Fun for thought Only...Opinions Requested!

Would definitely say if you feel comfortable you should approach. Can't speak for everyone but on the whole would suggest blokes like confident lasses. Also what's the worst that can happen?

Pepper spray or roofies.

A classy lady should never approach a man!! It's looks like she is desperate.

A smile while making eye contact is enough and a real man will approach the woman!!

Only if she likes getting what she wants. Otherwise she'd better be willing to settle for what she gets.

Wanna meet up in come back alley later? Bring a hammer and junk.

Let me put this another way!! I would never raise my daughter to approach a man first!!

A real man should be confident enough to approach a woman and say Hello!!!

Any man who thinks a woman should approach him lacks confidence and should Man Up!!!

Let me put this another way!! I would never raise my daughter to approach a man first!!

A real man should be confident enough to approach a woman and say Hello!!!

Any man who thinks a woman should approach him lacks confidence and should Man Up!!!

Hi topsking2010.

I would respond to you via the private message you sent me, but doing so would make my skin crawl, so instead I will respond to this lovely post you've made.

While I understand you may be used to overcompensating for any feelings of inadequacy or insecurity, I find your ideals, to put it lightly, absolutely abhorrent. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but sometimes women may want to approach a man they find interesting and that is completely fine. I'm sure this idea terrifies you, but sometimes women are confident enough to go for what they want without depending on a man to give it to them - and also unfortunately for you, it does not mean they are "aggressive".

I am saddened that you are raising your daughter to accept misogyny and to feel as if it is acceptable for men to be aggressors. Does your mindset extend to her interactions with her teachers and, later, bosses? Should she not go for the things she wants because she, as you told me, "should expect the best because she gives the best"? Sounds like settling to me. I guess I will have to accept the "best" at my job because I only "give the best". I won't ask for anything else, because otherwise I wouldn't be considered a "classy lady" by your definition.

And, next time I see a guy I might be attracted to or find interesting, I won't try and strike up conversation with him. No, doing so would be far too aggressive and would mean that I am not fully dependent on men to give me anything I may need. And the next time I am approached by a man, I will be sure to "express interest" as that would make me a "classy lady" (your words, if you recall). Even if the guy is setting off every alarm in my creeper radar, I will be sure to be polite and make conversation with him because I am so lucky that he finds me attractive enough to come talk to me.

Oh, and, just so you know, I would and do want to date someone who's shy. There is nothing wrong with that and it is not a measure of character. I happen to be shy too and find it an endearing quality. I know, I know... women have more preferences in men other than "aggressive enough to approach". Hopefully that's not too much for you to handle.

Sincerely,

One unclassy slore

PS: By the way, next time, please don't PM me instead of addressing me in the thread. I am clearly not a "classy lady" by your definitions and won't respond graciously so I would advise you not take that extra effort.