I just have to accept that I will always be fat

Not being a failure is my new priority

"Dieting" to lose weight = FAIL

:ohwell:

I don't think you should give up. 500 calories is torture...eat at a deficit but higher calories. I'd try a different diet.

I think you may need to see a therapist. Its very easy for people to stand back and tell you that you "don't want it enough" or "you are making it too complicated". Weight loss begins between your ears.

You have to like yourself enough to think you are worth it. Who wants to get instructions from someone they don't really like?

You will get there. You're here.

This is so very true. People often talk about increased confidence and self worth after losing the weight. I had to do it in the opposite order. I could never have dropped the weight without my self confidence increasing first. And I had my share of ups and downs through the process, but liking myself and believing that I could do it and I was worth it were some of the biggest components to my success.

No with 5:2 you eat 500 calories 2 days a week not every day.

If that's too hard, then find an easier way

Find out your TDEE. eat 10% less than that each day. The weight loss will be slow, but you'll get there in the end, and it's a lot easier this way. The "catch" is that you have to log your food accurately, as it won't take much error to kill a 10% deficit.... but you'll be able to eat lots and you don't have to have days of only eating 500 calories. And yes you can have any food you want within your calorie goal (but do make sure you're getting enough protein, vitamins etc generally if you do that).

I can't do intermittent fasting either. I get hungry and cranky (aka "hangry") and being too hungry results in me eating waaaaaaaaaaaay too many carbs. But I successfully went from being obese to having a healthy body fat percentage and have maintained that for well over a year now.

You don't have to resign yourself to always being fat. You just have to find the easiest possible way to lose fat that still actually works. So don't give up!

I think you are an all or nothing person and that's going to impact your weight loss effort. I hear myself in your post and nothing any of us say here will help you until you decide that you are ok with SLOW, SUSTAINABLE WEIGHT LOSS and that you are not going to be fat forever and you are not ok with it. For me, this decision was driven by health rather than looks. For me, my body was speaking to you in the form of acid reflux, joint pain, headaches, fatigue, and I decided to listen. You will have to make that decision too, but if it's driven by an external need for perfection, I'm not sure it will work. It never did for me because the scale and mirror never reflected what I wanted it to fast enough.

That being said, if you do committ, there's so much information here and different tools. Everyone's body is different so different paths work for different folks. For me personally, a slow method that allows me to not be hungry and focus on the right foods that make me feel full is what works.

If you shoot to lose more or less 0.5 lbs a week by the summer you'll be 12 lbs lighter. But you will hit plateaus and sometimes you will gain. But if you stick with it, it will average out to this and you don't have to starve yourself or be deprived. I don't think diets like 5:2 are a sustainable goal. Instead of looking at it like "I have to eliminate these things from my diet", including calories, try to change your mindset to: I have to ADD these things to my daily meals: 30 grams of fiber (about 8-10 per meal), 100 g of protein (lean meat or high protein yogurt) 2 fruits, 3 veggies daily. For me, this works. I also love food and am new to MFP as well as getting my weight under control post baby. I promise that if you eat to be full and healthy, you'll be able to stick to it - that means focusing on protein and fiber via veggies, fruits and lean meats. I am a huge food lover with a hearty appetite. I can't eat 1200 calories a day, that's crazy making for me, but it works for many. Something like 5:2 is completely out of the question for me personally. Also, as you make healthier choices, you'll start to find greasy food a turn off. Sugar is a huge addiction. You need to find something that will cut it off when you have a bad craving. For me, that's squash or yam baked with coconut oil, cinnamon and a bit of natural maple syrup. I allow myself this treat because it's better than a piece of cake, even if it means i'm over my calories goals. Better to maintain than to gain!

Personally, I found the blog posts "in place of a roadmap" very helpful. It's essentially the TDEE - 20% guide and there's a spreadsheet if you like to geek out on that sort of thing, which I do....

I wish you luck; as long as you are happy with whatever choice you make, it's the right one for you.

yikes, you're really shortchanging yourself. you lost 22 kg...so that's like 46 pounds?
only you know which decision is right for you, so i wish you luck on either way x

The people who are successful and keep the weight off don't quit so easily. It's nit just about being "skinny". It's about being HEALTHY.

^^ THIS. YES.

Well after finding out that a tiny wee bit of choccy is 300 calories I won't be eating it again .

Thanks for the TDEE thing that's interesting but I didn't really get what I was supposed to be eating.

I think I just want to try being happy and see if that makes me lose weight

You didn't see anything about what you're supposed to be eating because you can eat whatever you want. You just have to stick to that calorie goal (TDEE minus 10% or 20%).

Simple.

I literally eat chocolate very day. I just stick to my calorie goal and it works out fine.

Well after finding out that a tiny wee bit of choccy is 300 calories I won't be eating it again .

Thanks for the TDEE thing that's interesting but I didn't really get what I was supposed to be eating.

I think I just want to try being happy and see if that makes me lose weight

TDEE stands for "Total Daily Energy Expenditure" - the calories you burn in a typical day. Try this calculator to see what you should be eating:

http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/

I lost 50 pounds and was hardly ever hungry. I ate smaller meals 5-6 times a day instead of 3 big meals which helped too - that way if you are hungry, you don't have long to wait before the next meal. I also allow myself a "free day" once every two weeks or so, where I eat whatever I want and take a break from logging. I'm always excited about getting back on my program the next day because I don't like how I feel after overeating.

Drink plenty of water to avoid hunger. Also, 1 Hershey's Kiss = 22 calories. I eat 1 or 2 whenever I'm craving chocolate, and easily stay under my calorie goals.

Don't give up. As you get older, your foodie friends and family who are overweight will start getting sick and dying off. It's no fun. This is why I made the decision to change.