4 Years of being single

You did not provide much information about yourself other than the fact that you're successful and attractive and while that could get you somewhere with some but there's more to life than just good looks and money. One thing I would do is ditch the attitude of wanting to find a woman because you're tired of cooking for yourself and doing your own laundry. Sorry but from what you gave me, it sound like you want a maid, not a girlfriend and any woman worth her salt will not put up with the BS expectation to act like a housewife from the 50's. My ex is like that and, well, he's an ex for a reason, many reasons as a matter of fact but this is just one of them. Back when I was with him I probably put in more hours in the "office" than he did and I was still expected to cook all of the meals, do all the dishes, do all of the cleaning, do the laundry, take care of *his* cats and still be dressed "to please" most of the time; my job was waaaay more stressful both physically and mentally than his and I was on my feet for 8-16 hours while working. Even when I was sick, injured and the one time I was recovering from surgery I was still expected to do just about everything; when I was too incapacitated to cook he just ordered take out. I've lost track of how many times I've both told him that I can't do it all by myself and that he expected too much out of me. That annoyance soon turned into pure resentment and as already stated, was one of the reasons that this man is an ex. Not saying you or anybody should settle for anybody just to "be in a relationship" but I would rethink your expectations.

I've been single for over 4 years. I consider myself successful, in shape, attractive, etc.

"I just haven't found the right one."

At what age or point do I settle for less just so I can 'be in a relationship'? It'd be nice to stop doing my laundry every week, stop cooking every meal for myself, stop spending valentines day alone... etc.

LAUNDRY!
COOKING!

love your priority list! you is fuuuunyyyy

You should never settle. Just be patient. Fours years is a long long long time but better is to come.

It'd be nice to stop doing my laundry every week

I hate that stage in a relationship when men stop wearing clean clothes :sick: :laugh:

It'd be nice to stop doing my laundry every week

I hate that stage in a relationship when men stop wearing clean clothes :sick: :laugh:

LMFAO <333

My advice to single peoples? Get out of your comfort zone. Go places you don't usually go, do things you don't usually do. Live life, have experiences, try new things, meet new people. You never know, one of them could be that special someone. I once read that most people spend most of their lives in a radius of just a few miles from their home (think about it, especially if you live in a city, you really do)... Maybe if you got out of your little zone you'd meet someone! :flowerforyou:

I meet lots of women, but it's never the right person at the right time. I have certain standards like in school or college degree, into some type of fitness, open minded, that I haven't budged on.

As seen by some posts, some people see 4 years of voluntarily being single as me having a problem. If I go in relationship for a few months, then women will see me as desirable and won't be seen as stale meat anymore.

With how awesome I am, I usually get "4 years single? You must be a player."

You're putting far too much stock into what people think about you. If you haven't found the right one then you haven't found the right one. There's nothing wrong with being single for an extended period of time. You're young; go bang a few out til you find the one worth keeping.

Don't ever lower your standards or settle. I don't care how long you're single. I was single about 3.5 years and I was fully prepared to wait it out. Having a partner is a time consuming commitment. I encourage anyone to NOT settle otherwise you'll want out later.

single for 8 years crew. not a single GF was had in that time. be right back, no sex life.

Celibate for 8 years? With THAT physique!?

Ummmm NEVER...be happy with who you are and what you have, and don't be desperate ever to be in a "relationship" just to say you have someone...I've been "SINGLE" for oh, 10 years now (doesn't mean I don't go on a lot of dates) I just know what I want, and more importantly what I DONT WANT....why would you compromise, I highly doubt that brings long term happiness!! Just my opinion

single for 8 years crew. not a single GF was had in that time. be right back, no sex life.

Celibate for 8 years? With THAT physique!?

you have to have game. women dont care what you look like. they just want to be told what they want to hear.

I'm so confused, I thought all we cared about was money? It is SO hard to keep up.

single for 8 years crew. not a single GF was had in that time. be right back, no sex life.

Celibate for 8 years? With THAT physique!?

you have to have game. women dont care what you look like. they just want to be told what they want to hear.

Even a body like yours isn't enough to get interest!? My God, how picky do women want to be? I might as well put a gun in my mouth now, I've got NO chance then. :frown:

the body doesnt mean anything bro. honestly i just as much attention if not more when i wear looser fitting clothes or am bulking and not even cut. they usually think im a player or something. although on beach vacations it comes in handy, thats the only time.

I'm so confused, I thought all we cared about was money? It is SO hard to keep up.

thats all part of being told what you want to hear.

Are you saying that 4 years is a long time to be single??