts: 2,558 Member
    In for the lady-lifters and prospective lady-lifters on my friend list to see in my news feed.
  • ksuh999
    ksuh999 Posts: 543 Member
    Lots of women work out in the free weight section of my gym. Actually, at every gym I've been to.

    Also men don't go up to you and tell you what to do. At least I've never seen it happen.

    Some will, certainly (I've personally had it happen), and it's generally not out of any other feeling than trying to be helpful -- even when their help is wrong or their approach is a little abrasive. They do it, in part, because they respect you and don't want to see you get hurt, which can happen regardless of gender if your form is wrong.
    Man, I gotta tell ya, if I was a chick and some guy did that to me, I'd tell them off.

    I've had bros give me advice, I tell them to shove it.
  • peachy_keen
    peachy_keen Posts: 43 Member
    Amen to this! I used to work out with the football team at my high school and ended up lifting more than some of my guy friends in college (and now at my training facility). I love it! And I agree with many others that it can be intimidating no matter who you are. Research, good music and gradual improvement is essential.
  • cfredz
    cfredz Posts: 292 Member
    I've been a member of my gym for two years and have been too scared to go in the free weight area. I'm meeting a trainer tomorrow to learn basic weight lifting techniques and hope to soon be the girl in the weight room.
  • Briargrey
    Briargrey Posts: 498 Member
    This is great! I've known for awhile I wanted to get into free weights - I had done them in high school and loved it, but that was :;coughlongtimecough:: awhile back. I am doing Nerd Fitness Academy for kicks and decided I was going to start free weights this month. Because I'm uncertain of my form and of the layout of the weight room, etc., I've set up two 1 hour personal trainer sessions for next week. I'm going to get oriented, get my form worked on, and then I'll start doing my workouts. Here's to breaking out of comfort zones!
  • fitplease
    fitplease Posts: 647 Member
    Thanks for your post!
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    Great post!
  • geekyjock76
    geekyjock76 Posts: 2,720 Member
    That's why books like Starting Strength are so invaluable because they provide the knowledge in terms of program design and correct execution of exercises to walk into a weight room with more confidence and success.. I've met quite a few women who educated themselves through the book and were doing deadlifts and barbell squats properly after just a month or two of training. In contrast, I still see men performing these exercises improperly despite having more training experience. Ladies belong there just as much as the men.
  • I agree completely. It's sad to think how many women never even try lifting just because they think they're not supposed to, or because (my personal pet peeve) they don't want to "look like a man." If you are a woman, lifting will not make you look like a man. It will make you look like a fit and healthy woman. I promise.

    As for guys in the free weights section, maybe I've been lucky, but I've never encountered anyone who looked at me like I didn't belong (not that I would care) or who made inappropriate comments, ogling, etc. I do get compliments, but they always seem genuine. People notice when they see a girl lifting heavy.
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    bump. love it.
  • owlyalice
    owlyalice Posts: 12 Member
    Absolutely adore this post. I'm always scared to go to the weights section because of all the intimidating guys.. I tend to go in the morning when it's empty (my gym's very small, comes with the accommodation). But next time I'm gonna say whatever! Go ahead and stare :P
  • DopeItUp
    DopeItUp Posts: 18,771 Member
    Just as a little side note to those who are afraid of joining the dark side. We men are no less intimidated than you are. If anything, we are MORE intimidated. Why? Social norms state that men should all lift and lift heavy they shall. If you're not big and strong then you're looked down upon. Men can be quite competitive. So the combination of factors results in a very nerve-wracking experience for us guys when we're just starting out.

    However, as a woman, you get a pass on the judgment and the competition. You get major props just for being there. Just for even trying. So you've already got a leg up. As Bean said, once you do it for one day you be 90% of the way there.

    PS - I will second the Starting Strength recommendation. I read it from cover to cover before I ever touched a barbell. Then I read it again to let it sink in after a little experience.
  • jenifr818
    jenifr818 Posts: 805 Member
    definitely giving this a bump
  • archaichoney
    archaichoney Posts: 132 Member
    Super good post. I was once a chicken, but now I pwn in the weight area. Love it.
  • arendiva
    arendiva Posts: 177 Member
    I'm not ready to do weights just yet (as I am still figuring out a cardio routine) but I hope to some day and I enjoyed your advice on the subject.
  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
    Used to be afraid, not anymore!! :bigsmile:
  • SuperSexyDork
    SuperSexyDork Posts: 1,669 Member
    I have always found it useful in all areas of life that if you simply act like you belong, 99% of the time no one will notice that you don't!

    I was really apprehensive about starting free weights but I researched form, etc beforehand and had a plan.

    So, my advice in addition to the wonderful advice in the OP and the rest of this thread is to prepare yourself mentally and keep your best poker face on. In other words, "fake it till you make it!"

    Edit: Awkward wording.
  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
    I'm not ready to do weights just yet (as I am still figuring out a cardio routine) but I hope to some day and I enjoyed your advice on the subject.

    Why wait? Start early, otherwise you will regret not starting sooner.
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    I'm not ready to do weights just yet (as I am still figuring out a cardio routine) but I hope to some day and I enjoyed your advice on the subject.

    a weight lifting routine will only enhance your running!

    btw, instead of trying to figure out a running routine, why don't you look up one from an established system? seems to me that it's better to follow one that has been made by someone that already knows the in's and outs of a proper program.
  • RivenV
    RivenV Posts: 1,667 Member
    I love lifting weights and I look forward to my time in the gym.*

    *Gym-time in exactly 20 minutes. Synchronize kittens.... now.

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  • anson808
    anson808 Posts: 47 Member
    Great post.

    I also agree with the guy above who stated that guys also have a hard time getting in the weight section where there a lot of muscly looking guys in there, and when I am, uhm, less muscly looking.

    I no longer care about that - I focus on my goals and why I'm there, and it gets easier. I suspect that it's the same for women.

    Just don't go up to a guy and say something like "can you help me remove the clips from the bar? I don't want to break a nail."
  • tracieangeletti
    tracieangeletti Posts: 432 Member
    :love: :flowerforyou: :drinker:
  • Soccer_Chick
    Soccer_Chick Posts: 204 Member
    Excellent post! You have fricking nailed it.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    I love being the woman in the free weight section. :bigsmile:
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