I just have to accept that I will always be fat

I have tried so many diets, I dont have the discipline, I LOVE food that is bad for me, it makes me feel full in a different way to anything else.

This makes me think you cut your fat too low when you "diet". Fat has a lot of calories but it is SO important for satiety. At least for me it is.

Just exercise and eat less. You can still have "bad" food too. Just balance everything out. Some good, some bad.

My issue is comfort eating and not knowing when I am full.

I think 5:2 was hard because it just made me pig out more.

I just want to be a good mum and person

I think being miserable because I am hungry and desperate is just no good for me as a person.

It sounds to me like you're trying to completely change the way you live too quickly. This is a recipe for failure for most people.

How about for the next week, you eat what you want, however much you want, but track it on here. Don't try to eat at a deficit to start. Next week, start cutting back on your portions. Do that for another week. Slowly work your way into a calorie deficit. Do not deprive yourself of food you enjoy.

Really, though, the biggest thing is the emotional eating. That is not an easy thing to conquer, and it requires a level of self-awareness that is difficult to come by without a lot of help. If you think you might have depression, go get treatment and try to be forgiving while your mind gets into the right place. This isn't a sprint to the finish line. This is a long slow stroll down a long windy road. It's going to take years to transition into the person you want to be both physically and mentally.

Well after finding out that a tiny wee bit of choccy is 300 calories I won't be eating it again .

Thanks for the TDEE thing that's interesting but I didn't really get what I was supposed to be eating.

I think I just want to try being happy and see if that makes me lose weight

It sounds like you are tired of dieting. Maybe a short break where you can just feel happy and eat till satisfied but not full and not worry about anything seems like a good idea. For a week or two. Maybe during that time you can look into TDEE eating for yourself and just be very honest with how much time you intend to spend working out. Or use MFP settings for the same. Just when you put in your workout intentions base them off off recent workouts not future plans you have to "knock it out of the park". I feel you you are getting overly emotionally "gung ho" with it and so then your fails feels like fails. Rather than just the natural consequence of too lofty or rigid a goal.

that 5oo cals a day sometimes thing whatever it is, it's not for you. clearly. throw that out the window. and don't feel guilty ONE IOTA about not sticking to something so rigid and arbitrary. it may work for some and GOOD FOR THEM, you just do you. Be "happy" as you said for 2 weeks not overdoing it on the eating, and then regroudp and come back to a moderate but solid plan. One that you can live with. I SWEAR you will be HAPPIER with the outcome. YOU DESERVE IT!:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

nvm...question was answered.

If 5:2 isn't working, try just eating at a set calorie goal daily.

I hate dieting. So instead I eat a TON of food, including chocolate, pizza, and all the other good stuff. And I just burn it off. Running and weight lifting facilitate my love of food. And you know what? I lost 70 pounds doing that.

It will be hard to stick with if you are not ready to change. I have had many little ups and down. I give up to easy too. But if I can do this, so can you, maybe take it small amount, x amount each time. Just learn portion control and small bits of exercise. Go by the lose 0.5lbs a week opt. Slow weight lost, but easier to keep up with. Emotional eating, sleepy eating, bored eating, gosh, eating to much, I have been working on getting over. It has taken me months. I fell off being good to me because life was horrible over the summer, when I should have worked harder. It thought me that no matter what, I should not give up. Take a break and eat maintenance calories for a while if you need that break. I have yet to stick with one idea on how to do this. It is a learning process for you. Be healthy, strong, and beautiful for you. Do not diet, but live. ^_^
Wishing you the best of luck!!

1. Being a good person is more important than being thin.
2. Being fit is more important than being thin.
3. That diet you were trying is more for 'expert dieters' not beginners.
4. If you have eating issues, try the 'No S Diet' at nosdiet.com, for a very simple (and free) diet plan.
5. Use MFP to count calories and get support to get fit.

Not to barrage you with advice, but giving it up now - when you've been working for so long - sounds a bit sudden. You can totally give up, but I'm afraid that won't do wonders for your self esteem or waistline, even if you think neither can be improved.

This is a community of encouragement. So I'll mention the truckloads of people on here (myself included) who are all willing to lift you up on the cheat days and the cheat weeks and the crappy phases. We have them too but you don't let them bog you down. Stay with us!!

You've lost a great amount already so that doesn't make you a loser...but someone who might need to try to maintain for a bit and give yourself a break. Sometimes when we approach it as restricting the things we like, we burn out. There have been many good suggestions given. Maybe going to 5-6 smaller meals will help because you'll eat every 2-3 hours. Include some veggies and protein at each mini-meal, throw in some fruit and at one meal maybe a small treat. I plan out meals but if I crave something I just rework my meals so it fits in. I go over at times but work on only having that happen every now and then. Good luck to you!