4 Years of being single

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  • moya_rargh
    moya_rargh Posts: 1,473 Member
    Been single a year, with many more years to come. When I say single, I mean completely celibate as I seem to be the lowest of the low in the eyes of the opposite sex. They are completely creeped out by the sight of me and I'm so ashamed of myself for it.

    Unlike the OP, I miss having somebody to cook for!
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
    It's not about settling for less, it's about looking for different things. People create an image in their mind of what they want their relationship or significant other to be like, and it's usually never how it ends up happening. I'd suggest being more openminded about the kind of girl u expect yourself to end up with.

    Speaking of open minded, I don't recall him mentioning he was looking for a female. Just sayin...
  • Billy323
    Billy323 Posts: 182 Member
    I know this chap and unfortunately he is not trolling. Well maybe a little about the cooking and cleaning. He is a decent guy who is serving his country and trying to navigate the world alone. He recently shaved his head. What do you ladies think about shaved heads? I think he would have been better served to just keep it short. He is 6'2" iirc 215 pounds and has abs. If you guys can toss him legit feedback I know he would appreciate it.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    It's not about settling for less, it's about looking for different things. People create an image in their mind of what they want their relationship or significant other to be like, and it's usually never how it ends up happening. I'd suggest being more openminded about the kind of girl u expect yourself to end up with.

    Speaking of open minded, I don't recall him mentioning he was looking for a female. Just sayin...
    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    Good eye, sir!
  • chelstakencharge
    chelstakencharge Posts: 1,021 Member
    As someone who is getting divorced after 15 years......it is better to be alone than live with a psycho. I hope that I find someone who will treat me right but I will never settle I have been to hell and back and I deserve better
  • Billy323
    Billy323 Posts: 182 Member
    He isn't gay and I was serious about him currently serving his country
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    Well, lose the expectation of a cook and housekeeper, and start looking for a girl that shares your interests. Not a bad looking guy, but the 50s era search is a huge turn off.
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    He isn't gay and I was serious about him currently serving his country

    Yes. Word of advice, OP...remove the pic with your last name in it. B!tches be trippin all up in dis place.
  • Billy323
    Billy323 Posts: 182 Member


    Yes. Word of advice, OP...remove the pic with your last name in it. B!tches be trippin all up in dis place.

    I like you.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    I was totally expecting a different OP. It can't be that hard to find a woman who wants you to cook for her and do her laundry. Seriously?
  • Stripeness
    Stripeness Posts: 511 Member
    Well, lose the expectation of a cook and housekeeper, and start looking for a girl that shares your interests. Not a bad looking guy, but the 50s era search is a huge turn off.

    This. Although my DS and I were just discussing that military life can make that a bit more challenging to find someone who's a partner rather than a dependapotamus. Get creative, and maybe consider joining some local activity groups via Meetup as a way to meet new people w/similar interests?
  • Stripeness
    Stripeness Posts: 511 Member


    Yes. Word of advice, OP...remove the pic with your last name in it. B!tches be trippin all up in dis place.

    I like you.

    +1
  • Derp_Diggler
    Derp_Diggler Posts: 1,456 Member
    Well around here things are a little different. I do the cooking and my wife does the laundry.



    Any interest in a threesome?
  • Kaylee_law_123
    Kaylee_law_123 Posts: 450 Member
    I know this chap and unfortunately he is not trolling. Well maybe a little about the cooking and cleaning. He is a decent guy who is serving his country and trying to navigate the world alone. He recently shaved his head. What do you ladies think about shaved heads? I think he would have been better served to just keep it short. He is 6'2" iirc 215 pounds and has abs. If you guys can toss him legit feedback I know he would appreciate it.

    If this is the case ... then he won't find anyone until he is happy in himself. Love isn't about having someone come along so that your habits can change (or to have them do your laundry) it's about having someone come into your life and share your life. The moment you start looking for someone to fill a void ... or the dishwasher ... you end up forgetting what it is all about.

    Just my opinion, no need to hate if you don't agree :-)
  • daybehavior
    daybehavior Posts: 1,319 Member
    well according to your twitter (which is clearly on your profile pic), you love to photograph women, so you really shouldn't be having issues meeting them :wink:
  • Me2FitMe
    Me2FitMe Posts: 1,285 Member
    I've been single for over 4 years. I consider myself successful, in shape, attractive, etc.

    "I just haven't found the right one."

    At what age or point do I settle for less just so I can 'be in a relationship'? It'd be nice to stop doing my laundry every week, stop cooking every meal for myself, stop spending valentines day alone... etc.

    So you want to date me so I can do your laundry and cook for you? Um, no.

    ^^^ this! :noway:

    your reply indicates very low understanding of forums

    Didn't know I was taking a test... Lol-- thanks for pointing that out :)
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    Well around here things are a little different. I do the cooking and my wife does the laundry.



    Any interest in a threesome?

    I'm in! I gots 'sperience and errything!
  • Derp_Diggler
    Derp_Diggler Posts: 1,456 Member
    Well around here things are a little different. I do the cooking and my wife does the laundry.



    Any interest in a threesome?

    I'm in! I gots 'sperience and errything!

    So.... whatcha bringing to the party then?
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    Well around here things are a little different. I do the cooking and my wife does the laundry.



    Any interest in a threesome?

    I'm in! I gots 'sperience and errything!

    So.... whatcha bringing to the party then?

    I'm bringing the favors. :wink:
  • Billy323
    Billy323 Posts: 182 Member
    well according to your twitter (which is clearly on your profile pic), you love to photograph women, so you really shouldn't be having issues meeting them :wink:

    You're the same guy who said he reported that Twilight kid for joining mfp while being too you. You need a hobby pal. You're a snitch and a stalker.
  • Derp_Diggler
    Derp_Diggler Posts: 1,456 Member
    Well around here things are a little different. I do the cooking and my wife does the laundry.



    Any interest in a threesome?

    I'm in! I gots 'sperience and errything!

    So.... whatcha bringing to the party then?

    I'm bringing the favors. :wink:

    Cake and ice cream then?

    And we're in Canada here, so it's all about u. As in favours :wink:
  • daybehavior
    daybehavior Posts: 1,319 Member
    well according to your twitter (which is clearly on your profile pic), you love to photograph women, so you really shouldn't be having issues meeting them :wink:

    You're the same guy who said he reported that Twilight kid for joining mfp while being too you. You need a hobby pal. You're a snitch and a stalker.

    I didn't really report him. Sometimes its just fun to troll the trolls. Also, I hardly consider it "stalking" seeing as he put his twitter on his profile photo which i presume he wants people to see? I admit I do need a hobby, but it certainly wouldn't be white-knighting "random" dudes on MFP ^_-
  • TC1728
    TC1728 Posts: 264 Member
    I think I might have the answer. The best time to lower your standards is at "Last Call".
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    well according to your twitter (which is clearly on your profile pic), you love to photograph women, so you really shouldn't be having issues meeting them :wink:

    You're the same guy who said he reported that Twilight kid for joining mfp while being too you. You need a hobby pal. You're a snitch and a stalker.

    I didn't really report him. Sometimes its just fun to troll the trolls. Also, I hardly consider it "stalking" seeing as he put his twitter on his profile photo which i presume he wants people to see? I admit I do need a hobby, but it certainly wouldn't be white-knighting "random" dudes on MFP ^_-

    Lol
  • Billy323
    Billy323 Posts: 182 Member


    I didn't really report him. Sometimes its just fun to troll the trolls. Also, I hardly consider it "stalking" seeing as he put his twitter on his profile photo which i presume he wants people to see? I admit I do need a hobby, but it certainly wouldn't be white-knighting "random" dudes on MFP ^_-

    Like I said, I know this guy. You guys are kind of a critical bunch and he could use a white knight.
  • Derp_Diggler
    Derp_Diggler Posts: 1,456 Member


    I didn't really report him. Sometimes its just fun to troll the trolls. Also, I hardly consider it "stalking" seeing as he put his twitter on his profile photo which i presume he wants people to see? I admit I do need a hobby, but it certainly wouldn't be white-knighting "random" dudes on MFP ^_-

    Like I said, I know this guy. You guys are kind of a critical bunch and he could use a white knight.

    Well if he is indeed sincere then he should take heed of some of the advice given within this thread, even if most (my own included) was given rather sarcastically. He needs to stop thinking of a potential mate as a maid and start thinking of them as a partner and a friend. It's been made pretty clear that it's his attitude that's his biggest problem. No amount of muscles or looks is going to help him get anyone worth keeping.
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
    I know this chap and unfortunately he is not trolling. Well maybe a little about the cooking and cleaning. He is a decent guy who is serving his country and trying to navigate the world alone. He recently shaved his head. What do you ladies think about shaved heads? I think he would have been better served to just keep it short. He is 6'2" iirc 215 pounds and has abs. If you guys can toss him legit feedback I know he would appreciate it.

    Okay, since you seem to want a serious answer: He didn't give enough information to hazard a reasonable guess about his involuntary singleness. What little info he provided indicates that what he most looks forward to in a relationship is having a domestic servant and that's a problem for a lot of women - not because they don't want to "take care of their man" but because it's selfish and superficial and one-sided. Add to that the whole "settling" vibe and most women are going to disappear pretty quickly when they get a whiff.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,031 Member
    It'd be nice to stop doing my laundry every week, stop cooking every meal for myself, stop spending valentines day alone... etc.
    Bro, I still do all the **** today as a stay at home dad.:laugh:

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  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    Well around here things are a little different. I do the cooking and my wife does the laundry.



    Any interest in a threesome?

    I'm in! I gots 'sperience and errything!

    So.... whatcha bringing to the party then?

    I'm bringing the favors. :wink:

    Cake and ice cream then?

    And we're in Canada here, so it's all about u. As in favours :wink:

    Sure, cake and ice cream. That's exactly what I was thinking. :tongue:
  • LaBelleGigi
    LaBelleGigi Posts: 9
    Seriously, marriage is not for you its for the other person. The one you want to cook for and do laundry for and all the other stuff.

    THIS. Although I wouldn't let hubby near the stove unless it's something really basic, but yes, the whole point of a relationship is finding the person you want to do things for, NOT someone to do stuff for you.

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