Early Stages of Dating -- No-Nos

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  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    Don't send a **** pic unless I've already seen it.

    Or at the very least, things are headed that way ;)
    Lol, they might take that second part as an invite hahaha.

    Ok, I guess I'm kind of wishy-washy on this rule. Sometimes it is ok. Sometimes it is not. It depends on the sender!
  • srcardinal10
    srcardinal10 Posts: 387 Member
    recieving a junk photo text after he drops you off......seriously buddy, only after date two!

    I would be okay with that actually...then I'd at least know what I'm possibly getting on ;) or not depending upon what I see.
  • jess135177
    jess135177 Posts: 186 Member
    I had a guy pick me up from my house and while he was driving he kept taking shots out of his flask. I asked him if he wanted me to drive and he said "I don't let chicks drive my car". Awesome...I took a cab home!
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Don't send a **** pic unless I've already seen it.

    Or at the very least, things are headed that way ;)
    Lol, they might take that second part as an invite hahaha.

    Ok, I guess I'm kind of wishy-washy on this rule. Sometimes it is ok. Sometimes it is not. It depends on the sender!
    Hahaha, oh no, here comes the storm, girl. Get your umbrella :P
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    I had a guy pick me up from my house and while he was driving he kept taking shots out of his flask. I asked him if he wanted me to drive and he said "I don't let chicks drive my car". Awesome...I took a cab home!

    Good call! Wow!
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    All that said, I feel the need to share one of my favorite worst first dates:

    A friend set me up on a blind date with a guy she said was so amazing and he had apparently seen me at work and asked for this date to be arranged (I met him briefly in passing and it didn't seem like the worst idea ever (aka: he was hot). He picked me up, and said we were going for dinner and a show (seemed like a long first meeting, but little did I know how long it would seem by the end). He took me to McDonalds (the drive through, we didn't even go inside to eat), then drove around the city for a while. He spent the whole time talking about himself, including how much pot he likes to smoke (I have friends who smoke, but I do not, this is my choice for me). Through this conversation, it was discovered that I had not ever been downtown to see the hookers (yes this was another interest of his). So off we went to go check out the working evening ladies. I still have to giggle about my dinner and a show being McDs and prostitutes. I did not see him again. I would say anything short of that is pretty good.

    well, what did you expect when you accepted a date with Charlie Sheen? :tongue:
  • bearkisses
    bearkisses Posts: 1,252 Member
    i'm married, but something that me and my husband see in new relationships that causes so much tension:

    jealousy

    just let it go and trust them, know that if they really do mess around you are better than them, but trust them and have fun
  • srcardinal10
    srcardinal10 Posts: 387 Member
    Happy to amuse! That is why it is my favorite. There are others. I like to think I have gotten better at weeding out the bad ones. Truth be told, I simply don't go out much, and that suits my life right now.

    Another favorite:

    Met a gentleman on line, we decided to go for a movie. He picked me up, and we were both hungry so we stopped at Subway for something quick. When the cashier was about to ring it through, she asked if it was together, he said NO. That's fine, I have no problem paying my own way. It's only a $4 sub anyway. We got to the movie theater, and he said "don't worry about it, I got a coupon." It was a Tuesday night, dollar theater show. He brought a coupon to save a dollar! I never saw myself as being a gold-digger. I certainly feel that if people are happy at what they do, the money is less relevant. This date was the one that made me realize that maybe money does matter more than I realized.

    I actually went out with him a few more times. Once we were walking around and I hadn't realized how cold it was. I mentioned the chill and she said that he also found it quite chilly, he then pulled a sweater out of his backpack and put it on himself (realistically, I shouldn't have expected the share, but many guys would have at least offered a warm hug). The third time I saw him (I wasn't considering them dates at this point, I just thought he was fun to talk to and hang out, although quite clueless about dating), he asked if I saw things going anywhere, and I said no, that I enjoyed hanging out with him, but there would never be anything more. He then asked if we could have sex. I can't blame him for trying really, and I continued to hang out with him. Nice guy, just not great perception for what is going on around him.

    I think I might pee my pants from laughing.
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    Let's see... in no order what so ever... all happened to me in the last 6months to a year!

    Guy that says he works out... shows up weighing 300+lbs... looking nine months pregnant... yeah that was just Friday night!

    Guy that goes to pay with a "prepaid" credit card... it's declined; tells me it only has $20 on it...can I pick up the rest of the tab... oh yeah, then asks me... if my credit card has enough money on it to cover $25... yes, buddy... I own a business... I could pick up a small car with this card!

    Guy that says... sure I've been sick. But I'm all better now... yeah...he was on steroids for about a year... looked nothing like his pictures!

    Guy that says he's 5'7".... which is cool... I'm only 5'2"... with shoes... yeah, so wear 4" heels... I towered over him!

    The guy that orders me 3 shots as soon as we sit down!

    The guy that wants to pick me up from my house; not only so he can know where I live... but in his words... "Make sure I didn't run out on the date"....

    The guy that says he's divorced... yeah... wife shows up and calls me the *kitten*! Because he's still married!

    The guy that says he's coming out to meet me... and 2 hrs later... after I am already at home... he calls and asks... "Where are you?"

    Hmmm, let's see... oh one of my favorite ones... he was missing a finger... doesn't tell me... his hand was seriously deformed... throws it up on the table and asks... "Does this bother you?"

    The guy that parades me by his ex gf at a local bar... only to try and go home with her...and leave me at the bar!

    The guy that follows me to a club... chats me up all night... total sweetheart. My phone dies; so I use his to call my best friend and let her know we've gone to a club two doors down... the next day... VALENTINES DAY... his wife calls and says he lost his phone last night and this was the last number that was dialed! He was married!

    Or the guy I was totally in love with... he asked me to marry him... 6 months into dating... HE WAS STILL MARRIED!!! And even now... a year later... STILL MARRIED!

    Hmmm, my list could go on and on... I can't even remember all the bad things that I have been through... on first dates... first meetings... etc etc.

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  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    All that said, I feel the need to share one of my favorite worst first dates:

    A friend set me up on a blind date with a guy she said was so amazing and he had apparently seen me at work and asked for this date to be arranged (I met him briefly in passing and it didn't seem like the worst idea ever (aka: he was hot). He picked me up, and said we were going for dinner and a show (seemed like a long first meeting, but little did I know how long it would seem by the end). He took me to McDonalds (the drive through, we didn't even go inside to eat), then drove around the city for a while. He spent the whole time talking about himself, including how much pot he likes to smoke (I have friends who smoke, but I do not, this is my choice for me). Through this conversation, it was discovered that I had not ever been downtown to see the hookers (yes this was another interest of his). So off we went to go check out the working evening ladies. I still have to giggle about my dinner and a show being McDs and prostitutes. I did not see him again. I would say anything short of that is pretty good.

    well, what did you expect when you accepted a date with Charlie Sheen? :tongue:

    Pretty sure the story would have been a bit more dramatic with an ending that involved all of those things being combined in a seeded pay-by-the-hour downtown hotel :laugh:
  • fishnbrah
    fishnbrah Posts: 550
    id have to go on a date to have any stories first. feelsbatman.
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    Happy to amuse! That is why it is my favorite. There are others. I like to think I have gotten better at weeding out the bad ones. Truth be told, I simply don't go out much, and that suits my life right now.

    Another favorite:

    Met a gentleman on line, we decided to go for a movie. He picked me up, and we were both hungry so we stopped at Subway for something quick. When the cashier was about to ring it through, she asked if it was together, he said NO. That's fine, I have no problem paying my own way. It's only a $4 sub anyway. We got to the movie theater, and he said "don't worry about it, I got a coupon." It was a Tuesday night, dollar theater show. He brought a coupon to save a dollar! I never saw myself as being a gold-digger. I certainly feel that if people are happy at what they do, the money is less relevant. This date was the one that made me realize that maybe money does matter more than I realized.

    I actually went out with him a few more times. Once we were walking around and I hadn't realized how cold it was. I mentioned the chill and she said that he also found it quite chilly, he then pulled a sweater out of his backpack and put it on himself (realistically, I shouldn't have expected the share, but many guys would have at least offered a warm hug). The third time I saw him (I wasn't considering them dates at this point, I just thought he was fun to talk to and hang out, although quite clueless about dating), he asked if I saw things going anywhere, and I said no, that I enjoyed hanging out with him, but there would never be anything more. He then asked if we could have sex. I can't blame him for trying really, and I continued to hang out with him. Nice guy, just not great perception for what is going on around him.

    I think I might pee my pants from laughing.

    Another example of something to get out on the table, if you're into that sort of thing :wink:
  • pobalita
    pobalita Posts: 741 Member
    oops. wrong place
  • Will_Thrust_For_Candy
    Will_Thrust_For_Candy Posts: 6,109 Member
    Receiving junk pics after a first date could have saved me a lot of disappointment in a few instances.....just sayin.


    Wow I feel pretty fortunate right now....some of you have had some downright awful first dates. My first date deal breakers are if he pressures me to get into his car or come to his house. Considering like 99.9% of my dates are with guys I meet online, I don't think it takes a rocket scientist to figure out why I wouldn't want to do either of those things right off the bat. If the guy doesn't understand, or isn't respectful of where I'm coming from, then see ya. Oh, or if they think that having a first date with me AND my daughter is acceptable. No freaking way.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    id have to go on a date to have any stories first. feelsbatman.
    -patpatpat-
  • futurestarz
    futurestarz Posts: 510
    Asked me to go on a vacation with them and their family! It was nice but way too clingy!
  • pobalita
    pobalita Posts: 741 Member
    January 27, 2014 2:45 pm
    QUOTE:

    First date. Still drinking my first drink. noway When I went home I discovered you can look up pervs online with just a first name.


    Sounds legit.




    Quite legit. He was a convicted sex offender. A pedophile. You can look up these people online by County and first name on the registered sex offenders list. I found his photo shot online and was able to find out from news stories what he did by searching his name.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Quite legit. He was a convicted sex offender. A pedophile. You can look up these people online by County and first name on the registered sex offenders list. I found his photo shot online and was able to find out from news stories what he did by searching his name.
    Scary.
  • misscem94
    misscem94 Posts: 114 Member
    Suggesting marriage and children. He stalked me for a year or so when I cut contact.
  • fishnbrah
    fishnbrah Posts: 550
    id have to go on a date to have any stories first. feelsbatman.
    -patpatpat-

    when will it be my turn for the awkward date
  • TheRealJigsaw
    TheRealJigsaw Posts: 295 Member
    Bump
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    id have to go on a date to have any stories first. feelsbatman.
    -patpatpat-

    when will it be my turn for the awkward date
    You're going to have to find an awkward person first haha
  • tlcarolinagirl
    tlcarolinagirl Posts: 1,700 Member
    Some of these stories are downright scary. Exactly why dating is scary as hell. I would say constantly checking your phone is a big no-no.
  • bperkins88
    bperkins88 Posts: 357 Member
    Date no-nos for me

    1. the woman must like Italian food
    2. the woman has to be at least 7 foot tall (stilts are acceptable)
    3. the woman must drive a smart car or similar car because she thinks its better for the environment
    4. the woman must like the exact same colors as I do

    Other than that.. I'm pretty open to who I date.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    January 27, 2014 2:45 pm
    QUOTE:

    First date. Still drinking my first drink. noway When I went home I discovered you can look up pervs online with just a first name.


    Sounds legit.




    Quite legit. He was a convicted sex offender. A pedophile. You can look up these people online by County and first name on the registered sex offenders list. I found his photo shot online and was able to find out from news stories what he did by searching his name.

    Now this makes sense. I always look up a guy before we go out for this reason. On the sex offender's site, and on the circuit court site.
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    id have to go on a date to have any stories first. feelsbatman.
    -patpatpat-

    when will it be my turn for the awkward date

    If you have never been on an awkward date, perhaps you are the one making it awkward.. :tongue:
  • Will_Thrust_For_Candy
    Will_Thrust_For_Candy Posts: 6,109 Member
    id have to go on a date to have any stories first. feelsbatman.
    -patpatpat-

    when will it be my turn for the awkward date

    I'll give ya a turn :wink:
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I'm back on the dating market and I'm curious to know what are some of the worst offenses that someone has committed when you've gone on a first date with a person or in the early stages of dating someone?
    Coming on WAY too strong.

    Smelling bad.
  • wanna_b_there
    wanna_b_there Posts: 295 Member
    Junk pics the next morning. Grabbing your thing. Texting during the date.
  • TexasEngr
    TexasEngr Posts: 270 Member
    Junk pics the next morning. Grabbing your thing. Texting during the date.

    Definitely texting during the date ...

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