your worse or humiliating experience when fat?

My brother's brother deciding, less than an hour after burying my dad, while in the middle of eating at the repast, it was the perfect time to remind me of how fat I'd gotten since the last time he saw me.

But thankfully (or not) I barely had outward teasing, bullying, and such. My most detrimental feelings about being fat almost exclusively generated from a constant, self perpetuated loathing.

This is really what prompted me to join MFP. I work in a factory and I went to lean over to look at a machine and my pants ripped right at the butt! Luckily I had some decent undies on, but it was embarrassing....

I've owned those pants for ten years (since high school) and I guess I was in denial because I "always fit in the same pants", although my muffin top was starting to show. On MFP, my food diary is showing me that I'm not eating as healthily as I thought I had been (rude awakening)

So if you ask me what my most humiliating moment is, it was failing in front of my kids for so long. Last year on May 5th my daughter and I went for a walk and I couldn't even walk around 1/4 of the block. I gave up, told my daughter we needed to turn around because I hurt too bad to continue. That was the moment I told myself I had to do something if not I would be failing myself and my children/family. I expect alot from my kids so why is losing weight so different? On May 6th I started my journey and here I am today 50+ lbs healthier and working out at curves. Beyond proud of myself and now I can stand straight with a smile on my face with the confidence I never had. I feel amazing about myself and will continue this journey although I still have a ways to go...but no one is stopping me now

One more thing, a "look" can be worse than words. At some point, I quit keeping track of my weight. I think I hit somewhere near 250 lbs on my 5'5" frame, before I came out of my funk. The "look" was common, when my husband and I would go out to eat. He does not have a weight issue. I felt the "look" of disapproval no matter what food choices I made. Who knows the "look" I am talking about?

I know the look. It's the one that says "as a fat person you shouldn't be eating that" or "Yeah right, you didn't get fat by eating salad"

My moment was when I was shopping for my niece/nephew when my sister was heavily pregnant. I was in the baby section and a women asked me when my baby was due because I looked close to popping point.
The humiliation of having to explain I wasn't pregnant brought me to tears.

Having ask for a seatbelt extension on a flight and the stewardess looking at me like some sort nasty squidgy smelly thing she'd just stepped in.

I agree. He did you a favor. Way to go!! 8 lbs lost!!: smile:

When my four year old laughs when I take my clothes off. Or says ewwww. And when she says she wishes I could run and play with her. Children are our worst critics.

Mine wasn't a public thing, but just sort of the "turning point" where I decided I had to lose weight. Basically, it was the realization that I'd subconsciously started putting my socks on first, and then my pants, because my stomach was too big for me to reach down and put on socks while also already wearing my jeans. It's also partially because I just have really long legs, but that was a bad moment for me because I'd spent most of my life as a really flexible person.

Someone asked me if I was pregnant. I was not. :grumble:

Many times - I got tired of coming up with a way to explain no, I was just fat.
I lost about 20 pounds 10 years ago and walking around the pond at work a woman said to me "oh, you had your baby". I said "no, I lost 20 pounds but thanks for noticing" I admit I enjoyed watching her sputter and try to walk that back.

A. Anything to do with clothes shopping.

Oh yes.

Was in a clothing store, had just gotten off of work. I'd worn a corset under my uniform that day because my job required me to stand for long hours and it helped distribute some of the weight of my work equipment around my torso so that my hips and back don't hurt at the end of my shift, but as I was no longer at work, I'd taken off the hideous uniform, so I was wearing a tank top under my corset (under-bust to allow for wider range of movement) and a camisole over that, unbuttoned and my pants from work. For all intents and purposes I looked normal save for the corset, which I didn't think looked that noticeable, but apparently I was wrong.

I was in the lingerie section, browsing on my way to the dressing room to try on a couple of shirts and a pair of potential work pants when another kind of chubby woman approached me, pointed to my torso and asked "Why are you wearing that?" and because I am quite sarcastic almost always, I replied something along the lines of "er... because I'd probably get a ticket for wandering around topless...?" and she completely ignored the fact that everything about my tone and body language were indicating that I wasn't in the mood for a chat and said "Do you think it makes you look skinny? It doesn't." All I could think of to respond with, because I really didn't want to talk to her was "O...k..." I just kind of stood there stunned at not only being blindsided with spontaneous appearance assessment, but at the degree of her rudeness. Then, because apparently I'd somehow done her wrong and she was on a mission to drive her point home that I was somehow wrong in my clothing decisions and it had offended her, she comes out with "Why don't you just lose the weight if you want to look skinny instead of wearing that? You're not fooling anyone." really loudly and I saw a good 5 or 6 people turn to look.

I can't recall the last time I experienced that level of pure embarrassment. Here I was, minding my own business, just trying to get a couple of shirts and pants for work, mentally and physically exhausted from a very long and busy work day, not talking to anyone, and this woman I've never seen before starts attacking me in public and now I'm on display. After going over all the possibilities for a graceful exit, all I could think of was to respond with enough hostility that she would be surprised and flee, so I leaned in and said "What the f*** is your problem, lady? You need to learn to mind your own f***ing business. Go wobble your chins at someone else, you cow." and walked straight into the dressing room while she stood there dumbfounded.

Once I got to the dressing room, I was already regretting attacking her for her weight, but in the moment it was all I could think of, and a little surprised at myself for cursing like that since it's so unlike me. I was also so humiliated and aware of all the negatives of my body and appearance that, even though some of them might have actually fit, I couldn't convince myself to purchase anything I tried on. Actually, I haven't been back to that store since.


There was also the time when I transferred at work, to a position which apparently a lot of the women in the company transfer to when pregnant (I didn't know this), and one of my male coworkers walks in, looks at me and goes "You pregnant?" This time I was more on it and responded with looking down and going "What are you trying to say?" and giving a quizzical look, which made him blush, and I pressed with "Are you calling me fat?" and smiling that smile that all guys know that means they're walking on thin ice and she's just handed you an ice pick.


There was also another male coworker who I'm more friendly with and sometimes have lunch with who saw me eating salad (which apparently a bigger girl can't do without being on a diet) one day and finished my lunch the next with a small piece of cake, and he goes "Oh, no diet today?"