tattoo argument with spouse

I love body-defilement! Sign me up for more. Getting my next on Saturday, actually. All mine are in hidden locations, due to work, but I love them anyway. My husband wasn't a fan of me having tattoos, even though he has three himself. I just figure, my body, my choice. No regrets, and I've had my first one since I was 17.

I love body-defilement! Sign me up for more. Getting my next on Saturday, actually. All mine are in hidden locations, due to work, but I love them anyway. My husband wasn't a fan of me having tattoos, even though he has three himself. I just figure, my body, my choice. No regrets, and I've had my first one since I was 17.

I've seen so many say Tats are hot and in the same sentence they are hidden for work or just hidden. I don't know why work would be a reason to hide a tat if it's an accepted form of art.

I love mine but I wouldn't say they're "life changing."

Listen to your husband and hopefully he will be your only one.

I'm sorry but are you kidding me!?

It's her freaking body. She can get a tattoo if she wants it.
And does not need his permission or approval.
He can step off.

People are really patronising about tattoos. Obviously it's nobody else's business.

If there are issues with partners not liking them, that's a different issue.

But all that rubbish about 'defiling your body' and all that stuff; it's none of anybody's business!!

Keep your patronising opinions to yourselves!!

Listen to your husband and hopefully he will be your only one.

Quote of the day right there!! Oh my goodness how pathetic!!

I think women with tattoos are hot. I guess since I am a biker I would tho

I've seen so many say Tats are hot and in the same sentence they are hidden for work or just hidden. I don't know why work would be a reason to hide a tat if it's an accepted form of art.

Because unfortunately there is still a stigma when it comes to tattoos - mostly stemming from people who grew up when they were "unheard of" or raised by those who are strongly biased against them.

Listen to your husband and hopefully he will be your only one.

I'm sorry but are you kidding me!?

It's her freaking body. She can get a tattoo if she wants it.
And does not need his permission or approval.
He can step off.

so if he wanted those darn dangerous motor bikes she would have no say in it, right?

I told myself if I lost the weight I wanted to lose I was going to get a tattoo to reward myself and my pride in my body. My husband was negative about it (he's not a big fan of tats and he doesn't have any), but I got it anyway, at age 53. It's a lower back so not visible unless I want it to be. After I had it awhile my husband started liking it. He is fine with it now (although he says I do not need to get any more). I still love it and I'm very happy I got it. So go ahead and do YOUR thing!

Uuugg. fighting with the husband over as yet non-existent tattoo = really dumb argument!!!
So what if I'm honest and like the fact 90% of the people I know won't see my tattoo coming. I'm still getting it for me. It Doesn't mean I can't enjoy just a little shock value...right?
He said its a life changing thing. I can't possibly know what its like. That set me off! Oh really!?! like, altering my body beyond recognition to have a child??? that kind of life altering thing??? Lets see...Choosing a piece of art versus my body conforming to accommodate a child... yep I'll take the 100% my choice art work thanks.
Really I only had 3 beers lol.

This is what I would do to keep the peace:
I'd tell him something like, "I will take a x amount of time (for example, 2 months) to think it over and make sure it's what I want. If it is, then I would like you to be supportive." And see what he says to that. I would hope then that he would feel like you're respecting what he has to say, but still asserting what you want.

But that's just me.

Edited for the 'but'

Uuugg. fighting with the husband over as yet non-existent tattoo = really dumb argument!!!
So what if I'm honest and like the fact 90% of the people I know won't see my tattoo coming. I'm still getting it for me. It Doesn't mean I can't enjoy just a little shock value...right?
He said its a life changing thing. I can't possibly know what its like. That set me off! Oh really!?! like, altering my body beyond recognition to have a child??? that kind of life altering thing??? Lets see...Choosing a piece of art versus my body conforming to accommodate a child... yep I'll take the 100% my choice art work thanks.
Really I only had 3 beers lol.

.Not judging people who get tats.

defiling the body? eh? not judging......come on, if you going to throw bibles at it atleast be honest as well.

I was totally honest. I don't think more or less of people who get tats. A form of defiling the body is what tats do in my opinion. Throw Bibles? I'm in no way a Bible thumper and by you accusing me of throwing bibles I feel you have just judged me!!

where did I state that I HAD a problem judging people.

I don't..

I'm not sure I see the point you are trying to make?

Uuugg. fighting with the husband over as yet non-existent tattoo = really dumb argument!!!
So what if I'm honest and like the fact 90% of the people I know won't see my tattoo coming. I'm still getting it for me. It Doesn't mean I can't enjoy just a little shock value...right?
He said its a life changing thing. I can't possibly know what its like. That set me off! Oh really!?! like, altering my body beyond recognition to have a child??? that kind of life altering thing??? Lets see...Choosing a piece of art versus my body conforming to accommodate a child... yep I'll take the 100% my choice art work thanks.
Really I only had 3 beers lol.

Does your husband have any? Has he ever voiced an opinion of disliking then in the past? If he hasn't, it may be just that he is used to and loves the way that you are now and is nervous about a permanent change like that. Maybe he is nervous this will mean you are becoming "too cool" for him and could lead to other things. My husband has 8 tattoos and I have none. He only had 1 when we started dating. I can say from my experience that I was apprehensive too. At one point he wanted this huge back piece and I didn't like the idea. I know it is not my body, but I was attracted to him as he was, with broad, tan shoulders and wasn't sure he should be messing with what he was blessed with, lol. But in the end, he got something else and I still found him attractive. And there are plenty of guys with more tats that I find extremely sexy. (David Beckham anyone?) I guess I just was nervous about how much it would change his look. But in the end, none of it mattered. I don't love all his tattoos, but I still love him.

Maybe if he helps you pick the what and place, he won't feel so apprehensive? Definitely put some thought into it and have an honest & open conversion about it.

And while I don't know if I would say they are "life changing".....I will say that *most* people I know never stop at one! In fact, most people I have spoken to couldn't wait to get their next one soon after they got their first.

Aside: The reason I have none is that I am too in-decisive about it. Where? What? What if I change my mind after it is already there? It is not like I can wash it off! LOL Nope, I'll stick with dyeing my hair once in awhile and changable-jewelry.

Listen to your husband and hopefully he will be your only one.

Please tell me this is a joke? Listen to your husband??? So what if her husband beats her and tells her it is for her own good. Ahhh but listen to your husband because he is always right.

Do you sleep in seperate beds?