your worse or humiliating experience when fat?
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Wow I don't know where to start... Growing up I would never feel comfortable and it has only gotten worse. Once a guy was comparing me to my sister and said I was voluptuous. I wanted to cry but instead I smiled and was like "yeah lucky her". Then this Xmas a guest said if God had combined my face and my sisters body and added some height we could make a pretty model like person. I know she was trying to be nice but she said it in front of my whole family and I just smiled but felt so broken on the inside. Also it doesn't help that my mom is a double zero and my sister is a size 2 and my sis eats so much unhealthy food but stays so small. But seriously there have been so many things. Like just last week I was doing laundry and my sis said my size 6 pants looked gigantic next to her size 2 and sadly she's right. Even looking at pics from my childhood till now I can see how uncomfortably I felt, but I'm beyond ready to change this and feel confident in myself and stop analyzing what people think of me.
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there a few but the worst would be the name calling. then this one day me and my little brother were walking to my sister place three punks decided to follow us through things. we would try to chase them off which only made it more fun for them.i ended up going to a pay phone and pretended that i phoned the copes and they took off. but growing up i was a stick i got teased way more. life was hell but that wasn't my wake up call. that came from my niece asking if i go out side with out a shirt on i sayed yes some times she replyed you must scare other peoples eyes. it hurt like hell but i took action to get healthy0
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My worst comment "You're pregnant are you having a girl or a boy"?0
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Probably doesn't count...
But in high school I was on the chubbier side (probably not overweight, certainly not obese). Class trip. It was my TOM and I was struggling with my super heavy backpack during this 5km hike (under the summer sun). I felt like I was about to pass out... A girlfriend of mine saw it and asked the boys in my class to help me out. And one of the the boys said "how can she not be able to handle it. She's got enough fat" then a bunch of them laughed...
I was seriously wishing I could just disappear.... 10 years later I'm sorta skinny now and it still hurts...0 -
Trying to get on a rollercoaster and being unable to fasten the belt and put the restraint down all the way, so I had to walk off the platform in front of hundreds of people who saw what happened.0
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Wow I don't know where to start... Growing up I would never feel comfortable and it has only gotten worse. Once a guy was comparing me to my sister and said I was voluptuous. I wanted to cry but instead I smiled and was like "yeah lucky her". Then this Xmas a guest said if God had combined my face and my sisters body and added some height we could make a pretty model like person. I know she was trying to be nice but she said it in front of my whole family and I just smiled but felt so broken on the inside. Also it doesn't help that my mom is a double zero and my sister is a size 2 and my sis eats so much unhealthy food but stays so small. But seriously there have been so many things. Like just last week I was doing laundry and my sis said my size 6 pants looked gigantic next to her size 2 and sadly she's right. Even looking at pics from my childhood till now I can see how uncomfortably I felt, but I'm beyond ready to change this and feel confident in myself and stop analyzing what people think of me.
Feel free to add me and we can keep each other motivated
I feel like we are on the same boat here... Neither of us was actually "fat" but we got humiliated/felt inadequate just because we didn't have skinny bodies like "everyone else" did....0 -
I was dress shopping for my junior prom two years ago. AFTER I got the dress on the counter an paid for it, the lady was like, "Maybe if you exercise, you could fit into a better dress." I was pissed! She's lucky I bought the dress before she said that or I would have left.0
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My dad used to call me "thunder thighs" when I was 10-16 or so, it was humiliating and I've always been self conscious about my thighs ever since.
No matter what weight I was at thru my life, I couldn't bare to have anyone look at my thighs... now that I've been teetering on the edge of obesity, I don't even want to see any of my family until I can lose all the weight and more because I truly feel even as an adult I will be ridiculed.
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I'm sorry I do not have any experiences to recall, but I LOVE your profile photo, Xdinmammax.A few years ago, I was driving with the windows down and stopped at a stoplight when I heard something coming from the car next to me. There were two guys in their 20s in the car next to mine and they were looking at me saying "moo!!" When I instinctively looked over, they said "How's it going cow?" and mooed at me until the light changed. I was so devastated that it crushed my self esteem and made things worse for me for a while. People can be so cruel. That experience just sticks with me. So simple, but so traumatic.
Had a similar experience, except they called me a horse.0 -
In reading other people's response I find that I have some experiences that would fit... if I'd taken them badly, but for all my depression my responses were to be amused or annoyed.
The young son of a client asked me when I was having my baby. His mother was horrified but I simply replied to him that I wasn't having a baby, I was just fat. He went on to explain that his aunt was having a baby. I thought it was cute.
On moving back, I was greeted by a friend who hugged me and said "It's so good to see you again, but why is there so much of you?" I responded by asking him when he'd lost his ability to edit his thoughts before speaking them.
After shattering my arm and burning my foot coming off my scooter on the way to work, I was lying on a gurney waiting for them to decide what to do with me as they wanted to keep me over night. The orthopedic surgeon came in, looked at me, picked up my chart, started reading it, and asked if I was bedbound. I was unamused, explained how I'd gotten my injuries and then ignored him. Thankfully I did not require the surgery.
Probably the only time I actually felt humiliated, turned into a positive for me. I was climbing a very large hill on a walking trail in the south of England, the walk having started with me mentally kicking and screaming that there was no way I could do it, and it was turning into a self fulfilling prophecy. I was literally taking three steps and stopping, red faced, sweating, breathing hard, my husband patiently with me, caught between stubbornness to continue, and what seemed the reality of having to give up, being passed by seniors, teens and small children, not to mention the fit. Yeah, that was humiliating. But not one person said anything negative. Most ignored me. A couple people surprised me by telling me things like 'you can do it' or 'keep it up, it's worth it' and one young woman who passed me by muttering under her breath 'if she can do it, I can do it.' The humiliation fled and I eventually made it to the top.0 -
Well there have been too many to write down here lol ..but here are the top ones ..
1. At a farewell party a friend told me that they all referred to me as a giant ( my name rhymes with it ) . Well after all those years i felt it was a horrible thing to say on my last day at college .
2. A doctor i had been to for my still " unexplained infertility " said That i had to " stop eating " . But the fact is , i really eat very less and he did not even know the reality of my situation ..0 -
This is so shallow I've been contemplating whether to post it or not, but here we go...
When I was sixteen I lost all my childhood weight, and I looked GREAT! My body was a perfect healthy weight, and I definitely glowed. I'm shy, and especially was then because I was used to being treated poorly by most people because of the way I looked, but I started having boys crawling all over me because I did look good.
I never used anyone or anything, but I started getting used to people being nice to me again.
Fast forward a couple of years later, I gained all of my weight back due to bad periods in my life. I was at a nightclub with a friend, and a guy comes up to me and asks me to talk to his friend because his friend was thinking of leaving so they wanted me to convince him to stay. These guys were strangers, by the way.
I was a bit confused, it was a weird request, but I decided to help out. The guy they wanted me to talk to was surrounded by his friends asking him to stay. He looked a bit drunk.
"Hey, how are you?" I asked him, smiling slightly.
"EWWWW! DISGUSTING! No. Just get away from me, fat *****." He replied, scrunching his face up into a disgusted face and shook his head vigorously.
I didn't even reply, I went into shock. In hindsight I should have defended myself, abused him or did something, but I was so shocked and hurt I just sent a small smile to his group and slowly walked away, not before the one that asked me to talk to him apologised for his friend being a jerk.
It's silly, you can be gorgeous and thin and not be everyone's type, but it was the first time someone had been that rude about the way I looked since I was fifteen. It bought back all of my insecurities from when I was younger.
On the plus side no one has spoken to me like that since, it was a one off because this guy was pathetic and probably had a small ****. But it was so humiliating at the time.0 -
I was eating a big mac at mcdonalds when a girl came up and stopped, turned towards me and starting making piggy squealing sounds for about 30 seconds staring right at me0
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I have a lot, but a horrible one is when all your pictures (that friends upload) on fbk are all over your newsfeed and you're the fattest one in all of them. Untagging doesn't help.
Exactly. That's what inspired me this time around.0 -
oooh this I have a few:
3. school dance, couldn't be lifted by my partner to do the stupid badly choreographed dance... even the boys started lining up to "try and lift" me, see who was the "macho alpha" who could lift "such massive girl"
2. last days of highschool the guys were throwing everyone on the pool and they needed like six or more of them to lift me up and throw me there since I wasn't getting close to it
1. this one omg: a family member... oh so dear that mother****** exclaimed PLENTY of times in the multiple family walks that I should skip the muffings unless I want to keep my muffng top, that I should consider a healthier lifestyle instead of being all day sitting around scratching my a** and a lot of things more that only got to a dirty look of other family member and a few snickers here and there...0 -
One more thing, a "look" can be worse than words. At some point, I quit keeping track of my weight. I think I hit somewhere near 250 lbs on my 5'5" frame, before I came out of my funk. The "look" was common, when my husband and I would go out to eat. He does not have a weight issue. I felt the "look" of disapproval no matter what food choices I made. Who knows the "look" I am talking about?
Oh I know that look. Here's what's going through their heads.
"Look at that fat guy eating a hamburger! Happy heart attack, fat boy!"
"Look at that fat guy eating a salad! Not working for you, is it, fat boy?"
thing is i'm average sized now for the uk but still feel like i'm getting the look if we eat out, so makes me very paranoid :sad:
my worst one was after i had my youngest daughter, i kept getting asked who's baby it was, when i told them it was mine people thought i was joking, and kept blurting out things like "but you didn't look pregnant" no would that be because i was nearly 300lbs
at that point id already started my diet anyway so just made me more determined0 -
when i was younger somebody at the mall asked me if i was pregnant. in front of my bf and his friends. i think i cried. it was just made worse because it was right in front of him.. i finished break and went upstairs. i think i ate to feel better. same with when i was smoking [i used to smoke in addition] and somebody said 'you shouldn't smoke if you have a baby'.0
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I can't say I have had any humiliating experiences whilst fat or otherwise. I got fat by my own doing and I own it. There is nothing anyone can say to me that trumps my own will. I got fat because I am lazy and I really love junk food. How could I feel humiliation by doing exactly what I wanted to do?
Being a complete snot buffers me from the opinions of average people.
The closest thing I have experienced was in junior high school. I was only slightly overweight but had developed a larger than average chest, and no person in my life gave me good advice about bras. I was running I think a 75-yard dash in PE, and during this race my pants fell down and my boobs popped out of my bra at the same time.
I finished that damn race as fast as I could. I felt a little embarassed after, but whatever. I guess the good thing about it is that nobody made a bad comment. I think it's important to remember that most people are decent human beings and it's only the inferior few that spew nastiness from their nasty little lives. >:]0 -
Some guys in college described me like this.. apparently to my then friend, now fiance.. "the fat fair girl who has a huge fat roll in her tummy". Some girls used to take sneaky pics of my tummy fat, which was more apparent when I was sitting in class or lab and then giggle about it and show it to others..0
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Got kicked off a ride
what makes it worse was the people I went with I just met. bad first impression0 -
..and one young woman who passed me by muttering under her breath 'if she can do it, I can do it.' The humiliation fled and I eventually made it to the top.
I know it's terrible but it's a bit funny too.0 -
A lot of my body and mental issues, I think started from when I was a child. I come from a 'big' family. We love our food, no question about it. I can remember being put on a 'diet' when I was about 10 and yes it worked, but as soon as I came off, the weight came back. Enter the teenage years... I became a secretive eater, as if I was found to be eating between meals (I was hungry..) I would be told off. Then being told by a family member that 'you won't get a date/boyfriend if you're fat'. That didn't really help whatsoever! I have also had the 'oh.. when is it due'... and at one point I got so fed up with it that when the the latest little old blue rinsed hair lady asked me this.. I doubled over and said.. omg.. about now!' Her face was a picture!!!
Over the past few years, since a close family member retired from work, he has also piled on the pounds.. but to my mind so what.. he's the same person inside and I love him exactly the same. However, during a heated moment, he admitted to me that he is ashamed of me because of my size! Where does one go from there...
Being out and about one eveing in local pub, I was sat in bar chair, waiting for friend to arrive, when this complete male stranger came over and started chatting.. I'm a chatty sort, so I responded... only for him to reach over and pat me on the belly and say 'very impressive'! I slowly looked him up and down and immediately patted HIM on his equally paunchy belly and said 'yes, but not half as impressive as yours'! He didn't speak to me rest of evening, cannot work out why! 
It's true however, that you HAVE to be in the right frame of mind to change anything.. you will change when YOU want to.. not because other people want you to. Yes, my family and friends are concerned about my health, as are yours, but it's no good half heartedly starting something when you're not ready for it. This year I AM ready for it. BRING IT ON.. so.. off to the gym I go in a min like a good little girl.. even stepping through the gym door is an achievement in itself. We CAN do it, we WILL do it, but in OUR own time. Good luck to you all xxx0 -
Where to start...
1. My boyfriend's mum telling her husband (under her breath-or so she thought) that there was no way she would allow her son to keep dating me...needless to say, we broke up few weeks after that.
2.My Uncle telling me that i was so fat that i'd probably have to be rolled onto the plane. this same Uncle called me stupid during a family reunion because id spent a year in Senegal where almost everyone is tall and thin, and came back still fat.
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Where to start...
1. My boyfriend's mum telling her husband (under her breath-or so she thought) that there was no way she would allow her son to keep dating me...needless to say, we broke up few weeks after that.
2.My Uncle telling me that i was so fat that i'd probably have to be rolled onto the plane. this same Uncle called me stupid during a family reunion because id spent a year in Senegal where almost everyone is tall and thin, and came back still fat.
3. the worst was probably when a family member told me i was so fat and ugly he was embarrassed to be seen with me.
I'm learning to love myself after hearing comments like these all my life and taking it one step at a time. 0 -
When my ex came at my door and said "Wow, are you going to register yourself for the biggest loser?" I closed the door again.0
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Oh gosh, so many:
1) Been asked many times if I was pregnant;
2) Been yelled at my co-worker's drunk boyfriend on Christmas when I came to relieve her the bar with a greeting of "Hey everyone, fat and ugly is here! It's time to go!"
3) Been told while I was bartending, "Okay I'm almost drunk enough to f*%k you now; are you going home with me or what?"
4) Cutting off a drunk customer and having them say, "Did you eat everything in this bar you fat c*%t?"
5) Having people moo at me while I'm running;
6) Having random strangers offer to give me their fat clothes that no longer fit them;
and 7) Having someone yell, "Hey Jenny called and wants you to call her back! Jenny Craig!" while I was riding in my car.....
There are so many more like this that I pretty much can't list them all.
Just a few more:
1) Asking someone to move out of my entry way so I could get out from behind the bar and having them say, "Maybe if you weren't so fat, I would not have to move for you" and
2) Being told, "Hey I asked this guy I worked with who was working last night and he said he didn't know but it was some fat and ugly girl so I assumed it must have been you."0 -
Ugh. I tell you, it's no wonder I can't stand being around people. The level of cruelty I'm reading in this thread is beyond comprehension.
Just yesterday afternoon I was waiting for my commuter train to go home, and everyone was standing on the platform waiting for the doors to open. When they finally did, some stupid woman behind me went, "Moooove, Betsy, mooove."
In the old days I would have bit my lip and kept walking, maybe cried a little. But... something in me wouldn't let me this time. I turned around, looked her right in the eyes, and said as loudly as I could, "I'm really glad that you said that, just now. Because it says much more about you than it will ever say about me." And I walked away.
I heard a couple of people behind me go, "Good for her." One applauded.
It's weird, but in that moment I was really, really proud of myself.0 -
Well, there was always name calling, especially when I was younger, but, for some unknown reason, it never really bothered me. I`d just ignore those people. I wasn`t insulted even the slightest bit.
One time though, I was walking over to my friend`s house when I heard someone oinking. At first I ignored it, but then I heard it again. I turned around and saw two older guys leaning against a building, sharing a cigarette and sneering at me.
There was another time when I was in a water park. I got stuck in a float and it took two guys to get me out of it.
Two years ago, I hooked up with some random guy while being drunk at a New Year`s party and he told me he liked big girls.
But, the most humiliating experience for me was while chatting with my pen pal. A friend of mine had just posted some pictures on fb from the previous night and I looked really horrible in them. He had seen them and sent me a message saying: You`re really cute. I should have known there was something terrible coming after that. He said he`s an amateur fitness trainer and that he could send me a diet. Then he called me `whale girl`. I was so embarrassed, I could hardly see the keyboard from tears blurring my sight. I acted surprised and told him something about being perfect and satisfied with my body, but I couldn`t even convince myself that was true, let alone anybody else. That was one of my many breaking points, especially because back then I had 15 kg less than now. I vowed to myself that I would get fit and beautiful, meet him, seduce him and leave him. And I mean to do that.0 -
Ugh. I tell you, it's no wonder I can't stand being around people. The level of cruelty I'm reading in this thread is beyond comprehension.
Just yesterday afternoon I was waiting for my commuter train to go home, and everyone was standing on the platform waiting for the doors to open. When they finally did, some stupid woman behind me went, "Moooove, Betsy, mooove."
In the old days I would have bit my lip and kept walking, maybe cried a little. But... something in me wouldn't let me this time. I turned around, looked her right in the eyes, and said as loudly as I could, "I'm really glad that you said that, just now. Because it says much more about you than it will ever say about me." And I walked away.
I heard a couple of people behind me go, "Good for her." One applauded.
It's weird, but in that moment I was really, really proud of myself.
I"m applauding right now!0
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